A young man who is in need of a serious advice, His Story has been trending online for days now.
The unnamed young man, who is about 31 years old is torn between leaving her girlfriend of 5 years who gave him her kidney and getting married to her without any feelings for anymore.

Read the mail below:-
“Hi, I am 32years old and my girlfriend is 31years old. We’ve been together for 5 years and now live together in a nice house.
Things have been slowly fizzling out and I’ve been feeling like we don’t belong together for a few months now. I feel like if I don’t make a decision soon we will be married and I will feel this way forever. But on the other hand, getting a kidney transplant has changed my life for the better in so many ways.
I feel like staying together is the right thing to do even if I’m not in love anymore. I’ll never be able to pay her back. I’m so torn and conflicted and feel like I have to make an impossible choice.
If I stay with her, I’ll always feel trapped and in a loveless relationship. If I break up with her, I’ll forever feel like an evil person for dumping someone who literally put their life on the line for me.”
What do you think he should do?

go for counseling, you will be fine.

So we should tell yhu Yo deserve a chilled bottle of orijin abi? No even think am atall, I repeat don't! No peace for the wicked! And a word is enough for the Wise!!!

is this for real??
return her kidney then.
morrafuking ingrate.

Chai


I pity dey girlfriend

Return her kidney and go away.

Barawo... U done use the girl finish, who u want come dump her for?? Return her kidney give her 1st before thinking of leaving ooh make God no go punish ur left brocus.

Considering the fact that you're already sharing body parts, you might as well share your lives- besides, odds are that your kids would make good donors too, should your present kidney go kaput.

But then that's just me being a troll.

U dont have to stress it anoda man will love her

Let her go nd b loved instead of u marrying her nd cheating on her

Just leave her

Someone will love her after all u not God but never ever u come back begging

christopheru:
A young man who is in need of a serious advice, His Story has been trending online for days now.
The unnamed young man, who is about 31 years old is torn between leaving her girlfriend of 5 years who gave him her kidney and getting married to her without any feelings for anymore.

Read the mail below:-
“Hi, I am 32years old and my girlfriend is 31years old. We’ve been together for 5 years and now live together in a nice house.
Things have been slowly fizzling out and I’ve been feeling like we don’t belong together for a few months now. I feel like if I don’t make a decision soon we will be married and I will feel this way forever. But on the other hand, getting a kidney transplant has changed my life for the better in so many ways.
I feel like staying together is the right thing to do even if I’m not in love anymore. I’ll never be able to pay her back. I’m so torn and conflicted and feel like I have to make an impossible choice.
If I stay with her, I’ll always feel trapped and in a loveless relationship. If I break up with her, I’ll forever feel like an evil person for dumping someone who literally put their life on the line for me.”
What do you think he should do?

Return her kidney and move on with your life. Abi bawo ni? Wicked human being
You have know damn choice you have to love and marry her by fire and by force, imagine you or one of your close relative are the one's in her shoes how are you going to feel?.

Such is life, you can now think of feeling for another soul in the name of love only when you are alive. You fail to think of the one who was there for u even @ D expense of her life. Don't u have parent, siblings etc who are supposed to be there for u? obviously, none of them could contemplate taking the risk then, so u could have just died like that, the one that was there for you then is now rejected by your feelings that she strived to keep alive. It's ur decision.

Op seriously seriously? If this same scenario played out with your sister, wat will be ur advise? Apply same to ursef.

SO U FEEL ROMANCE LANDERS ARE NERDS N JUS COME UP WIT SOME DISCONCERTING POST TO PUT OUT. BAH this doesn't make sense.... ma broda come up wit some oda...

halfricanadian:
U dont have to stress it anoda man will love her

Let her go nd b loved instead of u marrying her nd cheating on her

Just leave her

Someone will love her after all u not God but never ever u come back begging

My sister, you are right about this... He should free the girl , she will surely find a better person....


*some people are heartless

Hmm

. As painful as this seems, reality has set in. He doesn't love her anymore. It may seem really unfair and callous, but that would only be true if he deliberately made the feelings dissipate or treated her wrongly. There's no forcing things of this nature.

Nobody should be married out of pity or gratitude. No, that's not how it works. Your girlfriend will be traumatized, definitely, but it will get better and it's a whole lot better than being ensnared into a loveless marriage.


But I'm just wondering why the love chose to die after the kidney donation.

SANDOSKI:



My sister, you are right about this... He should free the girl , she will surely find a better person....


*some people are heartless

Criosly im with u

Dont understand d fuse

She will meet who will donate a kidney for her to live while he uses 1 so nothing special he can go far far from her

halfricanadian:

Criosly im with u

Dont understand d fuse

She will meet who will donate a kidney for her to live while he uses 1 so nothing special he can go far far from her

Illiterate. Wetin be fuse?

halfricanadian:
U dont have to stress it anoda man will love her

Let her go nd b loved instead of u marrying her nd cheating on her

Just leave her

Someone will love her after all u not God but never ever u come back begging

I don't know how people reason these day, I guess its too much Hollywood. I will reiterate that respect is more valuable than love... Hu says that he still still wunt cheat even if he loves her so much... People are becoming too selfish by the day and that is the reason for alot of breakups. If he dint hv money, will he b talking like this Respect ur spouses feelings , it comes with great responsibility...act like a man and not a child. Guy , e b like say devil wan use ur future play calocalo

Oliviaarims:
. As painful as this seems, reality has set in. He doesn't love her anymore. It may seem really unfair and callous, but that would only be true if he deliberately made the feelings dissipate or treated her wrongly. There's no forcing things of this nature.

Nobody should be married out of pity or gratitude. No, that's not how it works. Your girlfriend will be traumatized, definitely, but it will get better and it's a whole lot better than being ensnared into a loveless marriage.


But I'm just wondering why the love chose to die after the kidney donation.

I don't agree with you on this... With love comes great responsibility...y should u walk away from a relationship because ur love has faded away.... The truth is that no matter how much u love someone, that love will fade away some day, what will u do then, divorce? I think its a childish act when u say u can't marry out of pity( a person u once loved or made a significant sacrifice for u) respecting each others feelings is what keeps a relationship or marriage , and not love

Such is life,she was there for u at d point of ur death,u were nw sayn nonsense........plz kindly return ha kidney nd let d babe move on wit ha lyf

lol dude u funny now that she gave u ha kidney u don't love her any more thing is we don't appreciate wah we have till we loose it, such ladies r rare brov force yourself to love her again. grass is not always green on the other side, not many ladies wud do that for u!!!! Think brov.

leave her... and Karma will deal with u in a very hard way.... marry her.. and u be unhappy in ur marriage..my advice, meet with a true man of God... prophets were raised 4 a reason.

Go hang urself

ma gf of 3yrs have not done half of this and i al already contemplating marriage... if she can do what this your gf did... I won't need a soothsayer to tell me she is the ONE

halfricanadian:
U dont have to stress it anoda man will love her

Let her go nd b loved instead of u marrying her nd cheating on her

Just leave her

Someone will love her after all u not God but never ever u come back begging

Yes, I agree with all you said.


But, He should return the kidney first.

christopheru:
A young man who is in need of a serious advice, His Story has been trending online for days now.
The unnamed young man, who is about 31 years old is torn between leaving her girlfriend of 5 years who gave him her kidney and getting married to her without any feelings for anymore.

Read the mail below:-
“Hi, I am 32years old and my girlfriend is 31years old. We’ve been together for 5 years and now live together in a nice house.
Things have been slowly fizzling out and I’ve been feeling like we don’t belong together for a few months now. I feel like if I don’t make a decision soon we will be married and I will feel this way forever. But on the other hand, getting a kidney transplant has changed my life for the better in so many ways.
I feel like staying together is the right thing to do even if I’m not in love anymore. I’ll never be able to pay her back. I’m so torn and conflicted and feel like I have to make an impossible choice.
If I stay with her, I’ll always feel trapped and in a loveless relationship. If I break up with her, I’ll forever feel like an evil person for dumping someone who literally put their life on the line for me.”
What do you think he should do?

Go on a vacation to a nice place you both have never been to....spend about 3 days.......thank me later

A donated kidney also has a life span...i just hope you find a willing donor next time.

The content of your post is well understood.You have spent 5 years with her meaning you have know each other for 5 years.I dont believe you dont love her again or you never loved her.You are quite young @32 and dont for once think you have know everything about issues that has to do with human heart.marriage is not all about love.Love doesnt happen like that.Its compatibility that creates true love.5 years of her life she has given you.The sacrifice she made is great and rare if you ask me.Its possible that you have interest in another lady that you suddenly forgot what you have built with someone for 5 years and the sacrifice that the new person may not have made.I will advise you proceed and marry the lady you have known for a period of five years.You have known her and her weaknesses and her strengths.if you could be with her for five years in which she made such a huge sacrifice to save your life and you were cool with it.The new person may look like a wonderful person to you now but time will come when you will realize what you have lost.We are all human so we are not perfect.Infact we are far from perfection.stick to the lady you have know she was there for you.if you walk out now you will regret it and you will not be doing humanity any good.

cr7lomo:


I don't agree with you on this... With love comes great responsibility...y should u walk away from a relationship because ur love has faded away.... The truth is that no matter how much u love someone, that love will fade away some day, what will u do then, divorce? I think its a childish act when u say u can't marry out of pity( a person u once loved or made a significant sacrifice for u) respecting each others feelings is what keeps a relationship or marriage , and not love

Alright, that's your opinion. I stand with mine.

I haven't said that love is the only thing that keeps a relationship. I actually believe more in compatibility and mutual respect. But then again, both parties have to really want to be with each other. When one feels the strong need not to be in the relationship anymore, esp because there's no longer any form of attraction, I don't see the point in pushing things.