Is it just me or does anyone else think we attach too much importance to dating? I think we mistake it for courtship.

Honestly, it breaks my heart to see people assess their BF/GF's suitability as a partner in an marriage when they're just dating.

That was the real reason I decided to hang boots because it is becoming impossible to see a girl that will just date you without thinking about marriage all the time. They take dating way too serious. Many of them don't seem to know that dating and courting aren't the same.

The modern dating system which practice today has only been around for less than a century, and to me, it is devil's version of the old courtship that intending couples do.

The couple back then and few that still do it concentrate on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage but dating?.....hah! It is just the thing that happen when too adults come together to chill out and possibly bang without getting their hearts involved.

Dating can start today and end next week, month or year but because we take it for what it is not, it now ends in many hurts, heartbreaks, scars, and loss of life. It shouldn't be so.

I am not saying that it is impossible to find a suitable partner while dating, ofcourse there's a possibility of you stumbling on your perfect partner while playing in the field but that isn't the main goal.

Dating is strictly for fun, keep your feeling aside. It is for adults that can handle it. It is the thing we do while trying to satisfy our selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments. And it ends there. I don't get why people see dating as time to search for “The One.”

When you ask a lady out, she will check your age, financial status, maturity, height etc but all these doesn't matter in dating.

BreadandBeans:
OP what are you yelling about when Madrid just been barca.. biko go and sleep,,, or

smellymouth come and put mouth

Bornita:
#yawns.....

#flys_outta_thread

myfantasies:
But relationship leads to marriage

Tallesty1:
I honestly don't get what you mean.


Please shed a lil light.

myfantasies:
U said we should not take relationships serious

If we don't take relationships serious den how r we going to get married

Good nd serious relationships lead to marriage

Daniel2289:
Sometimes dat fun can leads to seriousness.

BumBae:
Hmm smh

myfantasies:
U said we should not take relationships serious

If we don't take relationships serious den how r we going to get married

Good nd serious relationships lead to marriage

Tallesty1:
Please goan shake your hip on another thread.



I am not seduceable

Tallesty1:
Well, I asked you clarify because relationship means many things.

It could be dating, friendship, courtship, even those that bleep married folks are in a relationship with them and you and I know that they are less likely to get marriaed but I ain't talking about them, rather I am talking about the modern system of dating.

Mediapace:
Abi o

MzPecs:
I see...
So it's meant to be friendship first and then God's willing, it'll lead to courtship and after that marriage.

Hmmmmmm..

BumBae:

Wish i had hips to shake
Lol why u so tensed tonight wt happen

U no want make i ginger ur topic ni

Tallesty1:
Bum dey ur moniker and you no get hip?

Where are they hanging? What's supporting them?

Tallesty1:
What to do when you're serious bout someone is to plant the seed of friendship and let it grow.

Whatever it produces, take it.



There's this Nland bae that was flashing green light and I decided to protect her ego by making a move.

I acted like I wasn't aware of all her flashing and asked for her contact.

I called her the first day and we got talking and she asked me how old I am.

I told her the honest truth and she was like "ah! And Igbo's marry at 35, that means you won't until the next ******years"

My dear, she no near me again.

Supposing I lied to her, she would have left her bra in my house the first day, her skirt the second day and before you know it, her clothes will outnumber my own in my wardrobe and boom! We are living together.

It shouldn't be so.

myfantasies:
Hmmmmm

So wats wrong with the modern system of dating

thecultivateur:
Why date when u can simply do a research on her once you get to know her. In our igbo culture, it's simply known as "Iju ese" No need of wasting time.

Tallesty1:
Nothing, if you're ready for it. It becomes a problem when

1. You're Young. Imagine a young man or woman in their early teens that instead of enjoying their teen years as they build skills and character, they are getting distracted into the quagmire of relationships that they are not equipped to conduct.

2. When you mistake it for courtship.

BumBae:

It just God

Kinglekan can explain it for u

But back to the matter at hand oga dis topic no make sense .. Calm down, pls just read it well how can be just for fun .. Pls take note the word you used is JUST ..

Tallesty1:
Dating is just for fun, nothing else. If it leads to marriage then praise God, good accidents happen.

BumBae:

But you to take it serious to a degree whether you like it or not .. Even one night stand seff get seriousness
I.e after dat one night you get a ohone call " hello it bumi Im pregnant" * nollywood back ground music drops *

Pls is that not serious u seff check am well

Tallesty1:
You don see where cockrel dey pursue hen? You noticed the serious?



Good, it ends once his selfish goal which I believe you know has been achieved.