Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by InvertedHammer: 4:11pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.
We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.
I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.
Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.
/ Welcome to married life.... even though you are not married yet. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by ceeceeuwa: 4:20pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.
We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.
I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.
Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.
There is no break up that won't affect you psychologically,if you are certain it is what you want,then take that bold step. It is only time that heals! |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by mechanics(m): 4:22pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Funi, did anyone advice him when he started d relationship? |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 4:22pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: I see a Grand piano as your displayed picture, can you play that? Not really. I also got talent in music especially blues. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 4:22pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Just cut her off completely and maintain no contact whatsoever. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Harbb: 4:33pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.
We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.
I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.
Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.
Let's flip it. Why not ask for advice on how you can make the relationship work again? 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by killsmith(f): 4:45pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
where do broken hearts go?.....how do they find their way home? |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by dovetark: 5:10pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
And they will never agree, that's how a friend told me he's trying and I found out that he can play almost any piece from any genre. You just name it. He's graduating with a first class from music dept. I sight read, losing my skills but working on getting it back. My love for the piano is boundless. Nice one bro, DeeTus: Not really.
I also got talent in music especially blues. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by dovetark: 5:12pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
True, that's why I used profound for emphasis. Thanks. ceeceeuwa:
There is no break up that won't affect you psychologically,if you are certain it is what you want,then take that bold step. It is only time that heals! |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Tczar(m): 5:20pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Just tell it straight up to her face! |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by donpal(m): 5:31pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
You never consulted me or any Naira Lander before going into the relationship, so why need us on your way out?.
Solve your problem the same way you enjoy your goodies. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by sisisioge: 8:11pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
...bring back those loving feeling.
Whew! I feel you. Sheet happens!
Take her to the beach. Walk faraway from people. Then, stand facing each other and really look into each other's eye for 5mins. Trust me, you won't need any help with the outcome...break or stay. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 8:37pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
sonofananimal: lol and who did you think I'm am
Your statement is wack! You don't say that cos you have a happy home doesn't mean every woman is desperate.
How many years did your man date you before he put that ring on your fat looking hand My hand will straight slap your worwor looking face cu'nt, seems you need that son of a Shrek. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by 6fit(f): 8:37pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.
We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.
I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.
Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.
just tell her u have HIV and d rest is history.....Quote 6fit |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Seculent: 8:48pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Adanna28:
My hand will straight slap your worwor looking face cu'nt, seems you need that son of a Shrek. Beautiful E-Warrior, you love e-fight. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 8:59pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
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Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Seculent: 9:06pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
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Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:10pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Adanna28:
My hand will straight slap your worwor looking face cu'nt, seems you need that son of a Shrek. bros na man you be So she male dey NAIRALAND |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:12pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
sonofananimal: lol and who did you think I'm am
Your statement is wack! You don't say that cos you have a happy home doesn't mean every woman is desperate.
How many years did your man date you before he put that ring on your fat looking hand Hey SHREK she got it in Less than 6 months...and do u know y?? Adanna28 is the best thing that can happen to any man. Her finger might appear fat but one man's food is another's poison. She is love personified. And guess what?? U can never dream of achieving half of what she has achieved in life. Fòooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:15pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dukeolumde:
Less than 6 months...and do u know y?? Adanna28 is the best thing that can happen to any man. Her finger might appear fat but one man's food is another's poison. She is love personified. And guess what?? U can never dream of achieving half of what she has achieved in life. Fòoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool baboon! Have you achieved even quarter of what she has achieved |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:16pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
sonofananimal: baboon! Have you achieved even quarter of what she has achieved ****Idiorta**** |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:19pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dukeolumde:
Less than 6 months...and do u know y?? Adanna28 is the best thing that can happen to any man. Her finger might appear fat but one man's food is another's poison. She is love personified. And guess what?? U can never dream of achieving half of what she has achieved in life. Fòoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool It okay babe, he don't phase me one bit. An efulefu will always remain an efulefu Dalu for having my back xo |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:20pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
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Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:20pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Adanna28:
It okay babe, he don't phase me one bit. An efulefu will always remain an efulefu
Dalu for having my back xo Anytime sweetie. How is ....?? Hope better?? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:22pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
sonofananimal: bros na man you be
So she male dey NAIRALAND Lmfao you must be mistaking me for your mother. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:24pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dukeolumde:
Anytime sweetie. How is ....?? Hope better?? It painful n heavy na headache from it, but it will pass kedu ka imere? |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:27pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
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Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by defendedvictim(m): 9:29pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
dovetark: Yeah, I think so... u think? Make up ur mind bro; n give urself concrete reasons for ur decision |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Nobody: 9:36pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
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Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by anumide(f): 9:39pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
yanabasee:
You'll never breakup with her if you're still single... You have to get emotionally attached to somebody else and also let her have a man in her life( somebdy that will treat her well and show her love)... That will dismantle your relationship...
This is so because... You guys are emotionally attached...even when you don't want to believe you have feelings for each other... And until that emotions are diverted to someone else...then it'll still be attached to you...
I needed to know what really happened that you seek to end a relationship of three years and above wrong! they should both learn to deal with it, hurt, heal and become whole again on their own before dragging someone else into their lives. if not, he will end up making making the new girl miserable. I once dated someone whose story was just like op's. mehn, it was the worst ten months of my life and the biggest mistake I have ever made. (and I have made a lot of them). |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by anumide(f): 9:57pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
oluamid:
I broke up with her via WhatsApp. It worked. Now she hates me. honey, hate is such a strong word. BTW, if you will tell the break up story, do it correctly. you were too broke to buy airtime. |
Re: Help!!! Need Advice On How To Break Up; by Seculent: 10:02pm On Nov 15, 2015 |
Hmmm |