Am a guy of 21 from a family of 5, am the eldest, everything used to be fine but the older I grow the more me and my mom seem to be falling apart, today she shouted on me and I shouted back at her very loudly so she left for her room and started crying.

My dad came home from work and she told him everything and my dad asked me to kneel and apologize but my mom was still crying saying I have hurt her a lot with words and all that and even if I become a billionaire tomorrow I shouldn't bother about her that she's cancelled me as her son for good that I don't appreciate her at all.
I don't know how things got so bad to this level and am not even a rough kind of guy, I feel so hurt now and don't even know what to do to make up for things. I just feel like our bond is about to be shattered for good.


pls help I need reasonable advice i don't understand what's going on anymore .

Guy just chill, she'll definitely get over it very soon.

Never let anger control u

Your heaven/Paradise lies under the feet of your mum. You can either work for it through her or throw it away.

Send her lovely text messages daily. She will get over it with time.

At 21 you should be thinking of being more responsible,you are the eldest.....what path are you setting up for your younger ones?

You have to apologize until she forgives you,maybe you became proud thinking you cannot be controlled,thats where the problem lies

Earn back the respect she had for you by just being GOOD

Pray

very simple matter.

Do yourself a favour.

Go to the nearest shop...buy a very simple but nice thank you card.

Write a very nice poem on one side

And a very simple message on the other side.

If you want to go by this advice...get the card and we can discuss the content.

cheers

chuzydon:
Am a guy of 21 from a family of 5, am the eldest, everything used to be fine but the older I grow the more me and my mom seem to be falling apart, today she shouted on me and I shouted back at her very loudly so she left for her room and started crying.

My dad came home from work and she told him everything and my dad asked me to kneel and apologize but my mom was still crying saying I have hurt her a lot with words and all that and even if I become a billionaire tomorrow I shouldn't bother about her that she's cancelled me as her son for good that I don't appreciate her at all.
I don't know how things got so bad to this level and am not even a rough kind of guy, I feel so hurt now and don't even know what to do to make up for things. I just feel like our bond is about to be shattered for good.


pls help I need reasonable advice i don't understand what's going on anymore .

sigh learn to control your anger...even if she hurts u wit wirds screaming on her aint gonna sove it.. think about the respect u shud give ur elders 1st

She will get over it. Just make sure you make it up to her and be sincere. It could eventually be a turnaround that draws you both back together.

Her words should tell you she is deeply hurt,she probably feels you do not appreciate all that she has done as you mother. You MUST prove her wrong,spend more time talking to her,send her loving text messages every morning or week.Say sweet words to her*dont be shy,she is your mom*.I wont blame you,i've had issues with my mom also.I would only blame you if you dont deal with it quick

Easy my friend, your mama like all mamas suffered to born you, raise you and stand by you to where you are today.... so in my mind all mums get a free pass. Maybe she's stressed like many are in this holiday time. So stop acting up and go and apologize to mama and be good to her (and your papa).

Do everything you can

OP, just apologize to your mum and let her know you mean it

when i say let her know, i dont mean you shed crocodile tears for her, let ur actions represent ur sincerity.

your mum loves you, else she wouldnt be sheddign tears for you.

Goodluck with her.

Please apologize to her.
You can't play with a mother's love.That woman can lay down her life for you anytime.

chuzydon:
Am a guy of 21 from a family of 5, am the eldest, everything used to be fine but the older I grow the more me and my mom seem to be falling apart, today she shouted on me and I shouted back at her very loudly so she left for her room and started crying.
My dad came home from work and she told him everything and my dad asked me to kneel and apologize but my mom was still crying saying I have hurt her a lot with words and all that and even if I become a billionaire tomorrow I shouldn't bother about her that she's cancelled me as her son for good that I don't appreciate her at all.
I don't know how things got so bad to this level and am not even a rough kind of guy, I feel so hurt now and don't even know what to do to make up for things. I just feel like our bond is about to be shattered for good.
pls help I need reasonable advice i don't understand what's going on anymore .

Believe it or not @ 21 you are still a teenager and at that age you will always have issues with your mum no matter how much of a good guy u are. You would object to things u normally would take from her and she on the other hand would see her once little baby becoming a man and being rebellious especially if she is the one who wields more power in the house becos ur dad is a free style person. So its not a big deal. Apologise today and tomorow there will be something else and you better be ready to be the one to always back down from a fight. For some children its usually the female against their mum and male against their dad but it could go anyway. For me it was me against my mum too cos I dared not argue with my dad. So ur case is a little late, it should have started at 17 or 18 but its still in the teenage years. So its a natural passage. Just keep being the good boy u think u are.



















You are a fool.

I stopped arguing with my mum when i was 15 and i was a master at it then...but even at 21 u still have hope...just apologise to her sincerely and i mean from deep in your heart...i'm sure she dint mean what she said cos i heard that times without number in my hayday...buy her a gift...maybe a samsung galaxy s6...just kidding...just get her anything u know she likes it doesnt have to be expensive and go to her one-on-one and tell her u are deeply sorry...she'll forgive you once...mums love their first sons so much...i'm a living witness...just do this and thank me later

You are towing a path of destruction. Better go apologise quickly to her before she sleeps. And ask your dad to help you beg the poor woman. Seems you don't know what curse is.

Check the kind of friends you cruise with for you seem to have been influenced negatively. Ask for God forgiveness and deliverance.

My Guy, never ever raise your voice on your mum.
Whatever your mum does, overlook it and move on.
What is most important is your role and responsibilities on her, not her role on you.
Do your own part by being gentle and respectful to her even if she slaps you.
Remember you will have your own kids one day.

Rude Boy

You have a terrible temper. If you don't subjugate it, it might com to a point that u'll do more disgusting things to ur mum or any other member of d family.

------my mom was still crying saying I have hurt her a lot with words and all that and even if I become a billionaire tomorrow I shouldn't bother about her that she's cancelled me as her son for good that I don't appreciate her at all---


Your Momsy don watch Zee world channel Tire!
S/O to my mum, @ur age then for This kind scenario na mad slap she go don use reset my brain factory.
Op, you need strong OT tho, cos guys like you that don't appreciate their mothers would hardly show respect to ladies i.e You may be a potential Wife-beater.
#MyOpinion

Omo ale

I see people shout at their parent.... I will be like WTF

Please I beg you in the name of almighty God, try and find your mother's happiness. Make sure you reconcile with her. Ask your father to apologize to her on your behalf. No matter what, you shouldn't have shouted at your mother. Shouting at your mother was a big mistake, but try and seek her happiness, I'm sure she will forgive you.

It's a good thing you realise things are not well and you are willing to make amends.The fact that you are the first born means that you should set a good example for your younger ones.
As a first-born son,you should be your mum's 'boyfriend'.

Start to seek ways of reconciling with her.Control your anger when she talks to you and don't shout back at her,she's your mum.

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chuzydon:
Am a guy of 21 from a family of 5, am the eldest, everything used to be fine but the older I grow the more me and my mom seem to be falling apart, today she shouted on me and I shouted back at her very loudly so she left for her room and started crying.

My dad came home from work and she told him everything and my dad asked me to kneel and apologize but my mom was still crying saying I have hurt her a lot with words and all that and even if I become a billionaire tomorrow I shouldn't bother about her that she's cancelled me as her son for good that I don't appreciate her at all.
I don't know how things got so bad to this level and am not even a rough kind of guy, I feel so hurt now and don't even know what to do to make up for things. I just feel like our bond is about to be shattered for good.


pls help I need reasonable advice i don't understand what's going on anymore .

Help? You don't sound like you want a reconciliation. If it was a lady, I would understand... But a man? Cmon! It's weird and feminine!

gurunlocker:
I see people shout at their parent.... I will be like WTF

I Wonder ooo.