iykedare:


These nairaland women will fry your skull for this.

avicky:

Oh really? But she needs all the clothes and shoes and can't afford a decent and classy China plate or dining set for meals?

Op, tell your cousin to move on. She's not physically ready. When i was single, I know how many kitchen gadgets i bought and kept to take along to hubby's house.

ogawisdom:


Lol u can't engage me in a debate smallie jst feel good with ur name calling BC dts all u got.
I am a Morbid fool

Helkayklassic:
Different kind of break up nowadays but this cutlery own is new o.

Fourwinds:
my sister. u can see ur fellow women how they reason ooo. .. thank God u are a woman and can see clearly. ..most ladies in relationship are not prepare mentally.. even d working class., are not financially prepared.. .only buying clothes., shoes., jeweries... common bowl to serve. food they don't have....



d ladies I have dated I feel shock when I ask them certain questions and cannt provide answers...before I graduated I was already thinking about strategies of getting job...u don't wait until u are out of school same applies to marriage

ogawisdom:



She is right its d man's responsibility, d woman can help at her discretion

avicky:

I was taken aback by the comment. I just smh for some ladies. Hardly will you find a perfect description of Prov 31. May God help us all.

Fourwinds:
u can see y we have a lot of singles(ladies) camping in all nite prayers seeking what they can not get....their attitudes need orientation...


God. God God God.....yes we all know God d creator but what about urself...how can a working lady be buying clothes., shoes., jeweries and not think of her contribution in marriage..some ladies are so shallow minded

jabojafa:
Rome wz nt built in a day. They say practise mk perfect. Its dis kind of woman dt wud even be askin her husband for moni to buy salt or matches. Her attitude is nt showin any committment in d relastionshp. If u can dig further u wud shock to realize d lady inquestion hv neva bought any thing/gift for d man even recharge card 100naira

shabbey09:
Na wa oh, men are different sha, my husband didn't want me to bring a single pin to his house. Infact I had to dash out my fridge and TV.

It's not enough reason abeg. He should only talk to her to have a saving culture.

VenusBetty:
nonsense

wwwkaycom:
He met his fiancee in their school, she's one of the choir sisters in their fellowship choir. They started their love affairs in 2014 and would like to get married mid-2016. The big issue according to him is that the lady don't seem to be prepared for marriage, even though she's working, she hasn't gotten anything to show that she's working towards marriage in 2 years not to talk of the next 6 months.

He said she spends her money on clothes, shoes and jewelries but recently served him and one of his friends food with the stainless plate that they use in her home, he said he felt humbled when his friend politely turned down the food.

This guy believes that his fiancee by now ought to have invested on kitchen wares, plates, cutleries etc. He said he had actually started buying these stuffs without informing her but is now of the opinion that the lady may not change in marriage. I have asked him to talk it over with his fiancee which he did but he said she told him point blank that that is his responsibility. He has already diverted the money he was saving for the wedding to landed property, saying he will begin to look out for another lady. My plea fell on his deaf ears.

My take dear nairalanders is that the issue is just too flimsy to warrant separation at this stage, what do you think about it?

dominique:
Before he breaks up with her, he should first give her an ultimatum; Set your priorities right, adjust your attitude or the relationship is over! The way she'll change wi be like film trick. Nobody will want to face the humiliation of a broken engagement. For the fact that he has been with her for almost 2 years and is contemplating marriage, that means something must have attracted her to him. He should help her work in correcting her imperfections. That's what love and companionship is all about.

udemzy101:



At least you wanted to but he refuse, the lady in question feel it's not her duty to buy all those things..

Believe me, her type will have millions but will refuse to help her husband in time of need....



It is good to pay attention to certain things before it gets out of hand

jopretty:
If we demand the guy must have some things to show he's man enuf una go call us gold diggers. So because she hasn't started buying those stuffs means she's not ready for marriage? What if she's saving towards then without his knowledge?

EggovinMma:



There's nothing flimsy about this at all. It's very very good for single ladies to buy kitchen wares. I find investing in kitchen wares very attractive. It's like a man coming to your house to eat only to be served water with this coloured cups around! Hian!

Kellyakon:
Please i am available, responsible, homely, economical (i can manage money eh) i don't do jewelry, my make up is minimal, i don't scrap my eyebrow nor do contact lens and i need a husband. In summary tell your cousin that his spec is here. Any other interested NLder check my profile lets rock and roll. wwwkaycom

devour129:
you have said all . Can't believe that some guys now want women to buy household properties for them . Truth be told some women can be funny , they will pretend and buy all those things but the day you guys will have problem that's when you will know the world also know all the things she has bought you.please man up n buy your own things to keep yourself respect. When she comes in she will do the little ones that way you still have control of your home.

Fourwinds:
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Kellyakon:
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Fourwinds:
of course it is nonsense to u...



d truth is... d reason y we have a lot of single ladies camping in church all nite looking for what they can not get or even sustaining what they have got...

it is not rocket science...this is simple attitude.

u unlearn to learn the rite thing

Segadem:
There's no perfect man or woman out there, you are the one u will make her what you want her to be,

victorazy:


People are diff expecially men.
What you see as nothing as a woman may mean big thing as man because its all about his home, his house and his money. No man is ready to suffer to get money and to suffer to spend it rather to enjoy it.

She won't cool down now, tomorrow she will start praying and casting who may have working against her not to get married.

daretodiffer:


He is not so narrow-minded

What type of human being will not have at least 5 pieces of ceramics for hospitality purposes? A working woman for goodness sake. You would think that her education would have unconsciously prepared her for this.

Fkforyou:


Did you take your time to read and understand the thread? Ask misspicy to break it down to your level of understanding.

He is narrow minded, he is this, he is that.. ..some people sha

daretodiffer:


My dear low self esteemed man. The divine injunction does not say ‘total submission'. Please fix yourself before your try to lead others.

Who am I kidding, you can never be good enough to lead

ogawisdom:


Agreed but it is sth to speak to her abt and possibly see if she changes no one is perfect u kw. Communication is key i dnt think he shld dictate to d lady hw to spend her money at this stage. He can persuade her on dt but nt force her. A woman is a helper and to help is discretionary. Real men shld nt carry women money for mind b4 marrying them.

Calling off a wedding BC the lady u have not married is nt buying kitchen utensils is immature n a clear sign d man is nt ready for marriage.

In marriage u will face bigger challenges even if u marry a saint, will u jst call it quit at d slightest provocation

Homguy:
after reading this post and other posts from most ladies on nl i am now fully convinced , most nigerian ladies are just thoughtless. Immature. Narrow minded, simpletons always looking for who to leech on. So its wronwrong for a lady to have her own glasswares? Or have the decency to serve her fiance and his friend with such. I hope you make such gaffe with your sharp fiance since you are even attacking the dude for using his head.

Ujulabelle:
She served him and "one of his friends food with the stainless plate that they use in her home, he said he felt humbled when his friend politely turned down the food."

Please, this isn't an excuse to call off a relationship. The guy doesn't love her any more. The girl might be saving money 4 her marriage but didn't want to tell the guy. Ur cousin sounds like he is looking 4 a lady whose money will be used in marriage. What is ur cousins responsiblilty as a husband? Is it the lady that will cater 4 his household? He shld ask men who married ladies who aren't working. Among the Igbo which I am part of, women are not compelled to buy cooking utensils 4 their would be husband. It is assumed that the man has set up his household b4 coming 4 d lady's hand in marriage. The lady is going there to enjoy her husband's wealth and not the man looking up 2 her 2 buy cooking utensils and save money 4 their marriage. Any man who is expecting a woman 2 save 4 their marriage is irresponsible. A woman helps her husband financially out of her own volition and not compulsion.
SHALOM