namun:

@benedict
i so pity u. when it clears from ur eye i hope its not too late.

a woman is not meant to provide for the family, it is the man's duty and the bible did not say the woman shold bring what she earns into the hose she is meant to submit not provide
women that have goone the way of benedict usually regret itFOR EXAMPLE ask the women selling akara on the street what really happened
WOMEN BE WISE

She should rather pity you. The type of selfish and lazy woman who wants to put every responsibility on her husband's shoulders. If the bible hadn't said, you'd still find an excuse to keep your money to yourself.

Admit you are greedy and stop hiding behind the scriptures.

Is she even hiding behind the Scriptures? No, she's hiding behind ignorance and selfishness. She said the Scriptures only mention "submission." Submission of what? Yourself, excluding your resources? Rubbish!

Lol

buy clothes and shoes, and look good

What if the man does same? Doesn't he have the right to "look good" too? Then everybody starves lol

i hav concluded a long tym ago dat women survive on shopping, competition & Gossip!

mendax:

i hav concluded a long tym ago dat women survive on shopping, competition & Gossip!

Better to have said, "some women"

what should a good husband do? what's the difference.

Lita:

what should a good husband do? what's the difference.

Take care of his family and make sure all are happy.

again, what's the difference.

Lita:

again, what's the difference.

Why must there be a difference? Just like the husband a woman must give all she can to her family.

Only selfish and greedy women want to keep their earning to themselves. Oleeee!

michelin89:

Why must there be a difference? Just like the husband a woman must give all she can to her family.
Only selfish and greedy women want to keep their earning to themselves. Oleeee!

Full Gbammmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But would be nice for the woman to keep the money for the family to use when they are broke.

i'd like to believe a family can pool money. they can, together, put money aside for a rainy day. i don't see why she should be squirrelling hers away. that's (hopefully) how i'd do things.

Lita:

i'd like to believe a family can pool money. they can, together, put money aside for a rainy day. i don't see why she should be squirrelling hers away. that's (hopefully) how i'd do things.

That is how it is in a normal world.
But Nigeria is abnormal.

Fhemmmy:

That is how it is in a normal world.
But Nigeria is abnormal.

it is for a good purpose. they are mostly saving for such in case day or when the marriage dont work so they have something to fall on.

it is always good to have plan B

so what does the man do if it all falls apart? by all means, maintain a career, a level of independence (which, i concede may mean both keeping a little money aside) but both parties have to invest as much of their energies to create a successful marriage.

JJYOU:

it is for a good purpose. they are mostly saving for such in case day or when the marriage dont work so they have something to fall on.
it is always good to have plan B

When a woman goes into a marriage with a plan B, then Plan A is already a failure.
Besides, i think what they need to do is change the marital law in nigeria to provide for the woman in case the marriage falls apart.

@michelin
when next you want to respond please read and think properly. if you were able to reason logically and go through my earlier posts you would have noticed i said its not her obligation but she shiold be able to HELP vouloutarily. in other words she is not expected to give all her earnings to her husband. simple. i am not against giving, i am aginst giving ALL to her hgusband. simple
please when you cpomment, comment with sense and reasonin

namun:

@michelin
when next you want to respond please read and think properly. if you were able to reason logically and go through my earlier posts you would have noticed i said its not her obligation but she shiold be able to HELP vouloutarily. in other words she is not expected to give all her earnings to her husband. simple. i am not against giving, i am aginst giving ALL to her hgusband. simple
please when you cpomment, comment with sense and reasonin

It is her obligation. The kids are also hers. That's an excuse for selfish women. Sorry, but I don't buy it.

You're right ooo, sis. If the man is obligated to use his income for the welfare of the family; the same should apply to the woman. The home belongs to the two of them, not just the man.

Fhemmmy:

When a woman goes into a marriage with a plan B, then Plan A is already a failure.

  now you see why nigeria has mostly weak marriages.  everyone goes into relationships going 2 seperate ways.

Besides, i think what they need to do is change the marital law in nigeria to provide for the woman in case the marriage falls apart.

what would you recommend?

JJYOU:

  now you see why nigeria has mostly weak marriages.  everyone goes into relationships going 2 seperate ways.
what would you recommend? 

Yes, i agree with you whole heartedly.
I think the law needs to change and make sure that the woman is taken cared of when the man decide to kick the woman out all in the name of infidelity or for any reason at all.

Look good and help when she wants to but situatiion has changed this days

A wife is surpose to be an help mate though two shall become one,
There4, a good wife should support her husby, close gabs, .

she should be there be4 her husband supplies. i mean she need not wait still her husband provide,
In summary Prov 31 is appropriate answer.
I'm not being religious oooh

rubi:

Look good and help when she wants to but situatiion has changed this days

i think that is very wrong.
She must help if she has the means to.
However, like i said earlier wont mind my woman saving the money, so that we can fall back to it when needs be.
BUT, if she is a woman with plan B, we will sure have a formula of contributing to the expenses of the home.

For a moment there I thought you said what should a woman do with her EAR RINGS.

Consultant:

For a moment there I thought you said what should a woman do with her EAR RINGS.

so now that you know, what shd a woman do with her earnings?

so now that you know, what shd a woman do with her earnings?

Oh, please don't get me started. Look at my old posts. In marriage, I don't believe there is a man's earnings and a woman's earnings. A family has (or should have) one purse. Chikena!

Consultant:

Oh, please don't get me started. Look at my old posts. In marriage, I don't believe there is a man's earnings and a woman's earnings. A family has (or should have) one purse. Chikena!

In some cases, it is not that easy, so in such cases, what should happen?