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Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by DjAndroid: 11:43am On Jul 12, 2016 |
uwagimboo: Yes! Truth! 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by DjAndroid: 11:56am On Jul 12, 2016 |
yvelchstores: Salient points on this issue 1. The church is full of almost students. Student pastor things including the senior pastor(very young pastors) (though they are both graduates ) 2. She met the suitor in a ministers' conference. The suitor is a roving evangelist.( in my opinion, I don't think he can stop her from her from being a pastor) Questions: 1. What if after waiting from now till God-knows-when, and a suitor doesn't come from the church? 2. After the two-year wait, will the pastor provide an automatic husband for her? |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by yvelchstores(f): 1:45pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid:reasoning out spiritual things with your senses might cause a strain. in my opinion, since it is this way, maybe to give her closure, she can talk to someone who is like a leader to her to help her pray on the matter, not to confirm or contradict her pastor but just to knw if d gentle man is suitable for her and her call. 24 is certainly not an age to rush into anytin yet...it can linger till a year so she is sure of what she is doing.in the main time, I will suggest she keeps an open mind. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by Sehindemi(f): 3:07pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid:I 've read the previous comments here and sincerely I need to ask OP these questions; How many years has she (Your Sis) spent in that Church? Has the spirit of God not been flowing there? (And ofcuzz she would know if she's not deceiving herself) Isn't she a pastor, why has God not spoken to her? If you think God has spoken to her, where then is the confusion & delay coming from? An adage says ' What elders see when they're seated, trust me a child can't even see the tip if he/she climbs a tree'.. Invariably, Pastors in which holy spirit dwells do have a say on marital issues. Oh yes! She can heed to the Pastor's instruction depending on his spiritual life.. But note: There's no intermediary between Man & GOD! |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by DjAndroid: 3:34pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
Sehindemi: FROM WHAT MY SISTER TOLD ME, THE PASTOR DOES NOT WANT HER SERVICES IN THE CHURCH COMPROMISED. HE FEELS SHE WILL NOT BE ALWAYS AVAILABLE IF SHE GETS MARRIED NOW |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by Nyceguy92: 3:36pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
janvier27: I totally agree with you.. She should kick the man out like hell. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by yetseyi(f): 3:46pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
yvelchstores: Yvelchstores, Its a spiritual matter I perfectly agree ,The pastor is not even talking about praying with her about the brother or asking her to pray more about the issue or even asking if she has confirmed that the guy is what God wants for her, that's what pastors do. You do not tell someone that you can't marry a brother because he is not our church member. Even pastors that have seen that the brother is not Gods will would only advice and counsel or possibly warn you about marrying the brother. Pastor did not ask if God has spoken to her concerning the bro. Pastor did not say let me also join you in praying Pastor now said you can't marry this brother because he is not a church member. That statement "because he is not our member" is what I find disturbing. From that statement one can think he is a bit biased. Does it mean God can't lead her to marry someone outside her church. DJandroid the ultimate is for her to hear from God and be sure its God that is speaking and also confirm from two witnesses which I don't think should include this particular pastor because that statement "not from our church" seems like he is biased. 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by yetseyi(f): 3:49pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid: I had not seen the above when I posted this. yetseyi: |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by Artistree: 5:03pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
yvelchstores:My friend look bush eee! Record what you typed here and listen carefully to it, come back and tell us how you felt hearing it. This is what happens when people worship their fellow human beings. What right does the money-seeking, power-drunk pastor have to tell her who and when to marry? Where did he read it in the bible to lord it over his subjects? Adviser Nowamagbe... 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by diva90: 7:21pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
Fake pastors destroying future unions since 1900. A pastor is not God! He should not dictate to anyone who to marry or who not to marry. Your sister should not give up her marital plans for anyone's cheap manipulations |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by Nobody: 8:20pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid:Hmmmm my dear she should think twice, cos God forbid ooo if she misses her God ordained husband cos of her pastor....by the time she'll be fasting for another serious guy to come her way, the pastor might be very busying raising maybe 3-4 of his kids She should be decisive about what she desires 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by nnamdibig(m): 8:46pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
what are you guys saying sef? She is 24 and single, the pastor is 33-34 and single. Can't you guys see clearly that the pastor wants to marry her? The pastor is interested, that's why he refused outrightly there is nothing spiritual about about it. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by zimunachimdi: 9:17pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid: This is his only INTEREST. Your sister should be wise and know what she wants ooo. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by bukatyne(f): 10:27pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
yetseyi: God will deliver His people from Pastor Worship. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by SURElee(f): 11:31pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
The bible says do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever not that you shouldn't marry somebody from another church. Daily we see and hear how doctrines put in place by churches are man made and for their own selfish purposes. Clearly this pastor is scared of losing her to her husband's church. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by TV01(m): 11:45pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
DjAndroid: First, understand this; you and your family are potentially failing your sister. Then read this - https://www.nairaland.com/25562/pastor-parents-whose-decision-final#652377 All the best. Let me know if you have any further questions' TV |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by DjAndroid: 7:34am On Jul 13, 2016 |
TV01:HONESTLY I SEARCHED NAIRALAND FOR THIS ISSUE AND IN THE PROCESS I SAW YOUR COMMENT AND EVEN SHOWED MY SISTER TO READ BEFORE I OPENED THIS THREAD. THANKS FOR THE ELABORATE EXPLANATION. |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by ADUNOKIKI(f): 11:58am On Jul 13, 2016 |
OP, What if the man she see in two years time is not the best? If she is suspended from the church, will it mean she is suspended from heaven? If the man is okay for her, let her tell the pastor she want to go ahead with the marriage. Let her pray, hear from God, and tell the pastor that God has given her a go ahead. Mind you he is a pastor not God... Also, if he still insist, tell your sister to ask him to show her in the Bible where it states she should wait for two years more. You never can tell, he may have someone that he wants her to marry. She shouldn't dance to him "If men were God........" 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by TV01(m): 7:31pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
DjAndroid:You re welcome. Hope your sister charts the best course for her - with her family' love and support. Best TV 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by cococandy(f): 8:06pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
I don't blame the pastors. I blame those who give them the chance to interfere in their personal matters. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Younger Sister About To Get Married, Her Pastor Says No! by Sehindemi(f): 8:52am On Jul 15, 2016 |
DjAndroid:Comm'on Bro! That isn't a genuine excuse.. When has being married starts to be an obstruction to God's work kwa? #Bible says and I quote "Marriage is honorable in all"... But she shouldn't forget to seek the face of the Lord! chikena!! |
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