JJYOU:

tyra banks no fine. i beg forget that one.  ok you dont give out face towel  when did that become a crime on NL? we are  meant to tell it the way we see it not the way others see it. this is an open forum young lady.  plus you dont have to answe everyone. you forgot your name.

i am beginning to look for my victims now. hope i am not starting too late?
shooooo the bad boy wey give this girl belle dey rest una wan start another war here.  i beg wetin dem call am self.  swine flu dey towm make una no make una self vulnerable to any sickness.  haba chill fine or no fine na someone love una. that is the most important.

abi oo,its a public forum,i tell it as it is

thanks JJYOU, how madam?

ThiefOfHearts:

You called Serena Williams a dog 

TOH, you dont dissapoint do you?  where is KARMA and funmi these days?

i beg sun dey shine o. make we enjoy today. i beg my dear sister i dont expect this from you.

Funmi is hiding under a new name

actually not new, just a name no one really suspected

what id is she(funmi) using karma?

Lets just say if you knew you'd have a heart attack.

Cant tell until she pisses me off

e jo karma,e so fun mi naaaa

amebo no1.:

abi oo,its a public forum,i tell it as it is

thanks JJYOU, how madam?

tks my dear sister. she is okay.  she is laughing at her sisters wisdom with our dear brother and  thankfull i didnt allow her come near NL.  

we are off to naija next week. so will be watching the fight from real  NL soil.

hope all is well in your land?

JJYOU:

tks my dear sister. she is okay.  she is laughing at her sisters wisdom with our dear brother and  thankfull i didnt allow her come near NL.  

we are off to naija next week. so will be watching the fight from real  NL soil.

hope all is well in your land?

awww ,abeg buy agbalumo for me oooo from naija


yep all is well,na work wan kill person, now wey i dey free i decide to come NL show myself small, safe trip

spikedcylinder:

Ah. I didn't realise this was a fight. When have I appeared aggressive as mr and mrs jjyou put it? After all, we all claim to be in the business of "stating it as it is".

If I called Serena a dog, I am not aware. And even if I am, it was before I became born again and changed my ways.

welcome sister wonderfull.  your sins are forgiven you.  go and sin no more.

ThiefOfHearts:

Lets just say if you knew you'd have a heart attack.

Cant tell until she pisses me off  

tell na

amebo no1.:

awww ,abeg buy agbalumo for me oooo from naija


yep all is well,na work wan kill person, now wey i dey free i decide to come NL show myself small, safe trip

thanks God and His good angel will go and come with us. funmi  is now  ireport or something like that. what is agbalumo?

spikedcylinder:

Ah. I didn't realise this was a fight. When have I appeared aggressive as mr and mrs jjyou put it? After all, we all claim to be in the business of "stating it as it is".

If I called Serena a dog, I am not aware. And even if I am, it was before I became born again and changed my ways.

nothing bad in stating it as it is  cant jail people for that can you?

spikedcylinder:


If I called Serena a dog, I am not aware. And even if I am, it was before I became born again and changed my ways.

As far as am concerned, Serena is as ugly as s h ! t! How can someone be curvy and at the same time muscular? What a contrast! Her being curvy is not even the fine type. With her big clown ass and her giant droopy boobs! Her face nko? Even with all the make up she still looks like a baboon. Abegi, she's gotta be the ugliest person i've ever seen! Sheesh!

There  Shey this one isnt 100% worse than amebo's woirds to "Iya"

Born again atheist abi? Crazy chic 

ThiefOfHearts:

There

ROTFLMSGBO

ThiefOfHearts:

There  Shey this one isnt 100% worse than amebo's woirds to "Iya"

Born again atheist abi? Crazy chic 

ThiefOfHearts
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If I called Serena a dog, I am not aware. And even if I am, it was before I became born again and changed my ways. Cool Cool

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As far as am concerned, Serena is as ugly as s h ! t! How can someone be curvy and at the same time muscular? What a contrast! Her being curvy is not even the fine type. With her big clown ass and her giant droopy boobs! Her face nko? Even with all the make up she still looks like a baboon. Abegi, she's gotta be the ugliest person i've ever seen! Sheesh!

There Cheesy Shey this one isnt 100% worse than amebo's woirds to "Iya" Tongue

now i know you have the NL server under your bed. this girl nawa for you. all that grammar for serena. wetin she do? well some born again no dey go heaven sha.

you are proper rafindadi this girl. God help those around you. you dont forget things and i bet you dont forgive easily too.

spikedcylinder:

As I said, that was in my former life. When was that dated again?
Evil child.

Rofl. Funny thing is Serena looks better than this person you are defending so vehemently. It was last year  

so you're no longer atheist again? what will we tell majaze?  

spikedcylinder:

Plus, in my defense, dissing a celebrity is different from dissing someone you're talking to one on one.
You dig?

Not really.

JJYOU:

you dont forget things and i bet you dont forgive easily too.

This is true.

ThiefOfHearts:

Lets just say if you knew you'd have a heart attack.

Cant tell until she pisses me off

maybe if i piss her off, she will show face. . .

osun ashawo, where are you?

oyb, you have without knowing it

spikedcylinder:

It so does! They are indifferent to insults, their PR have those covered.

Where will Iya Kadija get PR with $20?

change it to Naira

ThiefOfHearts:

oyb, you have without knowing it 

change it to Naira 

noetic. . .

thats the only person i  think i have recently insulted. . .hmm. . .

nope, not him. . .lets see. . .

yeswecan seems the best candidiate, though i haven't knocked him/her. . .yet . . .

spikedcylinder:

It so does! They are indifferent to insults, their PR have those covered.

Where will Iya Kadija get PR with $20?

Ermm are we not in a recession?
For $4 I'll be her advocate , mouth piece and revamp her image. Package her up real nice for a real man.

@Thiefofhearts-You're not dumb because you disagree with me or refuse to coddle me-I came on this site for an honest opinion and advice for what I was going through. You're dumb because I asked you very nicely not to call me out of my name and you continued to do so. You mentioned about what deragatory name you call Hispanics and said no one is complaining about that one-NEWSFLASH: where are the Hispanics on this site right now?

You are no better than AA's who call each other "nigga" or use profanity constantly-too ignorant to come up with an educated thought to avoid using those terms. So maybe, just maybe, you should educate yourself enough and you won't come across as another uneducated Black female-because when the racist White man sees you-he doesn't see "Naija" or African American-he sees you for a "nigger"-just like me.

@Thiefofhearts-And again, I know my original thread was very long and maybe you missed the subsequent postings I made throughout this thread-but I AM NOT STILL SLEEPING WITH HIM. It was a mistake I made in the very beginning of this whole fiasco-which as of today it hasn't even been a month since it's happened. The way you're speaking, I wish to God I had your strength to just pop up and turn my feelings off after 8 years of being with the same man who happens to be the father of my child who I'd thought I'd spend the rest of my life with.

I may fit the "baby Mama" profile just because I have a child and I'm not married-but I own my own house and car, I am completing college as we speak, and I don't depend on no goverment or man to support me. Tell me where that fits into your little "akata" profile? You think I don't know all the goshdarn stereotypes? That we're all lazy and are out to purposely get pregnant by the Naija man so we can collect welfare and foodstamps and eventually take him to court for child support? PU-LEEZE! I'm a FAR cry from those things-so when I ask you not to call me "Akata"-it's for good reason!

You're no longer sleeping with him cos he hardly visits you anymore

Yes or No.

ThiefOfHearts:

You're no longer sleeping with him cos he hardly visits you anymore

Yes or No.

You are searching sooo hard with a microscope to find fault with me and bashing me for the way your fellow Naija treated me-that's crazy! But since you obviously don't read what I post up, I'll entertain you-YES, he still comes to visit me, calls me every chance he gets and constantly tells me he loves me-but I had to put an end to the sexual part of it all. I demanded my house key from him just 2 days ago and he had an attitude about that.

Look, when one of my fellow African American people wrongs anyone-especially those of different cultures/ethnicities, I don't find it fit to defend them just because we have the same skin color or grew up in the same town-what's wrong is wrong. In fact, it straight embarasses me and I find myself apologizing on their behalf. Not saying you should go that far, but I'm definitely saying stop trying to blame me for things I had no control over and stop attacking me for the things I admitted was wrong already and am trying my darndest to correct-especially based on the premise that I'm African American-that is truly ridiculous! Geesh!

@Iyakadijat,
[quote][/quote]I demanded my house key from him just 2 days ago and he had an attitude about that. ,

Getting your key from him is not a problem, but on what approach you are taking your key from him.
I will humbly suggest you dialogue with him and let him know how much you hurt and hence your decision you
decided to move-on.
But be it what may, Do not make him your enemy , I pray you guys can make a best of friend in the future.
Majority of this people judging you never been there or they are not as fortunate to keep a friend as long as you kept your
Child-Father. Hence the hatred and unruly comments towards you.

What he did was bad but lets not just throw all the blames at him. Could you have prevented this? The answer is yes. What I always tell people is take charge of your stuff and stop the idea of when something goes wrong the other person take all the blames. When dealing with most Nigerian men is likely they want citizenship. So this is a list of things you have to do when dealing or want to marry a Nigerian in the U.S. This is only if you don't mind a heart break.

1]Verify that he have a citizenship [see the documents]
2]Within a year or so take a vacation to Nigeria to meet his parents and ask questions, over verify that he doesn't have a wife waiting for him to get his citizenship. Most Nigerian men do have wife back home. Is the White man that caused them to use you for citizenship. Using an american for citizenship sounds like the only option and nigerians know how to use their only options well.
3]Call his family back home once in a while and keep asking questions
4]Tell him that you know that most nigerian men use americans for citizenship and that you want him to vow wether he is using you or not
If you follow this steps one by one is likely you will not fall a victim but for me I think this is not enough but is likely to give you clues to wether he is using you.

If you are some one who don't take chances obviously poster you are not. But just in case you don't want to repeat the same mistake. My advice to any american that want to marry a nigerian in the U.S. is to marry some one that already have their citizenship. Period. That's the solution to this.

As I am writing this I know 1 or 2 people who are using american women for citizenship. Is not like these men are heartless. Well technically they are but the white man put them in that situation and any careless woman will fall victim is just that simple. If I were in this nigerian men shoes I would probably pay the woman to get my citizenship than use her because if I use her there is a bigger price to pay when the time comes. Some people may say no woman would take your money to give you citizenship. I think if there is one way to get something, there is probably another way to get the same thing. It might be legal and it might not be.

Poster I think you are kind of in a mess considering your situation but is not the end of the world. It wouldn't be nice to fall victim to this again in the name of not wanting to be lonely. I will probably say you relocate to another neighborhood or another city. Take time out and think. Change some of your ways and the kind of man you want. If you act like a victim or act like you are desperate men will use you and dump you. If you act mature and dress professionally, you will attract good men.

Remember this dude is your worst enemy nor matter what.

outlaws:



What he did was bad but lets not just throw all the blames at him. Could you have prevented this? The answer is yes. What I always tell people is take charge of your stuff and stop the idea of when something goes wrong the other person take all the blames. When dealing with most Nigerian men is likely they want citizenship. So this is a list of things you have to do when dealing or want to marry a Nigerian in the U.S. This is only if you don't mind a heart break.

1]Verify that he have a citizenship [see the documents]
2]Within a year or so take a vacation to Nigeria to meet his parents and ask questions, over verify that he doesn't have a wife waiting for him to get his citizenship. Most Nigerian men do have wife back home. Is the White man that caused them to use you for citizenship. Using an american for citizenship sounds like the only option and nigerians know how to use their only options well.
3]Call his family back home once in a while and keep asking questions
4]Tell him that you know that most nigerian men use americans for citizenship and that you want him to vow wether he is using you or not
If you follow this steps one by one is likely you will not fall a victim but for me I think this is not enough but is likely to give you clues to wether he is using you.

If you are some one who don't take chances obviously poster you are not. But just in case you don't want to repeat the same mistake. My advice to any american that want to marry a nigerian in the U.S. is to marry some one that already have their citizenship. Period. That's the solution to this.

As I am writing this I know 1 or 2 people who are using american women for citizenship. Is not like these men are heartless. Well technically they are but the white man put them in that situation and any careless woman will fall victim is just that simple. If I were in this nigerian men shoes I would probably pay the woman to get my citizenship than use her because if I use her there is a bigger price to pay when the time comes. Some people may say no woman would take your money to give you citizenship. I think if there is one way to get something, there is probably another way to get the same thing. It might be legal and it might not be.

Poster I think you are kind of in a mess considering your situation but is not the end of the world. It wouldn't be nice to fall victim to this again in the name of not wanting to be lonely. I will probably say you relocate to another neighborhood or another city. Take time out and think. Change some of your ways and the kind of man you want. If you act like a victim or act like you are desperate men will use you and dump you. If you act mature and dress professionally, you will attract good men.

Remember this dude is your worst enemy nor matter what.

Sweetheart, I have stated this NUMEROUS times during this thread, but since you obviously missed it-let me say it for you again-HE DID NOT USE ME TO GET HIS PAPERS! He had his greencard already when we met(visa lotto) and had just graduated from Technical School. He didn't marry me because he didn't need to do that in order to get his citizenship. The only thing I aided in as far as his paperwork goes was telling him he'd be much better off moving to Atlanta where he could get his citizenship in a few months rather than stay in NYC where it may take years. He filed all paperwork for himself, paid for the paperwork himself and went to his citizenship interview BY HIMSELF! So, now that I've said that can you tell me once again how I could have prevented this-BECAUSE I MISSED IT!

outlaws:



What he did was bad but lets not just throw all the blames at him. Could you have prevented this? The answer is yes. What I always tell people is take charge of your stuff and stop the idea of when something goes wrong the other person take all the blames. When dealing with most Nigerian men is likely they want citizenship. So this is a list of things you have to do when dealing or want to marry a Nigerian in the U.S. This is only if you don't mind a heart break.

1]Verify that he have a citizenship [see the documents]
2]Within a year or so take a vacation to Nigeria to meet his parents and ask questions, over verify that he doesn't have a wife waiting for him to get his citizenship. Most Nigerian men do have wife back home. Is the White man that caused them to use you for citizenship. Using an american for citizenship sounds like the only option and nigerians know how to use their only options well.
3]Call his family back home once in a while and keep asking questions
4]Tell him that you know that most nigerian men use americans for citizenship and that you want him to vow wether he is using you or not
If you follow this steps one by one is likely you will not fall a victim but for me I think this is not enough but is likely to give you clues to wether he is using you.

If you are some one who don't take chances obviously poster you are not. But just in case you don't want to repeat the same mistake. My advice to any american that want to marry a nigerian in the U.S. is to marry some one that already have their citizenship. Period. That's the solution to this.

As I am writing this I know 1 or 2 people who are using american women for citizenship. Is not like these men are heartless. Well technically they are but the white man put them in that situation and any careless woman will fall victim is just that simple. If I were in this nigerian men shoes I would probably pay the woman to get my citizenship than use her because if I use her there is a bigger price to pay when the time comes. Some people may say no woman would take your money to give you citizenship. I think if there is one way to get something, there is probably another way to get the same thing. It might be legal and it might not be.

Poster I think you are kind of in a mess considering your situation but is not the end of the world. It wouldn't be nice to fall victim to this again in the name of not wanting to be lonely. I will probably say you relocate to another neighborhood or another city. Take time out and think. Change some of your ways and the kind of man you want. If you act like a victim or act like you are desperate men will use you and dump you. If you act mature and dress professionally, you will attract good men.

Remember this dude is your worst enemy nor matter what.

Just to answer the things you listed:

1) I verified that he had a greencard and wasn't using me for citizenship.
2) I consider myself on a come-up, but I barely have enough money to visit my family in NY, let alone go to Nigeria-are you serious?
3)I called his family all the time and asked a lot of questions. Guess what? They lied to me too. Told me he was no longer with "that lady" and she got herself a husband over there.
4) I didn't go into the citizenship factor because it was not relevant in my case, but I DID tell him I heard a lot of African men be married in their country and try to act single when they come to this country and constantly asked him if anything was going on between him and his "baby-mother", and if he planned to bring her here, etc. And of course he denied it all, and what else did I have to go on but his word?

Plain and simple-he used me for companionship, someone to fill his emotional and sexual void while he waited for his wife to come to this country and got a business savvy, accomodating woman and beautiful daughter out of it. He was wrong for lying and especially for so long! Who does that? I don't understand why you guys are all deflecting the blame onto me when his own friends and family (in this country)are telling him what he did was wrong-and they are all Naija people.

@outlaws-I don't blame you for thinking it was about citizenship or papers, because that is honestly the only way you can even halfway fathom someone doing such evil to another person if not for that. Trust me-his own friends keep saying that to me too-"It's not like he needed you for papers. I don't know what to say ooo! Sorry ooo! Gbele! Just don't mind him, now. God will show him the way."