Hi everyone, this is my 1st thread on nairaland.
I urgently need an advice.

Am quite mature in age and a good number of my friends are married so am not a teenager.

I have not been in a relationship for sometime now due to some reasons. I met a girl recently and we became close. I like her so much, she visits me, we hangout, we talk almost everyday on phone, she even took me out once and we have kissed a couple of times.
The issue is that when I asked her out, she told me that she has a boyfriend and she only wants me as a friend. I persisted for awhile but she bluntly said that she's not leaving her boyfriend for me. My problem now is should I forget her and move on or should I hang on with the belief that she will change her mind. I also like this laidy a lot. I need sincere answers pleaeeessss.

Kindly look else where.
When ladies tell you things like this, it's better
you believe them.

ever heard of 'FRIENDZONE' she just made you a zonal manager.

Respect her relationship, take her as a friend, try someone else and let them meet each other...

PrimeMinisterr:
ever heard of 'FRIENDZONE' she just made you a zonal manager.

coolio321:
Hi everyone, this is my 1st thread on nairaland.
I urgently need an advice.

Am quite mature in age and a good number of my friends are married so am not a teenager.

I have not been in a relationship for sometime now due to some reasons. I met a girl recently and we became close. I like her so much, she visits me, we hangout, we talk almost everyday on phone, she even took me out once and we have kissed a couple of times.
The issue is that when I asked her out, she told me that she has a boyfriend and she only wants me as a friend. I persisted for awhile but she bluntly said that she's not leaving her boyfriend for me. My problem now is should I forget her and move on or should I hang on with the belief that she will change her mind. I also like this laidy a lot. I need sincere answers pleaeeessss.

You are a zonal chairman. your zoning is not born again

Ok, but why would you wanna do that, "hang on"? Are you game meat?

Listen, you can't make someone "change her mind" about these kind of things, unless of course you wanna be her fallback guy, 2nd option for when the relationship with her 1st option bombs. The chances of that happening are also highly unlikely, if not just to use you.

Sounds like you've spent a considerable amount of time together. Enough time imo, for her to realise if there's an attraction between the two of you or not. There probably isn't, hence she point blank told you that she won't be leaving him for you. Learn to listen. Believe what she is saying. In short, move on. She's told you where you stand, hanging around will be a monumental waste of time & a risk of making you look like a desperado-that's not attractive. Move on, go find a date & if it happens that you're both single in the future & SHE WANTS YOU (very important), then maybe you can date.

Was it When you have a problem U open Nairaland account


well leave her or what again U need her for

Friendzone and kissing....hmmm...maka wait small here wetin others get to talk.

she took me out ONCE, we kissed a couple of times... not nack self... then she says shes not leaving her bf foe u... dude u even spoilt it already, no more kisses for u + would u want a girl who left someone else for u? how are u sure she won't do same to u
? IMO if she dosnt wanna date u, stop giving her bf behavior... move on fam

She actually looking to hook up with you not get into a relationship with you. Since obviously that's not what you're looking for you should move on by. Cutting her off or keeping her at arms length

And you should know that once you start that she might lie to you with love blah blah blah 'cos she won't like to lose what's feeding her emotions and all that.

You should open your eyes and do the right thing, move on.

coolio321:
Hi everyone, this is my 1st thread on nairaland.
I urgently need an advice.

Am quite mature in age and a good number of my friends are married so am not a teenager.

I have not been in a relationship for sometime now due to some reasons. I met a girl recently and we became close. I like her so much, she visits me, we hangout, we talk almost everyday on phone, she even took me out once and we have kissed a couple of times.
The issue is that when I asked her out, she told me that she has a boyfriend and she only wants me as a friend. I persisted for awhile but she bluntly said that she's not leaving her boyfriend for me. My problem now is should I forget her and move on or should I hang on with the belief that she will change her mind. I also like this laidy a lot. I need sincere answers pleaeeessss.

Hahahahaha! Wrapped with a chick? Drama, drama, drama!
Why should you hang on? Are you a wussy?

There are so many girls out there who are looking for guys. Just go pick one and you feel alright. And whenever she calls you and wanna hangout, tell her NO! She's lost her chance with you. Period! She'll then start chasing you and now you can decide what to do to her.

She offered you friendship with benefit, you want more than that. when she turns u to Maga now, u will run here to narrate how u were scammed.

OP, it's even better to start as Friends. A friend not because of a selfish reason. Sometimes, girls just need some time to conclude in their heart before the agree to your Application, while some girls really don't know what they NEED, and they go for WANT and before they could realize this fian.. it's already late and you the guy have gotten a berra Chick and they become jealous...