Bolarge:
  @Topic

  Ever heard the saying "Character is what U are when nobody's watchin"?
Dt explains the whole NYSC syndrome.

Your bobo/babe ain't there.
Your parents ain't there.
Your pastors ain't there.
Nosy church members ain't there.

  What d'U expect?It's the perfect opportunity people have to explore their freakiest fantasies-
And good girls do have fantasies- don't be decieved.

Youngpo413:




wow this is the best reply.

Vikkyk10:
youngpo

Youngpo413:



yes dear...

Vikkyk10:
samakinr is my bestfwend.Very close and tight fwend.

Obaj1:
Thx kachii. Thats exactly my point. My fiance was d perfect example of good girl, We dated 4 nearly 3years, And believe me, i wasn't blinded by love. Unlike d girls Nikegenius mentioned, she's not one to sleep around. Still she messed up, Even she admited that. It all just doesn't add up, I av a couple other female friends who broke up wit their bfs cos of guys they net within d service year. My point is d statistics are kinda too glarin to ignore, Even d good girls aint so good when it comes to d service year!

TayoD:
While I may have heard some 'horror' stories about the NYSC and relationships, I do nothing but bless the memories of my service to my country as a Youth Corper as well as bless the town known as Isi-Alangwa in Abia State, where I met my sweet, oh so sweet wife.

Without that opportunity provided through NYSC, I doubt if I ever would have met, let alone marry her. I guess NYSC means different things to different people afterall.

dammy0405:
Girls misbehaviour during the NYSC scheme is a common thing and its just very unfortunate. I'm currently serving in bauchi state and i know exactly wat is going on.Like Bolarge said "character is wat you are when nobody is watching.both guys and girls tend to misbehave whenever they are far away from their"people", when they feel no one is watching them and so they can do wat they like.
Another thing i want you guys to understand is that boredom makes some girls to go astray(even when they are married). Its lack of self discipline on their part i agree but these things happen. Imagine a girl posted to a state ministry in a place like bauchi state. she only goes to work maybe once in a week or once in two weeks without being punished and doesnt have any PP she's doing. She'll be in her house from morning till nite and remember the saying that "The idle mind is the devil's workshop".
Well, there are two sides to a coin, like someone said it all depends on whether u guys are meant to be together forever, if ure not then u'll definitely break up during NYSC or after.

schizo:
observing

cynthia:
Well Well Veriety is the spice of life and NYSC Camp is where veriety lies, who knows?

cynthia:
Well Well Veriety is the spice of life and NYSC Camp is where veriety lies, who knows?

almondjoy:


You are a very brilliant young lady--jkpretty.  The reason I pinned down mine before we ever left for NYSC.  The best ones to pin down are the ones from wealthy homes with a sound family background--well grounded in the need to succeed. They sure do not want any disgrace.

Ladies, just look around your classrooms or University bukas and try to look for the "aje butter" guys with off campus hostels and their own cars reading Medicine or Pharmarcy and pitch your arse there.  If you carry belle--no remove am. Just carry am go give his mother. They might make wahala initially but just maintain your cool and keep dosing the guy with that "sweet stuff" of yours till like 2 or 3 children comot from inside.   By the time you finish school--you are married woman to a good guy--with prospects.

Just make sure ALL the siblings of the guy you want to snag are all graduates or abroad with prospects.  That is how you know a potential. Not those hungry guys and babes--still struggling with parents in the villages.

If the dude or babe is from a family where the guy is struggling to pay his fees or non of them have seen the 4 walls of a university--you are going into a disgraceful sufferhead relationship!


NYSC is way too late to snag a spouse.  You must do so when you are in the University. Or you will find yourself on Nairaland for like 7 years looking for one till one recycled "Old Cargo" pities your arse and makes you his or her valentine.   Make sure your own parents have money too so both families can help you guys raise those kids while you are trying to adjust to the whole "process".

Trust me, it pays off in the end!

Most people do not realize that it is when you are in the University you find the most desireable partners.  Instead they play around while they are there and come to Nairaland to roam around looking for dates!

Enjoy your NYSC jkpretty!

harakiri:
This thread shows how naive and dumb it is to believe in "love", "trust" and "security" when it comes to relationships/marriages. I went through the school system/NYSC and i know all the crap i witnessed. If not for self discipline and morals, i could have slept with at least 2 married women if i wanted. And these were women whose husbands where back at home believing they had "good wives". How about the ladies in serious relationships? I slept with one that was already engaged and due to be married in a few months after the NYSC program. The guy would call her while we were cuddled up together and if an average man sees how she purrs and talks so lovingly on the phone, he will vow never to commit to any woman or get married ever. They would be talking excitedly on the phone about the approaching married life. I felt so sorry for the guy.

This is why i keep telling guys to go into relationships/marriage with their eyes open. Don't believe the feministic hype of "trust" and "security". That is what women use in blindfolding men. If there was anything like "trust" and "security", then why do people get married? Why not live together as a couple, raise children and take it from there? Why do you need to sign a legal binding contract at the registry called marriage certificate and call invite guests to a wedding to act as "witnesses" if marriage is based on "trust"?

When will people start thinking outside the box?

TayoD:
While I may have heard some 'horror' stories about the NYSC and relationships, I do nothing but bless the memories of my service to my country as a Youth Corper as well as bless the town known as Isi-Alangwa in Abia State, where I met my sweet, oh so sweet wife.

Without that opportunity provided through NYSC, I doubt if I ever would have met, let alone marry her. I guess NYSC means different things to different people afterall.

blaceagle:
May be NYSC does not kill relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got my second half during my service. U wont believe she was a virgin when I met her may be @ poster u let her leave for NYSC as a virgin. So for those of u that av virgin girls goin for NYSC now is the time to act or may lose her 4 eva.Be wiseact now or 4eva hold ur peace

harakiri:
This thread shows how naive and dumb it is to believe in "love", "trust" and "security" when it comes to relationships/marriages. I went through the school system/NYSC and i know all the crap i witnessed. If not for self discipline and morals, i could have slept with at least 2 married women if i wanted. And these were women whose husbands where back at home believing they had "good wives". How about the ladies in serious relationships? I slept with one that was already engaged and due to be married in a few months after the NYSC program. The guy would call her while we were cuddled up together and if an average man sees how she purrs and talks so lovingly on the phone, he will vow never to commit to any woman or get married ever. They would be talking excitedly on the phone about the approaching married life. I felt so sorry for the guy.

This is why i keep telling guys to go into relationships/marriage with their eyes open. Don't believe the feministic hype of "trust" and "security". That is what women use in blindfolding men. If there was anything like "trust" and "security", then why do people get married? Why not live together as a couple, raise children and take it from there? Why do you need to sign a legal binding contract at the registry called marriage certificate and call invite guests to a wedding to act as "witnesses" if marriage is based on "trust"?

When will people start thinking outside the box?

truthsayer009:
Antibrutus

Come & tell us about your NYSC experience

AntiBrutus:


What experience?

The NYSC itself or guys who were looking for 1yr relationships whereas they had gfs back home? Which one?

truthsayer009:


This one

ima1:
im sorry i wouldn't know but in every relationship one person loves more and hard, guess she is not the one in this case. don't blame NYSC, she's always got what i call the HO-FACTOR. she would have slipped anytime just thank God u found out sooner.