Nairalanders, Please let's educate one another on this common problem of ethnicity in our country that often affects marriage institution. Is it a crime to marry another tribe in Nigeria, can you do it, if you have, what is your experience? If you can't, then Why?

I don't think it's a crime.

Its not a crime. . .but from my personal view i would rather marry an Igbo guy than a guy from my tribe( guess i'm being biased cus my mum's Igbo) But am still open to other tribes. . .


I also would not like to marry a Hausa guy( I have nothing against them) but a lot of external factors pose as an issue in such marriage( especially religion since most of them tend to be Muslims) in order to avoid a lot of problems i wouldn't wanna end up with one. . .

No, its not a crime. its just the percieved view of some of our local people that make it look so bad. My fiancee is not from my tribe, yet our families have agreed to come together to support bith of us. it all depends on the two people involved.

its not a crime,but 2 me i prefer d hausa men,they are very energetic and romantic unlike all dis lousy yoruba men

It is not a crime,in fact it is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

what i don't understand is why some africans have a problem with marrying someone from another tribe even thought the are from the same country. however, they have no problem marrying a white. it seems to me africans are more against intertribal marriage than they are interracial. can some please explain this to me?

No, it's not a crime because you can't go to prison because of it.!  

But family wahala dey anoda ting entirely!!

I was with an igbo guy for 4 YEARS!!! But boiiiiiiiiiiii, when it came to marriage, the guys family were like no way, we don't want yoruba girl (even though I was the best for him   ) . They gave me HELL!! Never once did me or my family retaliate. They were like, especially the dad, 'my son, we will find you a good Igbo wife, don't you worry. These yoruba people are not good' bla bla bla.

Now he's married to a white woman, and they hate it.! Oh well.  To God be the glory.    

It all really depends on how strong the couple is and how badly they want to make things work, because if the family do not support, then it can cause problems, if they do support, then that's good.  

nene1:

what i don't understand is why some africans have a problem with marrying someone from another tribe even thought the are from the same country. however, they have no problem marrying a white. it seems to me africans are more against intertribal marriage than they are interracial. can some please explain this to me?

You have a good point.

Secretz:

No, it's not a crime because you can't go to prison because of it.!

But family wahala dey anoda ting entirely!!

I was with an igbo guy for 4 YEARS!!! But boiiiiiiiiiiii, when it came to marriage, the guys family were like no way, we don't want yoruba girl (even though I was the best for him ) . They gave me HELL!! Never once did me or my family retaliate. They were like, especially the dad, 'my son, we will find you a good Igbo wife, don't you worry. These yoruba people are not good' bla bla bla.

Now he's married to a white woman, and they hate it.! Oh well. To God be the glory.

It all really depends on how strong the couple is and how badly they want to make things work, because if the family do not support, then it can cause problems, if they do support, then that's good.

You have a good point.

thank you for sharing your story. it proved my point. now they wish he married you instead of a white woman. at least you're both nigerian. but if they hated the fact that he married a white woman, how come they did not prevent his marriage to her, yet they stopped him marrying you?

nene1:

thank you for sharing your story. it proved my point. now they wish he married you instead of a white woman. at least you're both nigerian. but if they hated the fact that he married a white woman, how come they did not prevent his marriage to her, yet they stopped him marrying you?

She showed them peppe. . . . took the situation into her own hands and they did things without their parents, but I was not raised that way, so that's their business!!

I personally believe that parents should have reasonable ground to reject their child's choice of life partner. In this day and age and even where you bring your children up in a western world/society/environment, there is a very high probability that they are going to bring home someone other than from their own tribe.