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7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Vinshu(f): 2:09pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Religion has no doubt been doing a great job in shattering the homes of the married and breaking bonds two singles have for each other. Religion has been a controversial factor in relationships all over the world. Although, i preach against religion most times but for those who are already sunk in it. There are ways you can handle a relationship whereby your partner is of different religion. interfaith relationships can work perfectly if you respect each other's different views 1. Respect If you're in a relationship with someone of different religious views to your own, always respect their faith, even if you don't agree with it. Even if you think that yours are the correct views, they have different opinions. Each of you needs to respect and acknowledge that the other has the right to their views. 2. Don't Try to Convert Them Your faith (or lack of) is obviously important to you. But however much you wish that your partner would share your views, you shouldn't try to convert them to your religion. They may decide to do so, but it has to be in their own good #time and their own decision. Equally, if you are an atheist you shouldn't denigrate your partner's beliefs - if you're that against religion, you shouldn't be with someone who has a faith. 3. Children If you decide to have children in an interfaith relationship, you will need to discuss how you want them to be brought up. Will they be raised in one religion, or learn about both and decide when they're older? Again, it is important that they are brought up seeing that both parents have respect for the other's faith. 4. Discuss Since faith can have a major impact on a relationship, it's essential to the health of the relationship to talk about the issues involved. Don't ignore them and hope it will all resolve itself. Talk about how your families react, where you would get married, and how you will raise your children. 5. Open Mind Always keep an open mind about your partner's religion or atheism, even if you don't understand why they feel the way they do. If you have a strong faith, or no interest in religion at all, it can be perplexing or upsetting that your partner feels so differently. But accept that they have the right to their opinions, and that nobody is 'right' or 'wrong.' 6. Learn Try to learn something about your partner's faith or lack of. That doesn't mean you have to change your views, just that you should try to see #things from a different perspective. It will also be interesting to learn about a different faith; every religion (and atheism) has its merits, but should also be open to questioning. 7. Support Your Partner Finally, support your partner and their right to hold different views. It can be very challenging if your family dislikes you dating outside their faith, but if you want the relationship to last you will need to defend your partner. If they #face hostility, and you don't speak out, it will undermine the relationship. Dating outside your faith is a challenge, but can also enrich your life. More interfaith relationships could actually be a very positive thing - we shouldn't forget that we're all human! Have you been in an interfaith relationship, and what were the challenges? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Cutehector(m): 2:14pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Protestant girls be like Honey, let's go and meet my pastor . Na so. U nor go knw wen u Don leav ur catholic church! Abego ooo, na joke ooo.. biko. 3 Likes |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by tommysparks: 2:16pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Interfaith marriage is like an egg on a pin. It can burst or crash at anytime 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Strahovski1(m): 2:17pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Nice thread. My wife is christian whilst i'm hindu. I respect her religion, she respects mine. Its a good thing for people in relationships to respect each other's religion not trying to enforce or convert them. That aches my heart. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by lumzybo: 2:18pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
U are so on-point. I share ur views. The major point is no2. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by OXCUBA: 2:19pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
LIFE DOESN'T HAVE A MANUEL. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Vinshu(f): 2:26pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Strahovski1: I thought its an abomination for Hindu to lay with non-hindu? |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Strahovski1(m): 2:27pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Vinshu: Well, It depends on the family. Each family with their laws binding with those of the Elders. My family doesn't have a problem with external religion. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Michellla(f): 2:28pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Don't Try to Convert Them Your faith (or lack of) is obviously important to you. But however much you wish that your partner would share your views, you shouldn't try to convert them to your religion. They may decide to do so, but it has to be in their own good #time and their own decision. Equally, if you are an atheist you shouldn't denigrate your partner's beliefs - if you're that against religion, you shouldn't be with someone who has a faith. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Tallesty1(m): 2:35pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Difference in religious view = incompatibility. I don't like anything that will gimme or my kids troubles in the future. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by madridguy(m): 2:42pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Good write up. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Vinshu(f): 2:44pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Tallesty1: It can be managed. What if the woman you truly fall in love with is not same religion with you? Will you let her slide because of that? |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Tallesty1(m): 2:52pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
Vinshu:I don't gamble with my happiness and peace of mind and I don't do anything that may disturb my kids in the future Vinshu:I will unfall in love and look for another one. Vinshu:Certainly. 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by IsaacBuchi(m): 5:31pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
What a lot today is that religion is your values. Many religions have lost their values or are confused what values to keep. That why it is to assume that interfaith can be managed. For me my religion has high moral values and if I marry someone who doesn't share the same values I am simply saying telling my partner is I don't really cherish my values, I can toy with any values whatsoever & you can cheapen or disregard mine anytime. It's is No No for me! |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Nobody: 7:03pm On Mar 20, 2016 |
I come from a mixed family that has 3 different religions going on. Acceptance and love is key. And remember you cannot change people to what you want no matter how right you think you or your opinions are. |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by Vinshu(f): 11:02pm On Mar 21, 2016 |
IsaacBuchi: It isn't like that. Your partner would respect your religion as well. That he or she doesn't share same idea doesn't mean your values are cheap |
Re: 7 Ways To Handle A Relationship When You Have Different Religious Views by aventura: 11:56am On Mar 30, 2016 |
How they do it is what I don't understand.How about a christian and a jew or a muslim and a christian, knowing that they worship same God ( the abrahamic God) As for the children, I'd like to bring up my kids in a way I feel it's okay, at least by me so I don't understand how this arrangement will stand. However I do not agree with number 2. Dialogue is key in understanding certain things. How about an atheist who is one as a result of lack of knowledge in religious understandings while enriching his or herself in non religious teachings. Don't you think that a little or some enlightenments in areas of ignorance could be helpful? |
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