To my brothers; carry your wife to bed when she sleeps off in the parlor, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants
you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say "I am sorry for the argument". That's women for you. Every brother needs to study in the
university of women before getting married, read books about them, learn
what the Bible says about them and you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though you will still have some problems, because a woman is always a woman and her imperfections are there. So, read books about
marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the
likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems. How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let
alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake? As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are so feminish. Do hide and seek with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even
if she is teasing you. Assist her in the house chores, pound yam/cassava
(fufu), fetch water, don't just be commanding her everyday. Bath together with her, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know it. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her
and play with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're
happy to have her as your partner.
All these are part of being romantic. When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year course. Lol.
Now sisters, it's also part of your duty to be romantic too. Shyness doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love for your husband.
Send sweet text to your husband at work/school, sometimes even if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on
social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, etc) even though he is right in front of you, it's fun! You should be chatting wit your
husband, not other men on social media networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times,
bake cake for him to surprise him. Sisters, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart). Sing poems for him, no shyness there. One day, when your husband
has gone to work, quickly clean the house and do the chores, cook his
favourite dish, arrange it in the dining table, clean the cleanable and dust the dustable. Wow! That's what being romantic is about, in fact his love for you will increase.
Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house,God is our provider. Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your
husband when he takes his salary. Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to return him safely.
Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith depreciating, encourage him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him
with other men, don't describe women to him, buy gifts for him too, wash his clothes for him, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of a second wife, be the best cook, wash his car, dress him up, give him injection when he is sick. Wake him wit a peck and don't by complain about his snoring.. Ask him to teach you about God.
Sometimes, spare him of women troubles. It's said that, be good to your wives, be like a kid to her but when things get tough, stand up and act like a man. Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies.. Most of what you see are prohibited. Call your husband with pet names or cute names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 20yrs older than you, as far as
he is comfortable with it. Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honor him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage. To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out u still care for that
person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself(sleeping), one for your wife and one for your Lord.. That's the best night one can ever have.
MAY GOD GIVE YOU ALL THE BEST IN MARRIAGE
As for the bachelors and single ladies too, May God grant US the spouses that will bring coolness to your eyes and heart! AMEN

there is a difference between theory and reality

How many of these will one be able to keep up with?

All these for a woman, what will she do fr ha guy?

Not married and not about to (Atleast not in the next 6 months)

ArchEnemy:
there is a difference between theory and reality

How many of these will one be able to keep up with?

I mustn't be a daily routine, throw a lil this a lil that here n dere. Spark d light, keep d heart

HARDDON:


I mustn't be a daily routine, throw a lil this a lil that here n dere. Spark d light, keep d heart

fair enough

Wow Dis is so nice. If its dis way den marriage is fun.. Buh its not always as easy as it sound. Men pls love n treat ur wife well n women love n respect ur husband. Praying for a God fearing caring man...

Krimmy:
Wow Dis is so nice. If its dis way den marriage is fun.. Buh its not always as easy as it sound. Men pls love n treat ur wife well n women love n respect ur husband. Praying for a God fearing caring man...

your bf nko,is He not God fearing?

Only if some peeps read this before getting married n divorced. Nice write . I like it

Krimmy:
Wow Dis is so nice. If its dis way den marriage is fun.. Buh its not always as easy as it sound. Men pls love n treat ur wife well n women love n respect ur husband. Praying for a God fearing caring man...

Lovely wish but are you willing to offer as much as what you are praying for ? One thing I learnt with ladies is that they want the good guys with all the good characters but are not ready to be good, caring n even God fearing themselves. So tell me, are you willing to give as much as you desire from your lover/partner ?

Ballmer:


Lovely wish but are you willing to offer as much as what you are praying for ? One thing I learnt with ladies is that they want the good guys with all the good characters but are not ready to be good, caring n even God fearing themselves. So tell me, are you willing to give as much as you desire from your lover/partner ?

Yes i am.I am willing to love, respect n care 4 ma man. Am d kind of person dat gives ma all in relationship though i end up being hurt most of d time buh it hasn't stopped me from loving wholeheartedly. So i always ask God 4 d right partner so i wont end up being hurt n wasting ma time n energy in loving d wrong man.

she is not my God....I won't do this for any woman.

Youngpo413:
your bf nko,is He not God fearing?

Ma dear he is not n dats y we ain't together anymore

Gelengelen:
she is not my God....I won't do this for any woman.

No woman will do same for you either. Simple.

Krimmy:


Yes i am.I am willing to love, respect n care 4 ma man. Am d kind of person dat gives ma all in relationship though i end up being hurt most of d time buh it hasn't stopped me from loving wholeheartedly. So i always ask God 4 d right partner so i wont end up being hurt n wasting ma time n energy in loving d wrong man.

Krimmy, that's good to know but that's unlike most ladies nowadays who want the guys to do all the loving while all they do is enjoy without being able to sacrifice a thing to sustain the relationship. I pray I meet a lady with your kind of orientation n altitude, that will surely be the end of my search for love. Like you Krimmy, I love too sincerely only be taken for granted. That aside why did it take so long to respond to my Quote ? Have been waiting on your response like forever.

OK.. noted

Ballmer:


Krimmy, that's good to know but that's unlike most ladies nowadays who want the guys to do all the loving while all they do is enjoy without being able to sacrifice a thing to sustain the relationship. I pray I meet a lady with your kind of orientation n altitude, that will surely be the end of my search for love. Like you Krimmy, I love too sincerely only be taken for granted. That aside why did it take so long to respond to my Quote ? Have been waiting on your response like forever.

I pray God gives us d kind of lovers we both deserve cos nothing is more painful than loving d wrong pple. Its a waste of energy n time.

Am sowi 4 keeping u waiting. Was kinda busy with other stuffs.

Krimmy:


I pray God gives us d kind of lovers we both deserve cos nothing is more painful than loving d wrong pple. Its a waste of energy n time.

Amen to that, getting ready for work. Will pm you once am back in the evening, have a great day.

Ballmer:


Amen to that, getting ready for work. Will pm you once am back in the evening, have a great day.

OK. Do have a nice day.

hmmm....

Life @times is an irony. D person u love n devote ur all tend to take u as a mugu n frustrate u.

Krimmy:


OK. Do have a nice day.

Came home late yesterday n could hardly visit NL. I was only able to PM you a while ago, pls respond to that. Will be looking forward to your response.

Ballmer:
Came home late yesterday n could hardly visit NL. I was only able to PM you a while ago, pls respond to that. Will be looking forward to your response.

Sowi abt dat. I've already responded 2 ur PM. Hope u r gud?

Ballmer:
Came home late yesterday n could hardly visit NL. I was only able to PM you a while ago, pls respond to that. Will be looking forward to your response.

Hello, why did you ignore my calls, do you know what I wanted saying on phone, it's a small world remember