It all starts from facebook ofcourse since almost everyone owns an account. For many they have their phone contacts on their profile for the world to see and next thing is, they add you up and connect with you on whatsapp. Truth is social media is causing more harm than good.

For instance my girl is not a fan of all these social media but recently I got her a phone and she was like, I would like to download facebook, twitter, instagram, wechat, whatsapp etc. I looked at her and was like "since when did you start having interest in all these"?

Is it possible she would eventually get used to all these social network if she eventually join in? I will not stop her from downloading whatever she want but I'll let her know what she is inviting into the relationship and for her to know it was her choice and to make sure she does not compromise our relationship.

ify123destiny:

What makes it rubbish, Y live a fake life on a social platform & when it comes 2 d real world u are completely different. Dat's where many get it wrong. Be Original, Sincere & Transparent. Nice piecs @OP

a cheat is a cheat. even if in their profile they write married as their relationship status they can still do as they wish

Such a wonderful piece from a good thinker! Op, well done!

englishmart:
your real name is chinazaramekpere uzochibuuzondu
And your BB display name is pretydiva, sorry o. Your relationshipdoesnt look like something that will last

sorry i was born 2016! Should i quote.

You wrote it well and that is why I have to let u know that

Not only does this destroy relationships, a lot of marriages have been destroyed by social media and its addiction. Items 3 and 4 have caused deceit and mistrust that have made coupoes abandon their marriages..

There should be a limit to everything,Especially if it makes your partner uncomfortable.

If you spend more time chatting online than you spend chatting with your partner, theres need for a rethink

Secretario:
“SOCIAL MEDIA HAS RUINED MY RELATIONSHIP!”

That’s the cry of many people today! But my response is this: social media didn’t ruin your relationship he, she, or BOTH of you may have played a part in the ruining of your relationship.

Let’s back up and come to an agreement: social media is here and it probably isn’t going anywhere. So, we have to address this issue head on. It is definitely possible for your relationship and (insert social media type here!) to happily co-exist. Here are 4 ways to keep social media from ruining your relationship:

1) Stop Being “Single” Online but “In a Relationship” in Real Life:

Let’s be honest. For many people, social media is another form of online dating. With that said, people need to know very clearly that you are involved with someone. I get the whole argument, “people don’t need to be in my business.” But, guess what? You made it peoples’ business when you decided to get that account and create a username.

People might not need to know the ins and outs of your relationship. But they should at LEAST know you are married or in a relationship so that the lines don’t get blurred or any false messages are sent out. I can’t tell you the amount of times I hear people complain, “ I didn’t know they were married until it was too late.” (“Too late” usually means feelings have developed).

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It’s your job, as a mate, to make sure it is clear to others that you aren’t open to anyone else and you are spoken for.

Being transparent will hopefully hold people to a higher standard of how they decide to communicate with you. This won’t stop everyone from pursuing you, but you have to care enough about your mate and your relationship to stop certain behavior before it starts. People may message you privately to get a feel for your willingness to be “more than friends” with them. But, this needs to be nipped in the bud by you, and it needs to happen immediately!

2) Don’t Believe Your Own Hype

You know, sometimes social media is a platform for people to subliminally tell you everything you want to hear. Between “likes,” “winks,” “pokes” and private messages, people will woo you all day and, naturally, you’ll start to like it. Suddenly, you may find yourself flattered because your Facebook “friends” may be showing you the attention that your partner hasn’t been showing you. It’s at this point that you must CHECK yourself!

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This means it’s time to start communicating your needs to your partner instead of falling into the Facebook trap of that ex from back in the day, or that person you always had a crush on in college. You can’t glorify an Internet relationship over your “real-life” relationship and you can’t hold them to the same standard. So often, I see how the “harmless flirting” online turns into lunch in-person, and then into an affair that leads to a divorce or a break-up. The person online has probably pulled the same trick with their other 100 friends or followers. So, get back into communicating with your mate.

3) Stop It with the Sneaky Stuff

I’m not saying that your mate needs to know all of your passwords to everything. But, I am saying it will look very suspicious and make them very uncomfortable if you are uncomfortable with them seeing your pages or interactions. If you are uneasy every time they come around or if you close out of your pages when your mate enters the room or takes a look over your shoulder, then something isn’t right. If you are sweating bullets because you left your page up and your spouse is the next person on the computer, then you will look GUILTY!

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When you are able to be completely open, your mate will feel more comfortable about you and your relationship with social media. This is not to say they don’t trust you, but it is to say that everyone has some level of curiosity and hiding things only makes for unnecessary tension and concern. Additionally, when you are open, you think twice about the things, whether innocent or not, that could be misinterpreted or seen as disrespectful. It makes you more cognizant and also you gain a level of peace in your relationship.

4) You Must Have Some Limitations

I’ll admit it. I’ve been guilty at times of being so engulfed in social media for my business that I forget that my wife, at home, needs the same kind of attention. Social media is so accessible we don’t realize the amount of time we spend on it. Furthermore, we don’t see how much it bothers our mates to have to compete with it.

Social Media and Relationships

Place some limitations on yourself. For instance, after a certain time, you unplug. No electronics during dinner or during dates. Whatever you have to do, try to do it so your mate knows he or she is most important to you in the time you all spend together instead of the online friends we spend so much time keeping up with. It may take some self-reflection and some strategic planning (especially if you use it for business), but it will be worth it for you and your relationship.

Remember, your mate wants nothing more than to be able to trust you 100%, even beyond the screens of social media and the Internet. Remember that when those cyber friends are gone, your mate is the one who is actually going to be there in person, where it matters most. Don’t allow social media to ruin your relationship.

Secretario

. I just divorce my wife with kids. because of this dating another man her long time boy friend send romantic message to each other.

NO 1!!! Can't get mad at someone for not staying in their lane if your partner hasn't defined a lane for them to stay in.

akinola1384:
. I just divorce my wife with kids. because of this dating another man her long time boy friend send romantic message to each other.

sorry bro...spouses/partners that are regulars on social media can best be described as time bombs waiting to happen. why do most women not marry their socalled longtime boyfriends whom they know very well is the typical Mr right their soulmate? but later they allow this same Exes to come back to ruin their marriages.
why is it hard for some of them commit totally. they easily allow romantic words to turn their heads and set them into romantic inferno.

RadicallyBlunt:
NL is one of the marriage breaking social media. Someone would ask 4 advice and get jests, bashings and confusing advices just becus of 'likes and shares'. Only 10% of d contributions usually make sense.

You're on point. Most here are so desperate for 'likes' to the point of looking stupid, slutty, hypocritical etc. Guy, less than 10% of posts are smartly written, so sad. Not saying every thread and comment should be intellectual and deep, it would take away the fun part. At least, 50% of contributions should show intelligence.

abeg liv dis write up for wole shoyinka

Genycharl:
Nice writeup. I just hope people will learn

Happy Birthday beautiful.... LLNP
Have a blast day girl

On point!

Diddyydiva:
.one of the bloody ignoramus

pele madam know all.

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