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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Olufemiolaolu(m): 2:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Women re bundle of problem walahi. They re just fascinated abt imaginary perfect men. Divorce ur man ok & go from frying pan 2 fire. Some women re just confused. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Rejoice5000(f): 2:37pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
@op as am reading ur post;i wish the man u are writting about should be mine;be wise 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by akinsmyk(m): 2:37pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
i 100% agree. and let it sink into OPs head he has options oh. he is probably the good monogamist Christian type who believes in marriage in its entirety. he does have options of younger more fertile women. bear that in mind. he is just not exercising it. [/quote] Honestly, I'm going through this at the moment, just that I'm a single guy, not married yet. My lady complains so much about this too. She said it to me a couple of times that I'm not man enough, I'm too timid and meek with her and its getting her bored. I do let her have her way no matter how inconvinient it might be for me. Not that I'm a fool, I just want to make her comfortable, make her happy and feel loved. Its unfortunate she doesn't cherish that. She was maltreated and pass through a lot with her ex, her ex cares not and give no hoot....she's always been craving a good and loving man, now she found one she's not comfortable again. I am not a weakling or a fool, I know how I relate with people out there, I don't take shit but when it comes to her, I'm always calm and gentle. @ times in d midst of her friends, she boast that I'm head over heels for her and would say things to her friend and called me on phone to confirm what my stand is which she knew and had told them. A few of my friend knew about this and had been correcting me, though its hard, I'm changing. Before, if she's at fault, I'm still the one who apologize, she's over confident and joyous. Before, if she wronged me and told her what she did is wrong, she'll b angry for scolding her and I'll keep apologizing. Right now, things are changing, if she did something wrong, I'll let her be so she can realize what she's done and apologize and @ the moment, she's complaining that I'v been changing towards her. Why do ladies prefer being treated d hard way? 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by uyosolo: 2:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
God made a mistake wen he tot Adam needed Eve.... all d troubles we hv in dis world r bcs of dis confused set of tins called women....i jst pity men who watch Telemundo,read romantic movies or what women want...d worst tin a man can do is try to understand a woman...hw can u understand somtin d@ is confused nd dnt knw w@ dey want I hate women so much nd cnt imagine being a fool for dem....dey dnt deserve to be treated like Queens....imagine treatin an animal lyk a queen or princess...dey deserv hrtless men nd men dey fight to kip.. Mumu tins... #TEAMMISOGYNIST #TEAMSINGLEBUTNOTSTUPID #TEAMUNPLEASABLE 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by chinweobianwa(f): 2:43pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Heeeeee God women get problem ooooooo! |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 2:43pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I wasn't supposed to comment....many valid and coherent points have been made already,but the heck,I couldn't help it. This beat me! U want to divorce a man because he totally loves u and shows it in his every single act? That's all levels of "bleeped up!" Pls,allow ur husband to be who he really is. Don't attempt to drastically change him into what u want. U met a man,pure and adulterated nd u're complaining? Learn to appreciate him and screw what the rest of the world's got to say. He isn't doing anything wrong...enjoy the attention and unending showers of love,but pls,never take him for granted. Love and appreciate him in the best way u can and never try to forget that he's still the man. Be strong in times when he isn't ....Be confident and proud of him and soon enough all those talking and whispering gibberish will be envious of u two.... |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Objectives: 2:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Woman, you are naïve and misguided in your thoughts, and what you wish for will burn you when it eventually cams. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by kilokeys(m): 2:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Love is the most difficult thing to accept... I think she has issues.. Like, oh my God.. He loves me more than i love myself 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by alaskido(m): 3:04pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Me, give my wife my ATM card and pin, I dey mad? Even my salary self she no go know. These women can be dangerous. You give them an inch, they will take a mile. I think the man loves you and adores you. Why don't you sit him down and talk to him. Looks like you dis-virgined him. If he had dated several girls before marrying you, he will not behave like a robot towards you. Woman, please count yourself lucky to have a husband like yours. Many girls are looking for such a man to marry. 90% of men out there are bandit and they treat their wives badly. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Amalision: 3:10pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
@ ENSTACK I have read your original post and your response to OPTIMUSPRIME and AMINA508, I succinctly conclude that your are very ungrateful, senseless, selfish and wicked to your husband. The reasons u deduced are insignificant, fraudulent and insincere from the perspective of a person who have a pure heart. You claimed to have had a relationship in the past. In humble opinion u are an educated illiterate in matters of relationship and related issues. Have u forgotten so quickly that true love knows no wrong neither does it has boundary. Your husband loves u completely, wholehearted, undiluted and unalloyed and as such, u should equally reciprocate this deepest and kind gesture of his. If you try even up to 40% to reciprocate his love, all this issues u see as problems to u will be a thing of the past. Even JAZEBEL and the DEVIL himself in the Holy Bible will never think of divorce as u have contemplated. A word is enough for the wise. my best regards 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by jkbee(m): 3:13pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:Sincerely, this man loves U real good, He's just the kind of guy wt low self esteem as 'THORPIDO' would say..... If U truly loves him, U should try to improve on his personalty rather than take advantage of him and end up wt guy that wl treat U like trash. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Opetech(m): 3:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
uzolexis:Lol, what made you think so? Funny you. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by jpphilips(m): 3:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
alaskido: She must have dated some bandits in the past not to know the bold part |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Friday18: 3:44pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I don't even know what women want in this life again!! @ op any attempt to change that man will certainly back fire on you. I pray he doesn't change, but if he does be ready to call neighbors and family to settle you guys. You better enjoy what you have. Don't be at the receiving end,always give. That way he might understand that it may not be all the time you needed the attention. Good luck to your family. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by bummyla(m): 3:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Madam! You Husband Is One In A Million! Love Him And Treasure Him! Lovingly Tells Him You Need Your Private Me Time! Like He Needs His! Other Women Are Dying To Be Loved! Why You Are Angry That You Are Been Over Loved! Chill Out! Enjoy The Attention! But Don't Wreak Him! Cheers! http://www.bummyla.com |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by samopeyemi: 4:07pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
[quote author=enstack post=40408780] Am sure you'll probably be confused now. Different advice from different people. 25 percent for, 75 percent against. Op I believe you are a Christian. You might wanna check out www.familyparliament.com, www.Facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale @bisiadewale on twitter. I think he is a marriage counselor. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by guyXander(m): 4:09pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:Let me categorically say it: YOU ARE AN IDIOT OF SUB-ZERO COMPARISON![b][/b] You don't love the dude, liar! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Amya(f): 4:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP's husband is a masochist. He's a natural submissive. This marriage won't work for the simple fact that she's not the dominating type of woman. She needs a strong figure as a husband. I also got that he loves her way too much and she doesn't love her husband. If she did, she'd have found his gestures cute and tolerable. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tega4eddie: 4:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
peedeeasobie: True... A Caring Man Like This and she is still complaininq.....She should do and meet a Jet Li that will use her for tai-chi practice...NONSENSE... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Royal30: 4:36pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:I hardly make comment on relationship issues until i hear from both parties....but be it as it may! All your statement from beginning are contradictory. You seems to be confused and allowing what people think or say to distract you in your marriage. 1. From ur quote above you said few men were there so what's the big deal if your husby is among the few....you also say he likes carrying ur handbag sometimes again i ask you what is the big deal there since he doesn't do that at all time..i must be frank with you..i also do this tins for my wife sometimes and she enjoys it, she sees it as a support.? You are seeing yours as a problem? Even in church if they call for women to come forward for thanksgiving or whatever you will always see some men like me coming behind them..all these are symbol of support and celebration Let me remind you that nothing last forever...your marriage is still new that is why tins looks rosy but you are seeing it the opposite simply because of what people are thinking or saying. Many time my wife drives me around town anywhere we go even church and i heard people talking all kind of tins and when they knew there gossips doesn't change anything, infact that made me even allow my wife drive so that they can die if they wish. You should appreciate ur husby because he wont be doing all this forever..A time will come he will get tired and start doing the opposite. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Frederick07: 4:52pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Sometimes when you ask the devil for things he gives you exactly what you wish for, are you sure you have never prayed or did charm to get a man "who worships and adores you" because that would be karma being a real biitch, just saying #Team_Careful_What_You_Wish_For |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Royal30: 4:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:You are taking your husby for granted...if you dont see anything good in your relationship, do you now expect others to see anything good? Try and manage your home and ignore outsiders. Even his family won't have a say if you manage the situation well..enjoy everything he does and try to see something good in it. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ojuolu(m): 5:05pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I dey laugh. Op, Is he abusive? i bet is is not a cheat, and an ingrate. Words eludes me. I was a busy man, not a virgin when i married my wife, she is not even employed so our itinery does not match but i follow her to salon, market, mall and anywhere as long as i think i want to spent time around her if i am around. I demand and receive sex twice a day whenever she is free and i feel up to it. I love and practically worship her. If she is upset, i am off balance and i will do anything to appease her for peace to reign despite the fact that she is the quite type. I pay her salary monthly and i really pray she fulfil her dreams. I love her so much after two kids that i am doing a surprise painting of her tag "Always Forever". We have stop having kids for now and our marriage is like five years old. I pound yam for her, cook soup when i feel up to it and go out with kids. I also bathe the kids and do school runs and much more. All i ask in return for all these is her continuous fidelity and prayers. Back to you, your husband is doing what a man should do. He is giving you attention, you are complaining it is getting too much. He love and cherish peace you think he is timid right? Do not tempt him please. Or would you rather prefer he does all that to another woman outside? You do not have to complain. Instead, Complement him. Be ready to also treat him the way he is treating you, like a god! God help you if you stupidly push the man out with your unbelievable reasonings. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by gbmorgan(m): 5:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
commitcrime: True talk tho. but I think all ladies wants adoration... hey madam its like you are not appreciating him. once you let him get loose to other chicks who appreciate him, believe me, you have lost him forever. this is what those bitches want out of a man . and if you push him away by divorcing him, I wish you all the best with your new asshole. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Royal30: 5:25pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: I would av told u little abt my relationship because is similar to what you are complaining about but i want to drive my wife to saloon now...and later go pick her up. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 5:30pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP You're the one with the problem Shey it's a crime for a man to love his wife? Apart from him giving you silent treatment when you weren't in the mood to make love, you haven't described anything horrible he has done to you. Oh he wasn't furious because you were stuck in traffic, instead he offered you water and carried your bag and books? And that's a crime? Christ! So you would have preferred if he jumped to silly conclusions about where you'd been and started making trouble the moment you got home? You said you don't like tv channel and he changed it. So what? Jeez lady. You must love suffering. Or you don't know you could have fun going back with him to fix your hair or even do your shopping. Better sit up and appreciate that dude. How do I even know you're not an alternate trying to paint loving husbands black as in unmanly. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 5:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Pls don't stop searching. They exist o. A lady like me appreciate men who are sweet and loving like that and I'm sure there are others who do too. Don't give up musicwriter: |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 5:36pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Never thought of divorcing your husband because if you do, you may end up with a heartless man. He is trying to show you that (all men are not the same). Just sit Him down, just as the FTC illustrated and assured Him that Him (Ur Husband) alone owns you forever till death tear it apart. May be His friends are mocking at Him that you will betray Him someday, so He may be trying to prove them wrong by showing you excess love. Keep on speaking to His head and He will heal your daily words someday. Thank you*** |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by byvan03: 5:42pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op I feel sorry for you, you wrecked him because he gave you his ATM and you are upset he didn't beat you senseless like some would. You have a man that loves you this much yet you have chosen to be a ******. I feel like bashing you senseless but I won't, must he act like every other man? Who wrote the manual on how a man should act and how well did it work out for them ? Go ahead and end your marriage, update me on your experience with your new found Alfa A-hole. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ogawisdom(m): 5:43pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: Op tell him to help wash urs panties, if he does it willing ly up to five times then he is a proper sisi man. Push him to d wall and see if he ever gets angry at what u do, if he is always smiling even if u slap him then na end time husband Advice : jst kw u dnt ve a husband and take on d role of a man in d relationship. Idolizing a woman or anything for dt matter is a sin b4 God. Op u r a good woman BC less than 1percent of women will complain abt this, ur man has yielded n submitted to u n u wanna divorce him unbelievable |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by byvan03: 5:44pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
cococandy: Some women are unbelievable! |
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