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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Fkforyou(m): 9:15am On Nov 27, 2015 |
I wonder why people are attacking her, I too would be worried if I was her. That man should get a life jare and stop obsessing over someone else. If someone is always dependent on you, it will get to a point when that person begins to irritate you. -Love does not die of starvation but of indigestion. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by akinsmyk(m): 9:36am On Nov 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness: I know nothing I and anyone says is ever gonna make sense to your likes on this. I guess you've never seen someone who is extremely nice even to a fault. There are people who would give their life for others, maybe one outta a billion. Practically, there is no one like Jesus christ but I'm sure you would have questioned why Jesus had to endure the beating and died for the world. You would also tag it abnormal. It seems to me, you guys are the abnormal type who doesn't understand the concept of marriage the way God laid it down. You've been brainwashed by education, modernization and self knowledge. The truth is just that the OP had been programmed to see akward way of doing things in a reltationship has been normal, so she's got a problem with this man. I can bet you the man will not kill himself if she leaves, he is just feeling that way, not going to happen Another fact is just that, if she divorce which I want her to so she'll see the difference, sure she's not gonna get his type anymore. A pity the man will be mean to any lady that comes his way after that. I would have agreed with the Op if they were still dating, but trust me, all the man is, is not a bg deal as she make it appeared. She can handle that herself. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Eketem: 11:09am On Nov 27, 2015 |
tearoses: We are so used to sob stories that a good man treating his wife well becomes abnormality and a topic for gossip. I really wished he married an equally innocent pure person so they could appreciate each other My own husband will come out in the rain soaking wet and open the gate for me and bring me an umbrella so I won't get wet but he will be soaking wet He doesn't shout at me He spends all his free time with his family He goes with me to the salon We have a joint account and I also have his ATM pins for his other accounts Some days I am too lazy and he cooks or buys us food to eat He wants to make love to me all the time Maybe I should seek divorce lol. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by LadyX(f): 12:30pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
utenwuson:I just can't stop laughing The op should apply this to get her desired results 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 1:37pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
ojuolu: Do you also force yourself on your wife when she is busy doing something else, that is important to her, like studying? Do you also force yourself on your wife every day? Do you also keep mute when she spends money excessively? Money you don't have? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 1:40pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
akinsmyk: Well, I am not Jesus and I am not nice to people who are not nice to me; I avoid them. I love myself first and this is what you are supposed to do too. The Bible says "Love your neighbor as yourself" and not Love your neighbor more than yourself. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by neocortex: 2:04pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Well, I agree it is not love but people should stop getting married to partners who doesn't fit their lifestyle. I believe the man has always been that way and it is selfishness on the lady's part to want him to change just because she can't cope with it. Why marry someone who over-pampers you ? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Egemeole: 2:26pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
if divorce u will end up in hell fire if you die in divorce becos it is sin. and I wish if you divorce and remarry that you will get married to a man that will beat at least two times in a week. Nonsense. the Bible commanded the men to be giving honor to women as weaker vessel. so it right for a man to pet a woman and even to beat a wife is sin. so rejoice is a great gift other are looking for. all I sense is that you hate his presence and stature. stop hating all those thing about him if you are doing so and pet your husband too |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by akinsmyk(m): 2:56pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Madam, I can see where the problem lies. True the bible says love your neighbor as urself but here we're talking about his wife and not just a neighbor. U nd d OP saw d man as a neighbor who should mind his business and cared less what happened to her....its a pity. You need to read your bible very well and ask questions about God's stand and take on marriage, you would understand this man is doing all that, all he needs his moderation, so unfortunate the one who should help with that choose to nag and complain. You need to understand when a man told you that what her husband is doing is just good. All the men advising her would love to do that to their wives too but had been taught through bad experience by the ladies. The point you agreed on with the OP was that her man was the clingy type....well I'v got no more to say. Its crystal clear they're not fit for each other....She should file for a divorce so the man can get someone who will appreciate those qualities while she gets someone who cared less about her. My lady will appreciate me going with her to the saloon, I know its romantic but I don't have that kind of time... She's making a mountains outta a mole hill....this issue is very simple....I thought she's experienced, never knew she's a learner at making her man adjust a bit to what she wants. I agree with some, this is what happened when someone who had done lot of things and had experience so much that their system is now used to that way of life....Love and care as the husband shows is poisonous and choking to them. If the Op has not been eyeing a man out there, she should be able to fix this 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 2:58pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
neocortex: I was thinking the same! Well said! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 3:05pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
akinsmyk: And you should learn not to take every word in the Bible literally. The word neighbor is translasted differently in different languages. You need to read your bible very well and ask questions about God's stand and take on marriage, you would understand this man is doing all that, all he needs his moderation, so unfortunate the one who should help with that choose to nag and complain. No, I don't have to read it; not everyone in this world is a Christian and so isn't the Christian concept of marriage. You need to understand when a man told you that what her husband is doing is just good. All the men advising her would love to do that to their wives too but had been taught through bad experience by the ladies. It is good for whom? She doesn't enjoy it and it backfires at him. So how is it good? The point you agreed on with the OP was that her man was the clingy type....well I'v got no more to say. Its crystal clear they're not fit for each other....She should file for a divorce so the man can get someone who will appreciate those qualities while she gets someone who cared less about her. My lady will appreciate me going with her to the saloon, I know its romantic but I don't have that kind of time... Does your Bible now recommend divorce on grounds of incompatibility? She's making a mountains outta a mole hill....this issue is very simple....I thought she's experienced, never knew she's a learner at making her man adjust a bit to what she wants. She doesn't make him do anything. He chooses to oblige to any caprice of hers and that's the problem. I agree with some, this is what happened when someone who had done lot of things and had experience so much that their system is now used to that way of life....Love and care as the husband shows is poisonous and choking to them. I don't think it is love when you force yourself on people. If the Op has not been eyeing a man out there, she should be able to fix this Fix what? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by drnoel: 3:13pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 4:07pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
Thank god for good men out there. Eketem: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 6:46pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
Eketem: God bless your hubby and strengthen your home. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Eketem: 7:11pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
tearoses: Amen and yours too 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tpiadotcom: 9:47pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness: great post. if anyone is offended by my comment, thats also great. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 10:47pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
tpiadotcom: |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by byvan03: 11:36pm On Nov 27, 2015 |
bukatyne: It's really unfortunate, actually meaning that the typical Nigerian woman will have no respect for a decent man. Let them enjoy it the way they want it, the 'animal husbandry style'. I hope she finds the human beast she seek. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by akinsmyk(m): 12:59am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Madam, I'm done nagging. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tpiadotcom: 1:04am On Nov 28, 2015 |
coolsix: Exactly |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tpiadotcom: 1:10am On Nov 28, 2015 |
ransomed: Yes, that's how men who have been jazzed, behave. But the op did not say she jazzed him. If she had, she wouldn't be this worried. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tpiadotcom: 1:12am On Nov 28, 2015 |
Frederick07: Hm |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by tosyne2much(m): 8:24am On Nov 28, 2015 |
wemmi:Seconded ! |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by EmmyDe25(m): 8:40am On Nov 28, 2015 |
commitcrime:These creatures called ladies....what exactly do they want?? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 10:23am On Nov 28, 2015 |
akinsmyk: I didn't think your contributions were nagging. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ogaofficer(m): 11:32am On Nov 28, 2015 |
teemy:I salute your sense of reasoning about this matter. You deserve one crate of egg. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by sandix(f): 4:13pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Op I know wat u re going thru...almost on d same shoe wit u |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ojuolu(m): 4:15pm On Dec 03, 2015 |
Mindfulness:"force" i did not read that anywhere in the write up. Secondly is she rational to spend excessively? Please let her go ahead and divorce because if her mind is made up, it is made up. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by boldconcep: 9:47pm On Dec 03, 2015 |
My dear u are one of the lucky ones. Why do you complain? If I had a husband like yours, I will die the happiest woman on earth. How cld you even complain? Khai! God gave u one of the rarerest specie of men in the universe & you complain? Why not come swap places with me? You have a wonderful husband. The rest you can handle with wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by lezz(m): 5:45am On Dec 04, 2015 |
enstack:Funny how you didn't notice this during courtship. But are you the domineering type? Yeah, some women have the domineering streak that could enfeeble a man who has had a domineering mother ,especially in a fatherless home. Sadly, the world today has turned a good percentage of men into effeminate beings who actually believe that being a "yes" man to a woman is now the hallmark for feminine endorsement (Hello feminism). You said you love him, so good. So work it out. It's marriage now and not just any relationship. But one thing's for sure, if his wuzzy behaviour isn't a childhood maladjustment from his upbringing, it could be you . 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 9:08am On Dec 12, 2015 |
enstack have things gotten better? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Funnyguy83: 3:41pm On Dec 12, 2015 |
shininglite:are you telling me that you dont know that this story is cooked and was written by a man. |
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