shaybebaby:

We'll all be gone tomorrow, why on earth you think it is just birds beats me.
All the more reason to live life to the fullest and not merely exist. YOLO.
And even if it's just plain co-habiting, kini big deal?

Marriage is no different from co-habiting...

You do realize though that married people don't like the sound of this, as there's this burning desire to appear more experienced in certain marital matters...yes?

Kimoni:


@bolded - do you think religious beliefs are based on or coined from logic? Do you know of any that is? Which pls?

Lol...as the saying goes, science and religion don't mix.

Nothing about religion is logical, there's no way religious beliefs can be backed by logic - heck, 5000 people were fed using 5 loaves of bread and 2 fishes.

crackhaus:

Lol...as the saying goes, science and religion don't mix.

Nothing about religion is logical, there's no way religious beliefs can be backed by logic - heck, 5000 people were fed using 5 loaves of bread and 2 fishes.

Of course it doesn't mix.

Crackhaus, let's deviate a bit. I need to understand something...

Would you feel threatened in any way or feel like your manhood has been taking away if your wife becomes the breadwinner? Is there a possibility you'll become suicidal if she's making it more than you are? And if not, what exactly is the problem with a woman becoming more successful than the man that seems to get at men so much?

Arrrrhhhh see who is here! Timbuktou, can you help with the questions I just asked Crackhaus? Your sincere views.

We can take it to the boys thread if you guys wish.

crackhaus:

Marriage is no different from co-habiting...

You do realize though that married people don't like the sound of this, as there's this burning desire to appear more experienced in certain marital matters...yes?

You cracked me up with that. It might appear so but I have just stated my opinion based on my experience. I wouldn't invalidate someone else's opinion when their experience may differ from mine. Afterall we didn't shack up with the same person. This I am certain of, I imagine I would have noticed if there was a third person under my roof.
So far this has been about me, what's your story?

crackhaus:

Okay I'm interfering again, truth is I ended our exchange last night cos I needed to go offline...but I'm reading you here again typing the same thing about making use of a building not because it was a church but because of the sentimental attachment to the building.

Just to point me in the right direction, I'll just ask you directly:
Did you take Christian vows during your wedding, and was it officiated by a pastor/priest?

I made the vows because it was required as part of the ceremony and as such repeated what I was instructed to say. But I was present at the ceremony in the first place because of the love I had for then partner. The vows, mere motion of exercise.
In my heart, the promise I made was to love him to the best of MY ABILITY. I gave 10 years of that so trust me, I gave it a good go and didn't quite on a whim.
And FYI, the pastor/ priest thing is not a big deal, why? I could officiate your wedding if you, do a course online, get certified and viola! You have me, conducting a religious ceremony to suit your style in your back garden if you wish.

Kimoni:


Fair points. But this particular case is made easier because you've not only admitted to knowing(and presumably understanding) these particular set of beliefs but also getting married within the tenets of this religion; so again, why should we exclude when we are all on the same page?

Because by stating as such, your simply asking me to take your word for it and not explaining why I should.

shaybebaby:

It matters not to one jot to me what you think. The very tone of your questions is laced with bitterness and anger.
You are entitled to your opinions and whatever floats your boat, that's your ish. I do not seek your validation nor is it required.
Not matter what you say, or think..it makes no difference. You are insignificant in the greater scheme of things. Enjoy wallowing in darkness.

Widow......

Kimoni:


Of course it doesn't mix.

Crackhaus, let's deviate a bit. I need to understand something...

Would you feel threatened in any way or feel like your manhood has been taking away if your wife becomes the breadwinner? Is there a possibility you'll become suicidal if she's making it more than you are? And if not, what exactly is the problem with a woman becoming more successful than the man that seems to get at men so much?

Boys thread, i know why you asked.

crackhaus, tim boys please.

njokusboy:


Widow......

Lol! Saddo....get a life...a real one.

Kimoni:


Of course it doesn't mix.

Crackhaus, let's deviate a bit. I need to understand something...

Would you feel threatened in any way or feel like your manhood has been taking away if your wife becomes the breadwinner? Is there a possibility you'll become suicidal if she's making it more than you are? And if not, what exactly is the problem with a woman becoming more successful than the man that seems to get at men so much?

Kimoni:
Arrrrhhhh see who is here! Timbuktou, can you help with the questions I just asked Crackhaus? Your sincere views.

We can take it to the boys thread if you guys wish.

Will respond there in a bit..

shaybebaby:

I made the vows because it was required as part of the ceremony and as such repeated what I was instructed to say. But I was present at the ceremony in the first place because of the love I had for then partner. The vows, mere motion of exercise.
In my heart, the promise I made was to love him to the best of MY ABILITY. I gave 10 years of that so trust me, I gave it a good go and didn't quite on a whim.
And FYI, the pastor/ priest thing is not a big deal, why? I could officiate your wedding if you, do a course online, get certified and viola! You have me, conducting a religious ceremony to suit your style in your back garden if you wish.

The vows, a mere motion of exercise for you... Lol .. Wow

I take it then that you were present in that church, standing in front of an officiating minister, and taking the sacred Christian marital vows...all because of the love you had for your 'then' partner - it was all his idea I presume.

I understand now, thanks for responding.

shaybebaby:

You cracked me up with that. It might appear so but I have just stated my opinion based on my experience. I wouldn't invalidate someone else's opinion when their experience may differ from mine. Afterall we didn't shack up with the same person. This I am certain of, I imagine I would have noticed if there was a third person under my roof.
So far this has been about me, what's your story?

My story...well my story isn't nearly as fun as yours considering how you've been there and back.

crackhaus:

My story...well my story isn't nearly as fun as yours considering how you've been there and back.

And when I die, I will be singing " I did it myyyyyyyyyy waaaaaaaaaay".
Your story is not interesting? Nahhhh, don't give me that. If it is indeed true, you need to get out there and give life a chance.
Even in pain, there lies the opportunity to grow. One of the most painful things I ever dealt with was also the most revealing. It forced me to redefine happiness. I appreciate the lesson learned and still learning from it.

crackhaus:

The vows, a mere motion of exercise for you... Lol .. Wow

I take it then that you were present in that church, standing in front of an officiating minister, and taking the sacred Christian marital vows...all because of the love you had for your 'then' partner - it was all his idea I presume.

I understand now, thanks for responding.

I could stand in another church, a registry, on a beach somewhere and say exactly the same words.
Intent rather than mere words is everything.

shaybebaby:

And when I die, I will be singing " I did it myyyyyyyyyy waaaaaaaaaay".
Your story is not interesting? Nahhhh, don't give me that. If it is indeed true, you need to get out there and give life a chance.
Even in pain, there lies the opportunity to grow. One of the most painful things I ever dealt with was also the most revealing. It forced me to redefine happiness. I appreciate the lesson learned and still learning from it.

Lol, trust me I have been out there..done, seen, experienced, and still living out some crazy shiit.

Truth is, I would be biased if I gave my opinion on cohabitation vs marriage cos I have ample experience only in the former...and it's been mostly good.
The next phase is not so far away

shaybebaby:

I could stand in another church, a registry, on a beach somewhere and say exactly the same words.
Intent rather than mere words is everything.

The vows shaybebaby, the vows...lol.

They're CHRISTIAN vows, that be my point.

crackhaus:

The vows shaybebaby, the vows...lol.

They're CHRISTIAN vows, that be my point.

My bad, lol. Too late innit...

crackhaus:

Lol, trust me I have been out there..done, seen, experienced, and still living out some crazy shiit.

Truth is, I would be biased if I gave my opinion on cohabitation vs marriage cos I have ample experience only in the former...and it's been mostly good.
The next phase is not so far away

Then from the bottom of my heart, I wish you and your intended the best. The next phase will be whatever you make of it.

So so so true. Some women are something else. They can lie and try to spoil other women's marriage deliberately or indeliberately.
My friend once told me how a neighbor of hers used to tell her how my friend's husband is not trying because they had no furniture in their house yet. (they had been married for abt a year or so). My friend started feeling bad. U wont believe that she later saw for herself that this said neighbor did not have a furnished house either!
My female neigbor whom I am friendly with told me something my Husband did didn't seem right. I angrily told my Husband what she said. He in turn got angry cos I took sides with an outsider and even took negative advice from her. No be small quarrel that day o. All untop wetin third party put for my mind. I knew what the real situation was cos my Husband and I discuss everything but my neighbor made me feel otherwise. Its even funnier cos I witnessed the incident. After that day, more sense came upon me to be careful who I listen to. My Husband reported her to her husband (his friend) who warned her to desist from interfering in other ppl's matter. Esp those she isn't really familiar with cos we newly packed into the place. N I can honestly say she had no ill-intention but still...

Loisemm:
So so so true. Some women are something else. They can lie and try to spoil other women's marriage deliberately or indeliberately.
My friend once told me how a neighbor of hers used to tell her how my friend's husband is not trying because they had no furniture in their house yet. (they had been married for abt a year or so). My friend started feeling bad. U wont believe that she later saw for herself that this said neighbor did not have a furnished house either!
My female neigbor whom I am friendly with told me something my Husband did didn't seem right. I angrily told my Husband what she said. He in turn got angry cos I took sides with an outsider and even took negative advice from her. No be small quarrel that day o. All untop wetin third party put for my mind. I knew what the real situation was cos my Husband and I discuss everything but my neighbor made me feel otherwise. Its even funnier cos I witnessed the incident. After that day, more sense came upon me to be careful who I listen to. My Husband reported her to her husband (his friend) who warned her to desist from interfering in other ppl's matter. Esp those she isn't really familiar with cos we newly packed into the place. N I can honestly say she had no ill-intention but still...

Somebody cannot even do small gbeborun with you, you'll just go like that and vomit everything to your husband
Anyways, thank God you received sense at last. God bless your home.

Kimoni:



Somebody cannot even do small gbeborun with you, you'll just go like that and vomit everything to your husband
Anyways, thank God you received sense at last. God bless your home.

Looolzzz. Amen. No mind me my sister. I told my Hubby cos I was angry. After I pleaded with Him not to go to the woman's husband but for where. He went o.

shaybebaby:

My bad, lol. Too late innit...

Yea, too late.. But better late than someone going insane, or worse, dying from heartbreak

shaybebaby:

Then from the bottom of my heart, I wish you and your intended the best. The next phase will be whatever you make of it.

Thanks for the wishes.

shaybebaby:
Anyways, I am going through a divorce right now and would advocate it when all else fails. The most important thing is determining when the horse is well and truly dead. At that point, it's time to move on.

So there! One divorce advocate present.!!!

As a marriage advocate, I would typically be saddened to hear this. I'd even take the "divorce advocate" remark as evidence of you hurting, and let it pass.

Then you said this;

Marriage is no different to a relationship

And this;

My marriage didn't fail because of the usual reasons i.e abuse, infidelity or even absence of love. Relationships are more complex than that.

Also this;

Morality has no place in this discourse, rather reason.

Along with the rest of your self-serving posts to justify your vain pursuit of "happiness" (strictly for yourself), your willingness to blame the union's breakdown on your husband, damning him in his failures - as asserted by you - whilst generously clearing yourself of yours, although you instituted the divorce?

You even claiming you loved and still him, while crowing about your "new love" - and before the papers are even finalised - and yet questioning the permanence of the new (which is really indicative of your wholesale character deficiency).

And not a mention that the potential long-term, even generational impairment to your childs well-being went singularly unremarked on. It was all about your self-absorbed navel-gazing.

And you were adamant in rejecting any notion of God or religion. But I guess one who worships self would have too. You obviously lack a sense of irony too.

A real losers mantra and failure' charter - "kini big deal" indeed.

Please un-follow me. I know it's not because you like me or my posts, but the thought of there being any connection between us is positively stultifying.


TV

TV01:

As a marriage advocate, I would typically be saddened to hear this. I'd even take the "divorce advocate" remark as evidence of you hurting, and let it pass.

Then you said this;

And this;

Also this;

Along with the rest of your self-serving posts to justify your vain pursuit of "happiness" (strictly for yourself), your willingness to blame the union's breakdown on your husband, damning him in his failures - as asserted by you - whilst generously clearing yourself of yours, although you instituted the divorce?

You even claiming you loved and still him, while crowing about your "new love" - and before the papers are even finalised - and yet questioning the permanence of the new (which is really indicative of your wholesale character deficiency).

And not a mention that the potential long-term, even generational impairment to your childs well-being went singularly unremarked on. It was all about your self-absorbed navel-gazing.

And you were adamant in rejecting any notion of God or religion. But I guess one who worships self would have too. You obviously lack a sense of irony too.

A real losers mantra and failure' charter - "kini big deal" indeed.

Please un-follow me. I know it's not because you like me or my posts, but the thought of there being any connection between us is positively stultifying.


TV

And yet with all of these, the sun rises spectacularly, earth spins within its own axis.
You really think that your thoughts, words and opinions make an iota of difference outside your tiny little sphere of existence.
NEWS FLASH..IT DOESN'T. nothing has changed, will change or ever change as a result of your little diatribe. So there, refrain from commenting in future okay, save yourself the time.

cococandy:

Lesbians

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