Sixix:


I agree however I don't see why she can't bring a friend home. He could have been family and there are no evidence to suggest that they are involved.

The op should speak to her family about thisnthis. Nairaland is not a mediation centre

seaga:


Why introduce your other half as your cousin?

Sixix:


It could be a way to get back at him

I don't think she is cheating but she needs to stop. There are other subtle painful ways to make him pay

jrerico1:
am just angry with you. But there's no probs because you sound like a teenager, And still dont want to learn from an experienced woman

jrerico1:
I need to see you, and slap the hell out of you face. Nonsense. If he divorce her ain't there numerous women ready to take her place. Why is she not in her father's house?? Is her husband the first man that cheat, most men cheat soo she better remain in her father's house. The man in question is a weakling. Nonsense

jrerico1:
stup up.

oloyede252:
from your posts one can see you're not married..cos you dont have that wisdom a real woman should have.you are always angry,always insulting people.then one can blame you cos it seems you came from an abusive home..

johnson232:

my brother no need, she(Joy1706) is cursed already...

YelloweWest:

Big lie! Lagos where I have seen desoluttion of marriage and huge settlement for the wife.
The woman was married under the act!
I'm a lawyer and in Nigeria lagos always sets the pace in the legal system.
It all depends on what law in which the marriage was contracted.

johnson232:

stop ranting on here and go ask God why he created u inferior to man

when he mandated man to rule over your senseless soul, why didn't u stop him?

worthless thing...

uckennety:



Ok I kinda lyk ur pErson!i'll send u a mail now!or dz z my pin 2AFCC314

Toks2008:


I guess i have lost count on the number of times you have called me out using unprintable names.

I am forced to curse you but i dare you to use one more vulgar word on me and i will use the prophetic anointing on my life to place a curse on you...a curse that will plague you for the rest off your life.

You think you can leverage on the facelessness of an online social forum to curse at will.

I have been ignoring but dare me one more time and you will regret it for the rest of your life.

bebe2:


No u have it all wrong.

Let me be clear.

Only two things will make me bring a man friend to my matrimonial home.

MENTAL ILLNESS OR WITCHCRAFT both of which I don't have.

All the other punishment the woman dished out excluding starving the kids, I will happily dish out too.

Timbuktou:
Men are getting weaker, as a result women are getting bolder. Me, I don't understand the sort of liver that will make a man come into my home and my wife will introduce me as her cousin, in my house fa . Na police go end that matter finally. The guy himself will be stretchered out. I will buy him beer while digging his grave. The woman can forget about the marriage. She has shown she's ready for other men. So be it. I fùcked up, but I will not be dragged in the mud. So, because husband cheated children will suffer? Adasun, it is possible your wife has snapped. Take her to a psychiatrist for mental evaluation.

MrsKheiron:



Yeah sure, cos if it had been her that cheated he'd be needing advice, I'm sure he'd have divorced her a long time ago.
Stop the silly double standard.
I guess you've never been cheated on.

I hate when females like you try to act so diplomatic about another woman punishing her erring husband.

Joy1706:

Did he say he caught a man on top of her? On no grounds should a husband cheat, but he did, didn't he?
Why does a woman have to lose cos she's divorced. Sounds like these small NL boys have brainwashed u. Madam abeg I don't have energy this night to deliver u from low self esteem. Carry am dey go like that

Joy1706:

Slap me and watch me break ur head. Who do u think u are. slowpoke! If she divorce him, there are other fishes in d sea too. You are a weakling. Ur dick controls u and u call urself a man? Ur a boy, a weak boy for that matter

Timbuktou:


https://www.nairaland.com/825514/bigamy-no-longer-crime-lagos

uckennety:


Am a millionaire!!!!

Joy1706:

Hehehehehehe! Real woman eh! To a nigerian man, a real woman is one who is willing to tolerate all u guys crap without complaining. So I'm very proud to say I'm not a real woman. I have low tolerance for dunces. If abusive words will give u sense, y shouldn't I employ such means?
Why don't u men give urself that wisdom a real man should have and learn to honour ur vows

YelloweWest:

In naira?? Not good enough... at least if I'm the lawyer to your intending wife I'll advice her not to sign. Except the prenuptial agreement states that if you want to divorce her she gets - percent of your networth

But seriously, I won't advice even my brother to get a prenup no matter how rich he is.
Don't you intend to stay married for ever? Why do you need to know you can always divorce your wife anytime you please for another woman?
That will even make your wife not to be loyal to you.

Joy1706:

Hehehehhe! Thanks buh I'm not sure I like ur person judging 4rm ur comments on here. Hope its jst a wrong impression

tearoses:
Adasun

Please can you confirm;
You came back from work/out and you entered your living room and found a strange man in your living room.
Your wife turned and said to the man, lagbaja, this is my cousin Adasun.

Where were your children when you walked in?
Did they not call you daddy
Are there no pictures of you and your wife in your living room?
What happened afterwards? did you sit with him as a guest in the living room bearing in mind that you are a cousin or did you enter the inner quarters.

Yesterday I asked you 2 questions
1. The circumstances round you being caught (you don't need to answer that one as I already have an idea)
2. The circumstances around the children not being fed

I totally agree that 6 months is way too long for your wife to continue to dish out deliberate and sustained punishment and there needs to be closure one way or another ASAP, however most people are having a go at your wife based on the 2 questions I have asked you to clarify (the kids being left unfed and the male visitor)

Please be very specific in what really happened so that people can give you apt advise and not only advise you only based on what you have divulged.

first of all it hapn suprisingly.yes they are pictures of both of us.inshot our wedding pictures hang boldly on da wall.i don't wheather da man's eyes did nt caught

sight of da pictures.


As for da kids,i did nt knw where they are when i came back,it's later i recall dat their teacher invite them to her child birthday party when they came back.


Why would i just entertain dat idiot.i ask her immediatly when she uttered dat sentence."u introduce me ur husband as a cousin


On hearing dat,that idiot figdeted and keep apologising until he fled da room.my wife was even calling him back.


As for da feeding,is nt dat she don't cook at all ooo,she kind of nt stable in her cooking like bfor especially da break fast.if i ask,she would like "go and cook for them na,or call ur mistress to do it for u"


inshot she did dis many times with her using harsh words.

Adasun:
first of all it hapn suprisingly.yes they are pictures of both of us.inshot our wedding pictures hang boldly on da wall.i don't wheather da man's eyes did nt caught

sight of da pictures.


As for da kids,i did nt knw where they are when i came back,it's later i recall dat their teacher invite them to her child birthday party when they came back.


Why would i just entertain dat idiot.i ask her immediatly when she uttered dat sentence."u introduce me ur husband as a cousin


On hearing dat,that idiot figdeted and keep apologising until he fled da room.my wife was even calling him back.


As for da feeding,is nt dat she don't cook at all ooo,she kind of nt stable in her cooking like bfor especially da break fast.if i ask,she would like "go and cook for them na,or call ur mistress to do it for u"


inshot she did dis many times with her using harsh words.

hotD:


I had this discussion with hubby last nite,a woman caught her hubby with someone else,she set the man on fire even when police held her she said they should release her from jail let her complete what she has started since the man didn't die...he likewise told me a story in his neighborhood that the lady set herself on fire and jumped on the man after pouring petrol in the house and throwing the key downstairs.

Joy1706:

I'm sick of all u primitive men. U people should just die already and let us see the better ones

YelloweWest:

Issue 1: bigamy still remains a federal law since it is enshrined in the marriage act. An act will take precedence over any state law.

Issue 2: bigamy in lagos might not be a criminal offence anymore however the culprit it still liable under a civil suit. As the second marriage is not recognised by law, the wife can always file for divorce on grounds of infidelity.
So like I said earlier, not all men can take a second wife! If you insist, it will definitely cost you!