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For Those Getting Married And Couples by nsiazu: 6:37am On Dec 02, 2015 |
To my brothers;
carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps
off in the sitting room, make her feel like a
baby at times. The truth is, every woman
wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at
times, that's why women behave childish or
silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife
and the next thing is that you will see her
putting her bags outside the house, it
doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce,
she is just being childish, she simply wants
you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say
"I am sorry for the argument". That's
women for you. Every brother needs to
study in the university of women before
getting married, read books about them,
learn what the Bible says about them and
you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though there may still be some challenges,
because you're both from different
background and your imperfections are
bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal
home, child upbringing, importance of
marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into
marriage with an empty head about
matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives
nagging let alone shouting? It's said that,
you should be quiet when your spouse is
angry, when one person is fire, the other
person should be water...
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet
intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your
eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it
intentionally, she is just playing with you, if
she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So
why shout at her over every small mistake?
As a man learn to ignore some things, don't
be petty.
Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek"
with your wife, sing poems for your wife in
the garden or inside the house, even if she
is teasing you. Assist her in the house
chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make
her look like your maid. Bath together,
wake her up for prayers, swim with her if
it's available, cook together, teach her how
to cook if she doesn't know how to cook.
Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not
only a feminine duty...
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle
her, scare her at times, call her from work/
school, text her, write "I love you" in a small
note and put it under her pillow or in her
purse or in her bathroom or in her
cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss
her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play
with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful
and that you're happy to have her as your
partner.
All these are part of being romantic...When a
woman tells you that you are not romantic.
It means you are not doing all these things,
its not the romance in the bedroom she is
talking about.
That's why, you brothers have to study
"women's language" it's a 10 year course.
Lol.
Now sisters,
it's also part of your duty to be
romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to
your marital life and that doesn't mean you
should be shy to express your love to your
husband.
Send sweet text messages to your husband
at work, sometimes even if you are in the
room discussing with your husband, still be
chatting with him on social media
(Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo,bbm etc)
even though he is right in front of you, it's
fun and romantic! You should be chatting
with your
husband, not other men on social media
networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him
the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for
him to surprise him.
Don't just be welcoming your husband with
an angry face because there is no money in
the house, God is our provider. Don't
welcome your husband with your body
smelling maggi, don't only play with your
husband when he receives his salary.
Welcome him with a warm hug always, and
when he is going to work, pray to God to
keep him safe and for him to be successful.
Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be
grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man,
when you see his faith waxing cold,
encourage him, don't threaten him that you
will seek for divorce, don't compare him
with other men, buy him gifts , wash his
clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way
that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be
the best cook, wash his car if u have the
time, dress him up, pamper him when he is
sick. Wake him with a peck and don't
complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you.
Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from
what you see in movies.. Most of what you
see there are not real. Call your husband pet
names. Though you can also call him by his
name even if he is 20yrs older than you, as
far as he is comfortable with it.
Remember that, God said, men are the
protectors and maintainers of women. So
respect him and honour him even if he is
younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of
roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that,
there is nothing better for two people who
love each other than marriage. To fall in love
is a disease and its cure is to marry the
person one is in love with. Love is when you
take away the feeling, the passion and the
romance and you find out you still care for
that person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3:
one for yourself(sleeping), one for your
wife and one for your Lord.. That's the best
night one can ever have.
MAY GOD GIVE YOU ALL THE BEST IN
MARRIAGE
As for the bachelors and single ladies, May
God grant you all the spouses that will bring
coolness to your eyes and heart IJN! AMEN
May you taste true love IJN |
Re: For Those Getting Married And Couples by delishpot: 6:40am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Let me sit down here and see how nairaland boys will give 1million reasons not to treat a woman right and on the other hand give 1million reasons why the women should treat them right. That is to say, they will dissagree with the men duties in the post but agree wih the womens duties in this post. BTW nice one OP 1 Like |
Re: For Those Getting Married And Couples by mizquote(f): 6:50am On Dec 02, 2015 |
who got time for all those? huh! what I need desperately when married is privacy |
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