gen2genius:

Tales by moonlight

I doubt if things would ever be the same again between us

Anyway, only lunacy would make me accept a pregnancy that comes without any reasonable explanations. How would a grown up woman say she doesn't know who impregnated her?

MRbrownJAY:

although i would understand why she decided to hide the baby daddy's identity, i wouldnt be so keen on the fact that he was coming around and smiling at me knowing full well that the baby i was going to take care of was his.
there is some deceit in the air and it would take me a while to be cool with it all.
if i had been man enough to marry and take charge of the baby then i should be man enough to accept whoever the baby daddy is and live with it. i knew i wasnt the baby daddy anyway so that it is him or another guy wont change much in my attitude towards the "family".
i would demand that her best friend know the whole story in order for my "new wife" to regain some few points in my heart(if they were tough enough to tell me, then they should be tough enough to tell her too)
i will move on with married life knowing that what she did once, she could do again.
the day she makes [b]ONE [/b]mistake related to cheating or something dodgy that involves another man(or woman), i am out of there!

TheSeeker:

I partly agree with the forgiveness part and moving on with marriage. My take is, why could she have told him who the father of the baby was even after the guy had accepted to take responsibility? It shouldn't be a secret especially when she knew the baby's daddy is very close to them and will at any day, demand for his child. These are the mistakes women make; for how long did she intend to hide this from her husband? What was she intending to tell the baby when he grows up? Sometimes they think they are acting smart while dumbness is written boldly on their face.

MRbrownJAY:

you know, these hormones makes some of these women do some very insane shit.
i guess this lady thought that she could go on with the lie, and that, no one would ever know about it. i am sure that the baby daddy didnt want his wife to know about it either so they(baby momma/baby daddy) probably had some deal to keep it hush hush but something derailed their evil plan.
some people just dont think right  at times and these guys were only thinking at the short coming future not long term.
also for a woman to be so weak and  go sleep with her best friend's husband, let alone for that foolish husband to shag her is madness. it was just a matter of time before they got busted.

TheSeeker:

Yes they wanted to push it under the rug but what, a whole child? They must have been thinking using the cold from the moon diffusing through their brains. I think a woman that agrees to push such under the public's view is clearly misled because there's no way a man would abandon his child, not ever. Women always think they have this secret and deeply conceited tactics to get away with evil deeds.

MRbrownJAY:

although i would understand why she decided to hide the baby daddy's identity, i wouldnt be so keen on the fact that he was coming around and smiling at me knowing full well that the baby i was going to take care of was his.
there is some deceit in the air and it would take me a while to be cool with it all.
if i had been man enough to marry and take charge of the baby then i should be man enough to accept whoever the baby daddy is and live with it. i knew i wasnt the baby daddy anyway so that it is him or another guy wont change much in my attitude towards the "family".
i would demand that her best friend know the whole story in order for my "new wife" to regain some few points in my heart(if they were tough enough to tell me, then they should be tough enough to tell her too)
i will move on with married life knowing that what she did once, she could do again.
the day she makes [b]ONE [/b]mistake related to cheating or something dodgy that involves another man(or woman), i am out of there!

MRbrownJAY:

a man backed up in a corner like an animal would do anything to save his marriage even abandon a child that could spell THE END to his happy life.
it was either tell your wife, get busted and probably loose your marriage OR hush up about it and live happily ever after.
these people were unscrupulous, if they had the guts to do what they did then who know what atrocity they could have done more.
you hear everyday about people paying child support for years, only to discover through DNA testing that the child was not theirs. you really believe that all women in these cases just didnt know?! some women dont care and cunts out there knows fully well who the baby daddy is but some would decide that this man would be a better daddy than that man so "thats your baby".
cheating goes both ways, we have all seen the Maury Povich show. i remember there was a woman in there who brought no less than 15/16guys and all failed the test. to this woman, anyone was good enough to be baby daddy and if any of them believed they were the father, then that would have been the end of the story.

platinumnk:

ure a strong man, a real strong one. I dont know if i could recover from knowing that BOTH of them knew who she really preggo for.

TheSeeker:

The latter is the devilish character in women, always scheming their way through anything using hurting means. If I'm asked, I'd say women rarely hurt men but when they do, it's a hurt that can wreck a man if he doesn't get a hold of himself. Men on the other hand, as you have said, can let go of a child just to keep their marriage. But do you know when these kids his wife have for him becomes somewhat wayward or are no more desirable, he'll go back there and ask for his child? That's how that situation is. I also am of the opinion that some people are stuck with the wrongful father and oh thanks to their moms.

MRbrownJAY:

in my mind, knowing that this guy was the father is not the problem. my problem would be discovering how low the woman i just married could go and that i would have to be extra careful from that point on. if she has no respect for such the friendship she had with her best friend then i dont think her views about marriage are any different. it would have showed me that this women is weak and that hurting her loved ones is NOT a problem to her.
dumping her right there is not an option because she could be a totally different person with me and also i would have made a commitment to that child so i would try to stick with even if the father is around.
the fact that the father is the best friend's husband doesnt mean that i wouldnt have a relationship with that kid, if the mother is my wife then that kid will be my step child and surely enough, i might be the "father figure" for that kid since the biological father is a rat. if someone has to be punished in all this mess, it is definitely not the kid.

some men give their whole life to women and therefore when they realize that they have been duped, they can be either pretty vicious or loose their bloody mind all completely. also, when you look at how 9ja men look for excellence and "purity" in their women, you can imagine how much lie and deceit you will find in todays couple. i am sure there are many women who have done their fair share of "slutting" and then got hold of some gullible guy and change their ways but if you scratch the surface you will find hell.
the problem is that people cant/wont stand for what they are and what they believe in. if you have fire in your pants then make sure that the woman/man you marry knows full well of what kind of person they are getting down with. so that they can perform and take care of you accordingly. many guys also want to have "correct" women at their side to be their wives but what they really need are freaks (just like them). the ideology of a beautiful wife to have the children and be seen with and then some mistress to fulfill all my freaky fantasies. i say TURN YOUR WIFE INTO THE FREAK YOU DESIRE.
i mean, check this following thread about what men want sexually and ask yourself how many of these men would expect it from their wives?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-296517.0.html

now ask these posters the same question putting "your wife" instead of "your partner" in it and see the difference.