OMO IBO:

well, fair enough. Although i do not see the big deal in me asking the question . .

but you still haven't answered the question though?

Ujujoan:

Isn't it obvious?

!amebo no1:

 

OMO IBO:

Hahahahahahahahahahahaah.
see am. see am.
It is not what you think.
Make you slow down.

Deep Soul:

Uju. . .

How long have u been on this "road"?
For me its like morning sickness
Im worst hit in the mornings!
Yesterday was especially baaaaad for me
But today's better. Maybe it's cos I was awoken by a call that might get me the job.
It's especially harder when you arent busy. . .

That shld distract me a bit from the pain, right?

OMO IBO:

cool cool

Uju, there are some pithy questions i'd like to you.
A bit personal though. Hope you don't mind?

!amebo no1:

what do i think? onye aruruala

Ujujoan:

Aha! Here comes the question . .  fire away!  I dont mind!

Deep Soul:

Two years is a lot of recovery time. Pretty scary to think two years from now, I'll still be. . .

You are so right. Thot it'd never happen to me. Thot it'd never come from him

Initially, I was the one most likely to break a heart and not him, how ironic eh?

I will definitely meet people who want 2 love me, maybe even better. Already know some.

But that does not in any way help me. Thank God for God.

Ujujoan:

I dont see it as 'recorvery time' per say!!

I've of course come out of that 'out-of-the-world-experience-feeling'. SOmewhere along the line you'll realize he just wasnt worth the hearthache!

I'll love again, I'll get married, I'll love my hubby and my family. But I dont know if I can ever get over the betrayal and pain I felt then.

C2H5OH:

Dust upon dust. Your heart lost its virginity and . . . .

OMO IBO:

You've already answered part of the question when you responded to deep souls post.

Of recent, you've been on a mission. . . . .  . bashing guys. Obviously, you have your reasons.
I'd like to believe the opinion you hold of guys is/was born out of the fact that your last relationship did not work out.


My question is this: is this guy and the deceased relationship really  the reason behind your rants? or have you always had this opinion and felt like this?

Deep Soul:

Hmmmm. Cant wait to get to that line.
Such a comforting way to put it. . .

Ujujoan:

I’m not talking about my past relationship (the one you know about) . .  

And no, my men-bashing is not because of the experience I had with him. Infact, most of the time I spent with him was wonderful and no guy has being able to be what he was to me.

I’ve always had a low opinion of men, because of what I see around me, from family and friends. I mean when I was in my first year in the university, before I even started dating, a friend’s Fiancée left her 3 weeks to their weeding and married someone else a week after!! That gave me an idea of what I could face with men and I have always been very careful when I deal with the opposite sex.

But then you meet someone, who you think is the one, who you think loves you and who you think will do anything to make you happy. And just when you start to believe . . .  he shows you he’s just like the rest of them!  

OMO IBO:

Fair enough.
I could pick a few hiccups from your recent post but i've chosen the highlighted.

The bolded bits in your post shows that you can't be too careful when it comes to relationships.
If a relationship is set to turn sour then in most cases there is nothing you can do about it.

Not even setting high standards can stop a doomed relationship from going south.

Segun agagu:

@poster pls can u just summarise the story 4 us i want to know what happened

Kenny_G:

whilst i sympatise with the poster, why is it that men always get the blame when a relationship breaks down, i can see all the ladies here saying stuff like men sha!, kill the guy yadda yadda yadda!
We havent had the priviledge of hearing the guy's side of the story, and should a guy continue in a relationship he knows is doomed just because he doesnt wanna hurt the girl?
while  break-ups are often hurtful, we should spare a thought for the guy as well!

Hmmmm, u ok?

Ujujoan:

 but I dont think there's a man who could truly give me what I want in life.

Being too careful can't stop a doomed relationship from not working, but it can stop you from getting hurt!! And yes, setting high standards isn't even a guaranty, but it helps keep the other party on his toes!

But I've learnt not to expect much from a guy no matter how much I think I he loves me; I've learnt to trust/respect people based on their integrity/actions and not on what they say; I've learnt how not to be blind to the little things that we often overlook; I've learnt that no matter how perfect he seems/appears, he's still a man!!!

Now despite what you think, I love men! I have them as my best friends, I respect them at my place of work, I love to interact with them, I've dated really nice guys who I will always respect and I still enjoy having fun with men . . .  but I dont think there's a man who could truly give me what I want in life.

Ujujoan:

. . . but I dont think there's a man who could truly give me what I want in life.

Heart Broken. Me.

I used to read about it. Listen to it in songs. Thot it was all a big exagerration.

But here I am. It's happening to me. Me. I feel like I'm having an outer-body experience.

Feels like I'm watching someone else feel pain. Feels like I'm feeling someone else's pain.

Feels like I'm in a bubble looking down on the rest of the world.

Feel like I'm falling from the sky but will never reach the ground.

I'm so sad I feel it in my sleep. I'm awoken by my sadness, just like an alarm clock.

Sometimes, like when I eat that crazy chocolate cake or when I'm in God's presence, I feel I'll be ok.

But sometimes, like now, my heart aches, my head feels woozy, I feel like I'll pass out.

Bn on NL for over 2 yrs but this is my 1st eva post. This must be serious.

Me. I used to have so much strength. Never thot it'd ever happen to me. But he came along.

Stole my heart. Didnt mind cos I thot he was stealing it to keep in a safe place.

But he stole it. And shattered it. This sounds so cliche and weak (@least I used to think so). But how can I ever love again?

Why should I? How can I? How?

How do I get thru this?? How??

Wake me up when September ends!