@op I disagree with U. No matter how effective your communication may be with out good in build behaviour/character of the individual especially the females folks. The relationship mush surely crash

Poverty nkor?? Date a guy for two months e cant afford all your expenses o.y.o.. Op is not only communication ooh.. Yhu never finish work

at least he did not blame the female gender for lack of communication in relationships.

makes for good read. somebody shout alleluia!!!!

Toks2008:
COMMUNICATION IS THE BUILDING BLOCK OF ANY LASTING RELATIONSHIP

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Many people tend to condole behavioral patterns they are not happy with and by so doing building up resentment over the years just to explode when the other partner least expects it and by then it may be too late for both parties to repair the damage.

No matter what the case may be, don’t hold back your feelings and learn to communicate with the other party in a very serious manner and not with mediocrity hence you just might be taking for granted.

It may be the way you want to be touched or the way you want your egg fried. It may be just anything that may sound stupid or unimportant but please discuss this and you will be happy at the outcome.

Nothing is too sacred to discuss...

-If you want mouth action from your spouse,discuss it
-If you dont like the way he or she snores,discuss it.
-If you hate his or hygiene,discuss it
-If he or she is too boring in bed,discuss it.
-If you feel you are not getting enough attention please discuss it and don't ever stomach or condole things that gets you mad cos a day will come when it will burst out of you and you tend to overreact so discuss it in a timely,humbly,and romantic manner and be at peace

If we all learn to communicate effectively with our partners , I bet the rate of break ups will be greatly reduced.

Divorce and broken relationship is the greatest delight of the devil because this is the only institution GOD takes so much pride in because he instituted it right from the beginning of the world so Lets learn to communicate any and every issue that bothers us with our partners and you will remain happy and also know where you are heading in your relationship in a timely manner.

Hope this helps.

What happens when the person refuses to change?

Estharfabian, comman learn o!

Toks2008:
COMMUNICATION IS THE BUILDING BLOCK OF ANY LASTING RELATIONSHIP

Communication is a simple word yet very vital in the lives of every living thing.

A school of taught defined communication as an exchange and flow of information and ideas from one person to another; it involves a sender transmitting an idea, information, or feeling to a receiver.

In maintaining a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, effective communication is very vital.

Many relationships fail today because there is a break down of effective communication. Effective communication occurs only if the receiver understands the exact information or idea that the sender intended to transmit but anything short of this will usuallylead to disaster In the relationship.

Many courtships and marriages have broken down today because each party assumes the other person to be a mind reader or expects the other party to understand issues in a magical manner.

Have you wondered why some divorcées usually use words like "irreconcilable difference". But the truth of the matter is that it was lack of effective communication that led to the break up.

In any serious affair or marriage, two different people must merge to understand each other and this can only be done by having a no holds bar communication with each other on every aspect from the craziest issue to the most important.

Many people tend to condole behavioral patterns they are not happy with and by so doing building up resentment over the years just to explode when the other partner least expects it and by then it may be too late for both parties to repair the damage.

No matter what the case may be, don’t hold back your feelings and learn to communicate with the other party in a very serious manner and not with mediocrity hence you just might be taking for granted.

It may be the way you want to be touched or the way you want your egg fried. It may be just anything that may sound stupid or unimportant but please discuss this and you will be happy at the outcome.

Nothing is too sacred to discuss...

-I[s]f you want mouth action from your spouse,discuss it[/s]
-If you dont like the way he or she snores,discuss it.
-If you hate his or hygiene,discuss it
-If he or she is too boring in bed,discuss it.
-If you feel you are not getting enough attention please discuss it and don't ever stomach or condole things that gets you mad cos a day will come when it will burst out of you and you tend to overreact so discuss it in a timely,humbly,and romantic manner and be at peace

If we all learn to communicate effectively with our partners , I bet the rate of break ups will be greatly reduced.

Divorce and broken relationship is the greatest delight of the devil because this is the only institution GOD takes so much pride in because he instituted it right from the beginning of the world so Lets learn to communicate any and every issue that bothers us with our partners and you will remain happy and also know where you are heading in your relationship in a timely manner.

Hope this helps.

Please what is mouth action

Very true, been trying this lately myself

Very true

Teespice:
at least he did not blame the female gender for lack of communication in relationships.

makes for good read. somebody shout alleluia!!!!

Alle! That should do.

akinsal:
Sure.... Na wetin i dey tell dat one wey she no wan hear.....

Don't mind her. Just be patient with her if you love her enough.

Wonen! Their wahala too much

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If some couples decide to be communicating more....they may find they want different things.
And may split

Nice one op, one of my ex broke up with me nebbish she could not handle long distance relationship.

Nice one op, one of my ex broke up with me because she could not handle long distance relationship.

Cutehector:
lol yeah communication is key... Doesnt mean one should be a bug...

God bless you!.

Yes very true OP, communiction is key but how you transmit that communication is much more important. We need to be thorough & respectful in communication. For example; just because my wife performs poorly in cooking doesn't mean I'll just say it to her face anyhow.
The non-verbal aspect (tone & body language) in a communication is much more vital than the verbal words itself

herbie27:
God bless you!.

amen!!!!!! Thank u so much. This made my day.

sirugos:
@op I disagree with U. No matter how effective your communication may be with out good in build behaviour/character of the individual especially the females folks. The relationship mush surely crash

The holy book says " Can tWo walk together unless they agree"....for a perfect dance in a ball room, the two bodies of the dance have to flow as one. Relationships will not crash if both parties try to solve the problems!

True that.
What you don't tell me, I don't know.

so true!

Cutehector:
sometimes the other partner might be blank... Sometimes the other partner may be tired of chats, sometimes the other partner would prefer physical conversations and togetherness...

Hmmm....I see

exactly! My partner is not one for long conversation nd it hurts badly.

Effective communication occurs only if the receiver understands the exact information or idea that the sender intended to transmit but anything short of this will usuallylead to disaster In the relationship.

In any serious affair or marriage, two different people must merge to understand each other

Lets learn to communicate any and every issue that bothers us with our partners and you will remain happy and also know where you are heading in your relationship in a timely manner [quote]

The above parts got me

NB: those places u wrote condole,change them to condone,obviously u meant condone.

Funkychic:


Hmmm....I see

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toks2008 my man.. nice one.
The part I hate most is assuming and not saying exactly how you feel thinking the other person is a mind reader or fully aware of all that's happening.

Them go old

rose54321:
True that.
What you don't tell me, I don't know.

dahs one tin abt u ladies, u ladies dnt ask questions dats just d fact...



Yall never try to find out who really ur man is... u only wait for him to tell u, whch isn't right...


It really baffles me sha...

Nice read

BumbleBee2ice:
exactly! My partner is not one for long conversation nd it hurts badly.

lol.. people are different.. Prolly he prefers listening..
You can engage him in lots of discussion and before you know it, he will be interested..

First rule is, you yourself must be understandable for others to understand you.

Cutehector:
dahs one tin abt u ladies, u ladies dnt ask questions dats just d fact...

Yall never try to find out who really ur man is... u only wait for him to tell u, whch isn't right...

It really baffles me sha...

Hmmm. So we are supposed to find out who you are Interesting....
Communication is 2 way my dear and there's a different between talking and asking.

If I regularly have to ask you before you say, then there's a problem...

tivta:


What happens when the person refuses to change?

nice observation... Trust me everyone has a soft spot... identify it first trust me such person will open up a little.

WELL MEE THINKS COMMUNICATION IS GOOD BUT UNDERSTANDING IS KEY. WHATS THE ESSENCE OF COMMUNICATION WHEN THE PERSON U R COMMUNICATING WITH DOES NOT/WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT U ARE COMMUNICATING NO MATTER HOW U PUT IT?
If u have wisdom,knowledge ,understanding and love there's no reason why ur relationship won't work.