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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by HaneefahRN(f): 10:53am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
I believe choosing to be unmarried doesn't prevent one from having babies.

I'm sure you know the era of baby mammas/daddies is fast approaching? And very soon it will be a standard norm that people will no longer frown upon.

We are saying the same thing
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 10:54am On Apr 07, 2016
HaneefahRN:


We are saying the same thing
Cos we are, but from different angles. grin LOL.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 10:55am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
Might I ask the age grade of these families? How old are the couples?


In my family, we have more males than females, heck, I have 2 sisters with very hefty brothers, and hey, I'm the last male in my family.





Couples within 22-40yrs of age, I live in a neighbourhood with a lot of young families. Kids within the age range of 3months to 16yrs.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 10:55am On Apr 07, 2016
HaneefahRN:
And the funny part is that time isn't upon us yet, cos the population of male to female in the World is almost balanced and besides the need for marriage is gradually waning . More people will chose to be unmarried with time.
Population has little to do with it.

Economic swing is doing it already. Population won't play any role.
More men are delaying marriage for lack of finance and financial establishment.

More women are getting emplyed.

I have witness two ladies who paid their brideprice themselves and sponsored their marriages last year.

It took a misunderstanding for this to spill out.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 11:01am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
She is the typical example of a typical ngerian woman.
Logic never sits well with them, they had to resort to some emotional abstruseness to colour the argument with sentimentality.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by HaneefahRN(f): 11:08am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:
Population has little to do with it.

Economic swing is doing it already. Population won't play any role.
More men are delaying marriage for lack of finance and financial establishment.

More women are getting emplyed.

I have witness two ladies who paid their brideprice themselves and sponsored their marriages last year.

It took a misunderstanding for this to spill out.

I agree to an extent and still disagree with this. I believe women are more likely to be unemployed than men, although more women seem to be focused these days on being independent, while some men would rather do fine boy like you pointed out. Most ladies I know are getting their education and even a side skill, how many guys do this? Yh, men are marrying late seeking financial stability which some might not find till their 40s and a woman most likely wld find someone ready to settle down during that period.

They paid their bride price because our Society still pays so much value on marriage. If this continues, marriage will gradually lose meaning. Just get someone to make your babies with, if interested, cest fini

So what's your view about this? Is this a menace of some sort. And what are the causes?

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by HaneefahRN(f): 11:08am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
Cos we are, but from different angles. grin LOL.
Lolz.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:15am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:





Couples within 22-40yrs of age, I live in a neighbourhood with a lot of young families. Kids within the age range of 3months to 16yrs.
Wow! And you noticed they had more males than female. Hmm, we seem to have noticed different things.

I know couples within that age grade who have more female kids than male, my observation made me know their quest for having a male child was the reason why they even had more females...
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 11:15am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:



Really? and this man is forcing his promiscuous wife home.

https://www.nairaland.com/3034103/missing-housewife-traced-brothel-3



He could have married seven more, why is he chasing after one if your posts were true? Someone mentioned that women give birth to more girls, I will say that you have no idea. I see more all boys families around me.

I would have found the bolded comical if it weren't so ridiculous.
How does the preference of one man become the criterion for measuring the matrimonial behaviour of men in general?

That a man is forcing a promiscuous wife back home
is so atypical of the average man.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:17am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:
Logic never sits well with them, they had to resort to some emotional abstruseness to colour the argument with sentimentality.
And never forget, sensationality mixed with all manner of hasty generalization and non sequitor comments.

Sometimes I wonder why they never can seem to make friends with logic and reason.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:19am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
Wow! And you noticed they had more males than female. Hmm, we seem to have noticed different things.

I know couples within that age grade who have more female kids than male, my observation made me know their quest for having a male child was the reason why they even had more females...



My observation also made me know that their quest for a female child was the reason they had more males. The other day I made a post about a neighbour that is facing the threat of her husband bringing a second wife because she has no female child yet. So everything depends on the shades of your own world, different area, different observations.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:21am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:
Population has little to do with it.

Economic swing is doing it already. Population won't play any role.
More men are delaying marriage for lack of finance and financial establishment.

More women are getting emplyed.

I have witness two ladies who paid their brideprice themselves and sponsored their marriages last year.

It took a misunderstanding for this to spill out.
Funny, I won't be surprised if the women are the ones who spill the beans about the issue involving their bride price.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:23am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:


I would have found the bolded comical if it weren't so ridiculous.
How does the preference of one man become the criterion for measuring the matrimonial behaviour of men in general?

That a man is forcing a promiscuous wife back home
is so atypical of the average man.



Was your post about yourself or men in general? Your assertions would have been comical if it wasn't so ridiculous that you have the fantasy of 7 women begging to be your wife while fending for themselves undecided.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by Creamish(f): 11:23am On Apr 07, 2016
Dcholeric:


in addition I will write : " men are naturally advanced breed among all living species, so they tend to benefit however and whichever turn events/happenings take and most admiring feature about men is that they won't even complain but they just figure out how to make the best out of all situation"
the above is an intentionally sentimental post grin , you may try killing me if you don't agree grin.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:24am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:




My observation also made me know that their quest for a female child was the reason they had more males. The other day I made a post about a neighbour that is facing the threat of her husband bringing a second wife because she has no female child yet. So everything depends on the shades of your own world, different area, different observations.
I find the emboldened very hard to believe. I mean, in a society that is mainly patriarchal, that places too much importance on the male child, I find it very unbelievable to believe.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:31am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
I find the emboldened very hard to believe. I mean, in a society that is mainly patriarchal, that places too much importance on the male child, I find it very unbelievable to believe.


As unbelievable as it sounds,it is true. I have mentioned it in a thread before now. People see from different angles. For some male kids only doesn't cut it. A man also mentioned on the thread that he will be happier with all female kids than all male kids. Another lady stated that she will be happier with 3 daughters and a son, this I have heard before from a friend. Different people, different preferences, you can't use yourself as a yardstick to judge majority.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:34am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:



As unbelievable as it sounds,it is true. I have mentioned it in a thread before now. People see from different angles, for some male kids only doesn't cut it. A man also mentioned on the thread that he will be happier with a female kids that all male kids. Another lady stated that she will be happier with 3 daughters and a son, this I have heard before from a friend. Different people, different preferences, you can't use yourself as a yardstick to judge majority.
No doubt! But as I know you know, majority carries the vote. More nigerians are more prone to wanting and having male kids than females kids. That's a fact!.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 11:37am On Apr 07, 2016
HaneefahRN:


I agree to an extent and still disagree with this. I believe women are more likely to be unemployed than men,



You will get employment before most boys in your class!! Even in IT, we pick female students in my firm more than males.
HaneefahRN:




although more women seem to be focused these days on being independent, while some men would rather do fine boy like you pointed out.

Most modern men are placing more emphasis on looks and clothes than in skills. Check romance section, the caliphate of dummies for instance. grin grin grin grin

Both female spongers and gold-diggers aren't on the decrease either. The upper class is the exclusive preserve of male at the moment.
HaneefahRN:



Most ladies I know are getting their education and even a side skill, how many guys do this? Yh, men are marrying late seeking financial stability which some might not find till their 40s and a woman most likely wld find someone ready to settle down during that period.

/quote] You answered your own poser! Men are marrying late = few men are available for marriage. grin

[quote author=HaneefahRN post=44484634]


They paid their bride price because our Society still pays so much value on marriage. If this continues, marriage will gradually lose meaning. Just get someone to make your babies with, if interested, cest fini

So what's your view about this? Is this a menace of some sort. And what are the causes?

A woman paying her bride price is the proof of height women cherish matrimony and family. It will never change.

And I'm not suggesting women would actually live with a single man literally as do conventional marriage requires.

Most firms and employees give benefits to the married, with women dominating in work places, they will naturally want to cash in on it.

Our society do not give inheritance too to children born without fathers. I see women doing paper marriage to legitimatise their offspring and safeguard their future.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:39am On Apr 07, 2016
joseph1832:
No doubt! But as I know you know, majority carries the vote. More nigerians are more prone to wanting and having male kids than females kids. That's a fact!.


Probably but I still see more male kids around me .I personally believe that nature will always find its balance some how. I understand OP's point about the financial angles pointed out, I just don't agree that the birth rate of females is higher than males.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by FTBOY: 11:40am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:
Mindfulness,
when NIGERIA published her population figures giving males a slight figure higher than women, the UN rejected the figures as unfounded.

More male child die at infancy and childhood, more men die in wars, armed robbery, cultism, terrorism, fights, wars and men don't live as long as women.


Most population figures of advanced countries are given at birth which tilts it just a fraction higher in male population. But when you factor in all the aforementioned factors that hinders the growth of male population and that the fact that all prisons and detention facilities worldwide holds more men in captivity than women, you realise you don't have a prayer.
let's just forget about the untimely, hazardous deaths which tend to claim the lives of men most of the time...there are also established facts that women have a higher life span than men..
According to this criterion, the longest human lifespan is that of Jeanne Calment of France (1875–1997), who lived to the age of 122 years, 164 days.

As women live longer than men on average, combined records for both sexes are dominated by women. The longest undisputed lifespan for a man is that of Jiroemon Kimura of Japan (1897–2013), who died at age 116 years, 54 days. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_people
the difference is crystal clear......these people are just arguing blindly..

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 11:40am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:




Was your post about yourself or men in general? Your assertions would have been comical if it wasn't so ridiculous that you have the fantasy of 7 women begging to be your wife while fending for themselves undecided.

I can't make out what you're straining to communicate.

Maybe if you become original and don't use my words, you will be better understood grin grin grin
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by Djailer: 11:41am On Apr 07, 2016
HaneefahRN:


I agree to an extent and still disagree with this. I believe women are more likely to be unemployed than men, although more women seem to be focused these days on being independent, while some men would rather do fine boy like you pointed out. Most ladies I know are getting their education and even a side skill, how many guys do this? Yh, men are marrying late seeking financial stability which some might not find till their 40s and a woman most likely wld find someone ready to settle down during that period.

They paid their bride price because our Society stillyou pays so much value on marriage. If this continues, marriage will gradually lose meaning. Just get someone to make your babies with, if interested, cest fini

So what's your view about this? Is this a menace of some sort. And what are the causes?

Your statement is a threat to societal decorum and sanctity. "Just get someone to make your babies with, if interested ". You're explicitely advocating for people to start procreating without any pledge to lasting bond and commitment.

You should have studied researches on single parenthood and know the implications of what you're proposing. Since making human life to you is similar to a dog who crosses 3 blocks of flat and open her legs for the next neighbour who would be the 3 dad of her 4 child.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:42am On Apr 07, 2016
OP the financial angles postulated is on point .
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:48am On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:


I can't make out what you're straining to communicate.

Maybe if you become original and don't use my words, you will be better understood grin grin grin



If you are having difficulty understanding your own words, how then will you comprehend mine? Try and " make out what I am straining to communicate " Mr English tongue.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by FTBOY: 11:48am On Apr 07, 2016
Creamish:


Au contraire mon ami..@Bolded.. some of us did settle with men within our age range/age grade. U forgot that was an option too. U cannot classify all men into the Old Daddy's Agemate/ Young Oyakhilome wanna-bez.

That said, I do understand OP's view and yeah Iv seen that women these days are the fair majority in some institutions. We are taking education and career more seriously these days than our male counterpart so I can see where the OP is heading to. I'l speak personally for myself and thank God I don't have to share my man with 6 other women... heads will roll!!! grin
well, are we not saying the same thing? grin you said "some" of you marry men within your age range and i said "most" ladies nowadays marry their fathers' age mate because they place education and business before man (and in some cases before God). so be happy you didn't jump in the same wagon with the unfortunate majority.. cheesy

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by byvan03: 11:50am On Apr 07, 2016
Ichabod Crane comes to mind grin grin.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by HaneefahRN(f): 11:52am On Apr 07, 2016
Djailer:


Your statement is a threat to societal decorum and sanctity. "Just get someone to make your babies with, if interested ". You're explicitely advocating for people to start procreating without any pledge to lasting bond and commitment.

You should have studied researches on single parenthood and know the implications of what you're proposing. Since making human life to you is similar to a dog who crosses 3 blocks of flat and open her legs for the next neighbour who would be the 3 dad of her 4 child.



Lolz, whatever. Don't get yourself worked up. You don't know me, so? Just stating things how it is. Values and morality is being lost every minute, lots of people, male or female behave slightly better than dogs, it's nothing new.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 11:58am On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:



Probably but I still see more male kids around me .I personally believe that nature will always find its balance some how. I understand OP's point about the financial angles pointed out, I just don't agree that the birth rate of females is higher than males.
Probably? Come on men surely you know the nigerian society is one that is as traditional as it is religious, and both place a very high importance on male kids, than females kids. Might I also remind you that both also oppress and suppress females? grin I see more females kids and female adults around me. I'm intrigued to ask you if you're resident in Nigeria, if you are, then where are you resident?

As for nature, sure, nature has a way of balancing things, no matter how devious it might seem.


As for your last point, there isn't any standard way of knowing if we have more females on this planet, than males. All I know is what by SAA111 lecturer told me: "If you have a society where there is more males than females, that society is fading/dying". And I believe him. Remember, it only takes one he-goat to fertilize seven she-goat, and it can never take seven she-goat to fertilize one he-goat.

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by lezz(m): 12:02pm On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:




If you are having difficulty understanding your own words, how then will you comprehend mine? Try and " make out what I am straining to communicate " Mr English tongue.
When you throw my words back at me, they lost their meaning in your word-blindness and dyslexia.

Being original seems a burden to you as making logical postulations grin

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by HaneefahRN(f): 12:03pm On Apr 07, 2016
lezz:
You will get employment before most boys in your class!! Even in IT, we pick female students in my firm more than males.

Most modern men are placing more emphasis on looks and clothes than in skills. Check romance section, the caliphate of dummies for instance. grin grin grin grin

Both female spongers and gold-diggers aren't on the decrease either. The upper class is the exclusive preserve of male at the moment.

Hmmmm, male nurses don't have it bad actually. So you might use other cases. I think it depends on the areas and fields too, like naturally women would have a upper hand, and larger representation in female dominated fields.
And whose fault is it you pick more females?


Lolz. So true. Really cracked me up.

Hmmmm, yeah.
Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by joseph1832(m): 12:04pm On Apr 07, 2016
byvan03:
Ichabod Crane comes to mind grin grin.
I want to believe we're not fighting ghosts, ghouls, poltergeist and spirits here? grin

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Re: And There Shall Be 7 Women To 1 Man..... by Creamish(f): 12:06pm On Apr 07, 2016
FTBOY:
well, are we not saying the same thing? grin you said "some" of you marry men within your age range and i said "most" ladies nowadays marry their fathers' age mate because they place education and business before man (and in some cases before God). so be happy you didn't jump in the same wagon with the unfortunate majority.. cheesy

tongue .. Go and make money so U can marry before U get to ur father's age. grin

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