@poster,

cheating is doing things (good or bad) without your partners' concept.

de cash:

Look folks, cheating to my own view starts when we suspect our girl/boy friend.
sometimes, he will not wish 2 tell u all about himself.In ur mind u'll be thinking: "this guy as a skeleton in his cupboard".
And you'll start suspecting. you feel cheated & would want to "pay him in his own coin".
that alone will cause you to start cheating.
This happened to me! Pls guys and chicks, make una stop to dey suspect.

Wishing not to tell her is like 'hidding something from her', so it is called !EMOTIONAL CHEATING!

de cash:

This happened to me! Pls guys and chicks, make una stop to dey suspect.

From experience, most women have this bad habit. They're forever looking for signs
of cheating where there is none. Who knows? Probably because they cheat all the time,
so they think, "oh since I'm cheating on him, maybe he's doing the same thing to me"
Funny world, this

Cheating emotionally can be more destructive than physical one.
I am in love with a married man. It happened so quickly before I realised he was actually taken. sorry, but can't stop loving him. We are not seeing each other in that way, but I know he has feeling for me too. I felt devastated when I saw him so sad and confused because I thought somehow I led him into this emotional cheating. He never ever talked about his otherhalf, but I knew he is married because he has a ring. Life can be so intolerable without that special one beside me.

why not let im go to his wife, since you know he's married? see what we're
talking about?

I have not taken this man! I am just in love with him and we are not in relationship. So whatever he does with his wife, as long as he is happy in his marriage, I am happy for him. I just want to see him happy and successful. But I must admit I am miserable if I haven't seen him for a long time.

what use is loving a man that you cannot have? you think this makes sense?

I know it may not last forever. But can't help it, being in love is a wonderful thing.
hey, I didn't encourage him to come towards me.

i feel you you must be one of a kind-loving a married man for the sake of it.
most ladies do it for money these days.

@ fiona0007

but i used to think that physical cheating is more destructive than emotional cheating.

or what do you guys think?

wat so eva u send time doing,is actually something you love, but if there is a no 1,and she is the last thaught for the day then u're a greater cheap! cos nothing wrong u do makes me u feel u're guity. jst the way we do to God so u understand the word cheat,

emotional cheating, physical cheating, are they not the same?

Which one is more destructive, physical or emotional cheating?
I don't know the answer. But I guess, they are equally powerful and can distract the parties involved. If one is sleeping with another partner other than one's married to or committed to, but not emotionally involved, it can end relatively easily and go back to "normal life" without long term emotional trauma. But it can be much more painful if two people feel connected and yet they know there is no way forward. It's like finding the right man at the wrong time.

the very moment the idea enters ur head

RuuDie:

the very moment the idea enters ur head

hahahahahahaha

Fiona0007:

Which one is more destructive, physical or emotional cheating?
I don't know the answer. But I guess, they are equally powerful and can distract the parties involved. If one is sleeping with another partner other than one's married to or committed to, but not emotionally involved, it can end relatively easily and go back to "normal life" without long term emotional trauma. But it can be much more painful if two people feel connected and yet they know there is no way forward. It's like finding the right man at the wrong time.

It doesn't matter. Fate has a way of working things out if really you're meant to be together. I don't
believe there's any such thing as a wrong time to find the right person.

Yeah I heard it before. But I just felt so helpless. I think we are not meant to be.
But there is always something to hope for, right. can never know what would happen the next day.
god bless you.

God bless you too. Looks like I enjoy talking to you. Maybe we should take
our conversation out of here. what dýou think?

as long as di ck is not inside pussy yet, there is no cheating

tombola:

as long as di ck is not inside pussy yet, there is no cheating

that is a rather crude thing to say, don't you think?

Cheating is both physical and emotional. Emotional cheating is more common. One has to have a conscience to accept he/she is cheating on the other. But anything you do or think at the expense of your partner would qualify as cheating.
Handling it is another ball game. The easiest way is self-determination to stop cheating and consciously putting in everything to stop it.
Telling your partner may not be appropriate if physical cheating is engaged in cos it would bring back memories in future,
, but if partner eventually finds out, would it not have been better if some confessions were made?

@George
yeah, i guess it's not appropriate to use this space to have conversation between just two people. What is another way of sending messages without intruding other people's space?

kay7:

Cheating is both physical and emotional. Emotional cheating is more common. One has to have a conscience to accept he/she is cheating on the other. But anything you do or think at the expense of your partner would qualify as cheating.
Handling it is another ball game. The easiest way is self-determination to stop cheating and consciously putting in everything to stop it.
Telling your partner may not be appropriate if physical cheating is engaged in cos it would bring back memories in future,
, but if partner eventually finds out, would it not have been better if some confessions were made?

I agree with you on that.

@fiona,
We could even chat on messenger if you feel
like it.

Anything you do with someone of opposite sex that hurts or can hurt your regular partner is cheating.

Interesting topic pataki.
I think whenever one's focus shifts from your spouse to another.
It's called cheating.
Personally,I don't call it cheating if it's a boyfriend girlfriend situation because there's no lasting commitment in such arrangements and one could go through 2-10 relationships before settling down with one person in a committed marriage relationship.
As long as one hasn't said I do,if you find someone else,tell the other and move on
Simple.
What I call cheating in GF/BF is seeing some else behind another's back or stringing 2 people along.
As long a woman tells the BF on time before things get out of hand,it's not cheating.
She just changed her mind about being with the person.

Cheating is when you 'do' with another partner. Any other form is attempted cheating.

Interesting idea invisible - is there a difference between 'attempted cheating' and 'cheating'?

debosky:

Interesting idea invisible - is there a difference between 'attempted cheating' and 'cheating'?

yes there is

well, cheating[/i] is an abnormal habit from every human being.
Cheating[i] is sometimes known as unequal sharing but the benefit of a cheater is never an immediate reward because something cheating[i][/i] is one of the best future benefit,so what so ever you sow, get ready for harvest (good or bad)[flash=200,200][/flash] so Naijans i think i'm right?

debosky:

Interesting idea invisible - is there a difference between 'attempted cheating' and 'cheating'?

attempted cheating? na wao

When u commit adultery. . . Meaning u should be married first. I dont consider anything done before marriage to be cheating.