Hello nairalanders, please what can I do to stop having issues with my boyfriend? he's too jealous and it gets on my nerves. he doesn't want me to have any male friends, he complains all the time when I'm on WhatsApp or bbm,always asking who I'm chatting with, always wants to know everything. dunno if its insecurity or because he's a lot older than me. I love him buh its getting too much,what should I do?

I heard about you......

eeyah

there are three things involved..


either you are prettier than a mammy water or he went through hell to make you his...


or from your records, you nor dey put head for one place..

all in all.. some girls are on the mountain praying and hoping for that kinda man..

@OP, hold on strongly to him..

he has 58 yards of husband material..

kimnicki:
Hello nairalanders, please what can I do to stop having issues with my boyfriend? he's too jealous and it gets on my nerves. he doesn't want me to have any male friends, he complains all the time when I'm on WhatsApp or bbm,always asking who I'm chatting with, always wants to know everything. dunno if its insecurity or because he's a lot older than me. I love him buh its getting too much,what should I do?

Men like to be jealous, it's one of our little quirks. But we only showcase this character if we are really in love with our woman. So you can find a bit of solace knowing that your boyfriend really loves you.

But, from what you said, I think he is taking it a bit far. Now this is when communication becomes really essential. A lot of relationship issues like this, can be solved through effective communication between spouses.

Just talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, just like you explained here on this thread. Tell him you don't like the way he behaves, at times. Assure him that he is the only man in your life and that he shouldn't worry about you cheating on him, because it's not going to happen.

Trust me, once you talk to him like I advised, he would change. You know why? Because he loves you and he doesn't want to lose you, for anything, especially not a habit of his.

adren:
there are three things involved..


either you are prettier than a mammy water or he went through hell to make you his...


or from your records, you nor dey put head for one place..

all in all.. some girls are on the mountain praying and hoping for that kinda man..

@OP, hold on strongly to him..

he has 58 yards of husband material..

You just made the point clear bro.. But some girls won't see or take it like that

Sit down and talk to him if u really do love him

Decker:


Men like to be jealous, it's one of our little quirks. But we only showcase this character if we are really in love with our woman. So you can find a bit of solace knowing that your boyfriend really loves you.

But, from what you said, I think he is taking it a bit far. Now this is when communication becomes really essential. A lot of relationship issues like this, can be solved through effective communication between spouses.

Just talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, just like you explained here on this thread. Tell him you don't like the way he behaves, at times. Assure him that he is the only man in your life and that he shouldn't worry about you cheating on him, because it's not going to happen.

Trust me, once you talk to him like I advised, he would change. You know why? Because he loves you and he doesn't want to lose you, for anything, especially not a habit of his.

thank you i'd do just that

adren:
there are three things involved..


either you are prettier than a mammy water or he went through hell to make you his...


or from your records, you nor dey put head for one place..

all in all.. some girls are on the mountain praying and hoping for that kinda man..

@OP, hold on strongly to him..

he has 58 yards of husband material..

lol..actually he went through hell to get me and he knows I've got a lot of male friends buh I've told him times without number dah I can nva cheat on him

Male friends with benefit.

kimnicki:
thank you i'd do just that

You are welcome.

Decker:


Men like to be jealous, it's one of our little quirks. But we only showcase this character if we are really in love with our woman. So you can find a bit of solace knowing that your boyfriend really loves you.

But, from what you said, I think he is taking it a bit far. Now this is when communication becomes really essential. A lot of relationship issues like this, can be solved through effective communication between spouses.

Just talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, just like you explained here on this thread. Tell him you don't like the way he behaves, at times. Assure him that he is the only man in your life and that he shouldn't worry about you cheating on him, because it's not going to happen.

Trust me, once you talk to him like I advised, he would change. You know why? Because he loves you and he doesn't want to lose you, for anything, especially not a habit of his.

i so much doubt talk will work.

Michellla:

i so much doubt talk will work.

Talking does work, especially in issues like this.

The thing is, the boyfriend might not actually know that his girlfriend finds what he is doing and the way he is doing it sort of annoying. So if she talks to him about it all, he'd become a little more conscious, and probably draw a line.

And the OP just replied me, telling me that she will talk to him, meaning that she hasn't talked to him about it before.

Decker:


Talking does work, especially in issues like this.

The thing is, the boyfriend might not actually know that his girlfriend finds what he is doing and the way he is doing it sort of annoying. So if she talks to him about it all, he'd become a little more conscious, and probably draw a line.

And the OP just replied me, telling me that she will talk to him, meaning that she hasn't talked to him about it before.

been there.
done that.

some guys just got trust issues naturally.talk wont work for them.

If u really love him and u want to save your relationship, den oblige his demands shikena.

Decker!! stop saying my mind

its not insecurity, its just dat he loves u,


did I hear u say u have many male friends?

now tell me sincerely

how wud u feel if u see so many (beautiful) gals around him always, and he tells u dat they are just his friends??

to be on a safe side and avoid misunderstanding between u two, make ur male friends his friends and don't Cross's the boundary of (platonic) .



my own view oh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyss:
If u really love him and u want to save your relationship, den oblige his demands shikena.

I won't agree to that so you mean she should leave her friends for a boyfriend? who will be with her when/if things go sour.

Diddyydiva:
Decker!! stop saying my mind

Diddyydiva:
I won't agree to that so you mean she should leave her friends for a boyfriend? who will be with her when/if things go sour.

Dats y I said if she loves him and want to save the relationship naw. If she loves him truely den u know fully well dat he's supposed to be her friend, father, companion, brother etc. So obeying him will not really be a wahala. And mind u men love obedience and hate nags. Its easier for her to obey him for d mean time and den discuss it again peaceful much later. Abi wetin u tink?

If he doesnt love you he wont be jealous.

too many guys surrounding you? how about if he has as much females always around him would you feel comfortable.

op, quote me. you are a step away from either cheating on him or dumping him.

prolly you are still very young so you can afford to play the relationship away.

better perspective comes with age.

Anyss:



Dats y I said if she loves him and want to save the relationship naw. If she loves him truely den u know fully well dat he's supposed to be her friend, father, companion, brother etc. So obeying him will not really be a wahala. And mind u men love obedience and hate nags. Its easier for her to obey him for d mean time and den discuss it again peaceful much later. Abi wetin u tink?

he is just a boyfriend and not a husband yet.if the lady becomes too dependent on him that will be another issue. me i think make she talk to the guy peacefully ni o. i can't leave my besties oo,who will dey my back if yawa gas or i get hurt

Diddyydiva:
he is just a boyfriend and not a husband yet.if the lady becomes too dependent on him that will be another issue. me i think make she talk to the guy peacefully ni o. i can't leave my besties oo,who will dey my back if yawa gas or i get hurt

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Lol. I grab. Buh have faith AL IZ WELL. Lolz

kimnicki:
Hello nairalanders, please what can I do to stop having issues with my boyfriend? he's too jealous and it gets on my nerves. he doesn't want me to have any male friends, he complains all the time when I'm on WhatsApp or bbm,always asking who I'm chatting with, always wants to know everything. dunno if its insecurity or because he's a lot older than me. I love him buh its getting too much,what should I do?

Reduce your intimacy with male friends. They won't date u if he jilts you.

Anyss:
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Lol. I grab. Buh have faith AL IZ WELL. Lolz

Nasoo my sister . have a nice day jare,boss is around

Anyss:



Dats y I said if she loves him and want to save the relationship naw. If she loves him truely den u know fully well dat he's supposed to be her friend, father, companion, brother etc. So obeying him will not really be a wahala. And mind u men love obedience and hate nags. Its easier for her to obey him for d mean time and den discuss it again peaceful much later. Abi wetin u tink?

Your guy must be lucky to have someone like you.. I like your understanding.. I wish every girl will just understand it the way you do

Nature8:



Your guy must be lucky to have someone like you.. I like your understanding.. I wish every girl will just understand it the way you do

Lol am blushing. Tankyu. Tankyu. Tankyu

Michellla:

been there.
done that.

some guys just got trust issues naturally.talk wont work for them.

Do you mind sharing how you solved the problem, we could learn one or two things from your first hand experience