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Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:40pm On Mar 11, 2016
Terry Pratchett once wrote, "A lie can run round the world before the truth has got its boots on.” I needn't do much research on these words, as I experienced it in a well amazing way, and I took lessons from it as possibly as I could. I tried to find out what the preoperative factors aiding those words were, alas, I made progress, they were (though not limited to these two alone) - Gossips and Rumours.

Alot of times, folks seem to confuse the two, or simply assume they mean the same, but do they? Let's find out.

Rumours are a piece of information or a story that has not been verified. What this means is that the person telling the story doesn’t know for certain if it is true or not. Most of the time, people who spread rumours don’t bother to determine if there is any truth to what they are saying.
Typically, rumours are spread from person to person and can change slightly each time they are told. As a result, they can become exaggerated and altered over time.

Gossip on the other hand is slightly different from a rumour. Usually, gossip involves a juicy detail of some sort, which means the information is shocking or personal. What’s more, gossip is usually spread behind a person’s back and can be very hurtful. Gossip and rumours can destroy a person’s self-confidence and affect their self-esteem. It also can lead to depression, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, anxiety and a host of other issues. What’s more, gossip and rumours can alienate friends, ruin reputations and even lead to ostracizing behaviour and other forms of relational aggression.

These two were largely responsible for the marital problem, which finally translated to divorce between the two main characters in my topic. A lot of the rumours and gossips were on the media, which as they tried to communicate it over time, got distorted and everything became hugely exaggerated. I would try to give an inside story of it all, not for any personal gains, but to clear some air, especially the allegation of adultery. Let me state categorically here, Rev. Anita NEVER accused Pastor Chris of adultery.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:41pm On Mar 11, 2016
How did we get here then? Firstly, I have to put it on record that Rev Anita is a wonderful lady, a great mother, a teacher... I could go on and on. She is beautiful and quite intelligent. She was the Director of Christ Embassy International Office, which means she used to head the church in the United Kingdom and also oversees other churches there and beyond. It was all good until she started subscribing to gossips and rumours that her position is being taken over by other pastors, especially female pastors, and that she's no longer the "second-in-command", in the farce fact that most ministry decisions and programming where done without her involvement, even determination of her salary scale. Sadly, she took this all in, hook, line and sinker.

Her first reaction was to demand a sack of these pastors, especially the female ones, and make her the "second-in-command". It's important to note that very long before this, Pastor Chris has always reminded pastors that their wives aren't necessarily the "second-in-command" by virtue of her marriage to them, it doesn't even automatically make her a pastor or assistant Pastor, but she can have other duties in the church where she has a grace for, even if it is the children's church ministry. She can however Pastor another church, if she has a calling in that regard. The power tussle by Rev. Anita, spurned by her brothers and family friends wasn't going to back down - it was either her demands were met, or she 'leaves'. It wasn't long after, she moved out of the house.

Days went into weeks and then months, and there was no flinching on the part of Rev. Anita, who have had legions of emissaries from Pastor Chris to dissuade her of her actions and the path she's threading on. It was obvious that her moving out was simply a threat to Pastor Chris, in the sense that she felt it would be an embarrassment to the international renowned Pastor Chris, who should by that action accede to her demands. Her brother's and close friends had their feet on the gas pedal, speedily driving her down the lane of home wreck.

Pastor Chris spoke of the issue and said if he were to fully accept her demands, it would mean him sinning against God in doing them all. Seeing that Pastor Chris wasn't going to bow to the demands, but rather focused on the ministry God's given him, they hatched the next blunder - removing Pastor Chris' name from the board of trustees in the Church in the UK in a bid to take over. It however, didn't work as planned, as the Charity Commission of England and Wales took over the organization as a charity organization.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:41pm On Mar 11, 2016
Then the next set of moves were more disastrous in all ramification. She filed for a divorce! We all read how it played out, and how Pastor Chris was against a divorce, but he was the one being divorced, and she later had her way. The plot, from my perspective was by the divorce, there was supposed to be a division of properties between the two parties involved, and it was, but there was a twist in the turn of events - Pastor Chris has no personal property of his own.

Properties from cars to buildings, businesses and even the white house (Where he lives) all belongs to the church, including all the seeds and gifts (material, cash etc) given to him, he gave it all, I mean everything, to the church - every bit of it. Pastor Chris maintained what God asked him to do so many years ago, hence today, he has no personal property.

The consequences of these were that Rev Anita left with nothing, not even the UK church, except for the alimony being duly given. In my honest opinion, her friends and family made her act as she did, making her lose everything, and the Church which everyone of them thought would crumble, didn't. It rather grew bigger and stronger. God prevailed!

It brings me back to the allegation of adultery being peddled by the media, due to distorted gossips over time. He was never accused of such, as there was no singular reason or evidence to back that claim in court. The next absurd allegation was that of abuse ( I find this so laughable ). Pastor Chris gave all his best in dissuading Rev. Anita, to no avail, and I believed this happened at a time like this for our learning and not gloating and judging. Those who are wise would learn, the rest can do otherwise.

In the wake of these all, during the storms and turmoil, I couldn't help but wonder at what we have turned ourselves to. I wondered "Why do some people enjoy/celebrate the misfortunes of others"? As hard as this question is, Christians (or so called Christians) were a bulk majority of this set of people. Enjoying someone else’s misfortune is known as schadenfreude and scientists from Leiden University in the Netherlands say that the lower one's self-esteem is, the more they’ll experience it.

Folks called one or two of the parties involved terrible names (Especially Pastor Chris), some saw it as a proof of their irrelevant theories, which is "Pastor Chris is not a true man of God". Others saw it as a means to cast aspersions on 'Pentecostal churches', others saw it as a reason to insult the body of Christ and Pastors in their entirety. Some preachers had their opinions too, when it should have been a time of prayer for the family, and the church of God.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:42pm On Mar 11, 2016
These same folks who rushed to criticise and judge are themselves not perfect. Some are thieves, others are liars, some serial womanizers, etc, who all of a sudden have a moral ground to judge and qualify others as righteous or not. I thank God it's all calm now, and we all look to the future, not necessarily in the mundane, but eternity, as we would all give account of our actions to God someday... it'll surely be a long day that day.

Gombs Oluwagombs.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:42pm On Mar 11, 2016
.... Meanwhile, get this book.. you'd be overwhelmed at it's wisdom wink smiley

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by surestakes: 12:50pm On Mar 11, 2016
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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 12:50pm On Mar 11, 2016
surestakes:
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Thanks for stopping by.. wink
Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by rusher14: 12:59pm On Mar 11, 2016
Heya, Pastor Chris can do no wrong but Anita can.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by surestakes: 1:04pm On Mar 11, 2016
Gombs:


Thanks for stopping by.. wink

You're welcome

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by thunder74(m): 1:05pm On Mar 11, 2016
You did not introduce yourself and why I should believe your story as against all I have heard. The crack started when your pastor allowed husbands to stay apart from their wives and he led by example. How can Anita be in Uk and Pastor Christ stays somewhere else. You created the avenue for gossips and rumours.
On the adultery issue, take note that it is not something that are done in the open place. Even in the room, doors, windows are closed and guess what? Light are switched off too.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 1:07pm On Mar 11, 2016
rusher14:
Heya, Pastor Chris can do no wrong but Anita can.

Your opinion is duly noted. wink
Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 1:12pm On Mar 11, 2016
thunder74:

You did not introduce yourself

I did. at the end of the write up

and why I should believe your story as against all I have heard.

Because I told you the truth...you really don't have to believe it. wink

The crack started when your pastor allowed husbands to stay apart from their wives and he led by example.

another media lie... you somehow forgot to ask for the person who said that to introduce himself/herself and ask why you should believe them. If you read the write up, you'd see something written about wives, and tell me if it means same as you wrote

How can Anita be in Uk and Pastor Christ stays somewhere else.

Sounds strange to you... Why?

Ever heard of the military? We're in God's military ..we put away civilian things... besides, forget the lies that she only visited twice a year (IPPC and Pastor's Refreshers Course). You believed that too, didn't you?

let me give you one example, Rev. Ken Oyakhilome is in Texas, his wife Pastor Ose Oyakhilome is in South Africa.... why is their own case different? undecided
Why didn't y'all say they see themselves only twice a year too?
You created the avenue for gossips and rumours.

Interesting grin

On the adultery issue, take note that it is not something that are done in the open place. Even in the room, doors, windows are closed and guess what? Light are switched off too.

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thanks for the laugh sir!

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by jmann2(m): 1:17pm On Mar 11, 2016
How much were you paid for this.
You are so bias and partial.
What if pastor Anita is your sister, will you write such about her?

GOD IS WATCHING YOU. Don't get involved in this.
It will affect your marriage too.
If you are wise, your wisdom will reward you

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 1:26pm On Mar 11, 2016
jmann2:
How much were you paid for this.

not every one is like you. cool

You are so bias and partial.

please provide the unbiased and impartial version

What if pastor Anita is your sister, will you write such about her?

why not? Truth is truth...some folks don't like it sha...

GOD IS WATCHING YOU. Don't get involved in this.

you already have, just as I am involved...Jeez, he is my Pastor. grin grin grin cool

what's your reason for being involved? undecided

It will affect your marriage too.

hahahhahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahah... thanks Nostradamus

If you are wise, your wisdom will reward you

you should get that book above, your mind needs resetting.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by thunder74(m): 1:40pm On Mar 11, 2016
Gombs:


I did. at the end of the write up



Because I told you the truth...you really don't have to believe it. wink



another media lie... you somehow forgot to ask for the person who said that to introduce himself/herself and ask why you should believe them. If you read the write up, you'd see something written about wives, and tell me if it means same as you wrote



Sounds strange to you... Why?

Ever heard of the military? We're in God's military ..we put away civilian things... besides, forget the lies that she only visited twice a year (IPPC and Pastor's conference). You believed that too, didn't you?

let me give you one example, Rev. Ken Oyakhilome is in Texas, his wife Pastor Ose Oyakhilome is in South Africa.... why is their own case different? undecided



Interesting grin



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thanks for the laugh sir!
From all your responses, you have only been able to confirm the rumours as the truth. And if truth must be told, the policy that allows wife to stay miles away from the husband is wrong and in my view is unscriptural (and if it is, kindly show me where it is in the Bible too for me to learn) and I recommend a review. Wives are supposed to be helpmates to their husbands and to assist them in their ministries. Anita is not an angel, she needs her husband attention, love and care which money, fame and Skype can not provide.
By the way, are you married sir? I am and I am speaking from experience. Couples separation is an anti-Christ policy and every Christian organisation should build homes and not destroy or separate it. What God has joined together let no church or man put asunder.

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Nobody: 1:43pm On Mar 11, 2016
Thanks for the info. Whatever happened, I loved how He taught about the personality /power of God. Anita (I must say I did not know much of her) should have explored other options for the sake of the ministry.

No property in his name? That's laudable

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 2:02pm On Mar 11, 2016
Muafrika2:
Thanks for the info. Whatever happened, I loved how He taught about the personality /power of God. Anita (I must say I did not know much of her) should have explored other options for the sake of the ministry.

No property in his name? That's laudable

You're welcome.

You should listen to 'cultured by the Word' and 'Understanding the gospel of Jesus'.. . You'd shout all through. wink

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by vooks: 3:03pm On Mar 11, 2016
This is CEC spin to the matter. Watch the hypocritical idiocy; every story claims to be a 'leak' by a 'well connected source'
The ones painting Oyaks as a womanizer are treated as baseless gossip while the ones painting Anita as a hoe are the gospel truth


Reminds me of SCOANITES. After the building collapsed, they blamed everyone from Boko Haram to CIA for their misfortune grin grin

While such trash may be the 28th book of NT to Oyaks sycophants, the more evolved and intelligent among us can see them for what they be. What's worse, Oyaks was dumped and divorced. He has no authority to teach on marriage except how to work through a divorce

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by jmann2(m): 3:40pm On Mar 11, 2016
[quote author=Gombs post=4367664
From your response I can see how myopic and brainwashed you are.
Learn to follow Christ and stop your man-worshipping.
I used to be a member of Christ embassy and I know what goes on there.
Then we will no longer be infants tossed back and forth by the waves.

You need to reset your mind not me.
Your pastor is not Christ-like in any way.
He is the most proud man I have seen in my life.
Benny Hinn begged his wife and reconciled with her.
It is not a matter of who was wrong. Mature people take the blame even if they are right.
Pastor Chris will never apologise or act like Benny Hinn because of the pride in Him.
Stop being used bro.
You are too young for this.

not every one is like you. cool



please provide the unbiased and impartial version



why not? Truth is truth...some folks don't like it sha...



you already have, just as I am involved...Jeez, he is my Pastor. grin grin grin cool

what's your reason for being involved? undecided



hahahhahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahah... thanks Nostradamus



you should get that book above, your mind needs resetting.[/quote]

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by esere826: 4:05pm On Mar 11, 2016
smiley if all a man does is eat and sleep. He will still run into issues. How much less when you're ambitious.
Oyaks is divorced....so what?
Christiandom will even forgive him if he screws a woman or two. It will be considered as the failing of a human. Na only if he is exposd as a reckless philanderer... Na there problem dey.

The challenge is when you espouse some models and philosophies, and when they produce bad fruits, you blame everyone but yourself instead of going back to the drawing board to correct the model

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Oyinprince(m): 4:20pm On Mar 11, 2016
Hmmm... Lies spread faster. The power tussle had been for a long time sha, I just didn't believe PST Anita was involved when I first heard about it from a brother.

People love lies and would always prefer it to the truth. When a Pastor in CE is transferred, depending on the capacity (I.e) zonal, group, local etc. the wife is automatically transferred with him. That Pst Anita had to manage r international churches didn't separate them, Several other Pastors and their wives pastors different zones/groups. And they all submit to their respective heads.
Well, I'm really not aware of PST Anita was ever 'second in command', I knew she had senior Pastors to her in the ministry e.g Rev Tom

Thanks Gombs, for shedding more light

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by esere826: 4:40pm On Mar 11, 2016
And wait a minute! Isn't it strange that a "help meet" does not know that her exemplary helpee in a modern christian marriage has no personal assets. Habaaaa

Sebi Jesus said that SERVANTS have no knowledge of their masters business, however friends do, and he called his disciples FRIENDS

Ok, ooo, contunouuu

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by ikorodureporta: 4:46pm On Mar 11, 2016
...bt u'r also celebratin tht Anita left without any profit. It remains a fact that both of dem couldn't practise what they preach #shameful!

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by vooks: 6:35pm On Mar 11, 2016
Gombs:

let me give you one example, Rev. Ken Oyakhilome is in Texas, his wife Pastor Ose Oyakhilome is in South Africa.... why is their own case different? undecided
Why didn't y'all say they see themselves only twice a year too?
Amos,
You are not wise by any standard. There are enough threads that observed this sudden shift in the policy of separating pastoring spouses. It was to cover up for Oyaks own separation from his wife in the name of ministry. They call it muddying the water. Predictably, some gullible sheeple like yourself fell for it. You be like, 'hey, it's not just Oyaks, even his brother!'

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by vooks: 6:37pm On Mar 11, 2016
esere826:
And wait a minute! Isn't it strange that a "help meet" does not know that her exemplary helpee in a modern christian marriage has no personal assets. Habaaaa

Sebi Jesus said that SERVANTS have no knowledge of their masters business, however friends do, and he called his disciples FRIENDS

Ok, ooo, contunouuu

She was that naive for all these close to twenty years

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by vooks: 6:40pm On Mar 11, 2016
Oyinprince:
Hmmm... Lies spread faster. The power tussle had been for a long time sha, I just didn't believe PST Anita was involved when I first heard about it from a brother.

People love lies and would always prefer it to the truth. When a Pastor in CE is transferred, depending on the capacity (I.e) zonal, group, local etc. the wife is automatically transferred with him. That Pst Anita had to manage r international churches didn't separate them, Several other Pastors and their wives pastors different zones/groups. And they all submit to their respective heads.
Well, I'm really not aware of PST Anita was ever 'second in command', I knew she had senior Pastors to her in the ministry e.g Rev Tom

Thanks Gombs, for shedding more light
Another naive sheeple.
Gombs is now the author of the 28th book of NT, everything else are lies and gossip barring this grin

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 7:05pm On Mar 11, 2016
Oyinprince:
Hmmm... Lies spread faster. The power tussle had been for a long time sha, I just didn't believe PST Anita was involved when I first heard about it from a brother.

People love lies and would always prefer it to the truth. When a Pastor in CE is transferred, depending on the capacity (I.e) zonal, group, local etc. the wife is automatically transferred with him. That Pst Anita had to manage r international churches didn't separate them, Several other Pastors and their wives pastors different zones/groups. And they all submit to their respective heads.
Well, I'm really not aware of PST Anita was ever 'second in command', I knew she had senior Pastors to her in the ministry e.g Rev Tom

Thanks Gombs, for shedding more light

Thanks bro.

How have you been jare? Got a copy of that book yet?
Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Gombs(m): 7:09pm On Mar 11, 2016
ikorodureporta:
...bt u'r also celebratin tht Anita left without any profit. It remains a fact that both of dem couldn't practise what they preach #shameful!

I'm so glad that the same measure you used to judge will be used for your judgement.

I pray you practice what you preach. #Peace

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by ikorodureporta: 7:59pm On Mar 11, 2016
Gombs:


I'm so glad that the same measure you used to judge will be used for your judgement.

I pray you practice what you preach. #Peace

...u followers of G.O- never accepting their fault.......thats how u all did when Okotie talked abt his visit to his 'Ikotun' friend...

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by vooks: 8:02pm On Mar 11, 2016
Of all the silliest arguments I've heard this tickles me endlessly;
'Anita filed for divorce, therefore Anita is to blame for divorce'

She was PUSHED to that option by Oyaks. She cites infidelity in court. Gombs denies this and hopes to sell us his version, which should not be questioned. Why should we believe your crap which is more ludicrous? Anita was totally ignorant of the fact that Oyaks owned zilch while you a distant sheeple knew this all along?

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Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Oyinprince(m): 8:03pm On Mar 11, 2016
Gombs:


Thanks bro.

How have you been jare? Got a copy of that book yet?
No, but I've paid for it already. You?
Re: Chris And Anita Oyakhilome: The Truth You Never Knew by Oyinprince(m): 8:06pm On Mar 11, 2016
vooks:

Another naive sheeple.
Gombs is now the author of the 28th book of NT, everything else are lies and gossip barring this grin
What sense does this post make now?

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