Bro, I write this with heavy heart, I know Life or Ladies may be unfair, but even an average thinking guys or ladies would hide this from their boyfriend or girlfriend.

The way forward:
1) Sit her down and ask her the root or when she started experiencing the situation.
2) Ask about the role she has played in solving the problem.
3) Ask about the role of her parents.

4) If you are a born again or Alfa pray about it, ask for God intervention and "fi ese Ile tooo".

5) If after that no sign of improvement, consult your physician or Doctor and seek medical advice.

All the best.........

Please get marker use in hospital to avoid drying of bed everyday. Instead you wash the bedsheets and not dry bed everyday. Remember she will be psychological unbalance and will need your support now so she can get through it easily.

Check if she have VVF.......take her to VVF Centre Abakaliki.......

Try to get a water proof bed to start with. Then seek medical/psychological help.

stevecantrell:
Unfortunately, there is no quick fix for adult bed wetting. A 38 year old woman has probably been doing it for 38 yrs.
According to my clergy friend, bedwetting could be spiritual in origin and lead to many drawbacks in life like late marriage.

Usually the victim has a dream every night that they got up to take a pee in the toilet, when in fact they never got up.

Get your wife to talk about it, don't let her live in denial. That's the way forward. Seek medical and spiritual help. Let her learn to do pelvic floor exercises and be ready to wake her up intermittently 3-4 times a night, whether she is ready to pee or not.

pls how is this pelvic exercise being done

Adek15:
pls how is this pelvic exercise being done

Google "Kegels".

XaintJoel20:

"sometimes she might be pressed and be dreaming she's in the toilet taking it out not knowing its on bed" This your write up got me thinking if you had got a first hand experience...

someone i know

Give her a tablespoon of PURE honey morning and evening.
Let her reduce her water intake towards close of day.
Wake her up at night to empty her bowels.
You will be glad you did in a short while.

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ur own daftness no be here ooo. did he say it happens during s.ex eeeh.

lasisi69 abeg come see this end time Nairalander ooo.squirting ko squatting ni[/quote...

You need to get a spritual help. I mean local herbs and herbal doctor. Just be sure you get a right one to do the cure.

Dotmax53:
Fellow Nairalander'


Please Help A Brother...I newly married this beautiful young lady in her late 30's, and was shocked with what i saw with my eyes the first night of our wedding,she ended up messing up my newly purchased bed which i bought to appease our marital life,Had i known she was a baby adult,i wouldn't have gone into this marriage with her...No wonder she wouldn't agree to sleepover at my place while we were dating,,,i never knew there was a skeleton in her cupboard.After i noticed the drained bed on our first night together,She ended up giving an excuse that maybe she had drank so much water during the day/stressful day. Ever since, she as been urinating on the bed, We end up going to spread our bed outside everyday to get heated by sun...I believe our neighbors would have started suspecting something of such nature due to the usual sunning of the bed....Fellow Nairalanders, I love this lady and i cant afford to loose her..Our marriage is just a week old..

Please Advise me on what to do because i am really out of my mind presently.....

Pls MOD's Push this to front page to get urgent responses..

murphyrichy:
@Op, I hv heard such a case on Emmanuel tv(Tb Joshua's channel) during their testimony, the victim was delivered permanently from it. You can as well take your wife dir, as this isn't ordinarily.

@Op: please for the sake of your unborn children, disregard this advice.

If you don't, don't come back to ask for advice on how to solve bigger problems.

Marriage na for better for worse. True she lied, but if you knew would you have married her?

Since you said you love her, then lover her more and help her find solution to the issue.

1. Pray for her and with her.
2. Wake her intermittently @ night to pee.
3. See a doctor.
4. Then pray some more.

Well, that's all.

2dice:
If your Tori is True
Then you need Help spiritually and Medically
Just Go to any white Garment church.. When Dem use coconut tree branches PanalBeat your bae
All Dem Evil spirit Go Run pass Usain Bolt
no go all doss church wey Pastor dey use laptop dey Gooogle Prayer ooo...
BUT IF NA LIE BE THIS YOUR TORI MAY THUNDER FAYA youR left BALLS

you wan kill amm?

UTMOST10:
What a wicked world.........,God will change her story this same month! Click if you believe God.

Click?! Click what?!
smhfy

Go to any nearby teaching hospital and seek for a ganeocologist

pls your story is true ,i can help you.i have the solution.call 08030915187.i will only give you prescription.

Op, I have read all comments by other contributors on this topic. Pls do you watch Emmanuel TV, that's T.B Joshua's channel on Dstv? There are so many cases like your wife's in there. So many women go to SCOAN with same problems and are delivered. First of all, try going to a urologist. If that doesn't work then go to Synagogue, believe me you will be amazed by the Grace of God. Pls support your new wife. Goodluck

Dotmax53:
More advice pls..Im really out of my mind now

My brother, you don't have to loose your mind. You can use a combo of techniques.

Technology: There are alarms that can wake a deep sleeper up once it detects wetness around where the sensor is placed. Check Amazon.com for options. In the mean time, apply some form of mattress (wearable & zipper fitted) waterproofing (preferably under the bed sheet: at least that can be washed daily).

Spiritual: Because this is not very common occurrence, I cannot rule this out. Carryout investigations and find out if there is a history of this in her family or if it has always been like this. Is she from a polygamous background? She needs to be open to you on all these; even if you will be upset with what you will find out. When you have some background, you can know how to effectively pray and seek for help.

Calm down, this is the kind of things we find out when married. Fix it and enjoy your lover (who is now your wife)!

Lizabeth25:
Ah....! Be deceiving yourself!


And be forming Jehovah witness there!

O.k. counsellor, she will keep on sleeping in men's houses awaiting proposals or engagements Abu?
If it doesn't work, she will move on .

Am not forming JW. That its a practice among peoplw does not make it a godly standard. :\

I don't know what is wrong with people this days. Are you trying to disgrace your wife or yourself, must everything be brought to public forum, why cant you seek helps from someone close to you and after all, this is curable.

Wen we say testing its important in marriage. Some people we start talking rubbish......


Marriage its for life......

Wen we say testing its important in marriage. Some people we start talking rubbish......


Marriage its for life.

Dotmax53:
More advice pls..Im really out of my mind now

Oga, what other advice do you need. Just get yourself a resounding bedside alarm watch and keep it by the bedside, set a reminder, and make it 12am, 3am and 6am.
Each time the alarm rings, wake her up to go and urinate. With time she won't be needing the alarm anymore, cos her psychological instinct will get used to those timing.
Goodluck!

Don't worry she will soon get over it she is still very young.Just let her be drinking garri and tea with honey.h

Babe, nothing is godly o. You want to know why most marriages fail? It's because they were trying to make everything godly in the relationship.

Imagine a woman wetting the bed in her marital home! Abeg, when she start giving birth n her son/daughter join her, what will be d outcome?

If the girl was godly, she should have open up to d guy before marriage or allow d guy to find out himself before marriage.

I swear, if d guy truly loves her like d way I loved one dude with bad breath and even helped him to fight it, he will stay by her n help her to fight it.

glossy6:


O.k. counsellor, she will keep on sleeping in men's houses awaiting proposals or engagements Abu?
If it doesn't work, she will move on .

Am not forming JW. That its a practice among peoplw does not make it a godly standard. :\

nseke:
My problem is her inability to own up to her fault besides,you can help her manage it-check the water intake in the evening through the night and wake her to go ease herself just before,when you would ve noted the range of time she normally passes urine

see talk oo
Iranu

Nicepoker:
on a more serious note what can The lady do.

well I didn't expect that she should tell her hubby about this in d 1st place. The only remedy is 4 her hubby to stand by her either via prayer or medication. I'm not in2 medicine, so I can't prescribe drugs for her. She should just go $ see doctors who deal in urinary disorder system. Good luck to their marriage

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This is what I think too lol

Very pathetic story. Please take Her to your doctor for medical examination. Meanwhile, dont be one minute man again learn Simple techniques to last longer in bed naturally and ways to give your partner Earth shaking Orgasm that she can never forget in Her life time. Check my signature for details

Dotmax53:
Fellow Nairalander'


Please Help A Brother...I newly married this beautiful young lady in her late 30's, and was shocked with what i saw with my eyes the first night of our wedding,she ended up messing up my newly purchased bed which i bought to appease our marital life,Had i known she was a baby adult,i wouldn't have gone into this marriage with her...No wonder she wouldn't agree to sleepover at my place while we were dating,,,i never knew there was a skeleton in her cupboard.After i noticed the drained bed on our first night together,She ended up giving an excuse that maybe she had drank so much water during the day/stressful day. Ever since, she as been urinating on the bed, We end up going to spread our bed outside everyday to get heated by sun...I believe our neighbors would have started suspecting something of such nature due to the usual sunning of the bed....Fellow Nairalanders, I love this lady and i cant afford to loose her..Our marriage is just a week old..

Please Advise me on what to do because i am really out of my mind presently.....

Pls MOD's Push this to front page to get urgent responses..

She's got an infection which she got either through sex, toilet, or by inheritance.
If you love her take her to those traditional medical practioners. never take her to native doctors (Baba lawo)

Onyiido:
well I didn't expect that she should tell her hubby about this in d 1st place. The only remedy is 4 her hubby to stand by her either via prayer or medication. I'm not in2 medicine, so I can't prescribe drugs for her. She should just go $ see doctors who deal in urinary disorder system. Good luck to their marriage

She has to let her husby knows. A problem shared is A problem half solved. moreover they are sleeping on same bed so she can't hide it.

Seek spiritual help let them use pankere mimo to flock out the evil spirit maan ! because eleyi gidi gan at the age of 30.

Nicepoker:
She has to let her husby knows. A problem shared is A problem half solved. moreover they are sleeping on same bed so she can't hide it.

Fear of losing him may had been the cause of her not telling him. I'm not against the woman not telling him @ first. If she had, he may have stood by her $ help her through. Though its not yet late, I'd ask d hubby to stand by her. This is not the time to apportion blame.

First adult bedwetting is not new, it is not abnormal and for the records it is is increasingly rampant these days maybe because of lifestyles. . **the word here is *manage*, most times going through medical cure might be rigorous, expensive and most time the problem is not solved completely. I have seen many of such cases. And by experience I can tell you it is also hereditary.Well my advice is manage it well, research(Internet is your friend), this condition varies, some it happens once in a while, some it happens every night and even daytime so long as they sleep. Some it is inconsistency in holding the urine once the bladder is full, some it only happens when they eat or drink certain things, you know, so find the articles related to her own case, and learn the best way to manage it. You can also visit the hospital, don't be ashamed infact this problem should be a binding/bonding factor for you too for believe me if you show a woman(or even a man) love and support in such times, mehn she will love you madly and blindly. While you do all these let her monitor her fluid in take, especially in the evenings before bed, let her empty her bladder as often as possible, now this is where you as the husband ve got work to do. You must wake her at least once during the night. Get a mackintosh( just like those they use in making leather chairs) get the one that can cover the whole bed. Put it on before the bedspread this way you both enjoy your sleep on your comfortably and in case it happens at night, you only have to wash the bedspreads above all let her STOP ALCHOHOL intake entirely and minimize sugar intake. Best wishes.