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Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 6:13am On Dec 26, 2015 |
stonecoldcafe: I agree but the husband needs to play a part in keeping the home and care of the kids and not just when he feels like it. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by stonecoldcafe: 7:14am On Dec 26, 2015 |
fem29: Again read my post again. I never encouraged or said that was right. What I am saying is it is not feasible in this day and age for a working woman not to contribute a pin to her house hold especially when her husband needs the help and is simply an average earning guy. Please all you people quoting me, its crystal clear you aint married or you don't know what obtains in a typical Nigerian society today. I'm allergic to bullshitttt so please so quoting me and saying op. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Sam32(m): 7:46am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Segadem:Agent of change! Better listen to sound advice from real men |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 7:59am On Dec 26, 2015 |
mira4u: Education has everything to do with it. Educayion brings a level of refinement you wouldnt have unless you mingled with educated people or you are educated. It is meant to open you eyes to certain things you might dismiss if you were not educated. Most uneducated people will not even serve you with stainless plates nonchalantly. I don't care about the man. I don't care about the marriage. I care about her mental health. Can you seriosuly ask yourself why a Don't turn this into a blame fame. It is purely common sense. I am not stupid to know that there is nothing wrong in buying/planning towards marriage if I plan to get married someday. If she thinks it reduces self-worth, then she does not have any to begin with. As others have mentioned, as a single woman whether you like it or not, it is paramount that she should know how to plate dishes. Frankly, I don't know of any one who would like to be served like a madman. Besides, most men appreciate it a well-served/plated meal. Also, She is likely to do most of the cooking and I do not know a right-thinking emplyed woman that would be comfortable with asking her man for everything to equip her kitchen. Assuming that she thinks that he is not serious with her, what about buying for herself? Does she have to wait for marriage before improving herself and making her guests comfortable in her house? Heck! As a lady I won't even bother eating from those plates. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Sam32(m): 8:02am On Dec 26, 2015 |
jopretty:this shows what many girls consider to be tangible in marriage.. what a pity! |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 8:04am On Dec 26, 2015 |
kessel: Bla bla bla Don't quote me |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by professore(m): 8:57am On Dec 26, 2015 |
ElDaIllest:I like your opinion,it shows u have an indept understanding of what relationship is all about 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Sam32(m): 9:28am On Dec 26, 2015 |
[quote author=daretodiffer post=41333202][/quote]I love this girl! |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Sam32(m): 9:40am On Dec 26, 2015 |
mira4u:Did you serve your husband with iron plate when he visited you with his buddy? |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by mira4u: 9:57am On Dec 26, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Like I said before, this has nothing to do with education cos even an uneducated person can buy as much plates they want. It has everything to do with personal concept and probably the attitude of the man towards the relationship. No sane man/woman with common sense will judge or condemn the woman or a case without listening to the other side of a story. Am sure the woman has her reasons why she didn't buy the plates. Mind you, read my post very well. I never said its wrong to buy plates for the home but totally wrong to call it quits for flimsy excuse as 'because you didn't buy plates it shows you are not ready'. He wasn't ready himself. Did he take his time to find out her reasons for not buying them before jumping to conclusion? The fault could even be his, you never can tell. Why will she buy plates for herself when she was living with her parents? I never bought a single item myself for the house prior to my wedding. It was when I parked into my husband's house I saw the need for them. How does that show I wasn't ready? Well, I have made my point. M done with this baseless argument. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 10:27am On Dec 26, 2015 |
mira4u: To hell with personal concept, it is common sense to buy proper plates to serve your guests. And if that common sense is lacking, this is where your education should be helpful. Your argument is so baseless. I stay with my parents during the holiday and I have had to use my money to buy some things like a weighing scale, mirror etc because I realised that we needed them. If you had read my initial post, you would notice that my main problem was not her lack of preparation but the ft that she couldn't buy herself ceramic plates. Regardless of whom she is staying with, if her mother cannot afford to buy proper plates(which I doubt) It becomes her responsibility to get her parents some! I bet you wait for your hubby to raise every issue before using your initiative Very baseless argument!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 10:27am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Sam32: You dey mind her Imagine! 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by mira4u: 11:20am On Dec 26, 2015 |
daretodiffer: It is common sense to buy plates cos u think so. What makes you think what you think or believe works for everyone? You reason from your mouth not brain. While I was with my parents I never bought a single plate cos there was no need for it but you did cos you had need for it. How does that make you any better than me? lol you bet my husband takes initiative for me? Well, miss, your bet is as empty as your opinion cos that's one reason my husband holds me to high esteem. It's people like you that does worse things other than refusal to buy plates yet will still cast stones on people with very minor offense. Hypocrite!!!! Now dive------> and never quote me again. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by mira4u: 11:49am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Sam32: Whatever plate I used to serve my husband wasn't a problem to him cos he knows we were not in our home yet. When we start living together, and am still using a plate that he has insistently condemned, then you can tell me something is wrong with me and I will believe you. Don't know when y'all will get it to your heads that your opinion doesn't work for everyone, and as such shouldn't condemn anyone for acting differently from you. Everyone has a reason for their actions. You can't just condemn her without getting to know her reasons. That's biased judgement n m not a party to tha shii. Breaking up for stu.pid reason as.... You didn't buy the right plate, therefore, you are not ready... Is even a blessing in disguise to the woman cos that kind man will divorce her for cheap reason in future. That will even b worse for her. Men like that always end up with a woman who does worse things like insulting him verbally, infidelity and the rest. That's when he will go back to look for the other one he jilted for stu.pid reason, realizing that she was actually a saint compared to others. If m that lady I will never reconsider him cos he's not deserving. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Sam32(m): 12:02pm On Dec 26, 2015 |
mira4u:maybe you didn't read the post or choosed not to see her. "reasons " 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 1:07pm On Dec 26, 2015 |
mira4u: Bla bla bla I am not focused on the man but the woman as an individual. Damn it! |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Ayauche(f): 1:14pm On Dec 26, 2015 |
He wants to cancel his wedding cos he was served food with a stainless plate. Is the girl staying alone? If she's with her family then maybe that's the kind of plate they use, also if she has bought kitchen equipment wud she bring them out cos u and ur friend came visiting. How do u knw she isn't planning towards her marriage? Except me I hear 4rm her, this is just a very flimsy excuse. Cancel ur wedding if u like cos anything we say here doesn't make a difference but make sure u are cancelling it 4 a very good reason and nt sunthing like dis. |
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