I'm nt a fan of Romance sectn on this for bt nid to share my heart burden and seek advice. There is this lady we met.We became frnds & later I extended my loving heart to her by divulging my intentns to marry her. At inceptn, she told abt her ex i.e hw she met another lady with him in his room(hope u get dt) and broke up...bk to my own matter... tho ve been pestering her for sme couple of mnths bt d only constraint as at d moment of getting my woo being replied she said she still got a bit of feelings for her ex if paradventure he comes begging or they meet- despite d fact dt she undrstnd her ex will hv had intercourse wit anoda lady. Her remarks abt me was like:
-am a really nice dude generally
-i nid smthng much beta dan ds
-she even made mentn if she dabble into any relationshp nw wit any1 is like she wanna torture dt person
Tho i love her so much whc she comprehend and visualise bt insisted she doesnt want to torture me atall. Up to d extent whc i explaind dt a guy dt do nt value lady wit dt attitude will surely repeat d act knowing fully dt she'll later come bk to him. Like i mentiond I really love this lady & have plans for her.

We're both in same city while her ex is smwhere else. Pls truthfully and maturely advice me on this matter coz she nt gvn me a POSITIVE REPLY is d real torturing than she returning to her ex.

Pls xcluding sex...thks

Baba, don't waste your time. move on.

even if you eventually marry her, be prepared to meet her in bed with that guy someday.

Nigerian ladies are promiscuous. Just imagine

Op, she chose to be a doormat of her ex than having u and u can't do anything on that matter...

If u really love her, let her go coz u do not deserved this kind of situation... LOVE shud give us all happiness and not heartache..

To avoid an 'I told you so' situation in the future, better let her be as she take her church mind dismiss you. Forbidden fruits taste best and that's what is attracting you now. Else, you will realise she just saved you a lot of embarrassment with that subtle remark.

KashyBaby:
Op, she chose to be a doormat of her ex than having u and u can't do anything on that matter...

If u really love her, let her go coz u do not deserved this kind of situation... LOVE shud give us all happiness and not heartache..

Op, here is your advice


Take it or leave it... Na u sabi

I just tire fr sm guys hre .dude u wanna enter fire knowing well DAT it burns. frget her,ion 1nt story wre by I ll cm bck her sayn" she said she dated me out f pity" dude Nt al gels re ment fr dating b Lyk August .(no lv) just drink chat n if u get d chance giv her d best bleep f her lyf.

KashyBaby:
Op, she chose to be a doormat of her ex than having u and u can't do anything on that matter...

If u really love her, let her go coz u do not deserved this kind of situation... LOVE shud give us all happiness and not heartache..

ur soothing reply and that of others really opened my mind to reality.......just that I still imagine what she's still looking for being in past.......
I asked her whether she got into covenant with d ex.....whc she replied NO... [sighs]

Kashbaby nailed it. Just nicely end it. U will SURELY find someone else that would value your affection. You don't want to be a rebound for the ex.at least she is honest to u with her thoughts.

yetunsbay:
I'm nt a fan of Romance sectn on this for bt nid to share my heart burden and seek advice. There is this lady we met.We became frnds & later I extended my loving heart to her by divulging my intentns to marry her. At inceptn, she told abt her ex i.e hw she met another lady with him in his room(hope u get dt) and broke up...bk to my own matter... tho ve been pestering her for sme couple of mnths bt d only constraint as at d moment of getting my woo being replied she said she still got a bit of feelings for her ex if paradventure he comes begging or they meet- despite d fact dt she undrstnd her ex will hv had intercourse wit anoda lady. Her remarks abt me was like:
-am a really nice dude generally
-i nid smthng much beta dan ds
-she even made mentn if she dabble into any relationshp nw wit any1 is like she wanna torture dt person
Tho i love her so much whc she comprehend and visualise bt insisted she doesnt want to torture me atall. Up to d extent whc i explaind dt a guy dt do nt value lady wit dt attitude will surely repeat d act knowing fully dt she'll later come bk to him. Like i mentiond I really love this lady & have plans for her.

We're both in same city while her ex is smwhere else. Pls truthfully and maturely advice me on this matter coz she nt gvn me a POSITIVE REPLY is d real torturing than she returning to her ex.

Pls xcluding sex...thks

I don't understand excluding sex... She tortures you but stll gives u sex? If na so keep chop until she has a multiple orgasm

Let her go if she's truly yours she will re think n come back and

lastly, don't be too nice to a girl or a lady they will always take advantage of you....

danduchi:
I don't understand excluding sex... She tortures you but stll gives u sex? If na so keep chop until she has a multiple orgasm

atall ! Rather what I meant was that Sex isn't part of my intentn

godofwar666:
Let her go if she's truly yours she will re think n come back and

lastly, don't be too nice to a girl or a lady they will always take advantage of you....

surely am very nice to her but based on school of thought that why shouldn't I show her all the care since she's who I want. Not looking @ it fr d angle of taking it as advantage

yetunsbay:
I'm nt a fan of Romance sectn on this for bt nid to share my heart burden and seek advice. There is this lady we met.We became frnds & later I extended my loving heart to her by divulging my intentns to marry her. At inceptn, she told abt her ex i.e hw she met another lady with him in his room(hope u get dt) and broke up...bk to my own matter... tho ve been pestering her for sme couple of mnths bt d only constraint as at d moment of getting my woo being replied she said she still got a bit of feelings for her ex if paradventure he comes begging or they meet- despite d fact dt she undrstnd her ex will hv had intercourse wit anoda lady. Her remarks abt me was like:
-am a really nice dude generally
-i nid smthng much beta dan ds
-she even made mentn if she dabble into any relationshp nw wit any1 is like she wanna torture dt person
Tho i love her so much whc she comprehend and visualise bt insisted she doesnt want to torture me atall. Up to d extent whc i explaind dt a guy dt do nt value lady wit dt attitude will surely repeat d act knowing fully dt she'll later come bk to him. Like i mentiond I really love this lady & have plans for her.

We're both in same city while her ex is smwhere else. Pls truthfully and maturely advice me on this matter coz she nt gvn me a POSITIVE REPLY is d real torturing than she returning to her ex.

Pls xcluding sex...thks

lol OP have been there before, the truth is this, she is not into you...see there are ladies like that who feel they can date a particular guy due to some reasons known to them but that does't mean they can't have anything to do with him(fling) it all depends on how you play your role...so stop forming all love for her cus that's not what she wants...so drop all those lover boy attitude cus it won't take u anywhere close to her..my own advice

my freind, stop been young and foolish....get ur ass up and move on.

hmm...dis one pass me... lemme ask aunty Halfricanadian .... shes more experienced.

zeetyzin:
hmm...dis one pass me...
lemme ask aunty Halfricanadian .... shes more experienced.

Na wa o

I have nothing to say

He knows wat he wants nd also wat she wants

I hope she wont regret wen d supposed Ex is now in d arms of anoda man

I can miss my ex bt cant wish to run into their arms any more

There was a reason we broke up u kno?

halfricanadian:




Na wa o

I have nothing to say

He knows wat he wants nd also wat she wants

I hope she wont regret wen d supposed Ex is now in d arms of anoda man

I can miss my ex bt cant wish to run into their arms any more

There was a reason we broke up u kno?

yeah.
hmmm...well said.
theres a reason they are addressed as "exes"...but i cant blame d girl, love is crazy, it makes one do unthinkable things sometimes...
BTW, shebi u sed u had nothing to say...

zeetyzin:

yeah.
hmmm...well said.
theres a reason they are addressed as "exes"...but i cant blame d girl, love is crazy, it makes one do unthinkable things sometimes...
BTW, shebi u sed u had nothing to say...

thats how we roll

all she told you are the normal lines women use for men so they won't hurt their ego,forget her bro and move on.She doesn't have any feelings for you.

I doubt if this got anything to do with her ex, she prolly told u that so she doesn't hurt ur ego considering u hv bin nice to her. Besides, I think the marriage intent thing might just hv come too soon. The Lady doesn't seem to hv a thing for u. I ll advice u move on

yetunsbay:
surely am very nice to her but based on school of thought that why shouldn't I show her all the care since she's who I want. Not looking @ it fr d angle of taking it as advantage

ok stay there

Thks all for ur contributions. You're wonderful people. Now,have tried to invite her for very last time (in my mind) whc she agree to come. Can parting ways be discussed right at the moment OR still got a point(chance)?

Firstly, dude you gotta work on that English, your typing, or both.
Language is meant for communication, not to confuse and give the reader a headache.

That said, the babe was honest, or rather is honest.
She hasn't gotten over her EX, and so you have no place in her heart for now.

What you can do is to spend alot of time with her, gain her love.
As humans we like and get fond of what we see regularly, let her see you regularly, call her regularly.
With time, you will be the new sheriff in town.

yetunsbay:
I'm nt a fan of Romance sectn on this for bt nid to share my heart burden and seek advice. There is this lady we met.We became frnds & later I extended my loving heart to her by divulging my intentns to marry her. At inceptn, she told abt her ex i.e hw she met another lady with him in his room(hope u get dt) and broke up...bk to my own matter... tho ve been pestering her for sme couple of mnths bt d only constraint as at d moment of getting my woo being replied she said she still got a bit of feelings for her ex if paradventure he comes begging or they meet- despite d fact dt she undrstnd her ex will hv had intercourse wit anoda lady. Her remarks abt me was like:
-am a really nice dude generally
-i nid smthng much beta dan ds
-she even made mentn if she dabble into any relationshp nw wit any1 is like she wanna torture dt person
Tho i love her so much whc she comprehend and visualise bt insisted she doesnt want to torture me atall. Up to d extent whc i explaind dt a guy dt do nt value lady wit dt attitude will surely repeat d act knowing fully dt she'll later come bk to him. Like i mentiond I really love this lady & have plans for her.

We're both in same city while her ex is smwhere else. Pls truthfully and maturely advice me on this matter coz she nt gvn me a POSITIVE REPLY is d real torturing than she returning to her ex.

Pls xcluding sex...thks

to be forewarned is to be forearmed..c'est fini

Bros yetunsbay look around you, how many girls do you see everyday? Even sambisa forest has 216 girls! Two freaking hundred and sixteen babes!!
Bottom line, except you aren't good at chyking babes or you have self esteem issues, take a smart walk from this babe and don't look back