Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears, and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the ideas of "I wish I was someody else". More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Champagne. You think to yourself, she looks so perfectly calm and confident. But if you could read through her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she is thinking to herself "Are people talking about why am seated here all alone?. Why dont guys find me attractive. Or, I dont like my ankles, they look skinny. I wish , I was as intelligent as my best friend
We look at a young business intrepreneur and say wooh, what else could he ask for?. He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, I hate my big eyes, I hope my mum and dad would still work things out.
Isnt it funny, we look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, why they look at us and wish the same thing. We are insecure of other people , who themselves are insecure of us.We suffer from low self esteem, lack of of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like bitting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, he is the only one who seems to be interested in the things he has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever he is around , and he doesnt notices how badly he became socially handicapped and gradually affecting the people in his environment
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like
Do you think am ill-mannered? Do I talk too loud, Does my breath smell, Do I ever bored you when were together. In this way the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lean your ear for comments and criticisms and dont give answers like dont exaggerate, thats the way I am. Open up your heart and mind as well.
One of Whitney Houston songs says "Learning to Love yourself is the greatest love of all. True enough, in order to love others, you must love yourself too.
Remember, you cannot give what you dont have
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thoughts of "If only I was richer, If only I was more handsome/beautiful and so on. Accepting your self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that they have got more reasons to envy us.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things , better features, better body parts etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and that youa are the best. Its the virtue of acceptance and contentment.
When we begin to improves ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy. SHALOM

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CUM4WHAT:
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Dharniel:

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Enjoyed the write up...

Some naija shaa. The level of over sabinus is killing us seriously. The mistake in the heading has nothing to do with the information being conveyed in the message.
When will some people learn to walk away from stuff that doesn't interest them. Smh

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