McBrooklyn:


Lol, No qualms sweetheart



Have a great day

you too

firstking01:
You are stating the obvious na, i mean which guy/girl aspiring to succeed and secure a good future for himself does this, unless except his or her priority has been misplaced.

naijamakossa:
madam,,,,Just here to read the points

mhisbliss:
ok assuming am ad dumb as you said i am, lemme define hype from my foolish point of view

Hype as i understand is to publicize in an exaggerated and often misleading manner, and i use subtlety to explain to you that 70% of my post is mine, i cant get into this with you, look for someone else, you're not worth my attention

bamisepeters:
everything said might be right but you don't have the right to call someone this name. Who told you she is dumb? Many that did not take the risk she is taking are not even guaranteed they have him to themselves. Yet, we have seen many her action worked for and you can never tell if it will work for her, everything in life is risk and probability, it is wrong to call someone dumb because of their decision when it comes to relationship.

herbie27:
K!.

mhisbliss:
some people sha

mhisbliss:
some people sha

omega25red:
Poster

you have point but in reality different things work for different people.
Living together before getting married doesn't guarantee anything nor does it mean anything. If you live together before marriage, you might find out about each others quarks and either work on it or decide it's not your cup of tea. Same thing happens when you get married.

The only guaranteed thing is death. So in our culture, it might be taboo to live together before marriage but in other cultures, it's not that much of a big deal.

to touch on some of your points

1. Why Are We Moving In Together? ( love, economics)
2. Do You Want Children? ( maybe but who says once you live together you must have children)
3. How Are We Handling the Financial Obligations? ( this should be discussed before hand)
4. Where can this possibly lead, marriage? Or breakup (Both)
5. What Happens If We Break Up? ( Break up is break up you either pack your bags or i pack mine or we sit and look at each other)
6. If he's so eager to have me, why don't he just put the ring on it ( Small pikin and naija way of thinking. Not all of these decisions depend on the man's intentions)
7. How long will your biological clock permit you to stay with him, before it becomes a do or die affair ( Adult relationships consist of communication. if you are worried about biological clock then you prob should get married before moving in)

herbie27:
"compatibility" is not tested by moving in with a man, we are suppose to be married with the bed undefiled, moving in already gives room for that.

You can test how compatible you are from mere assessment, just know who you're planning to marry enough.

IamLEGEND1:
As usual,spreading your stupidìty like a disease.
Someone is trying to engage you in a stimulating convo and all you could say was "K".
But if it were an insult,you'll be eager to reply in kind so people can see you as a tough nut.
Bunch of halfwits.

herbie27:
So is now by force to be engaged in a discussion?.
Are you ok?, don't mention me again.

SSpeter:
you see I don't have a problem with that as long as she is a virgin. But if she is not a virgin all what you have typed should find its way to the bin

herbie27:
And if she's not a virgin she must move in with you to test compatibility?.

mhisbliss:
number 1 got it covered, just dont need to be furious and annoyed yet

ElsonMorali:


One of the best thread on this forum so far. Well articulated. Couldn't have written it better myself.

hmmm thanks, sadly it didn't make fp, happy new month

mhisbliss:
hmmm thanks, sadly it didn't make fp, happy new month

ElsonMorali:


Happy new month dear. Never mind. The best things are always hidden from public gaze.

herbie27:
And if she's not a virgin she must move in with you to test compatibility?.

SSpeter:
If she is not a virgin....then there is nothing special again na? We can live together and get married if it works out and if it doesn't fine. Is not a do or die affair

herbie27:
Nobody said is a do or die affair.

Your opinion thou!.

SSpeter:
Women can form for jesus all those who typed against living together have all spent weekends in their boyfriends house. So what is the big deal? You go there every weekend and you reside full time? How many babe never sleep for their boyfriend house? Those wey never sleep their boyfriend no get conducive apartment trust me. My neighbour get time table sef wey them dey use come. No let me pour my mind with wetin I don see for woman matter abeq....

SSpeter:
Women can form for jesus all those who typed against living together have all spent weekends in their boyfriends house. So what is the big deal? You go there every weekend and you reside full time? How many babe never sleep for their boyfriend house? Those wey never sleep their boyfriend no get conducive apartment trust me. My neighbour get time table sef wey them dey use come. No let me pour my mind with wetin I don see for woman matter abeq....

herbie27:
Your neighbour abi na you?, lol.
We are talking about living fully with guys when they've not done what's required, not spending one or two nights.

mhisbliss:
me for one, i haven't slept in any man's house other than my father

SSpeter:
looool ...na neighbour I talk ooo....no pour sand for my garri biko....na small small e dey start sha. From the bottom of my heart no Guy loves to live with a lady he is not married to. But the ladies are the ones forcing themselves. You tell go, she no gree...If a guy is working and he gets a good apartment, the ladies no dey like to go when they come around. Ask the guys around you. It can inconvenience you like crazy...sometimes my neighbour would call his friend to help him discharge the stubborn ones...Yes a guy can beg you to come visit, but no guy likes you to stay around till the next day...ministry fit cast na

herbie27:
I will use dumb ones to replace that, but someone already said is usually because they're in love.