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Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by ednut1(m): 12:29am On Feb 28, 2016 |
i will make sure i train my daughter well. so she wont embark on craps like dis. when he hammers do u think he will send u |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 12:33am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Juliusdaughter:Sweetheart I understand your matter. Its obvious u've not had much experience abt relationships especially bcus u said he's been ur only guy since predegree. But based on guys' nature, ppl are wondering how u don't knw he might have been spending ur money or part of ur money on other gals. Then u sound so sure that he'll marry you, he'll get a job blabla. What makes u think he's not having an affair already where he's serving? And abt job, its not an automatic thing in naija. Lol, music is not job and when he bcomes a musician, many pantless girls will hover around him and all ur sacrifices would be a loss Well its still good if u wanna help him, it only shows u have a kind heart. But don't put your mind on him. 1st relationships don't usually work, they're just to build up experiences like u're gaining now. I strongly believe he has other girls. And music isn't a strong future. Getting a good govt work that can put food on d table for the family is best in nigeria. Hope I've helped you a little. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 7:31am On Feb 28, 2016 |
missyadorable:Many ladies did what she is doing now and they are now singing "praise the Lord" and some other 'wise' ladies like you are envying them. In as much as we all agree she should exercise restraint, your being so sure that every 'Naija man' is a brat is wrong. Your believing a lady should never help her man will make you selfish; so selfish you'll hardly get into any man's heart. Moderation is the rule of life. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 7:37am On Feb 28, 2016 |
ednut1:ednut1, you too wicked na! You mean they no train am wella? I think she's obviously street unwise. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by ednut1(m): 7:45am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Freelanswer:dem no train am well na. e be like say make babe dey spons wizkid, olamide nd co. when dem hammer na with reckless abandon dem go dey nk about na 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 8:33am On Feb 28, 2016 |
alot of musicians started on the street before they came to limelight. helping your bf to pursue his dream is no big deal. jst like u are doing, u can advice him not to put all his eggs in a single basket should incase music Dd not work out. dnt gv up on him yet but dnt do in d detriment of ur own ambition to avoid story tht can later touch the heart. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Sunnypar(m): 8:45am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Don't o! You will regret it. It just happened last week here o. He is a man, he has sisters, uncles and aunties let them help him. Or he should do the proper introduction otherwise OYO..... This is not a fiction, the girl is in the hospital after 4 years offinancially supportinga her boyfriend. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Sunnypar(m): 8:48am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Freelanswer:Bros! I have come to realise on Nairaland that they hate the truth but love lies. I once adviced a young lady not to do same thing but today, she is regretting her actions. Different stroke for different folks. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 11:37am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Sunnypar:O yes, you're very right. I'm only against that lady trying to give the impression that ladies can only be pests on men... and should never help and also her believe that all 'Naija men' would behave alike. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 11:41am On Feb 28, 2016 |
Sunnypar:I don't know why you guys are still wasting your time on this girl. From her comments above, it is clear she has made up her mind. Let's live her to acquire experiences of her own. Even if those experiences will be bitter, that's the only way I believe she can learn. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by NemzySeries(m): 1:40pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
young lady, itz not bad to aid ur bf or any1 but let it b a fruitful project so dat u dunt end up as jst a stepping to hiz glory & den u end up bin sidelined.....ur man shd engage into sumfin else by d side & not jst relax bkos he feels hiz got a financial backup frm ur ends.......remember hiz ur bf & not yet ur husband & even if hiz ur husband itz not & xcuse to lavish hard earned money in d name of music......dere are lots of pple wit rich parents & support yet deir song no blow Õoº°˚ ˚°ºoo........ |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by ibnzubair(m): 2:29pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
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Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
falconey: There is some truth to this. But, why is it an issue the other way round tho? Ie: girl helps boy. I agree that she should not be assisting him if it is something she is not comfortable with; because she will resent him at some point for it. And, I imagine the guy isn't all thrilled that she is the one funding his career aspiration now. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 5:40pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Juliusdaughter: Would you be cool with yourself if after all this support he marries another woman? Will you feel used and abandoned or great with an outcome of him marrying another woman after all your investments. There is nothing wrong helping him as you truly believe in him just don't lie to yourself and if you are no longer comfortable it's ok to stop just as he does not owe you marriage because you chose to invest in his dream, you don't owe him your money unless you draw up a business arrangement where you own some shares in the business you are investing into this way you don't get used and you are clear on what is what. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 6:01pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Give Conscientiously- strictly based on what you can give without expecting return. Kindness is a virtue, but servitude is an unpronounced sin. I'm totally against those that advised you to stop giving him further financial assistance. However, I hate to see anyone being subjected to emotional abuse through manipulation all in the name of relationship of whatsoever. If I were you, I'd rather take timeout to find out whether your supposed boyfriend is intentionally exploiting your fragile emotion through act of manipulation all in the name of been in a relationship with you, or he's genuinely in need your help. I supposed you know how to find out about this. In summary, I hold the opinion that any intimate relationship that will necessitate one to apply the "sixth sense" to relate with another is not healthy and should never be allowed to continue. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by missyadorable(f): 6:14pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Freelanswer: Lol....Marriage is good.If I wasn't married now,this your rantings would have been painful...but to God be the glory,with my selfishness,i got into a man's heart and he did the needful instead of looking up to me for financial support.... Compare the percentage of ladies who spent money on their guys and got married to the ones who were dumped..carry out a study and gimme the feedback! Naija men are crafty! When God said "Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove",He was referring to how ladies should relate with Naija men! |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by DNameisOla(f): 9:11pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
O.P, receive sense in Jesus Name, b4 its too late. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Leriebloom(f): 9:28pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Awww. What love can do.Its cool that you are supporting him but there is always a limit to everything. Never dedicate everything you have to a guy who isn't your husband because when he dumps you it would hurt like b!tch. Just be careful, advice him to get a partime job, that would help too. He wouldn't have to be running to you everytime when he needs money. Btw. I am seeing the way you defend this guy, you must rly love him. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
. Love has turned dis gal stupid... How can u give such amount of money to a guy u aren't even married to... U're such a big fool.. . Madam shine ur eyes well...stop thinking with ur emotions... Ur bf sef nor get shame... He dey ask for money from he gf... shame suppose catch am.... Boyfriend my foot... mtcheew.... May God give u sense... Amen |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by xtervaganza(m): 2:50pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Ighoga898:what's makes your bullcrap assertion the truth? You brought something out of your ass and you're calling the truth? Fxck off |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by PrinceAlex001(m): 3:36pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
I hardly comment on threads but this scenario is very similar to few of my friends which one of them is a very very popular musician. But before i proceed, i will need to ask you few questions: 1. Do you believe and trust him? 2. Do you believe in his talent and dreams? 3. Does he appreciate every of your kind gestures? 4. Are you supporting him based on what you will gain when he finally blows or you are just doing it out of sheer cheerfulness and love? Think about this.... If you really really love him, keep giving your support but use your head; if he needs 50k, ask him how much he has gotten then tell him you can support him with a fraction of the needed principal. Act lady a good lady but think like a player. #My2Kobo |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by MostSoughtAfte(f): 12:31pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
missyadorable: God bless u for this comment...u make sense die... |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 12:36pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
Don't do it if you will later regret. Do it cos yo happy doing it. Shikena! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 4:54pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
Juliusdaughter:seriously: o |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by kriss27(m): 8:05pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
[quote author=Laveda post=43316227] Your responses... You sound like you don't even need the advice more like you ready to spend more!!! You are not nice, womam! But if it is the other way round, it will oksy abi? Who bought that phone for you |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by kriss27(m): 8:08pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Saddist:U are indeed a saddist |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by kriss27(m): 8:11pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Leriebloom:But is good for for guys to spend millions on girls they are not married to |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by oladayo63(m): 9:27pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Conceptualise it as a risk game. Calculate the risk. Are you willing to bear the risk of him disappointing you by never paying up or leaving you? Thinking that you won't need your money in 2 years is wrong. Thinking or rather forcing your mind to believe that he will blow within a time limit to pay you up is also wrong. It's not that his success is a guarantee and you don't know what tomorow holds. If you truely believe in him (I'm not saying if you love him)... If you truely believe in him, you can invest in him. You should see your investment as playing your part in putting him on his career path. If he rises to stardom and/or pays up, that's a bonus for you. Keep sponsoring him because you believe in him career wise, not because you love him or he will come back to marry you. Evaluate the risk and make your decision. If it's possible, you can bind him to a legal agreement regards the loan. Again, don't sponsor him with the hope that he is coming back to marry you. Find out if he isn't seeing anyone else; humans shouldn't be trusted. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 11:05pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
Juliusdaughter:you are a dumb pickme chick with poor thinking skills. I hope he signed an IOU or u have proof he borrowd the money for his 'career'. oya receive sense IJN.. Every spirit of meeting broke men, of build a bum, or struggle love, depart from this OP IJN. |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by Nobody: 11:51pm On Dec 08, 2018 |
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Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by TOMSY(f): 12:03am On Dec 09, 2018 |
Juliusdaughter:OAU Great Ife |
Re: Should I Continue To Sponsor My Boyfriend Financially?? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 5:56am On Dec 09, 2018 |
We have a lot in common..respond I will send my number to talk |
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