dickoflife:
I see but if na d woman die u won't see a bad thing in the man remarrying after 2 months.. Look let's face the fact, the dead is dead. Their memory is in our brains and minds, judge yourself and not others.

she has children so she would be judged for behaving badly before them. it's that simple. all these judge yourself comments are starting to get on my nerves.

If she wants to sleep around fine.

our society is broken!
so you would rather be a moral coward & keep quiet rather than say the truth?

So if it was your sister you would agree she be stoned to death? People and their standards of judging others lives.

my sister won't itch to shag multiple men barely months after losing a loved one. that is the exclusive preserve of a nymphö!

So if I am in the situation and I can't hold body for more than a month make I cut my dickk off abi?

if you are in the situation & you cannot hold your body, find a whorëhouse far away from your house & do the needful. don't bring your pröstitutes to your house where your kids would see them.

coogar:


she has children so she would be judged for behaving badly before them. it's that simple. all these judge yourself comments are starting to get on my nerves.
our society is broken!
so you would rather be a moral coward & keep quiet rather than say the truth?

my sister won't itch to shag multiple men barely months after losing a loved one. that is the exclusive preserve of a nymphö!
if you are in the situation & you cannot hold your body, find a whorëhouse far away from your house & do the needful. don't bring your pröstitutes to your house where your kids would see them.

Why are you wasting your time?
Someone moniker starts by dick and you think they will say otherwise?

edwife:


Because she is single,she can mingle therefore sleeping with any dick in the house she shares with her kids makes it right?

My standards and beliefs are against that.I will never support promiscuity be it man or woman.I think it is disgusting and classless.

Just like a 16 years old child can choose to do drugs and engage in prostitution because it is her choice.

we are stylishly digressing from the bone of contention. Hitherto, what people were crucifying her for was the short duration she used in mourning her late husband. She is an adult that knows what is best for her. If she thinks it's 50dicks at once, then please let her go ahead. She isn't breaking any rule. You can only have an opinion about how she decide to live her life if you are 100% stainless and perfect. We all know that is a mirage.

You see the bolded is the problem.
If she can never bring another man into the house, then it means she's never allowed to move on. That's what folks don't realize.
Also it perpetuate the belief that women must settle for those financially better than them.
Because in the case of a woman who dates a man that doesn't have a house of his own, it's would not make sense to expect them to float in the air because the man can't live with her.

About respect, it is not disrespectful to move on after the loss of a partner. 6 months later, 10yrs later. Same thing. Depending on how you felt about the marriage while it lasted. I would advice caution if the kids are still small. For their safety. Cos you never know who's who. But if they are grown, I see no issues.

As For her bringing different men there, that's irresponsible. Quite agreed. I think everyone agrees with that. Mostly. Also that's what I consider to be disrespectful. It's like turning the house into a brothel. Even if she wasn't previously married, it's not a nice image. Same goes for guys that bring in different women into their homes whether previously married or still single.

Yea I'm glad you're not an ediot.

xtervaganza:
1st let me say you have asked intelligent questions. I had to read it like 3 times to come up with answer


As for the bolded; for me ooo personally, even if she decides to move on after 100 years I'll never be okay with her bringing a man into her hubby's house. A woman normally moves in with a man not the other way.
A man who moves into another man's sweat and house is a leech and deserves thorough tidying



And you said we should shift love aside? How about respect? Is that not important too? If she respects her late husband she would never do that.




And for the last question; it's tricky, you know why? 1st it's irresponsible for a man to bring in a woman to his house just 6 months after his wide died even after a year it's still stoopid in my opinion


According to the op, the woman brings different kind of men home. Now let's say the person in the story is a man, now tell me how a responsible man will bring different won home just 6 months after his woman died? I don't even care if they are the worst enemy while she was alive.



Back to why I said it's tricky, if let's say the man is still very young and he owns the house if he wants to remarry then fine but if the house belongs to the woman or they both own the house I think it's 500% wrong



Lastly, I'm not one the countless fools who think men are superior to women. We are equal, I have an uncle I stopped speaking with because he took in a 2nd wife, I also have a friend I'm not on speaking terms with because he beat his wife. I'm not an idiot

MsGlobalwonder:
we are stylishly digressing from the bone of contention. Hitherto, what people were crucifying her for was the short duration she used in mourning her late husband. She is an adult that knows what is best for her. If she thinks it's 50dicks at once, then please let her go ahead. She isn't breaking any rule. You can only have an opinion about how she decide to live her life if you are 100% stainless and perfect. We all know that is a mirage.

So because i am not 100% stainless i should not say what is wrong OR right and most importantly i should not state my opinion in FREE world?So she is free to do what she wants but i am not free to say what i want?

For your information,you are also not 100% stainless,we all know that's a huge mirage therefore don't mind what i am writing here,as i said earlier;it is MY choice,MY OPINION!

@the embolden address those people,i never address that in my posts.

MsGlobalwonder:
dear cococandy, I love you! No need for long story!!

Lol. thanks

edwife:
Personally 6 months is not enough to mourn someone you share many memories with and honestly not even a lifetime.

But to have sex with another man and in this case not one but multiple is very distasteful.

My focus will be on the kids and how i will take the role of a father and mother, a man will be the last thing on my mind.Self control is something many people lack and that is just sad.

Your comment makes us feel better; that there're Nigerians who still think like you means there's still hope.
God bless you!

AdorableBelle:

Your comment makes us feel better; that there're Nigerians who still think like you means there's still hope.
God bless you!

God bless you too.Just know that in this world,everyone has an opinion;choose what is right for you and ignore anything that doesn't go with your beliefs and principles.

Your words reek of judgement my dear. Anyway each man to his own...

coogar:


she has children so she would be judged for behaving badly before them. it's that simple. all these judge yourself comments are starting to get on my nerves.



our society is broken!
so you would rather be a moral coward & keep quiet rather than say the truth?



my sister won't itch to shag multiple men barely months after losing a loved one. that is the exclusive preserve of a nymphö!



if you are in the situation & you cannot hold your body, find a whorëhouse far away from your house & do the needful. don't bring your pröstitutes to your house where your kids would see them.

cococandy:
These guys possessive sha. Even in death

.. as in...

dickoflife:
Your words reek of judgement my dear. Anyway each man to his own...

unfortunately, that's the world we live.

deal with it!

edwife:

Why are you wasting your time?
Someone moniker starts by dick and you think they will say otherwise?

i was just being charitable.

EggovinMma:
Please leave mom alone oooooo.
Dad is dead, so mom can continue her life biko.
Car wey dem pack for six months need proper servicing.
By the way, tell mom to stop bringing men into the house. It's disrespectful.


If na dad na, na normal thing.But because of na mom, culture must apply.

This your comment says a lot about you...you are pathetic.

cococandy:
You see the bolded is the problem.
If she can never bring another man into the house, then it means she's never allowed to move on. That's what folks don't realize.
Also it perpetuate the belief that women must settle for those financially better than them.
Because in the case of a woman who dates a man that doesn't have a house of his own, it's would not make sense to expect them to float in the air because the man can't live with her.

About respect, it is not disrespectful to move on after the loss of a partner. 6 months later, 10yrs later. Same thing. Depending on how you felt about the marriage while it lasted. I would advice caution if the kids are still small. For their safety. Cos you never know who's who. But if they are grown, I see no issues.

As For her bringing different men there, that's irresponsible. Quite agreed. I think everyone agrees with that. Mostly. Also that's what I consider to be disrespectful. It's like turning the house into a brothel. Even if she wasn't previously married, it's not a nice image. Same goes for guys that bring in different women into their homes whether previously married or still single.

Yea I'm glad you're not an ediot.

ok ok anyhow you see it but I'll never be ok with the 6 months or bringing a man into her hubby's house


If she owns the house then fine. And I'm not saying women should be with a man who is financially better than them, the man can rent an apartment or was he floating in air before he met her?



I may be raised in an old school way but I'll never be ok with both.

MsGlobalwonder:
that is if there is any memory worth keeping at all.

of course there will be, every person has a gud side and bad side, am sure he gave her gud times too.

NickiRoman:
I believe the vow said till death do us part and they never had a happy marriage,She as right to move on

women can't do without dicks,

Oppypoppy:
If na man now no one wld raise eyebrow. Abeg u can't teach ur mom how to live her life BC she bore. Let her be and you focus on your life. Aftrtall no law is holding her back, she is a widow and can remarry, if she wills. Buh if its getting too much you can talk to her with respect.

u re here supporting immorality,, shameless dog

edwife:


Because she is single,she can mingle therefore sleeping with any dick in the house she shares with her kids makes it right?

My standards and beliefs are against that.I will never support promiscuity be it man or woman.I think it is disgusting and classless.

Just like a 16 years old child can choose to do drugs and engage in prostitution because it is her choice.

i am not surprised

lilmax:
i am not surprised

Lol why?

MsGlobalwonder:
no, she will be breaking her marital vows if she sleeps with another person aside her husband once he still breathes. It's not purposeless. We are saying she is not committing any "sin" technically because the contract she had with her husband automatically got terminated the day he died. She is now a widow. Meaning, she is single and can mingle if she wants to.

smh

Which marital vow are you talking about? Isn't that the same morality you never planned to talk about?

Be a man! kill ur mum den u av d whole world,

edwife:


Lol why?

because I know there's always a reasonable comment at the end

Your dad unknowingly married to a prostitute, and u're given birth by a prostitute called mother,. Do u know that those prostitute you normally see, also have child/children at home? There is different between being cheating on ur spouse and being sex worker, your mum didn't cheat while your dad was alive but she was a real sex worker...

daretodiffer:


The only issue here is the multiple partners. Other than that, I see no reason why she can't bring a man home. The only obligation she owes them is the knowledge that she is seeing someone. Unless she is a religious woman, I see no reason why can't have sex in her own home. The man is dead and he is dead. The living must continue to do what makes them happy and what is right. So can we stop getting sentimental about the significance of the home

Also the kids are old enough to mind their fvvkinf business. If she isn't maltreating them or abusing them then ehatever their mum is up to is not their concern.

sex na food?why can't she just get married at once.

Hefemale:
when the woman must have gone through hell from the man all in the name of marriage and you expect her to mourn forever abi? A month is enough for some useless Nigerian men.

useless is an understatement for nigerian ladies.

So many Hoes on nairaland these days,but the funny thing is that some foolish guys will see this and still continue sending PMs thereby making these b!tches to feel very important.

Oluboonmi:
unmmm... I've read a lot of comments on this post...
I'll like to ask: Do we all have the same mind, body, and attitude? No is the answer.

Op, your dad went to the great beyond, may his soul rest well. I see no reason why your mum should not move on. She's not having an affair because she has no husband. She is dating, and there's nothing wrong with that. She wants to move on, its OK.
But for her to be having more than one person is the 'ish' here which I know is not right.
So, what should you do? Have a grown-up talk with her. Let her know you understand that she is spreading her wings and moving on, and that's okay.(I suggest u talk in a cool way cos she's your mother, you talk shabily you can receive slap). Let her know its OK with u for her to date, but only one man. (You should know how to put it nah)

what should you expect from ladies who were busy jumping from one dick to another when they were single all in the name of relationship...such ladies can never ever be satisfied with only one dick,marriage will be like a cage to them...and this woman is a typical example...once more reason a sane man should marry a pure and untouched lady.

daretodiffer:

She has a right to be happy,

so its only sex that will make her happy?

sukkot:
shut your ho ass up woman. park well make i see front. so you dont see whats wrong in a woman living with kids bringing some man to their dads bed after he died ? you must be some demonic infested woman. you need holy ghost fire, holy water, koboko and an exorcism

the b!tcch no even fine sef.

SAMBARRY:
nawa for you o.see as you just conclude like say na for your presence them orchestrate all this things


Op na you I get buisness with. Face your front and mind your buisness. She's not and adolescent that you'll be monitoring. Abi if it was your mom that died and your dad brought in a woman Will you come here to rant?

Face your own problems and leave whatever your mom is doing with her private part

Birds of the same feather. women and murder since the days of samson and delaila.

jimmayoy:



Birds of the same feather. women and murder since the days of samson and delaila.

back to sender

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Youngpo413:
the b!tcch no even fine sef.

Youngpo413:
So many Hoes on nairaland these days,but the funny thing is that some foolish guys will see this and still continue sending PMs thereby making these b!tches to feel very important.

I wonder ohh! Just comon picture oh, you go see close to 300likes, and i was like! "WHO THE FVCK IS GIVING THOSE BI TCHES LIKES!

all I know is that those guys sending them pms are kids. You don't know someone, how she behave, what kind of spirit does she have, is she a human being or just a masquerade PARADING as She! all this things are surpose to put into consideration before you familiarise yourself with any WOMEN online. You just don't see a female picture which she must have taken it decades ago and want to publish it as her dp today, and you Ode will see it and start giving it all manner of likes and sending STVPID pms to those WORTHLESS FEMALE who have no value to the community.

Shame on some guys.