n-guage:

Do you poop in public? I assume you don't, which means you turn off your poop in public. Because you think pooping is something to do after you close the door to a bathroom, It is a private thing. Sex is the same way with "closet freak."

FL Gators:

Lady in the street, prostitute in the bedroom.

I don't think its being hypocritical.

Sex is b/w them and them only, freaky. Outside the bedroom (and house), she needs to be classy and reserved.

*Hauwa*:

what is closet slut

oyinda.:

ok so on NL you hear a lot of men say they want their women to be demure and conservative on the outsides but freaks in the bedrooms. what do you girls think of this. do you think they are being hypocrites? or do you agree with them?
how many women are really like that?  dress conservative and have bibeli (holy holy) opinions on the outside, but turn wild and freaky inside the room.
I find it all to be very ridiculous and hypocritical. and find men like that to be pretend freaks themselves. why not be ur freaky self 24/7  and let others kno u for what u really are?

oyinda.:

(that's a big excuse cheating men give. their women aren't exciting them enough. so why did u marry her for christ sake? why didn't u just go 4 the real deal n marry a slut/nympho? lol)

tpia.:

if the freakiness could even keep them from looking outside, most women would be happy to do it anytime anyday.


But no, it doesnt. They still get tired of the same ol' same ol and want other variety.

Its ingrained and depending on the guy's values, either he plays the field or he doesnt.

n-guage:

I have an observation, you sound hurt. It may be wrong, if it is please forgive me but it's just an observation. No harm meant.

na2day?:

so i guess u are either not the holy holy type or u are not a freak and u r sad some girls can hit both tune, right? well, what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom and yes u better get ur freak on  

oyinda.:

i think it's rare for women to be true closet freaks. why else do men cheat on their wives?
see sistawoman for example, freaky but not a closet freak.  and her husband should be your role model. just marry what u want and stop trying to put up a front to the public.
(the "will you marry a woman with tattoo" thread inspired this topic a bit plus a tv sit com. where the woman is enduring crap n dressing up as nurse n pretending to be IndecentStar in bedroom to save her marriage. i think guys like that r selfish lol)

tpia.:

you observed right.

I'm very hurt.

oyinda.:

@seeker and others, yes we know sex is sanctioned by God. duh you have to have sex to "be fruitful and multiply" lol  

freak
A "freak"  can be formally defined as someone not falling within typical standard deviations.
"freak" is commonly used to refer to a person with something unusual about their appearance or behaviour.
4 a: an ardent enthusiast <film freaks> b: a person who is obsessed with something <a controlsex freak>


so can u explain why SOME men love sex freaks/ perverts but only in private?
only sweetdocs have given a nice answer so far. the rest of u are beating around the bush - ignoring the "freak" part of the question.

TheSeeker:

[color=#000099]No, we not only have sex to have kids but also for the "pleasure" of it. According to your definition, can you marry a man who exhibits unusual sexual behavior in public? Huh? Of course not.

Good and freaky sex come with very obnoxious norms which can't be displayed in public, that's why we men, love sex freaks in private and a good and respectable woman on the outside. I've already answered your question, I don't see where I'm beating about the bush. I'll go again

If you were offered $200,000.00, would you sleep with your husband on a TV show? I don't think so. So what's the freakiness about? Men love their women to be freaks in bed because that's where you can explore everything you can't explore in public. It's nice to go all freaky in bed but that should not be brought outside.

oyinda.:

people have sex for pleasure. duh. again there is "pleasure" and there is "freaky pleasure". lol
no i wouldn't marry a man who exhibits freaky sexual behavior in public. and i don't want one that exhibits freaky sexual behavior in private either!!
can u give a good reason why u don't want the public to know about ur freakish desire? is it due to social pressure?
Why should the public know my freakish desire when I ain't putting it up for sale? I don't bend to social pressure but I definitely respect privacy and as much as I can, exhibit all forms of modesty.

oyinda. link=topic=298440.msg4212271#msg4212271 date=1247976374:

not all men are like that. just some men. you can't say "we men" in an all inclusive way.

Maybe not all, but most men will share that sentiment with me

oyinda.:


some men and women would (although that is an extreme example u used). they don't mind exhibiting their freakishness outside or inside.
and when i say closet freak, i don't mean having sex in public. even "sluts" don't have sex in public. lol but you can tell by looking at them or conversing with them that they are freaks. lol

OK, I will rephrase that. Why do people except moral decency from women than men? Why is it that any "bad" deed from a woman is easily taken out of context and normal proportion? When a woman exhibits any form of freakiness in public, she's tagged someone else, a LovePeddler, a slut, a sex freak, whatever. So I can get a clearer picture of this in case I'm deviating from your intended notion, what are the examples of this freakiness you're talking about?

oyinda.:

i think it's rare for women to be true closet freaks. why else do men cheat on their wives?
see sistawoman for example, freaky but not a closet freak.  and her husband should be your role model (he let her get a tattoo on her breasts!! how many other pretend holy holy naija men will do that? ). just marry what u want and stop trying to put up a front to the public.
(the "will you marry a woman with tattoo" thread inspired this topic a bit plus a tv sit com. where the woman is enduring crap n dressing up as nurse n pretending to be IndecentStar in bedroom to save her marriage. i think guys like that r selfish lol)

oyinda.:

that's a good point sweetdoc. u seem very knowledgeable
what do u think about guys that have different ideas of girlfriend vs wife material. i think that's very hypocritical don't u think. like wanting to mess around at first and then settling down with someone who's not a freak. why not look for wife material from the onset?

some men are weird. u kno