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Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by bukatyne(f): 7:53pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: Thank you |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by xtervaganza(m): 8:05pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
cococandy:it appears I'm learning something new on here today . But personally I don't think I can get over losing the person I love ever. But 6 months to me is nog only too early but evil I'll say maybe 2 years or even more. And no matter what it's a total lack of respect to the late man to bring another man to his house. You say morals is out of it but common sense should tell her it is wrong. If I know someone who does that to her late husband I'll cut ties with her. She's evil |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by xtervaganza(m): 8:08pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
bukatyne:wow I'm really upset at this comment of yours So what's love then? Just 6 months and the love you have for him will poof and disappear? And bringing the man to the man's house? If anybody tried that with any of my relatives ilk find the man and deal with him, maybe kill him but I'll definitely deal with him |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by cococandy(f): 8:18pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
You're talking about someone you love. They weren't in love so shift the love go one side. And even if they were in love, people love differently so I don't think it's okay to judge her by your own views of love. Anyway opinions differ so I'll respect your opinion on that. I.e 6 months is too short to move on. About the house thing, I was looking for a specific response. The one you gave seemed vague. If say she moved on after 3yrs, would it then be okay to bring another man in? Or would it NEVER be okay? Remember the house is hers too. And by the man's death now belongs to her alone instead of both of them. So say she wanted to move on after mourning him 'properly' for 2yrs should she sell her house because her late husband lived there with her so no other man can? Would you also cut ties with a man who's bringing other women into his home 6months after his wife's death because he's evil? I'm just asking this one because I want to be sure I'm not debating with someone already biased based on gender cos it's usually a waste of time. But I'm more interested in your response for the bolded question. xtervaganza: |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by cococandy(f): 8:19pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
These guys possessive sha. Even in death 1 Like |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 8:20pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Acidosis:you are talking morality! You see, I made a caveat at d beginning of my point! No sentiments. No personal values. Those "values" vary for induviduals, culture and beliefs. Premarital sex is a sin, according to my belief ( i'm a happy and proud Christian btw), does it stop people (even Christians) from having pre-marital sex?. Like you even said, "... my house" ; my house, my child, my rules". I call the shots! If he/she is out of my radar or responsibility then he/she is allowed to do whatever makes him happy. Even if it's against beliefs. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by Acidosis(m): 8:32pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: Without morality this thread is purposeless. Without morality, the wife is free to shag any guy even if the husband is alive. Her life, her destiny. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by PenSniper: 8:34pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
cococandy: But the poster said "less than six months". Meaning she didn't observe the normal decent period of six months. Added to that is the sampling of men at will. Its hard not to deduce that her loyalty was in doubt even while the husband was alive. If she had waited out the six months and kept to one man, it would have been okay. A woman might be so devastated by the sudden death of her husband that she might need someone to comfort her soon after the mourning period otherwise she may go over the bar. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by edwife(f): 8:37pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: I want to ask a question and please answer me sincerely. We all know that in the North,they do practice child marriage and they have every right to marry 4 wives as they want. It is their beliefs,cultures and practices.Should we also not judge them and accept it as their way of life? A man who isn't a christian should also be allowed to marry a second wife if he chooses to do so? @liky liky vampires stay away. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 8:49pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Acidosis:no, she will be breaking her marital vows if she sleeps with another person aside her husband once he still breathes. It's not purposeless. We are saying she is not committing any "sin" technically because the contract she had with her husband automatically got terminated the day he died. She is now a widow. Meaning, she is single and can mingle if she wants to. 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by Nobody: 8:54pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
savanto:so she should bring love peddlers to the house Are you thinking at all? Someone is talking that she don't LIke the behavior of her mother and you are here telling that person to do the exact same thing as her mother Can you use thesame AMOUNT of force to cancle another force Stop behaving LIKE a GOAT for God's SAKE |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by Nobody: 8:54pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
simply put that your dad died as a result of your mother's infidelity |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by sabi99(m): 8:57pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Her heart is hollow..she's got no conscience...........pray 4 her.....only Gods intervention will solve d prob. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 8:59pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
edwife:Lool. I don't know what you want me to say. I am anti-polygamy! If my husband peradventure marries another wife and i'm aware then the contract we had hitherto gets terminated automatically. And if I really want to push it a Lil further, I will sue for bigamy; which is punishable by the Nigerian law ( the last time I checked). I'm saying all these because there were no prior agreement or some sort of "rule of thumb" that suggests I should expect more competitors /co-owners (choi, I can't share sha.. lol). This is totally different for an average Lady whose belief system supports polygamy. She might even go on twitter to "bless" the new couple-to-be #Yimu 1 Like |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by edwife(f): 9:04pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: You didn't adress most of my questions but i get it. So why yimu for a lady whose beliefs support polygamy?are you in anyway judging that she is pretending to be okay with it? |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:13pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
edwife:oh, pardon me. You were asking me my opinion about child marriage and polygamy. I said belief system differs. And please "child bride" to the best of my knowledge is not recommended by any religion and culture, like I said to the best of my knowledge. That being said, I won't be a party to anything done under duress. A child is not matured enough to take life-changing decision as marriage, so I won't be a party to that. And to answer you question. Lool, maalu kan un roju ni, obe o da lorun. Well, I can't be verbatim with the meaning; it simply means you give in to situations beyond your power and control. I'm sure no woman will willingly want to share her man. i'm certain . |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by coogar: 9:15pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
dickoflife: the dead should be respected! a man died....barely 6 months after his death, the wife is already out there servicing various men and defiling the matrimonial bed her husband once slept......about 400 years ago, the woman would have been led to the borders of the village & stoned to death by 12 able-bodied women. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:21pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:"thirded" 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by edwife(f): 9:27pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: Well as much as i detest it but i read that it is part of their culture and in India girls are betrothed at birth. i am certain that in a polygamous culture,women go in willingly knowing that they might not be the only wife of their husband.Woman are jealous even of their mother in law,so nothing new.They might not want to share if they are not used to it or it is something strange. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:28pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
swaggerdgrt:she is not a disgrace. Infact, if not for anything; we are proud of her. She is not pretending to be what she is not. She should mourn for 5yrs? . That's wicked if you asked me. "..till death do us part", and 6months after death is not enough? I can bet that after that 5yrs; world people will still ask her to go face her grand children. She doesn't deserve to love,feel loved and be loved in return abi? |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by mozele(m): 9:31pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
iwaeda: iwaeda: She isnt herself. She is completely in another world carrying a burden she doesn't know how to dispose. She is mentally and emotionally disoriented. What she needs now are: prayers and someone she could trust and rely on. Someone she can pour out her worries and pains. Someone she can confide in. But all thesep are far from her that's why she chose the alternate means which wont provide the solutions to her problems, instead it would even make matters worse. There are many things to discuss but the means to let them out seems to be invisible. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by xtervaganza(m): 9:31pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
cococandy:1st let me say you have asked intelligent questions. I had to read it like 3 times to come up with answer As for the bolded; for me ooo personally, even if she decides to move on after 100 years I'll never be okay with her bringing a man into her hubby's house. A woman normally moves in with a man not the other way. A man who moves into another man's sweat and house is a leech and deserves thorough tidying And you said we should shift love aside? How about respect? Is that not important too? If she respects her late husband she would never do that. And for the last question; it's tricky, you know why? 1st it's irresponsible for a man to bring in a woman to his house just 6 months after his wide died even after a year it's still stoopid in my opinion According to the op, the woman brings different kind of men home. Now let's say the person in the story is a man, now tell me how a responsible man will bring different won home just 6 months after his woman died? I don't even care if they are the worst enemy while she was alive. Back to why I said it's tricky, if let's say the man is still very young and he owns the house if he wants to remarry then fine but if the house belongs to the woman or they both own the house I think it's 500% wrong Lastly, I'm not one the countless fools who think men are superior to women. We are equal, I have an uncle I stopped speaking with because he took in a 2nd wife, I also have a friend I'm not on speaking terms with because he beat his wife. I'm not an idiot 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:32pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
edwife:in matters like this, I only have authority to speak about myself and what I believe in. But it's rather unfortunate if truly child-bride culture is still in existence in India. That is going 5centuries backward. Pathetic to say the least. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by prettyirene: 9:33pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Its quite sad though!! But won't judge the woman. Nobody knows what she went through in that marriage,its obvious she didn't love the man. Dad died twenty years ago and my mum has refused to remarry, she keeps talking about how wonderful dad was and how she thinks she can't find a replacement. Its so easy to know a woman who truly loves her hubby and its can be shown thru the period of grieve and mourning. Having said that even if the woman was in a loveless and abusive marriage, I don't think it is right bringing multiple partners to her bedroom. Even if she never loved the hubby,she should at least show respect to the kids and consider their feelings! The deceased iis still their father and the memory of their lost loved one is still fresh. It is totally wrong and the kids would be resentful towards her... Nobody in OP's position will be happy.. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:36pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Captainswag225:that is if there is any memory worth keeping at all. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:39pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
AikayDaWrapper:lmaoo @ too much! Haha no mind them hypocrites. Smh! |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:43pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
edwife:loool. This your advice is for ALL having sex with anyone that is not their legal partner. Mind you, you will be talking to almost 90% of Nigerians, maybe including the silly whining child that wrote this. You don't get it, she is now single and can MINGLE! How she decides to do it is totally her choice. |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:46pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
teamchocolate:thank you o. *sigh |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:46pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
Akhere1:"truth"? Were you her partner? |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by dickoflife(m): 9:47pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
coogar:I see but if na d woman die u won't see a bad thing in the man remarrying after 2 months.. Look let's face the fact, the dead is dead. Their memory is in our brains and minds, judge yourself and not others. If she wants to sleep around fine. So if it was your sister you would agree she be stoned to death? People and their standards of judging others lives. So if I am in the situation and I can't hold body for more than a month make I cut my dickk off abi? |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by edwife(f): 9:47pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
MsGlobalwonder: Because she is single,she can mingle therefore sleeping with any dick in the house she shares with her kids makes it right? My standards and beliefs are against that.I will never support promiscuity be it man or woman.I think it is disgusting and classless. Just like a 16 years old child can choose to do drugs and engage in prostitution because it is her choice. 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Sad! Mum Is Having An Affair Six Month’s After Dad’s Death’ by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:50pm On Oct 30, 2015 |
cococandy:dear cococandy, I love you! No need for long story!! 1 Like |
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