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Self Confidence.........the Sure Virtue by Davidddon(m): 6:50am On Jan 07, 2016 |
As a career coach, the more I speak, counsel and advise people, the
more I realise everyone’s got great potentials for success. I don’t
believe anyone is born to fail, or lack, or beg. There is something in us
all, something about us all, that can make us all very successful.
I’ve spoken to so many people and at the start of the conversation they
are timid, intimidated and don’t think there’s anything good in them,
but after a while, after asking some right questions, they begin to see
themselves differently, they gradually become excited, happier,
motivated and they eventually leave elated, with renewed confidence
and zeal to go and win. I can’t recall any experience where anyone left
still depressed and low. This made me conclude that our limitations
and can’t-do disposition is all in our minds.
I believe we were all born bold, confident and zealous. But the
circumstances of our birth and upbringing play a critical role in how we
eventually turn out either as bold, confident, charismatic and self-
assured Or fearful, intimidated, panicky and apprehensive.
The environment in terms of wealth, affluence, location, exposure,
interaction, information and association can either boost or deplete our
self-confidence.
Our care givers including parents, teachers, religious leaders, siblings,
friends and associates can also strengthen or kill our confidence.
Kunle a very bright young student was a celebrated academic
champion in his secondary school days in a town in the mid-western
part of Nigeria. He was very good with numbers and very strong on
several subjects as well, except English probably because his parents
were not educated and most of his teachers and colleagues were not
grammatically strong as well.
He passed his SSCE with a minimum credit in English and was
overjoyed when he got admission to the University Of Lagos to study
Mass Communication.
Kunle had lost every ounce of confidence, vibrancy, passion and
academic zeal after his first semester simply because everyone around
him in the hostel, class and even some lectures roared with laughter
every time he spoke English because of his grammatical errors,
pronunciations, accent and diction.
This dealt a terrible blow to his ego, a fustrating experience and soon
enough his passion for academic excellence began to wane.
Kunle eventually graduated with a pass and is yet to recover from his
very low self-esteem and confidence.
I personally believe there are so many people out there with great
potentials and so much to offer but the circumstances of their birth
and upbringing or even an experience has truncated their confidence
making it impossible for them to manifest competence, expertise and
greatness.
Poverty, abuse, lack of exposure, ignorance and naivety are serious
confidence damagers.
Either strongly or mildly many of us still suffer low self-esteem due to
some of these factors.
Low self-esteem mitigates your ability to express and manifest your
gifting, abilities and competence. You’re afraid someone is going to
make jest or mockery of you. You don’t want to look or sound stupid
where it matters and you’ll always prefer to keep your opinions to
yourself.
You don’t also want people to think you don’t know much or not
exposed and you don’t want to showcase your ignorance, hence you
hardly champion an opinion, counter a position or express your
convictions. You’ll rather wait for someone else to talk first then you
would second the opinion depending on weather it is popular or not.
Some of us have been relegated to this situation basically due to the
attitude of the boss. Your boss may not appreciate people challenging
his views and suggestions and you have decided to keep mute on all
matters and just do what he says.
This disposition is quite dangerous to your career prospects and
personal success. Self-confidence makes you stand out of the crowd,
allow your personality to find expression and earns you respect, dignity
and influence.
How do you regain your self-confidence?
First, find out who you really are. Identify your strength and weakness
this puts you in a better position to make good decisions. Then learn
to showcase and celebrate your strengths. Let people know you’ve got
those strengths and let them ask of it from you.
Secondly, avoid imitating people. You can learn from people but be
your original self. If you need to copy from anyone do it smartly by
adapting whatever it is to fit your own style.
Thirdly, study and learn new things. Give yourself to continuous
learning. Read books, magazines and other relevant materials. Also
watch TV programmes that will expose and improve you - Educative
not just entertaining.
And lastly but not least, commit to excellence. Anything you do, give it
your best. Never settle for anything less than your best and you will
gradually gain your confidence back.Enjoy your day. BY MUYIWA AFOLABI |
Re: Self Confidence.........the Sure Virtue by iceberylin(m): 6:54am On Jan 07, 2016 |
Thanks |
Re: Self Confidence.........the Sure Virtue by obiorathesubtle: 7:10am On Jan 07, 2016 |
Ok. Thanks.. |
Re: Self Confidence.........the Sure Virtue by Nobody: 7:21am On Jan 07, 2016 |
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