skarlett:



Big aunty, mind ur fvcking business

Ray360:

You are very silly for attacking the OP in such misdemeanour, This is how juveniles behave when they start having boyfriends, the "big girl" mentality erodes civility and sense of respect!

Ray360:
Good topic! I am gobsmacked at the echelon of moral decay in this present age. Those bashing the OP are very inane ! A teenager is not ripe for any serious relationship. A kid at that age should be fully into her books and how to achieve set academic goals! what's a sixteen-year old infant doing with a boyfriend? Is her heart strong enough to contain the rigmaroles that come with such commitment? [s]when I was 18, I had no phone, let alone a girlfriend. I was brazened with electrifying zest to make excellent grades in my SSCE. I had a very moral and sound upbringing which made my parents frown at such lifestyle at that age i was.[/s]
Civilization is not a leverage to champion ills that that do not bode well for the future of the budding teenage folk. There is time for everything!

cutieberie1:


Hehehe

RexKexMilann:
Irrelevant sh*t!

What right do you have to call another person's opinion "inane"?

& why are you using concentrated grammars like this was an essay competition? Who are you trying to please? A**hole!

RexKexMilann:
OP, the fact that you created this thread makes you not only a kid But it also makes you seem stupiid & senseless & Silly, amongst other things.

sinaj:
16/17 is a blown teen nd shud be able to handle a healthy relationship


It's not about the age buh maturity!

teechudleyy:
In the old days, in all the histories I have heard and read... And most likely our great grandmothers started having babies at 16, 17, 18. There were less divorce cases then.
If we put aside moral depravity and the need to experience, young love is the purest love. Its not about what you stand to gain, its not even about sex... Its not about being ripe for marriage or if ages wife material. It is not presumptuous or bothered about frustrating things like house rent or riae in fuel price. Contrary to common belief, a teenager is well aware of love and even more capable of responding properly because of the abundance of hormones. The only problem is that the maturity to handle certain sensitive issues is not there.
Honestly speaking... If we all could love like teenagers and if teenagers could reason with more maturity, the world would be a better place.

teechudleyy:
In the old days, in all the histories I have heard and read... And most likely our great grandmothers started having babies at 16, 17, 18. There were less divorce cases then.
If we put aside moral depravity and the need to experience, young love is the purest love. Its not about what you stand to gain, its not even about sex... Its not about being ripe for marriage or if ages wife material. It is not presumptuous or bothered about frustrating things like house rent or riae in fuel price. Contrary to common belief, a teenager is well aware of love and even more capable of responding properly because of the abundance of hormones. The only problem is that the maturity to handle certain sensitive issues is not there.
Honestly speaking... If we all could love like teenagers and if teenagers could reason with more maturity, the world would be a better place.

Estharfabian:
What's the difference between You And a 16-Yr Old?

sinequanon:


In the old days, things were more hush hush and there was more shame associated with divorce, etc. It is a pretence to say that our great grandparents were more moral. They just covered things up more.

As for maturity, it is gained with experience, experience of dating. It doesn't matter if you start at sixteen or twenty-five, you will lack maturity in relationships. That knowledge of the opposite sex has to be learned.

A twenty-five-year-old may have a better context in which to frame a relationship, but they are starting LATE.

joseph1832:
Hmm, but we don't leave in the medieval era any more. This is the modern era. These teenagers you speak of aren't even aware what true love really entails. All they see are the glits and glamor, particularly the material things...

Like I once said I my diary, true love is selfless and not selfish. I was once asked how can one demonstrate true love, I simply said anybody willing to take a bullet for someone is a clear example of what true love entails. It doesn't jump mean love directed to someone, but to life, to cherish and love it in its entirety.

sinequanon:


In the old days, things were more hush hush and there was more shame associated with divorce, etc. It is a pretence to say that our great grandparents were more moral. They just covered things up more.

As for maturity, it is gained with experience, experience of dating. It doesn't matter if you start at sixteen or twenty-five, you will lack maturity in relationships. That knowledge of the opposite sex has to be learned.

A twenty-five-year-old may have a better context in which to frame a relationship, but they are starting LATE.

Ray360:
Good topic! I am gobsmacked at the echelon of moral decay in this present age. Those bashing the OP are very inane ! A teenager is not ripe for any serious relationship. A kid at that age should be fully into her books and how to achieve set academic goals! what's a sixteen-year old infant doing with a boyfriend? Is her heart strong enough to contain the rigmaroles that come with such commitment? when I was 18, I had no phone, let alone a girlfriend. I was brazened with electrifying zest to make excellent grades in my SSCE. I had a very moral and sound upbringing which made my parents frown at such lifestyle at that age i was.
Civilization is not a leverage to champion ills that that do not bode well for the future of the budding teenage folk. There is time for everything!

teechudleyy:
you under estimate young love. Teenagers know what love is. If you leave them be... They will make it work. But all these shameless older people spoil them rotten. That is the problem. Do you know how many years I avoided passing a particular street because of one 26 year old guy? I was only 16.

Ray360:
Good topic! I am gobsmacked at the echelon of moral decay in this present age. Those bashing the OP are very inane ! A teenager is not ripe for any serious relationship. A kid at that age should be fully into her books and how to achieve set academic goals! what's a sixteen-year old infant doing with a boyfriend? Is her heart strong enough to contain the rigmaroles that come with such commitment? when I was 18, I had no phone, let alone a girlfriend. I was brazened with electrifying zest to make excellent grades in my SSCE. I had a very moral and sound upbringing which made my parents frown at such lifestyle at that age i was.
Civilization is not a leverage to champion ills that that do not bode well for the future of the budding teenage folk. There is time for everything!

joseph1832:
Young love? I call it puppy love. LOL. Please do remember that the concept of love doesn't only involve dealing in relationships.

Its something very deep that even the human intellect can't comprehend. Am curious to know how old you are now?

teechudleyy:

Love is as simple as it is complex. And in as much as we think we know it all... We know nothing about love.

teechudleyy:
love has no timing. Its not a race. If its love we are talking about...

teechudleyy:

You are right. Our grandparents were super hush hush. And pretended asif they didn't memorize all d songs of Solomon.
You are also right divorce then was unheard of therefore... Many people lived unequally yoked in misery.
But as per relationship maturity? In my own opinion... You don't learn maturity in relationships by dating many people. A lady who's dated 50men is considered a slut and not a well learned mate. We are all different from one another. Therefore... Each relationship presents a new learning process. And whatever you have learnt from one rel cannot be used to handle the next. It could even result to problems.
All this said, I believe maturity is not the number of birthdays you have celebrated but the number of problems been able to overcome.
Once again... There is no such this as relationship maturity. In terms of dealing with the opposite sex, What we have is human relations... And that can easily be learnt as we grow in life.
Once again... I'm in full support of young love... If there's no moral depravity involved.

sinequanon:


We are talking about relationships, and, if nothing else, there is a biological clock.



I think that experience is gained by dating an appropriate number of people. We do not automatically know with whom we may be compatible. We date. We find out about our partners and, more importantly, ourselves. And we mature if we learn from our mistakes and do not repeat them.

Some people (usually men) who are relatively mature in years even date teenagers because they didn't go through the process at the appropriate age.

I actually disagree that we can reduce sexual/romantic relationships simply to human relationships. Forgive the pun, but learning about the opposite sex requires hands-on experience. It is when people lose the purpose behind it, and turn it into a recreation, that the problems abound.

joseph1832:
A whole lot!!!.

LoL! gist me!


I'm literally dying to know!

Estharfabian:
LoL! gist me!


I'm literally dying to know!

teechudleyy:
Okay... Now that there's a separation... You are telling me this isn't about love but about relationships... I want to know why teenagers get into relationships. And since u talk about biological clock... I guess ur talking about marriage therefore... Teenagers get into relationships to get enough training that will make them well prepared for marriage... Nice. So do you believe in using past experiences to deal with people we meet? Or in meeting people and getting to know them and then learning to deal with them in their own way regardless of past experiences...
I'm asking this because I don't know how many teenage relationships end in marriage... Because the risks of that biological clock you mentioned is only mitigated by marriage right?

teechudleyy:
I am completely in support of what u said about turning it into a recreation. That's where I have a problem.

teechudleyy:
Older men dating teenagers because they want the experience? Really? How can you live through someone else? Can an older lady date a teenage boy because she wasn't opportuned to do such?

teechudleyy:
After all that's said though. I still say... Young people should date for all the right reasons. In my opinion... Love is the only reason to honestly keep a relationship.

Booyakasha:


Warped thinking....
You must be doing well now using your phone to access the Internet... backward human being..!

joseph1832:
I'm afraid its gonna cost you. And since you replied me with a smiley, I take it you like me. So, wanna hear what it'll cost you?

LoL!


get over yourself Mister! I like everyone!

Uh...Of course! what'd it cost me! Name your price!

teechudleyy:
if you choose to reply me, please talk as if we were just on the street chatting over a lump of boli and a handful of groundnuts... No gobsmackking pls.
Pls have you ever been a teenager? Troubled by raging hormones you don't really understand, feeling like you know everything in the world and you can handle anything. Not because you lacked moral upbringing nor parental guidance but because you are simply young. Teenagers don't need criticism... But an open mind to set them straight while seeing things in der point of view.

Estharfabian:
LoL!

get over yourself Mister! I like everyone!
Uh...Of course! what'd it cost me! Name your price!

PunterTim:
A picture of your bum would be enough!

Estharfabian: