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I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by missloluwa(f): 8:31pm On Sep 06, 2017
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by DanseMacabre(m): 8:36pm On Sep 06, 2017
Why not? You could settle for and invest in a struggler with potential, like yours truly.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:38pm On Sep 06, 2017
Well it all depends on you but no one would or rather should (cos some will) criticise you for wanting someone who's above ur paycheck

most independent ladies who end up with struggling men usually have broken homes and respect-barren homes..................(not that i'm saying u're one though)

its same with me though..........i wouldnt settle for any girl who's below average cos wetin all these gold-digging hoes don take my eyes see no be here


meanwhile for ur question in parenthesis

you just may have found one in me..........now lets get to see ur pics wink grin

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Sola73(m): 8:38pm On Sep 06, 2017
hmmmmm, I'm here 2 read comments...

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Sep 06, 2017
Lol op sorry to ask but how old are you


missloluwa just relax, you seem to be in a hurry.


The man you desire will definitely come, just be patient concentrate more on your career, be outgoing and socialise more.

.

But I hope you know there's a probability of you staying single till 30, because even those 'made' men you are looking for they are also looking for made girls, and beautiful slay queen and I hope you know most of them won't take you serious

lol just be sure to make the right decision.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by pocohantas(f): 8:39pm On Sep 06, 2017
You are not a gold-digger or any of those plenty adjectives.

Settle for where you find love, respect and fulfilment.

The probability you would find all of the above in a social status way below yours is low. I have come to notice our daily cycle, religious, social and professional association ...plays a huge influence on who we meet.

The emotional blackmailers and masters in scare tactics are here. They'll tell you of that aunty who has gotten to menopause for having a standard. They won't tell you of the ones who ended up emotionally shattered for not having a standard. There is no one formula for getting this right.

We all have things that helps our association with the opposite sex, be it financial, educational, religious, cultural...even sexual. There must be one 'vain' thing that keeps you glued to a partner, no matter how non-superficial you try to portray yourself. It only becomes a set-back if you pay no attention to other qualities.

That said, everything is done with moderation. There is no guaranty a struggling guy will treat you right. There is also no guarantee a rich man will treat you right.

The only man that would treat you right is that man who loves and respects you. Direct your association to your target kind of men. If you are bringing something to the table, you are deserving of a partner who does same. Let no one guilt trip you!!!

Our young men are getting 'smarter' too. Financial compatibility is important.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:40pm On Sep 06, 2017
sunshineR:
Well it all depends on you but no one would or rather should (cos some will) criticise you for wanting someone who's above ur paycheck

most independent ladies who end up with struggling men usually have broken homes and respect-barren homes..................(not that i'm saying u're one though)

its same with me though..........i wouldnt settle for any girl who's below average cos wetin all these gold-digging hoes don take my eyes see no be here


meanwhile for ur question in parenthesis

you just may have found one in me..........now lets get to see ur pics wink grin


always searching for pics .-/

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by NCANpatroller: 8:41pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.



Marry your mothers husband!
Im sure is already made
Oponu
Sow and reap!
Gerrahia mehn

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by emman44(m): 8:43pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Sorry for being religious doh I'm not the serious type when it come to religion. But on partner issue, you should ask God for direction.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by IamAirforce1: 8:43pm On Sep 06, 2017
I pray you find what you're looking for

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:44pm On Sep 06, 2017
Evaberry:



always searching for pics .-/

if it isnt the evil daughter of eve with thick thighs that accused me of verbal assault and got my main banned till november.........angry

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by missloluwa(f): 8:44pm On Sep 06, 2017
Evaberry:
Lol op sorry to ask but how old are you

I'm in my mid 20's.

pocohantas:
You are not a gold-digger or any of those plenty adjectives.

Settle for where you find love, respect and fulfilment.

The probability you would the above in a social status way below yours is low.

As I have come to notice our daily cycle, religious, social and professional association ...plays a huge influence on who we meet.

Hmmm, technically I found the respect with them. Love and fulfilment are so abstract, it's hard to determine how much is really enough. I like this answer though, thanks smiley

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by missloluwa(f): 8:46pm On Sep 06, 2017
NCANpatroller:
Marry your mothers husband!
Im sure is already made
Oponu
Sow and reap!
Gerrahia mehn

Bruv, it's reaaallllyyy not that deep, lol.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:47pm On Sep 06, 2017
sunshineR:


if it isnt the evil daughter of eve that accused me of verbal assault and got my main banned till november.........angry


Haha seriously

oh dear


I'm really sorry, wasn't intentional.

and you still mentioned the thighs

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by missloluwa(f): 8:47pm On Sep 06, 2017
emman44:

Sorry for being religious doh I'm not the serious type when it come to religion. But on partner issue, you should ask God for direction.

True sha, some of us like to be too independent? embarassed

IamAirforce1:
I pray you find what you're looking for

Aww thanks grin

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by queennsekxy(f): 8:51pm On Sep 06, 2017
whoever that pleases your heart
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by WeNoGoDie(m): 8:51pm On Sep 06, 2017
The best and most sensible thing to do is to look for someone at the same level as yourself or even higher. But in real life situations you find out its hard to find and some men at such levels have soiled their hands to get there though not all.

Most times people wrongly assume that people of lower level will be humble and well behaved than those at the topmost ladder. But it hardly ever works that way. Individuality is at play.

A man or woman that is cleverly hiding cheating and violent tendencies while still struggling to make it might appear to be hardworking and a spouse material but once married those tendencies will certainly showcase.

There's just an element of luck and/or blessing from God when people marry the right partner be they rich or poor.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by IamAirforce1: 8:53pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:


Aww thanks grin

What's the laughter for..
Are you serious about your write up or yo just seeking for attention ?

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by carzola(m): 8:55pm On Sep 06, 2017
This is why God should not
bless all the poor people

look at this bitch that use
to beg for sub money..

now has a taste.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by MrCork: 8:57pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.


angry

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Sep 06, 2017
Evaberry:



Haha seriously

oh dear


I'm really sorry, wasn't intentional.

wasnt intentional? undecided

wasnt intentional but you showed me a screenshot telling the meaning of "verbal assault" before reporting me angry

i felt like i was being told my crime in a court before being sentenced to a 3-months ban embarassed

had the intention of trolling you till november when i'll be unbarred but i saw no use and possible reward in it plus you just apologised

so we good grin grin (for now at least)

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by MrCork: 9:00pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.



....arrrh..ok so u lookin for some body who drive Mercedes Benz on nairaland... correct?...eho told u they have job?..u clearly a gold digggger!!!!(no oofeense) angry

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Sep 06, 2017
sunshineR:


wasnt intentional? undecided

wasnt intentional but you showed me a screenshot telling the meaning of "verbal assault" before reporting me angry

i felt like i was being told my crime in a court before being sentenced to a 3-months ban embarassed

had the intention of trolling you till november when i'll be unbarred but i saw no use and possible reward in it plus you just apologised

so we good grin grin (for now at least)


Lol

haha

I didn't report you. just showed you the screenshot, never knew mods were gonna do that.

I'm surprised you actually remember the details of everything that occurred tho

E-hugs

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nedfed(m): 9:02pm On Sep 06, 2017
Problems with gals/ladies of nowadays.
OP I pray your case is not like dat of my female friend (Bimbo).
@26, she got an appointment with FIRS
Ever since no man worth her taste, she sees every young man that approach her has poor.
This how she live till she clock 34 with no man to settle with.
To cut the story short, she later got married to one Alhaji@ibadan with 3 wives as a result of no choice. Now the Alhaji has stopped her from working and make her a full house wife.

Just a lesson for the OP, no one is born to be poor. An average man today can still be the next billionaire 2moro.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Ajewealth123(m): 9:03pm On Sep 06, 2017
Your life is in your hands.
But let me enlighten you, all those you mention isn't a criteria.
What matters in a relationship is love, LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE.
p'square/omotayo
Emoney/ his wife
Tuface/ Annie
And so on.go through their story line the guys were extremely poor but they are hardworking guys and today, few of their peers meet up to standard.
My advice is, marry foe love but marry someone who has ambition,vision and is hardworking

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by NCANpatroller: 9:09pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:


Bruv, it's reaaallllyyy not that deep, lol.

It is. Been limited in nigeria is not any guys fault. Your good job is from ur parent

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:11pm On Sep 06, 2017
Evaberry:



Lol

haha

I didn't report you. just showed you the screenshot, never knew mods were gonna do that.

I'm surprised you actually remember the details of everything that occurred tho

E-hugs

lol
i see............i suspect that mynd.44 sha.............dude never liked my moniker "pussyhunter" embarassed

and why wont i remember it all when it cost me a number angry

was chatting with a lady and she was about to give me her digits when i got the stupid ban.........................been cussing you since that day,
now i see i was cussing the wrong person even if somehow you still had a hand in it grin

E-kisses kiss kiss

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by truthsayer009(m): 9:11pm On Sep 06, 2017
Evaberry:
Lol op sorry to ask but how old are you


missloluwa just relax, you seem to be in a hurry.




The man you desire will definitely come, just be patient concentrate more on your career, be outgoing and socialise more.

lemme call Someone that's good at giving relationship and marital advise.

cc Pcguru1

The person you just called hasn't been in any relationship since 3 years. Well. He's a great guy sha at other things.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by emman44(m): 9:13pm On Sep 06, 2017
Mans plan is not Gods plan. seek God for his plan for you on partner. As you are only fulfilled when u operate under his plan.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Originalsly: 9:13pm On Sep 06, 2017
missloluwa:



Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below?


My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below.

What do you mean by same level?.... he having a good job?.... his family being ehmmm...almost rich like yours?.... educational level? .... being almost able to let you maintain your lifestyle? You want to continue that lifestyle then you have to find ehmmm....an almost made man... a man that just need a bit of polishing... a man like a piece of gold jewellery....not one that be like raw gold in the rock in the earth that has the potential to be a piece of jewellery. Those are the ones you had..... low carat gold still stuck in the rock!
But in these hard times.... you need to pay a whole lot of attention to the character of the person....not material stuff. Guys know what you want....and will blow potential chat in your ears... tell you what you want to hear.... what they will be. ...even me sef.....ehmmm..... let's whisper in private....too many bad belly people out here.... haters... who will want to get between me and my destiny!

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Rukkydelta(f): 9:18pm On Sep 06, 2017
Please don't settle for less. I love independent and hardworking ladies like you
Settle for someone within your financial range or someone above
And I will advise you if you are christian to pray that God should give you a rightful partner
Wishing you all the best sis

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