How does someone who claims to love you carry out an H.I.V test on you without your knowledge? Please I need Advice, all the way from Kenya, love your work by the way.


I fell ill about some weeks ago, I actually thought I was pregnant; I wasn’t bothered because I and my man have been going steady for a while and this would be an opportunity for him to ask me to marry me or so I thought. It became so serious I had to be admitted to the hospital where he works, series of tests were carried out on me, turned out I wasn’t pregnant, I had food poisoning.


When I got discharged, I requested for all my tests results from the hospital, Imagine my shock when I saw an H.I.V test I didn’t request for, I called the hospital immediately to ask why one was carried out on me without my permission, they said it was with my permission because I had asked the doctor in charge to carry it out (My Boyfriend)


I asked him why, he said he wanted to exhausts all angles, now he knows my status, I want us to carry out a test on him also, he’s refused so far, saying he’s sure of his status and since I don’t have it he doesn’t have it either. I am so angry with him, he not only violated my trust and privacy, he wouldn’t reciprocate and do same, what do you think I should do?


Talk2Bella.

Carrying out a test on you without your permission is wrong, but we need to look at it from a medical angle, you were ill, he had to run on kinds of tests and being a doctor I don’t think it was wrong of him to carry out an H.I.V test on you, where he’s wrong was not asking before doing it.

He might have had no choice in the matter, seeing how serious the illness looked at the time, he’s a doctor, sometimes they try to treat and ask questions later.

You need to overlook this and move on, seems both of you have a wonderful thing going on; you just have to let this go. Don’t pressure him much about carrying out a test, but make sure he does, Unprotected sex between unmarried couple is very risky, if you’re going to do it why not know you H.I.V status and S.T.I status.

Move on from this phase, it’s happened, you’re angry because your boyfriend did it, if it were to be some random doctor you wouldn’t feel betrayed, don’t be angry at him anymore, in my opinion he did it for you.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/my-boyfriend-carried-out-hiv-test-on-me.html

you are a careless individual straffing steady unprotected without knowing your partner's status....


by the way HIV test is standard for most ailments now because its presence alters the treatment dynamics dramatically

Now she knows her HIV status, she should start using protection until she knows her partner status. Prevention is better than cure

he paid for hospital bills. He can also do that

Hmmmmm... Sighs!

Aunty Bella and her incredible lies

mumumugu:
he paid for hospital bills. He can also do that

Where did it state he paid for hospital bills

Nah wao

CrazyQuinn:
Now she knows her HIV status, she should start using protection until she knows her partner status. Prevention is better than cure

Exactly

ednut1:
Aunty Bella and her incredible lies

Here we go again

smellingmenses:
you are a careless individual straffing steady unprotected without knowing your partner's status....


by the way HIV test is standard for most ailments now because its presence alters the treatment dynamics dramatically

They do it in Nigerian hospitals now set

They don't tell you

Am yet to see the big deal on it unless you got something to be afraid of...

Talk2Bella:

They do it in Nigerian hospitals now set
They don't tell you

yes....it is a mandatory test

She's angry he had test done on her...once you're ill these days and taken to the hospital, HIV test is required urgently b4 any other then prescription.
Her bf should have done same that way they both know their status, avoiding it on any grounds is wrong on the guy's part.
But he did her a favour.

It shows that the guy man loves with both his heart and his head. He loves himself so much.

If u are not ok with it, please, look for another bf, it is not a must that u must date him.


Guys plenty.

No sex until he gets tested...