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Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by yemsai(f): 4:03pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
olac21:U are madder.....mtchew |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by harveyspec: 5:56pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
lastnogood: Please did your grand father either maternal or paternal have a 3bedroom apartment & car before getting married ? I ask because if you dad could have those things before marriage, most likely he came from a comfortable background, someone had to pay the price along the line!! A level 8 graduate with the civil service whose salary is 80k per month, shouldn't get married if he is able to live within his means, just because he doesn't own his own apartment. The Op even stressed that the apartment must be a rented one, my God!! Car is a luxury here in this part of the world not in developed countries. Why should I buy a car when I can move around comfortably in a train? There are folks who will never own a house or stay in a 3bedroom flats, it's not a curse but reality of life, everyone has its level owning a house or car should NEVER be a yardstick in marriage decision (it's a nice to have but it is never a must have quality) The keyword is living within ones means & being able to take care of someone else. 3 Likes |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by thundafire: 6:45pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
Vinshu: u stay out 2 make noise nd compare ursef 2 me wat do u take me 4 or bcus i do come here on NL 4 ur low class 2 talk trash |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by lastnogood(f): 7:01pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
harveyspec: My grandfather was an orphan who lost his mother at age of 5 and his father at the age of 8, he was raised by his grandmother who passed when he was 11, so at that point he had to leave school and start out on life alone with no family. He hustled, took a trade of carpentry and cleaning laboratories in the university lab. That's where he met my grandmother. And when he presented himself to marry her, this orphan, aged 26, amassed all his savings and took it to her parents. He paid the entire wedding and took her into his 2 bedroom flat. And he lived in a so called third world country. They had 6 children, adopted another 5, who they paid for all their schooling. My grandfather is in his eighties now and just blessed his 27th great grandchild. So no, my family wasn't rich. But I truly believe that if one has ambition, is serious and isn't lazy, he can and will find a way... Full Stop! 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by iyke2k4(m): 7:03pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
lastnogood:are you married? If no, you are yet to face reality. That your dad was successful before marrying your mum, isn't an assurance yours must start that Way. 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Vikky014(f): 7:15pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
chai i came very late .op wht type of mentality do u have? |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by manie(m): 7:37pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
sukkot: Between N2 million to N2.5 should be able to complete that house with moderate finishing. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by manie(m): 7:42pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
Rotentina: I am sure the house is not in Lagos, because the cost of building is high in Lagos. You did not include the cost of the land. Have you done the plumbing, floor tiles and the necessary finishing. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by lastnogood(f): 7:56pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
iyke2k4: Yes, I met my husband he had a 1 bedroom flat. We moved into a 3 bedroom flat once I took in. So there's no illusion or fairytale in this story. For a family of five, we live safely and comfortably, but this isn't the jewel of success that we are aiming for. Further more, there have been times when I covered the family expenses when he was in between jobs and starting out his own business. I'm not bragging or bashing just showing that it's possible for partners to support one another during hard times. This assertion that I'm expecting a ready made man is bogus. If he didn't analyze my family history and my own ability to carry the family in better or worse, he wouldn't have taken me either. If I wasn't enterprising, didn't work and show myself to be a self sufficient self starter our partnership wouldn't work. Real men are drawn to hard working, emotionally grounded women. The real fantasy is that when you get a house and cat that life is good and hustle is finished. This creates the failure to launch males we now see in life. The hustle starts when you have the house and car because now you need to leave a legacy to your offspring! |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 8:42pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
manie: If you read the comment well, you will see that I did not include the cost of the land, and you will see where I mentioned "not yet finish". I am Ogun State....!! For the issue of plumbing, I just finished digging my borehole...........and it cost me 140k, for we who don't know how to change digits, building of house will be gradual! |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by abidex0z(m): 9:04pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
adeaks:spot on bro |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by zheroes(m): 9:54pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
op am coming for you. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by krak101(m): 10:46pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
Ioannes:... Good. So op you're insinuating it's owk for rich guys to marry BROKE babes? If yes... so why not the other way round? Grow up. Relationship I believe is a 2 way traffic. Nothing lasts forever. Today you might have n tomorrow you might no. Infact what now happens when the guy suddenly don't have all those things? 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Monalisa185(f): 11:32pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
frakdon: hehehehe... make I leave the above first... alcohol, yeah, I do, buh minimal.. why |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Djustprince7(m): 2:38am On Mar 22, 2016 |
I want to make a confession here on dis platform...I wish I was ominiscience,I wish i know everything ..I mean every damn thing starting from the no of stars up there down to the no of hairs on every living soul...I wish I have just this attribute of God in me. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by HaroldFinch(m): 5:04am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Dear OP, I think your post should be about contentment. Issues are not as simple as you make it seem. If it suits Mr. A's lifestyle to get married when he has it all, it may not necessarily affect Mr. B who could get a wife and be contented with half as much as Mr. A has. Most things in life have proportions. With a two bedroom apartment, or even one, Mr. B may be contented with his wife, and that could be their own definition of "heaven". Mr. B should stop swooning over a woman far above his income. If he can't afford the kind of life that will give her contentment, there are still many women who would fall heads over heels for his peanuts. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 7:38am On Mar 22, 2016 |
streetzdreamz:. I hear you and analysis there maybe some sense in what you just said however to me that is an abnormality, . Your thinking is weird dude and i say this for the reason below: I wld nt knw if you are a christian but if yes cool. do you remember what Jesus christ did to that tree that did not bear fruit, he cursed the true and it dried up. In Gen 1:28 God said be fruitful and multiply. Dont let all this yankee culture and mentality carry you away. someone brought you into this world, this same person raised you (assuming), it is also ur responsibility to bring someone else and to raise that person providing for their needs. Brother go and hustle have a steady source of income and start a family. all this your "what if " scenario only leads to analysis paralysis. There is never a perfect time and the money will never be enough. that my word for you this morning. And why we sometimes respond to comments on this forum is some people learn alot from here and someone can post very misleading post, it is our duty to counter. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by ClintonDal(m): 7:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Vinshu:And I think a lady who has got nothing other than her pussy to offer has no right to demand what a man should have before dating or marriage? 2 Likes |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by streetzdreamz(m): 9:12am On Mar 22, 2016 |
keyman0007:true,its an abnormality but i love it,not everyone on earth is grateful for the gift of life,i for one aint!!!so you see not everyone thinks and wants the same thing from life,either u succesful or not,have kids or not,get married or not,poor,rich the adjectives goes on,but guess what?it all ends @death,so whats the fuss about life? Life is meaningless but most people wont agree with that,but the truth is,its all bullsh*t!!!its like sex,u only enjoy the pleasure for some minutes,the second u done,the pleasure ceases and u wouldn't even remember how it feels,thats why its insatiable...you know the crazy part??no one asked or got our consent before we were given birth to,we just found ourselves on earth,and now when we die,we gonna burn in sulfur if our ways aint right with the creator right?its more like a predestined tragedy,so we have to strive,pray,hope to avert going to hell?i mean its crazy,bet i know more of the scriptures than you do,so dont lecture me about the bible....... |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 9:47am On Mar 22, 2016 |
streetzdreamz: I really am speechless on your perception of life. Life is no bullshit to me and will never be for you. And remember it is nt how much you know but what you do with what you knw. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by frakdon(m): 9:52am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Monalisa185:nothing, just wanna know, because I have a female friend, in our compound here, there was a time she returned from outing on a Sunday evening,then I asked her, do you take alcohol, she said yes LIFE lager 'boldly' then I told her, so mu na gi, ga outing, we will be dragging who will finish 2 bottles of alcohol first.. Any ways, I thought alcohol is for men? you take alcoholic wine or Beer? How are you coping, with everything, and hope you don't go into rain? |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by streetzdreamz(m): 11:35am On Mar 22, 2016 |
keyman0007:if our views dont differ then life wouldnt be fun at all,do have a nice day. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by MattChidi(m): 1:56pm On Mar 22, 2016 |
Its only a woman with no vision will think like this. I bet you'd like to be seen as a liability to a man who married you since you brought nothing to the table. You need an already made man please also be ready for its consequences, don't. come and lament here that you're not happy in your marriage despite your fat account. Life is a gradual process, from low to high...if you think a man shouldn't think of a woman when he's working to make ends meet how do you expect him to consider you when he has made it. 1 Like |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Bavis(m): 6:44pm On Mar 22, 2016 |
not from mine experience but someone close. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 12:39am On Mar 23, 2016 |
adeaks: Praise the Lord, I can say yes. Daddy Hannibal God bless you o |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Finestlex(m): 12:53am On Mar 23, 2016 |
What happened to the days of "what a man can do, a woman can do better. Being comfortable or rich must not be a guy's duty, ladies can also work hard and own a property and a car before getting married instead of being shameless gold diggers.. Most times ladies that spill this balderdash don't own shit.. Stupid topic |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 1:41am On Mar 23, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: If this is your thought about marriage then you're in the wrong marriage |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Aroh48(m): 2:20am On Mar 23, 2016 |
redwriter:you need a brain transplant.When the op said that all guys should have at least a car and house before getting married.you were happy.I just made my own suggestion and you started crying.Hypocrite! |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 7:04am On Mar 23, 2016 |
neoapocalypse:I am not married |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by somtoJ(m): 7:20am On Mar 23, 2016 |
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a WOMAN who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married. Nonsense... selfish goldiggers. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 8:53am On Mar 23, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: Okay , but please and please don't go into marriage with this notion , finding your better half shouldn't be to your disadvantage as a couple. You guys are supposed to get better in every facet of life. |
Re: Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car Should Not Get Married Or Even Date! by Nobody: 11:13am On Mar 23, 2016 |
neoapocalypse:what notion? Are you sure you didn't quote the wrong person? |
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