Trust is the bedrock of any relationship including marriage. If there is no trust the relationship will finally fail. Do you trust her again? Surely you need to forgive her and Charles you have no choice in that since that is what God commands. But what you do have a choice in if you can truthfully continue with the wedding. Note that marriage is a life time contract which should not be done out of pity or trying to save face because once it is contracted divorce is not an option.

misspicy:

Go to bed,you will catch me in your dreams

u and who is doing doing dreams thing, nah, that's a slow and boring way jare, na real life catching, giving and receiving i dey like ...

Jadekitana:


Op I think I know this Charles o, if i'm not mistaken! Lives around ekewan road, used to have a friend in Uniben. That dude is a chronic womaniser, he could snatch anybody he wants. Very very handsome guy! Thank God I didn't fall for his gentlemanly skills,discovered he has been kpanching my best friend since 1900bc

Alays love and like your comments.

krixtal:
Haba, whats the use of best man if he cant share the cake?

ur evil

skywalker240:
first of all ,
nice novel,..oya straigth to mattaz at hand,
Will u still marry an unfaithfull partner?

I am nt justifying this lady's act o, but what if it were the man that had sex with the lady's chief bride maid especially during the so called bachelor's eve, when its an uportunity for the 'groom to be' to mess arround.

bernardette:
I am nt justifying this lady's act o, but what if it were the man that had sex with the lady's chief bride maid especially during the so called bachelor's eve, when its an uportunity for the 'groom to be' to mess arround.

Lady, i never said you were,..
Now your question just said it.

Do you want to know my honest reply to the question u asked?

alberson:
.I Caught My Best Friend And Best Man With My Wife Two Weeks To Our Wedding.

I walked into the room and met my best man making love to my wife
I met Charles on campus. I was in my first year in the university. I had just resumed and was trying to grapple with the demand of university life. One morning I had gone to the cafeteria. While paying for my food, I ran into a young handsome looking guy and we ended striking an acquaintance.
I later found out that we are both in the same department. From then we became friends. In the second year, we ended up being roommates. Our friendship grew from there. We were like brothers. We helped one another in our studies. We looked out for one another. In fact many people on campus thought we were brothers. Charles was a great guy. He was handsome tall and good looking. In fact in our third year on campus, he entered the Mr. Campus contest and won.
That made him become very popular. He was especially popular with the girls. They loved. In fact the attention was so much at a time that he lost focus and his grades suffered.
There were just too many babes jostling for his attention. In our fourth year, Charles had become very used to the attention that it meant nothing to him again. Our association blossomed.
As his fame grew, I became his manager when he attended shows. He also worked as the Master of Ceremony at school events. I was the calmer guy. I made sure I kept my head so I could put my best friend in check. At last we graduated and our parents, who had become friends because of our association, came to celebrate with us. When we left school, we continued our friendship.
We got jobs in two blue chip companies. We also continue to date our campus sweet hearts. Charles and I met our future partners at a departmental event on campus in our second year in the university.
They were both in another department. But we had continued the relationship even when Charles derailed and become way ward. I convinced his girlfriend not to give up on him. Eventually we all graduated and our relationship continued. After about two years of working I proposed to my fiancee. I did not want to waste any more time. But something bad happened to Charles relationship with Adaeze, She had caught him again cheating and had decided to call it quits despite all my pleading. Charles was left to spend more time in my place as he complained of boredom. Adaeze doesn’t come to keep him company again. She had left the relationship for good. I was sorry for my friend. But how many times will I keep interceding on his behalf? Charles now practically was living with me. He also became close to my woman. Gradually I discovered they were both unusually close. When I am at work, they will call me they went out together as Charles had been on leave from work. I noticed their relationship became closer.
But I still thought nothing of it. Many times, I my wife to be will stay glued to her phone chatting. I never thought nothing of it as she could be chatting with her sister s and friends. As the days turned into months, we began the planning for my wedding. Naturally, Charles became the choice for my best man. I had pacified my brother who returned from the United States that I and Charles had gone way back since our campus days. The day of the wedding was set. I was also so busy that I did not notice the change in my fianceé body language. Every time I asked for romance, she was always reluctant and unresponsive. I had thought then that she was reserving her body until we get married. One day, instead of calling my name, she mentioned Charles. Well, I did not get angry because I and Charles are like blood brothers.
About two weeks to our wedding, I had gone to the office to retrieve my computer as I had been granted leave to prepared for the weeding. Charles was home and busy with preparations as usual. I returned home an hour short of when I told my fiancée I would returned.
I parked the car outside our gate as someone had already taken my parking space.I walked the distance to the house. The entire place was silent. I called out but no one answered. I climbed the staircase, and as I made to enter my room, I heard an unusual noise from the guest room. I went to the door and listen.
The noise was a moan of pleasure from an excited lady whose voice sounded like my wife. Why they refused to lock the door is what I can still not decipher. But according to the saying, every day for the thief, one day for the owner.
I pushed open the door and met my best friend, my best man for my wedding on top of my wife. They were both Unclad as they made love furiously. I shouted Charles name and became unconscious. I later found myself in the hospital. My cheating wife was at my bed side but Charles was nowhere in to be found.
He had packed all his things and absconded. I cried profusely as I looked at my wife. When my parents and sisters came into the hospital, I could not reveal to them what brought me to the hospital. I only lied to them that I was stressed out because of the wedding preparations. When they asked for Charles, I could not give any sufficient explanation and I could not tell them that he had been sleeping with my wife to be behind me. I was discharged from the hospital and I am back home.
My fiancée has gone back to her parents place and Charles is still missing. I was later told by his brother that he had travelled finally to Canada and had apologise for the short notice. I know Charles had escaped being confronted with his guilt. But I know he can run but not hide. My fiancée has been pleading that it was the devils work. She said she did not know the charm Charles used for her.
She has refused to tell me how long Charles has been sleeping with her though she swore the time I caught them was the first. How do I believe her? The wedding in two in two weeks and I still do not know what to do. Do I tell my family and cancel the wedding or should I forgive my wife to be.
This is the dilemma I have found myself. I love my wife to be but how can I live with the thought of seeing my best friend Unclad on top of my wife? Should I cancel the marriage and look for another woman or should I accept her apology?
matured comments please ..

You guys keep friends.

Friends have backstabbed me severally, toasted my Exes severally, duped me that i dont have a friend. I only keep business associates. Its all about money.

Recently, i saw a married friend of mine toasting my fiancee. I slammed him with alacrity. I see most men as animals unless he can prove himself otherwise.

Sorry.

pcguru1:
A broken heart relationship is better than a broken marriage. Luckily for you it happened now, only you knows what action to take, then again this is a pseudo-option there's only one option to make anyway. All the best if you decide to marry , we will keep this thread alive for future issues if you decide to go ahead with the wedding. Take care


To be honest a large part of me doesn't believe your story but that's my opinion

He sounds naive. It may be a very true story..

udumosam23:


Until we begin to see marriage as the kind of relationship Christ has with the church, we may never make anything out of it.

Some people when they say the word "love" they don't grasp its whole meaning. Love is all encompassing, it requires you to forgive and take responsibility for your partner.

For instance, do you know how often we sin against God? How often He has caught us pants down in romance with the world and with sin. Yet he never gives up on us, He takes responsibility for our iniquities.

Why can't we do same to our spouse. When you commit yourself to love someone, it is more of a promise than affection. So, as long as Christ continue to forgive the church and continue in this marriage b/w Christ and the church, I'll continue to forgive my wife. Except there becomes a moment Christ divorce the church.


So I believe he can forgive her, even though he may not forget, he can trust God in humility to perfect his marriage.

My brother I'm a realist! The affected person needs to understand what he is going to face if he eventually goes ahead with the wedding. The 2 people he trusted were the ones that hurt him and that scene were they were caught in the act will forever be in his memory and you suggest he forgives immediately and say "I DO" on the altar. Haba relate with this psychologically... Don't get me wrong , I love God! I love his words! Truth must be told. Not all of us can tolerate things like that. If the trust it's not there or will be shaky why then should one go ahead. Wisdom is very important and needed in his situation. [color=#000099][/color]

skywalker240:

Lady, i never said you were,..
Now your question just said it.

Do you want to know my honest reply to the question u asked?

what's ur reply?

skywalker240:

Lady, i never said you were,..
Now your question just said it.

Do you want to know my honest reply to the question u asked?

what I mean is that, such issue shhld be treated equally, irrespective ofgender, a man that womanizes and a woman that sleeps arround, all need to face it..instead, the society ll tell u to forgive ur man, and take him back, infact, bcome a prostitute on the bed, jst to satisfy a womanizer u call your man, so tyhat he won't look elsewhere..but for a woman, ...she ll rather be condemned, if possible, she may be stoned, as ppl do in the olden days...

Honestly u better let her go.d truth is God might be showing u now so u wnt make dis mistake.also pray about it.don't b scared to let go,there is a purpose for everything that happens.u will kip remembering what she did even after d wedding, touching ha might even b a problem.don't put urself in bondage.let it go.

alberson:
.I Caught My Best Friend And Best Man With My Wife Two Weeks To Our Wedding.

I walked into the room and met my best man making love to my wife
I met Charles on campus. I was in my first year in the university. I had just resumed and was trying to grapple with the demand of university life. One morning I had gone to the cafeteria. While paying for my food, I ran into a young handsome looking guy and we ended striking an acquaintance.
I later found out that we are both in the same department. From then we became friends. In the second year, we ended up being roommates. Our friendship grew from there. We were like brothers. We helped one another in our studies. We looked out for one another. In fact many people on campus thought we were brothers. Charles was a great guy. He was handsome tall and good looking. In fact in our third year on campus, he entered the Mr. Campus contest and won.
That made him become very popular. He was especially popular with the girls. They loved. In fact the attention was so much at a time that he lost focus and his grades suffered.
There were just too many babes jostling for his attention. In our fourth year, Charles had become very used to the attention that it meant nothing to him again. Our association blossomed.
As his fame grew, I became his manager when he attended shows. He also worked as the Master of Ceremony at school events. I was the calmer guy. I made sure I kept my head so I could put my best friend in check. At last we graduated and our parents, who had become friends because of our association, came to celebrate with us. When we left school, we continued our friendship.
We got jobs in two blue chip companies. We also continue to date our campus sweet hearts. Charles and I met our future partners at a departmental event on campus in our second year in the university.
They were both in another department. But we had continued the relationship even when Charles derailed and become way ward. I convinced his girlfriend not to give up on him. Eventually we all graduated and our relationship continued. After about two years of working I proposed to my fiancee. I did not want to waste any more time. But something bad happened to Charles relationship with Adaeze, She had caught him again cheating and had decided to call it quits despite all my pleading. Charles was left to spend more time in my place as he complained of boredom. Adaeze doesn’t come to keep him company again. She had left the relationship for good. I was sorry for my friend. But how many times will I keep interceding on his behalf? Charles now practically was living with me. He also became close to my woman. Gradually I discovered they were both unusually close. When I am at work, they will call me they went out together as Charles had been on leave from work. I noticed their relationship became closer.
But I still thought nothing of it. Many times, I my wife to be will stay glued to her phone chatting. I never thought nothing of it as she could be chatting with her sister s and friends. As the days turned into months, we began the planning for my wedding. Naturally, Charles became the choice for my best man. I had pacified my brother who returned from the United States that I and Charles had gone way back since our campus days. The day of the wedding was set. I was also so busy that I did not notice the change in my fianceé body language. Every time I asked for romance, she was always reluctant and unresponsive. I had thought then that she was reserving her body until we get married. One day, instead of calling my name, she mentioned Charles. Well, I did not get angry because I and Charles are like blood brothers.
About two weeks to our wedding, I had gone to the office to retrieve my computer as I had been granted leave to prepared for the weeding. Charles was home and busy with preparations as usual. I returned home an hour short of when I told my fiancée I would returned.
I parked the car outside our gate as someone had already taken my parking space.I walked the distance to the house. The entire place was silent. I called out but no one answered. I climbed the staircase, and as I made to enter my room, I heard an unusual noise from the guest room. I went to the door and listen.
The noise was a moan of pleasure from an excited lady whose voice sounded like my wife. Why they refused to lock the door is what I can still not decipher. But according to the saying, every day for the thief, one day for the owner.
I pushed open the door and met my best friend, my best man for my wedding on top of my wife. They were both Unclad as they made love furiously. I shouted Charles name and became unconscious. I later found myself in the hospital. My cheating wife was at my bed side but Charles was nowhere in to be found.
He had packed all his things and absconded. I cried profusely as I looked at my wife. When my parents and sisters came into the hospital, I could not reveal to them what brought me to the hospital. I only lied to them that I was stressed out because of the wedding preparations. When they asked for Charles, I could not give any sufficient explanation and I could not tell them that he had been sleeping with my wife to be behind me. I was discharged from the hospital and I am back home.
My fiancée has gone back to her parents place and Charles is still missing. I was later told by his brother that he had travelled finally to Canada and had apologise for the short notice. I know Charles had escaped being confronted with his guilt. But I know he can run but not hide. My fiancée has been pleading that it was the devils work. She said she did not know the charm Charles used for her.
She has refused to tell me how long Charles has been sleeping with her though she swore the time I caught them was the first. How do I believe her? The wedding in two in two weeks and I still do not know what to do. Do I tell my family and cancel the wedding or should I forgive my wife to be.
This is the dilemma I have found myself. I love my wife to be but how can I live with the thought of seeing my best friend Unclad on top of my wife? Should I cancel the marriage and look for another woman or should I accept her apology?
matured comments please ..

so what was your final resolution?

alberson:
.I Caught My Best Friend And Best Man With My Wife Two Weeks To Our Wedding.

I walked into the room and met my best man making love to my wife
I met Charles on campus. I was in my first year in the university. I had just resumed and was trying to grapple with the demand of university life. One morning I had gone to the cafeteria. While paying for my food, I ran into a young handsome looking guy and we ended striking an acquaintance.
I later found out that we are both in the same department. From then we became friends. In the second year, we ended up being roommates. Our friendship grew from there. We were like brothers. We helped one another in our studies. We looked out for one another. In fact many people on campus thought we were brothers. Charles was a great guy. He was handsome tall and good looking. In fact in our third year on campus, he entered the Mr. Campus contest and won.
That made him become very popular. He was especially popular with the girls. They loved. In fact the attention was so much at a time that he lost focus and his grades suffered.
There were just too many babes jostling for his attention. In our fourth year, Charles had become very used to the attention that it meant nothing to him again. Our association blossomed.
As his fame grew, I became his manager when he attended shows. He also worked as the Master of Ceremony at school events. I was the calmer guy. I made sure I kept my head so I could put my best friend in check. At last we graduated and our parents, who had become friends because of our association, came to celebrate with us. When we left school, we continued our friendship.
We got jobs in two blue chip companies. We also continue to date our campus sweet hearts. Charles and I met our future partners at a departmental event on campus in our second year in the university.
They were both in another department. But we had continued the relationship even when Charles derailed and become way ward. I convinced his girlfriend not to give up on him. Eventually we all graduated and our relationship continued. After about two years of working I proposed to my fiancee. I did not want to waste any more time. But something bad happened to Charles relationship with Adaeze, She had caught him again cheating and had decided to call it quits despite all my pleading. Charles was left to spend more time in my place as he complained of boredom. Adaeze doesn’t come to keep him company again. She had left the relationship for good. I was sorry for my friend. But how many times will I keep interceding on his behalf? Charles now practically was living with me. He also became close to my woman. Gradually I discovered they were both unusually close. When I am at work, they will call me they went out together as Charles had been on leave from work. I noticed their relationship became closer.
But I still thought nothing of it. Many times, I my wife to be will stay glued to her phone chatting. I never thought nothing of it as she could be chatting with her sister s and friends. As the days turned into months, we began the planning for my wedding. Naturally, Charles became the choice for my best man. I had pacified my brother who returned from the United States that I and Charles had gone way back since our campus days. The day of the wedding was set. I was also so busy that I did not notice the change in my fianceé body language. Every time I asked for romance, she was always reluctant and unresponsive. I had thought then that she was reserving her body until we get married. One day, instead of calling my name, she mentioned Charles. Well, I did not get angry because I and Charles are like blood brothers.
About two weeks to our wedding, I had gone to the office to retrieve my computer as I had been granted leave to prepared for the weeding. Charles was home and busy with preparations as usual. I returned home an hour short of when I told my fiancée I would returned.
I parked the car outside our gate as someone had already taken my parking space.I walked the distance to the house. The entire place was silent. I called out but no one answered. I climbed the staircase, and as I made to enter my room, I heard an unusual noise from the guest room. I went to the door and listen.
The noise was a moan of pleasure from an excited lady whose voice sounded like my wife. Why they refused to lock the door is what I can still not decipher. But according to the saying, every day for the thief, one day for the owner.
I pushed open the door and met my best friend, my best man for my wedding on top of my wife. They were both Unclad as they made love furiously. I shouted Charles name and became unconscious. I later found myself in the hospital. My cheating wife was at my bed side but Charles was nowhere in to be found.
He had packed all his things and absconded. I cried profusely as I looked at my wife. When my parents and sisters came into the hospital, I could not reveal to them what brought me to the hospital. I only lied to them that I was stressed out because of the wedding preparations. When they asked for Charles, I could not give any sufficient explanation and I could not tell them that he had been sleeping with my wife to be behind me. I was discharged from the hospital and I am back home.
My fiancée has gone back to her parents place and Charles is still missing. I was later told by his brother that he had travelled finally to Canada and had apologise for the short notice. I know Charles had escaped being confronted with his guilt. But I know he can run but not hide. My fiancée has been pleading that it was the devils work. She said she did not know the charm Charles used for her.
She has refused to tell me how long Charles has been sleeping with her though she swore the time I caught them was the first. How do I believe her? The wedding in two in two weeks and I still do not know what to do. Do I tell my family and cancel the wedding or should I forgive my wife to be.
This is the dilemma I have found myself. I love my wife to be but how can I live with the thought of seeing my best friend Unclad on top of my wife? Should I cancel the marriage and look for another woman or should I accept her apology?
matured comments please ..

Charles didn't betray you because of hatred, but it was in his nature to be wayward. You already disclosed he is notorious for cheating. You also disclosed that he lost his girl he has been dating for years, his loss left a vacancy in his heart. He had to fill to void with the nearest female, which happened to be your girl. Not that he has been eyeing her since before he came to live in your house,no! What do you expect from the opposite sex living in the same house? He fled because of guilt. How about some guys that would try to fight for four girl with you or try to turn her against you. Forgive your BROTHER...

As for bae, are you ready to lose what you built several years ago? What if you end up with someone worse?you think the grass is greener else where? Has she being doing this or this is het first? Your friend as you describe is a guy after all ladies heart, that was why she succumbed. Do you think she will go chasing over him in canada?



I know the story of a guy who was 18, his bae 16.he was cheating but loved her . she left him. She started dating another guy, her ex came begging but she said no. He was so broken that he felt ill. This girl with her new guy after some months realised they werent compatible, they broke up and she went back to her ex. Her ex refused, claiming he had lost hope in their relationship. The both dated several other people, but she realised that she never found someone like him, and he never found someone like her. She is 67 and not married..the guy died recently of heartattack -because of she rejected him. Whilst she keeps on regretting what she did...she is single still

@alberson push her out of your life although it's late but I hope yu didn't push through with the wedding plus that beautiful girl on the picture who is she?

You don't need a soothsayer to tell you that they've been having an affair for so long. You were with her and she mentioned your bestie's name, now dts where my red card starts seeping in. If she's trying to abstain from sex cos she wants the sexual excitement to be there after the wedding, she would have told you. Finally, you catch her red handed and you're asking for advice, you better leave her. I wonder how many times you'll keep fainting each time you find out she's cheating, becos it's faint you come to this world to faint. Pls leave her cheating soul alone, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Wallade:
Hmmmm. I think you should call off the wedding or delay it. You need to be sure that your wife loves you and she isn't in love with Charles

she's in love with Charles. her body language prior the incident explains it