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Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 2:03pm On May 31, 2005 |
I advice her to discuss the issue with him. "What is the man's role?" and "what is the woman's role?" If she discovers that she does not agree with his views of what a woman's role is, then she should leave him. In this day and age when people are getting enlightened, a man that treats his girlfriend as a cook is likely to treat her as a slave when they are married. Don't forget: men are always on their best behaviour when courting a woman. If he's courting you and already treating you like a cook, imagine what he would do when he thinks you 'belong' to him! Imagine the things he would do to break your will to pursue your ambitions. Women just don't understand men and I wonder why. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by drwhopl(m): 3:40pm On May 31, 2005 |
wat did u say yr boifriend has turned u into a cook ,u shud be happy he didn't turn u to a punchin bag.u're rilly gon be a gud wife to most men u knw if u were ma gurl i'd hold u tite hw many gurls do wat u do,but it cud be love or lust it depends on u two. i'm out. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by whizkid(f): 5:42pm On May 31, 2005 |
tayotina: You said it, there is no assurance that they'll end up man and wife, so why bother herself? It isn't worth it, if you ask me! Guys like that will be even more difficult to please if they eventually settle as man and wife. I can imagine him saying the wife should sit down at home and become a full time housewife even against her will. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by jummy79(f): 10:13pm On May 31, 2005 |
seun: Just as men don't understand women! |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 10:49pm On May 31, 2005 |
jummy79:Agreed, but considering how much time and effort women put into the issue of relationships I would expect them to know better! I mean, men know enough about relationships to get what they want - most of the time, we simply want to '[url=http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=get%20laid]get laid[/url]'. And that's all there is to it, I'm telling you!seun link=topic=316.msg3037#msg3037 date=1117544592:Just as men don't understand women! |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by olutopmost: 3:44pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
[s]If not for what you've done for him, he'll never call you a crook. What have you done to him?[/s] editor: Cook, not crook. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by dafman(m): 4:11pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
It really depends on the state of the relationship between your friend and her boyfriend cos from what i've observed most 'homely' girls like to do the cooking when cohabiting, now i ain't saying it's a ritual. Her boyfriend is probably taking advantage of the situation. BTW you didn't mention if the guy is making it obligatory, has she told him doesn't feel like cooking? |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by tayotina(f): 4:21pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
She has actually made it known to him on several occasions that she was fed up with the cooking. Even there are times that she refuses to cook for him, and sure, they normally quarrel over it. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by dafman(m): 4:29pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
tayotina: you know what I think.....the love is sure not there cos i don't see any reason why I would want to put my girl in a difficult postion. He's hurting her by making her cook serially like she's some robot maid. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by otibouncing(m): 4:40pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
It's obviously love that your boyfriend feels to eat ur delicacies. It's fun! It shows love.You are naturally a "cook". So he has not turned to one. Enjoy! No complains or else... |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 4:56pm On Jun 02, 2005 |
It's obviously love that your boyfriend feels to eat ur delicaciesRun away from men who say things like this. When I first read the statement, it seemed like rubbish to me. But when I read it more carefully I realise it is crafted in such a way that a woman, being emotional, might accept it as the truth. Men that say things like this are known as playas - they are experts in the art of manipulation of women. It is not love that makes your boyfriend want to eat your delicacies. It is hunger, ok? The man is hungry and he doesn't want to cook by himself or spend his money at a joint. Hunger is what makes people hungry, not love. Please. It is not love that makes him force you to cook meals from you even when you are tired. It is selfishness. Extreme selfishness is what can make a man not care about the feelings of his so-called lover. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Nobody: 1:11pm On Jun 03, 2005 |
seun, i agre with you 2-4. haba!na hunger wan kill the guy so! guy abeg!!! no dey force ur babe 2 cook for you u hear.either u learn how 2 cook or... uh um!! i no go talk. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 1:28pm On Jun 03, 2005 |
Yes this is love. Kitchen slavery love . The Guy is the master and the lady is the slave. Nothing much to say just that, African culture when it comes to relationships between the realms of the lady (as the girlfriend) taking good care of the guy (as the boyfriend) is really cool. I love it. I need an African lady (Any available one?) |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Jun 03, 2005 |
my dear kazey,let me tell u,this stuff about African tradition is outdated stuff,or where were you when the world was advancing and Women Liberation emerged? sorry oh!! come out of the 19th or 20th Century and shine ur eyes well well. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 5:44am On Jun 04, 2005 |
Ah seems you don't have a humour for my sarcasm? i was just being sarcastic |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Olatunji(m): 2:31pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
Actually, the babe concerned should take this as a priviledge and not a right.For the guy to be devoted to you to the extent that he can't eat outside unless he gets home means so much to me. Look he has been eating before you both get to know each other and could still be doing that but because of the change in configuration he adjusted to eating your food then don't misuse the opportunity for the easiest and the quickest way to deal with one's wife is too avoid her food.Do not let people around destroy your marriage cos marriage is between two people.Make everything that goes on in your house be personal co someone that lacks such opportunity to cook for her husband would definitely make you to be exactly like her. On the other hand, the guy too should be a little bit reasonable She is not your slave but and helpmate.Handle her with care and always respect her. Good luck! |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by legry(m): 3:18pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
All the ladies here are feeling cool abi, look let me tell you all if your man decides that its your food he wants to eat all the time and you deny him this all the time , the day he will finally decide that he's add enough off it and makes up his mind not eat your food again loook na all you women here go start to give new posting " HELP MY BOYFREIND DOES'NT EAT MY FOOD ANYMORE PLEAE WHAT DO I DO HELLLLPPPPP ME |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 3:27pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
I have made many posts on this forum with the assumption that most Nigerian men enter into boyfriend/girlfriend relationships to get sex. I apologize. It appears I have been wrong. Nigerian men enter into relationships to get food! |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by dominobaby(f): 3:45pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
Legry, it appears you are getting it all wrong, it is not a bad thing for a guy to demand food, but when it becomes inconvenient for the girl, it is not fair on the guy's part! legry: He demands it all the time? so she's got no other work to do other than cook all the time, and for crying out loud they aren't married yet, so how does he expect 24hrs attention! |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 4:04pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
legry: OK Thank goodness a lady finally says it out loud. My Ex ladies need to read this. When you are not married to a lady you shouldn't give her 24hrs attention !! that is very fair !! i think its a good concept although she is saying the lady shouldn't give the guy 24 hrs attention , but i think its fair if i apply it the other way round.. Hope you don't mind |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by dominobaby(f): 4:13pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
Helllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooo! Kazey, don't get me wrong, 24hrs attention i mean is referring to what legry said of providing food 24hrs!(all the time) |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 5:08pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
see me see trouble o. Guys you see them |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by dominobaby(f): 5:16pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
kazey: Lol. na u dey originate trouble yoursef I hope you understand that THEY ARE NOT MARRIED! Case closed |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Ra(f): 10:41pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
If I'm dating a guy who loves food as much as this guy seems to, heavens forbid, I most porbably will call off the relationship. Yes, it gives a woman joy to prepare food for her man, as it should indeed, but 'moderacy' is the word in everything one does. Demanding food of me every second on the day is really outrageous. Tayotina, your friend is the only one who can decide if she wants to remain this cave man's 'mama put' or find true love eslewhere. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 11:58pm On Jun 04, 2005 |
But Tayotina really come to think of it. are you not exaggerating the situation a little bit? I mean the guy goes to work right? and that means he is only maybe getting breakfast before he goes that is if and only if the lady is living with him. And besides comes back after lunch, many Nigerians eat lunch at work. Very few actually come back home. So its dinner? and really as i said thats only if the lady is living with him, and how much really does a man eat for dinner? And if i might quote from what you said. Tayotina: When he calls? and its sometimes? maybe the lady in question is just slightly overreacting? or she is just lazy? (In that case using that as a reason) or maybe she made the mistake on winning his heart with food? and now she wants to stop what she taught him to get used to? i mean give that angle a taught really, don't you think |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 7:07am On Jun 05, 2005 |
kazey: Yada yada I'm ashamed to be a man. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by kazey(m): 7:16am On Jun 05, 2005 |
Well go for surgery and change your gender then |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Seun(m): 7:59am On Jun 05, 2005 |
Not necessary. All I need to do is change my nationality; I am sure that men from other countries do not have such ridiculous ideas about romance. Boyfriend regularly demanding food from girlfriend. Other men saying, "it's a sign of love" or saying "shut up and face your womanly duty"? Ridi[b]k[/b]ulous! These men are not traditional about premarital sex, but when the issue of cooking comes up they suddenly become traditional. Who are we decieving? |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by hotangel2(f): 1:22pm On Aug 01, 2005 |
She needs to dump that man. Jeez.. Food?? Won ti fi ounje se ni? (dem take food do am?) ha!! na wa oo. |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Latoya(f): 7:14am On Aug 02, 2005 |
What? He shuld be the one cooking for u and not the other way round. U shuld cook for him when u feel like it and not him putting u to it cos una neva even marry sef,so y slave yourself for a Boyfriend? I tire o |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by gina34(f): 2:53pm On Aug 08, 2005 |
thats what we are talking about being dependent, let your no be your no and let your yes be your yes simple. abi na by force |
Re: My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love? by Latoya(f): 3:13pm On Aug 08, 2005 |
Yes o. yes be yes and no be no |
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