I am anxious of something and I need you to please advise me. I have been dating a guy for the past six months and he has proposed marriage and I have accepted to marry him, we have planed my marriage for November when I am done with my youth service. He has been to my place at uyo to see my parents unofficially though. But the problem is that no man has ever seen me naked. I was born into a Christian home and my parents have always taught us the importance of abstaining from any sexual immorality, that it is unclean and sinful before God, and throughout my university days God was so kind to me that i was able to surmount the temptations that came my way. Now, He has been telling me he can’t wait to see me naked when we finally get married and the thought of that makes me want to change my mind towards his proposal. I will be 23 by October a month before the proposed date of the wedding.

please Nairalanders any advise for this lady can be dropped on www.lawrenzi.com

Hehs keep your unclothedness to urself.
Maybe you will remain single forever.
Nonsense

U dey lucky sey I no be Ur fiancë, I for don dey kolobi u by now

"Now, He has been telling me he can’t wait to see me Unclad when we finally get married"

Sorry O'jare, when will you want him to see it?

my sister you go old

You don't want to be seen unclad but planning to do things that will make people to go unclad. Well T.B might be of help

So she wan mk d guy straff am thru d cloth ni wen dem marry?

Talk to ur fiance bou it, you may feel relaxed.

u don't wanna be unclad? how do u bathe yourself? using rain coat in the shower? ;-D

I just dey look your mumu story

You beta wake up coz after he has seen u unclad the doctor, nurse and even auxillary nurse with behold your body. All these S.U. sef

I just dey observe ur mumu story!smh,its like u saying u want to write an paper base test wout using a biro or pencil
Ni wo werey yi,By October ending,weda u like it or not,he will c more dan ur unclothedness, a do JAGBA JAGBA si e lara ,shio

Hehehehehehehehe

Oho!!!

Hmmm, ppl sef.

Biko, u can sew cloth on ur body and tell him "baby, I was born this way!"

See mumu story...Op are you sure you are mature enough for marriage? Cos if you are having small issues like this in ur heart..i fear for u when real issues come up.U better grow up.

Everyone calm down bashing her isn't going to solve the problem.
I understand her point of view. This I believe might be as a result of the wrong ways many Christian parents and churches talk about premarital sex. They make it seem as if sex itself is the bad thing , when they are supposed to teach that sex is beautiful but must be something shared only between two married people. I've read a story where the lady, was thought how "girls" are meant to remain virgins, which she was until her wedding night and after she ended up having sex she hated it, because she thought she had sinned by having it, even if it was with her husband..


@op there is nothing to be scared of, whether you like it or not someone will still see your unclothedness eg. When you die. Why don't you speak with you fiance about it. Maybe you guys can start with the lights off then when you've gotten a bit used to each other things will normalize.
Or


Are you trying to hide something on your body from him?

"I can't wait to see you unclad"

I know a guy that told his fiancee that and she called off the wedding and traveled to Mumbai that night.

That statement is kinda awkward in the ears of a Christian believer. One like op. O

Ok

op,i want to cook rice,should i use rice?.

Op congratulation for keeping yourself tight till this time, the relationship you are going in with the guy legal, so you people are now the same in such away nothing excluded for both of you. Try and look at it in a good way and give yourself to the right and legitimate owner, you have nothing to lose. Remember we are product of same phenomena. In a second thought you hate been seeing unclad right? Calm down Nepa will help you.

Talk to a friend or a psychologist about it.if it doesn't help tell ur hubby to be about it,u need to feel comfortable about it and with rite counsel u can feel beta

When parents pass the wrong message about sex

If the guy has done the traditional stuff, he is very free to see and touch.
For keeping yourself up till now, I think the guy should give you that courtesy, it should in fact be a thing of pride to him as a husband. But if you are not a virgin, then let the guy test run the engine to confirm the performance

my dear I understand your plight because I am in the same shoe with u.I feel sick at the thought of undressing in front of some one both male and female(mine is worse I guess).But I know I will overcome it when the time comes.

lawrenzi:
I am anxious of something and I need you to please advise me. I have been dating a guy for the past six months and he has proposed marriage and I have accepted to marry him, we have planed my marriage for November when I am done with my youth service. He has been to my place at uyo to see my parents unofficially though. But the problem is that no man has ever seen me naked. I was born into a Christian home and my parents have always taught us the importance of abstaining from any sexual immorality, that it is unclean and sinful before God, and throughout my university days God was so kind to me that i was able to surmount the temptations that came my way. Now, He has been telling me he can’t wait to see me naked when we finally get married and the thought of that makes me want to change my mind towards his proposal. I will be 23 by October a month before the proposed date of the wedding.

please Nairalanders any advise for this lady can be dropped on www.lawrenzi.com

Which kain thread be this?

The guy said he cant wait to see you unclad WHEN meaning after wedding so what is the fuss about.

The guy is even very kind..if na me i must see you unclad before i even propose to avoid super story..

These days where we have fake everything na to dey sure even if i no go touch..i must see.

ure not yet ready to take a DECISION

I understand the Op. Not that she is not going to go unclad for him but she doesnt like the desperation in his tone. It sounded like thats what he is in for, her body.

Atleast if he can't see the unclad he can do it unclad this naija sef infact NEPA go happy to switch of the light so u both can enjoy it unclad.

Unclad don take over Romancist sha.

In marriage , there is no secret btw d couple.If u really love dz guy, u wont feel lik dis except u ar not in love.U cant hide ur body frm him whn u get married.
Do u really love this man?Dont forget, u are spending d rest of ur life with him.