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Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Fanirandele: 1:35am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Nurry: help me ask o, when the Aunty was younger and didnt have cars why didnt she get a man then if the cars was the problem 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 1:36am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Tolatutu:nothing stops a rich guy from being intimidated too o. we don hear plenty o. insecure guy is insecure, rich or poor 2 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 1:37am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Tolatutu:agreed but just Saying she improves her odds is all I'm saying omotohdarajugbogbolo |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Tolatutu: 1:39am On Dec 27, 2015 |
mikolo80: One can have both with a supportive husband who is not intimidated by a successful woman and that is the key. The Op is already doing well at a multinational company so clearly her career means much to her and she will keep getting wealthier. Women like Okonjo were able to get to this level because they didn't tie themselves to intimidated men. No point getting unevenly yoked, let her get a man that sees her with her car and a already knows her worth. That will only man a smart man to even sit up more rather than a woman having to live below her standards to get a man who will eventually still be intimidated by her as she keeps rising in her career 2 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 1:50am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Tolatutu:most non intimidated guys are guys with practice and experience (players )okonjo met and grew with her husband. Nigeria not smiling on boys and easier for girls now so can't compare with okonjo time we're just talking statistically here she only needs one guy out of 85 million why limit the pool to only 'secure' guys that's all we're saying if women only wanted secure guys very few will get married just as if men only wanted Beyonce type chicks very few would get married. life is give and take all the oyinbo looking for career,how many remain married, I'm not forcing on you just saying look at the statistics 2 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Nobody: 1:50am On Dec 27, 2015 |
omotohdarajugbogbolo:go ahead and get yourself car joor, it's a necessity not luxury, the stress of jumping public transportation no be for here for naija. But as your are single and searching Naa, whenevery you see a man you fancy at your leisure timeand at a safe place.pretend that your car broke down and accept lift, your brother can go pick the car. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by amunkita(m): 2:03am On Dec 27, 2015 |
mikolo80: Baba u know every, so need to talk plenty.... |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by princeonx: 3:11am On Dec 27, 2015 |
mikolo80:Their reasons for not being married is not the cars they own or drive! You can have a private jet and be a single lady or happily married or divorced, no one give a rat ass. Fyi cars can or should be necessity every where even though Blackman turned it to luxury especially in 3rd world. Would you also ask a lady not to be successful or climb in position bcox one insecure man is afraid to marry a successful woman? Gone are those days my guy! 1 Like |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by ColeworldMD(m): 3:16am On Dec 27, 2015 |
CFCman:normal now. The new trick abroad is to gym up & look cute. There are tons of white girls that are independent so some sharp guys are just like predators waiting to pounce on them. Who want suffer. Again Africa is not there yet, but we're getting there gradually. 3 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 3:22am On Dec 27, 2015 |
princeonx:the black man din do shiii. economics did. and yes if she values being married more than 'successful '(rich) we all have definitions of success to some it's marriage to others being masters of the universe op is worried about marriage 1 Like |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by DKOKO3(m): 4:39am On Dec 27, 2015 |
OP. Never feel intimidated by how men will feel about your success. A man that will be intimidated by you or your success should be the one you're not interested In. Get your car and live your life. In as much purchasing the car won't make you live above your ego or status. 3 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by princeonx: 4:48am On Dec 27, 2015 |
mikolo80:Well I won't bet myself debating this topic especially where the op didn't say if the car was fun or necessity but regardless of what the car is for, no sane guy should judge the woman he want to marry bcox she own a car. Cars are over rated in Africa, ppl have 2 phone sets or watches that will buy a car. 1 Like |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Nobody: 4:50am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Tolatutu: "Nigeria is backward" you say? Well then, see the trend in other parts of the world. http://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2011/10/for-chinas-educated-single-ladies-finding-love-is-often-a-struggle/246892/ 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Nobody: 4:58am On Dec 27, 2015 |
here is also a story from Latin America. http://www.dallasobserver.com/news/a-good-educated-latino-man-is-hard-to-find-6419120 |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 5:06am On Dec 27, 2015 |
princeonx:cars are rated just the right amount. value is relative. your meat may be my poison. and only the insane will not judge for it is human to judge. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by DWJOBScom(m): 5:46am On Dec 27, 2015 |
mikolo80:I agree |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by franksam2009: 5:51am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Op trust me, don't get a car, just be patient |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by mikolo80: 6:03am On Dec 27, 2015 |
DWJOBScom:most people don't. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Itunup(f): 6:08am On Dec 27, 2015 |
@Op...To d glory of God,I built my house,had my first car before i got married 2 one of d best man last year.Pls go ahead,God bless 3 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Skmoda360(m): 6:19am On Dec 27, 2015 |
AlhajiAbdul:Gold digger my foot and besides do you even know me, quit saying bullshit. so because my bae is richer than me at the moment that makes me GD, FYI, i don't depend on anybody except God, i think you are trying to transfer your GD personality into my free being...i guess you are a LL who always think dating a big girl makes you a gold digger..capiche. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by bestads(m): 6:24am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Op i can see you are very active in dating and meet up section which may portray you are not yet in any relationship and buttressed by your brother's fears https://www.nairaland.com/omotohdarajugbogbolo However you want to up your personality by a car so you must also up your choice of guys that approach you or those you give greenlight Life is a choice |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Sgwash: 6:41am On Dec 27, 2015 |
ronald4lif: when d carrier driven woman starts keeping late night, attending interstate meetings and conferences, if not international, I Hope u can cope with that... When she puts her carrier before u and d home, barely have time for d kids, worships her boss and relegates you, Hope u can cope with that... My brother, it's better to get urself an educated, purposeful, beautiful and intelligent lady, who understands d values of a home, who will b a team player with u, who will support u, and love u, yet be resourceful. Not d "haywire" type! Thanks |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Nobody: 7:13am On Dec 27, 2015 |
bukatyne: i am sure you can understand why some of us will mistaken man-hating for feminism. Most man-haters identify as feminist. People who insult male psychology identify as feminist. Chimamanda goes about the same way. I can give you links to some memes she generated sometime ago and i as a man, find it extreemly offensive! Back to the issue of "men are intimedated..." i want you to listen to our side of the story and maybe, you among other women, can begin to understand differently and the human being will be helped better. The truth is...the man is not going anywhere and the earlier we allow him to express himself about this issue, the better for the society at large and most especially, the "highly achieving woman". Are men intimedated by successful women? In my opinion, i would say the word "intimedate" is the wrong choice of word. May be uncomfortable is a better one. The point is, when you use the word intimedate and especially with the tone we hear people say it, then you shame his psychology, a thing that will never go away no matter the culture and civilization. On this thread, you hear people say "oh, it is the Nigerian backward mentality....it is the primitive African way". These people have never being to other parts of the world, yet, they think they can say the first thing about how other people behave. But i am sure by now, you know it is not an African thing as i have posted links to foreign websites where this same issue is being discussed. If it were an African thing, why then do we have people abroad still discuss it? Like i said before: if a man is not going for a 'superior' woman, then maybe it is because he has had experiences with 'superior' ladies who outrightly snub him in a disrespectful manner, when he tried to strike a relationship with them. Aslo, we know ladies are hypergamous in nature. That is...they tend to date/marry up along the lines of age, social and economic standing etc. If this is the female behaviour, which i think is natural, i wonder why we want the man to still go and waste his time? It is about efficiency of decision, and that he is intimedated. So, instead of blaming men, i think they, women, should look at themselves and see they they also have cocroaches in their cupboard. I believe men and women can still have a good and fulfiling relationships. But the shaming of men and their psychological behaviour, which is done by the likes of Chimamanda as nothing but just a line to make themselves feel good for not nailing the man they want, is just not helping matters. When you shame him, then, he just cannot admit it, like you've already seen on this thread. Many men are claiming "only 'low' men are intimedated" while they themselves are like that in reality. If he doesn't admit it, how then can he manage it? You just cannot manage what you claim doesn't exist, can you? Admiting it is first step forward. He is not intimedated, he's only uncomfortable; just as a lady would feel uncomfortable around a guy she is significantly taller than. Should we shame her? 1 Like |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by litaninja(m): 7:14am On Dec 27, 2015 |
You need a car? Get a blood.y car. Most guys who are particular about theirs' don't want anyone ( including bae) to drive them. If a guy is avoiding you because you have a car....he's not the ONE. For those that say suitors will run away....biko, all these babe wey no get car but still dey single nko? Abegi... |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Nobody: 7:21am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Here is the link, @bukatyne i am not against all the things in the memes, i am more offended by the first. http://www.thelmathinks.com/2014/04/chimamanda-meme-on-feminism-sparks.html?m=1 |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by jackpot(f): 7:30am On Dec 27, 2015 |
CFCman:you sound like a 2 Likes |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by buchostags(m): 7:32am On Dec 27, 2015 |
babe i will advice u scale "a man in ur life vs a car" b4 goin down tht road. thts d african factor; dnt forget tht. my advc get a man 1st |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by Idrismusty97(m): 7:37am On Dec 27, 2015 |
obie206:Even if she got the car and end up marrying a man of your so called "Nigerian standard", As long as she still got her job the man will definitely realized she is richer/independent. What else will happen after then? Soon she would be told to give up her job and manage with a man earning 50k monthly. We all know how that sort of relationship will end. She should get her car and chase men with inferiority complex like you. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by 2016Utmerunz: 7:41am On Dec 27, 2015 |
Yea |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by invisible4d: 7:43am On Dec 27, 2015 |
from what i see the op should be around 28 and she has been searching for a man since 2012 when she was 25 and am sure the op does not have a car then and still she did not get a man even with her hookup and meetup thread on nairaland. My advice to the op is forget about car and invest the money on something else (e.g building a house of her own) till when she is married. |
Re: No To Getting A Car Because Am Single by milowys77(m): 8:00am On Dec 27, 2015 |
craziebone: From your assertion, the likes of Genevieve aren't married because they are successful? In other words every other woman her age that hasn't had a very successful career is happily married? You can't think of any woman at all who doesn't have a car at 35 and still isn't married? There will always be men like you who are scared of successful women, and the there will always be others for whom self made successful women are a huge turn on. |
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