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Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by blazer234: 2:29am On Aug 26, 2016 |
mikolo80: If you call her nagging because she asked your family member to act responsible, then you have got big mind problem 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by padi94(m): 2:29am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Madam if you dnt knw what to complain about, better join hand lets complain about this Economic situation. Do you even knw the relationshp ur husband has with the boy or his family(weda na d boy help ur husband get to wer him dey nw), if you dnt knw you better ask somebody. We need to talk abt dis economy seriously mehn 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by InvertedHammer: 2:32am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Rossy99:/ Look closer... May be the guy and your husband are lovers. Just saying... \ 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by mikolo80: 2:40am On Aug 26, 2016 |
blazer234:nagging has nothing to do with right or wrong. You don't go repeating the same thing when your partner clearly will not do anything about it. There's are other ways to make someone you do what you want without creating animosity in your home. Direct approach is clearly not an option |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by sorom4: 2:40am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn:that how wicked women role |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by SleekyPosh(m): 3:01am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Rossy99: That guy na werey boy |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by SleekyPosh(m): 3:03am On Aug 26, 2016 |
InvertedHammer: LMAO...WHAT DA FECK..HEHEHE..which kain comment be dis |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Taryur3(m): 3:07am On Aug 26, 2016 |
delishpot:I disagree with u delishpot...she said he only helped out when her own husband is around.CNT see where the dude used up the water fetched by the lady in this story.u complicating the issue.if its her siblings,she will do somtin good to suit the boy so he can help with house chores.the fact is most new wives of nowadays see husband family members as a threat to there home.my friend,tell her the truth...the guy can't stay there forever...tell her to build a strong relationship with the guy so her own children will be free with the dude in future...frustrating him away from the house is not the best.nobody knows tomorrow.I have a similar experience like this and what is happening now to my own situation will baffle you.treat everyone on ur way good,you will definitely need some of them someday.goodluck 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by SleekyPosh(m): 3:09am On Aug 26, 2016 |
favexx: MY PEOPLE..THIS WOMAN IS A HOE DISGUISED AS A WIFE..how does the topic relate to you been bleeped by a guy cos he displays that kinda attitude in your house I will surely investigatE U..Cos na ur type go dey nack ur husband junior brother.. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by ojoj(m): 3:24am On Aug 26, 2016 |
My sister, I av a similar case at hand. I am d man in the house. Like always tell my wife, who knows who will take care of our kids when we are no more and we dont know when we will leave this earth. 1. Your hubby must support you. He has to call d guy and tell him why he needs to assist you in the house chores. Specifically, he should be given some responsibilities like washing of plates or bathroom or ironing of clothes etc. When there is no changes, your hubby can discuss with the parents of the boy about the implications of the boy not being responsible at home. All these facts must be known to the parents and anybody that cares to know. Anytime he refuses to carry out the task assigned to him, your husband should not give him a dime anytime he asks him. There should be a punishment. For me, the boy staying with us do fail to carry out tasks and I called him that anytime he fails to do a task, no dime for him. With this the boy sat up. 3. If there is no change ihe should asked to leave. Yes it is a hard decision but it should be taken and no one will blame you because they know the reason why he is axed. NO FOOD FOR A LAZY MAN! 6 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Taryur3(m): 3:38am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn:Chai...na one man go marry this your type o...I rebuke your type as house wife in Jesus name.see as you just gladly wrote this rubbish here |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by pragmatistm(m): 3:40am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn:Wicked thought. But you don't know what will happen to your own children tomorrow. Why do many women always this thoughtless? |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Nobody: 3:51am On Aug 26, 2016 |
@ all saying op won't be complaining if it was her relative, are u Nigerians at all?..truth is u'ld deal with ur own with a stronger hand sef, no need to tell hubby or nlers, u'll set them straight urself lyk long ago..my brother or sister can't come to my home n do nothing..but that's wat mks it difrnt..u tend to treat odas wit a softer hand, especially since he's a male..we jst need to apply wisdom in everything 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by 9jatatafo(m): 3:55am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Madam park well. Is the boy in question your brother, your husband's relative or a total stranger that you people are helping? |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Empiree: 3:55am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Rossy99:I don't think you tell us who the guy is to your husband. Some people raised concern that if he's from your side you won't complain. Is he your husband relative or his friend?. Seriously i can understand your pain. I would feel shy if i was him really to be honest. Looks like he has no shame or what. Anyways, if he's your relative you would most likely keep quiet like your husband is doing, correct? |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by LoveDecay(m): 4:11am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn: What private affairs, Oprah Winfrey dey confuse you abi. In Africa, particularly Nigeria. We take care of own and support our own. That is how we have survived in difficult times. Those who can pay it forward and so it continues. Na so una dey do. After wickeding the guy.... you go make another thread .... WE FED HIM FOR A YEAR NOW I AM HIS ENEMY ! 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by LoveDecay(m): 4:13am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Taryur3: Nah the one wey suffer before them get husband na them wiked pass. Go to other houses were women were married, fresh from yard or grade 1 tokunbo... them no dey do this kind thing Abi, this wife come from village - them sef dey do this kind thing. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by obajoey(m): 4:13am On Aug 26, 2016 |
donbenedict: I experienced this recently from one woman like that. I am a colleague to her husband. I was transferred to the state where they are and decided to spend some time with them before getting my place. Its was hell mehn, the woman sees me as a full time house help. The very first day i went to work and i arrived back home, I was just taking a nap when i heard a hard bang on the door continuously, i was like who could that be. I opened the door and it was her and she started shouting 'hanhan u just came back from work and sleep, u cannot come and be helping me in the kitchen', i was like i don enter am. I had to move out. The fact is if the guy in question is related to this woman, such complain wont happen even if he/she has the worst behavior. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by columbus007(m): 4:15am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Rossy99:Do nothing,you are only expecting too much of him,too much expection keeps us most of the time in bad mood,have you asked this young lad to assist you in anyway that he's not,take it easy over time he may change for d better. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by LoveDecay(m): 4:16am On Aug 26, 2016 |
obajoey: Some people marry poor and get rich, other marry rich and get poor. Nah her type whey you go marry nothing less than 10M day for savings, two years later..... zilch. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Menzy86(m): 4:18am On Aug 26, 2016 |
I can relate perfectly to what you are experiencing op. To be frank, adolescents of this generation are absolutely mannerless and senseless. I live in a compound wit a neighbour n share kitchen with him and we seamlesly relate in terms of taking care of food and dishes. He met a jambite lady last yr n dis girl has a younger brother that has become an attachment to this my neighbour, enters d kitchen at will, eats my food sometimes with my plates, cooks with my pots sometimes on my gas and still leaves ALL utensils 4 me to wash. Imagine d younger bro of a jambite (I was a jambite way back 2005) displaying such quantum irresponsibility? Well I recently expressly warned him (since I am totally convinced I can coerce him with beating) NEVER to step into dat kitchen again and d matter is settled (though he doesnt greet again which I really prefer). My dear op, if u were born in d 80's I want u to understand dat d quality (mental responsibility) of children (mostly d late 90's stalk) is very low and most times if u don't show them total rejection and even threat of coercion, they won't budge. I am a MAN and all d pple shouting here don't understand how annoying (especially in an average African setting) it is to feed and do d dishes of an able bodied much younger sibling/person living with u. Bounce d d**khead out of your house and damn d hypocrites that won't take half of what he is dishing out to u. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Taryur3(m): 4:29am On Aug 26, 2016 |
LoveDecay:Lols...may be na this change make them dey misbehave |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by ststyreal(f): 4:32am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Freiden:No my brother. Na if the right hand washes the left, the left hand also washes the right and by so doing the hands would be clean. At least, the guy should be able to show appreciation by rendering a little assistance at home. Do have a good day. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by cindyrocks(f): 4:36am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Are you sure you are not the subject matter? donbenedict: |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by obajoey(m): 4:39am On Aug 26, 2016 |
LoveDecay: This is so true. I do pity the husband most time and always use the woman as a prayer point that " O God, never allow this type of woman to come my way" Fire. |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by phenol33(m): 5:00am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn:but ur own family members can stay for ever abi er they not in-laws abi neither will be involved in private affairs with u and ur husband too nawa for u ooo 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Onyintology(f): 5:18am On Aug 26, 2016 |
[quote author=Rossy99 post=48652195]i av neva leave my chores for him to do,d only chores i expect him to do is sweep d parlour whr he sleep,wash dishes or fetch water which he hardly does.u said if i sweep he wud feel guilty conscience,this one doesn't,he wud lift his leg for me to sweep nd adjust well,wen i was preg,he wud b watching me fetch water nd d next day he wud use d water to bath not until i warn him lik 3tym b4 he stop using water i fetch to bath[/quote All the comment here are from boys like him. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by FreeWorld23: 5:21am On Aug 26, 2016 |
[s] CrazyQuinn:[/s]I pity your husband 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Obynolee(f): 5:26am On Aug 26, 2016 |
Rossy99: You're one of those wives that I detest,you're giving the guy small food hence your Hubby's complains,you're here because the guy is not from your side.You want to chase him out of the house with this flimsy excuse and bring in your relations. Go do your house chores,he is not your maid.Thank God your hubby is still using his brain. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by lolaluv1(f): 5:30am On Aug 26, 2016 |
blazer234: Leave yomieluv, the judgmental hypocrite. He once stated on this same NAIRALAND that he is ignoring his MILs calls. That she comes to their house too often. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by ChiSun27(m): 5:34am On Aug 26, 2016 |
fellis: This ur advice na suicide mission oooo!!! U wan kill d boy with food? |
Re: How Do I Stop The Excesses Of This Guy Staying With Us? by Obynolee(f): 5:36am On Aug 26, 2016 |
CrazyQuinn: Another bad wife spotted, so the husband has no right to stay with his relation maybe his brother again simply because he married her?. |
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