Icecomrade:
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Stories we get from "Abstinence teachings" on social Media.

1. Help!!! My husband has a small ddick. What should I do?

2. Help!!! My Husband is a 1 minute man. He cannot satisfy me in bed. What should I do?

3. Help!!! My Wife does not like sex, I am tempted to go outside. What should I do?

4. Help!!! My Husband touches me once in 6 months since after our marriage. What should I do?

5. Help!!! My wife cries each time we make love. I am even afraid to touch her. What should I do?

6. Help!!! My husband has a weak eerection. I don't feel his ddick inside me. What should I do?

7. Help My wife is not Good in bed. She lies like a lug of wood. I don't enjoy sex with her . What should I do?


When you refused to check what your buying before you pay, please don't come to me for any silly advice. I have stopped contributing on threads on such topics for a very long time now.

Sexual compatibility is key to a successful marriage.

Be wise + Be smart

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braithwaite:




Very simple and yet a complex question . Personally, am of the opinion that sex is so significant, so powerful and so dangerous if misused, that it requires the type of long-term commitment, deep trust and strong mutual understanding that marriage conveys,sex is an integral part of human nature. almost no one would argue that ,indiscriminate sex with no concern for the physical, social or moral consequences is a good thing. Even that's exactly what our instincts would tell us to do. Human instincts don't care about long term consequences or social sanction, but human need to. The notion that sex should only be the expression of selfess, enduring love is not supported by science,so it would be a religious convicetion you either do or don't have.

braithwaite:


The act to delay or lemme use the word ABSTINENCE is really important to develop,but can constant self denial of the fleshy desire makes human happier?. People with low sex drive ,abstinence can be on the normal side for them.

braithwaite:


Sex comes in many ways, different flavour..No youth wants to enter a marriage been ignorant of the common explorations and variations that puts them on a huge disadvantage unless they're certain they and whoever they wnats to marry will be happy with plain variation of Sex...so ABSTINENCE is just WEIRD when you start rationalizing it as anything more than an act of practical necessity,

braithwaite:


If you can abstain.. No wahala.. and if you can't, Enjoy the rides or circumstances that it birth

Penetration or Non-penetration ?

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.

Jamean:


and I put it to you that some people are so committed to abstinence that they don't even embrace/hug each other, talk less of kissing or pre-intimacy. It's just like saying it is impossible to be great and affluent in life without been through formal education at any time in life, and that if you investigate they probably dropped out of school at some point.

The fact that it seems impossible to you doesn't mean people have not totally abstained in the past even till this present terrible end time.

Ok bye.

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

LaExpert:


These 'complaints' are usually heard when one party has been abstinent and the other has been exposed.

You hardly hear all these from an abstinent pair.

holluphemydavid:

U get my thumb up for d advantages u listed above

Adesiji77:


@"Nobody": This is a fallacy of hasty generalization. Not everyone follows the crowd...

lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.

OLAADEGBU:


So your reason for engaging in pre-marital sex is because the unfaithfulness?

eph12:


Some people can't do without taking hard drugs should we stop teaching against it? Some are kleptomaniacs should we also not bother to talk it? Because my little boy will always want to watch TV 247 I should allow him and not caution him since he will always choose TV over most other things?
If you don't believe in God your view will definitely be different from those that do so why bother? Your realistic view may not be another realistic view.

lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

Klare:



Very possible deaerie

Icecomrade:



What would tame the complaints among abstinent pair?

Low libido caused by abstinence or lack of sexual exposure?

lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

LaExpert:


Virtually everything in the quoted post has a solution, from low libido to weak erektion to quick expulsion.

Low libido is more of a psychological issue besides, there are ways to increase libido.

If I hit the gym with a first time gym user, I won't enjoy my workout session simply because I'll need to teach the newbie how to use the equipments... and he'll get better with time.
If we're both newbies, we'll enjoy the session as our trainer will easily put us through.

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

OLAADEGBU:


What about those who say they believe in God but still cut corners.

joseph1832:


Did I say that? Ask me a clear cut question and I'll answer you.

Icecomrade:


You tend not to understand the last post you quoted.

My question is on sexual crave. That's why I asked you if its is sexual exposure that causes high libido against abstinence resulting to low libido

Anjelus:


First, let me correct this erroneous notion, sex is the least reason for marriage, is just the icing of the cake, the primary reason for marriage is companionship and it is because of the misplaced priority that we now have marriages fallen apart without remorse. Any marriage built on sex is already standing on a faulty foundation hence the reason for extra marital affairs. With abstinence, you are in a good frame of mind to start a relationship with your head rather than your emotions. You able to look at the pros and cons of your partner and decide whether it aligns with your goals and values, otherwise, you are at liberty to move on without any emotional attachments that come with a sexual relationship. This apart, the most important reason is that ITS A SIN BEFORE GOD!!!

kennydotkom:


Yes it is possible , only if the lady in question refuse the guy that has consecience wit joint agreement never to engage in premrital sex. But it will take a self control people to obey. This. because its not easy. We hv to face reality.

lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

eph12:


They do so knowing fully well the repercussion. And they have most likely made their peace with it.
Do you know there is difference between saying you believe something and actually acting like you really believe.