zeb04:
lol my dear the world has moved on from this crap.

If there is any sensible person i have seen my bros with,is the lady he's about to get married too. With a child and 1000%intact upstairs.

Mayflowa:


Too many complication. The other man's home is at risk of breakdown if the wife become aware. A whole first son women are afraid of.

I hope she isn't sleeping with her ex. They shouldn't allow the love resurface

Joavid:

A man pounced on an 11 year old child.

dominique:


Do you know if her husband would have married her if she was still an ordinary street hawker with a kid?
She worked on herself, developed herself, made herself presentable and her parents proud of her. Her son was with her all through this not her husband. Do you expect her to put her son on a backseat to her husband?

Acidosis:


ahahaha well done, a nice way to run away from the hard truth.

fr3do:


she should have married her son then, nonsensical talk and defense!

TV01:
Is it too difficult to parse situations with objectivity? The core question should be; is single parenthood a good thing?

We are all touched and grateful for seemingly heart-warming stories such as this one. But for every one we can give thanks for, there are a hundred that left poorer outcomes for both the parent and child/ren involved. Is it overly difficult to separate the personal from policy?

All the data is already in, single parenthood (and I refer mainly to wilful single-parenthood, not widowhood or rape, which in any event are a relative minority) underpins many social pathologies.

It’s a major indicator of poverty, high-profile celebrity instances non-withstanding. It more likely to lead to issues for the children, especially as they approach their teenage years.

Males being more likely to be delinquent, and females being more likely to be promiscuous, are two of the most well known outcomes. Search data for the presence of fathers in the lives of prison inmates.

But there are numerous others, inter-alia, feelings of abandonment, self-worth/esteem issues, developmental and socialisation issues, poorer academic achievement, etc.

And yes, for your average person it has to have a potential impact on future relationships; from the financial burden, babymama/dada issues, all around acceptance etc.

The stigma surrounding single-parenthood may hurt, but at the societal level it is a protective mechanism, not intended to be wilfully malicious to individuals. There is a net cost, which society bears. It’s why families tread warily.

Who grows up dreaming of being or marrying a single parent. And yes, women bear the brunt here, so it behoves them to act more circumspectly and, make wiser choices, as opposed to unthinking indignation and the push for its acceptance which seems to prevail here?

Yes single parents should be given all the support possible, everything should be done to ameliorate the situation, especially to ensure positive outcomes for the child/ren. But no, single parenthood should not be sold as an attractive alternative to intact biological families, or even, as it seems to be today, preferable, even aspirational

And in the rush to herald this, the intimacy at 11 seems to have gone singularly unremarked upon


TV

Amelian:




Unfortunately their love resurfaces again and the husband of the lady with the baby daddy of her son had a showdown, where she was working... It was messy that day..pls lemme not go into more details..its complicated

ItsQuinn:
it was her father that paid for her M.Ed fees not her fvcking husband. Mention just 1 thing her husband did for her

ItsQuinn:
Her husband was no where to be found, her husband didn't contribute anything to her struggles, her husband wasn't there when she was at her worst, so why must he be recognised? Recognised for what na?

The only people that need the recognition and application is her father and her son. Shikena!

ItsQuinn:
Her father did nothing! Where was he when she was preg at age 11? Where was he when she went to the village hawking on the streets to survive? Where was he when she was struggling, facing challenges, when she was being mocked and being treated like shit? Huh? Rubbish! He was no where to be found, he ran away after planting the seed in her like a coward, so her husband doesn't deserve shit

vectoh:
you are the reason why nigeria is in recession! jus read wat u typed....No No No....does it make sense to you?

teamsynergy:
some folks r just too damn narrow minded. just becos a single mom didnt acknowledge her husby, it's now a single mothers thing... some of u av neva even dated a gal older Dan u or a single mom, u r already judging ... everybody is different and for those thinking its a stigma to marry a single mom, think again.. single mom get married and live hapily and if u tink d man deserves an applause, u definitely sexist... u marry out of love and contentment, not out of pity... marrying a single mom is no biggy. . if u can't do it , it doesn't mean others wont... can't stop ma bro from marry one, cos I can do it ma sef.....

Ugosample:


Marry her

That counts for something, because especially in Nigeria.

Are you saying the man does not deserve some acknowledgment?

vectoh:
Now, who told you she married the guy that got her preggy?

TV01:
Is it too difficult to parse situations with objectivity? The core question should be; is single parenthood a good thing?

We are all touched and grateful for seemingly heart-warming stories such as this one. But for every one we can give thanks for, there are a hundred that left poorer outcomes for both the parent and child/ren involved. Is it overly difficult to separate the personal from policy?

All the data is already in, single parenthood (and I refer mainly to wilful single-parenthood, not widowhood or rape, which in any event are a relative minority) underpins many social pathologies.

It’s a major indicator of poverty, high-profile celebrity instances non-withstanding. It more likely to lead to issues for the children, especially as they approach their teenage years.

Males being more likely to be delinquent, and females being more likely to be promiscuous, are two of the most well known outcomes. Search data for the presence of fathers in the lives of prison inmates.

But there are numerous others, inter-alia, feelings of abandonment, self-worth/esteem issues, developmental and socialisation issues, poorer academic achievement, etc.

And yes, for your average person it has to have a potential impact on future relationships; from the financial burden, babymama/dada issues, all around acceptance etc.

The stigma surrounding single-parenthood may hurt, but at the societal level it is a protective mechanism, not intended to be wilfully malicious to individuals. There is a net cost, which society bears. It’s why families tread warily.

Who grows up dreaming of being or marrying a single parent. And yes, women bear the brunt here, so it behoves them to act more circumspectly and, make wiser choices, as opposed to unthinking indignation and the push for its acceptance which seems to prevail here?

Yes single parents should be given all the support possible, everything should be done to ameliorate the situation, especially to ensure positive outcomes for the child/ren. But no, single parenthood should not be sold as an attractive alternative to intact biological families, or even, as it seems to be today, preferable, even aspirational

And in the rush to herald this, the intimacy at 11 seems to have gone singularly unremarked upon


TV

dominique:


Lol, you think I conceded so quick

You made her achievement count as nothing just because she did not acknowledge an husband who probably was not present during the heat of her struggles.

You indirectly stigmatized her by saying she is lucky that a man married her despite being a single mum

All in a bid to make her look bad, you decided to inject her grandma into the equation.

I hope you don't have the typical Nigerian male mentality that believes that everything must revolve around them and they're doing women favour by marrying them

My take
I'm not the judgemental type, once a mistake has been made, don't dwell on it. Learn you lessons and move the hell on. Some girls who got pregnant at a young age turn themselves into victims and make an even bigger mess of their lives. But this one didn't, she picked herself up, improved herself and is raising a young man. To you none of that counts because she did not acknowledge a man.

ItsQuinn:
who marriage epp?

zeb04:
no hold on.

You making it a big deal. Is she a crippled cancer patient? She has a son,so what!that disqualifies her from being a human being ?

Stop thinking it is a big deal to marry a single parent. It is not.

menix:
Hmmm..

At 11yrs
Was the sperm dropped thru her nose

Acidosis:


You really don't see any wrong in a married woman calling her son her life?

Do you know what that means?


If you say men should not demand events to revolve around them, why justify her praises to her son? or is the son not a man?

If things can revolve around the son, what about the husband? Oh, I forgot the guy is the number 1 person in her life, not the husband (my only and main issue with her post BTW).

Marriage is not by force anyways but if you must get married, stick with the ideal rules.

dominique:


If her husband and her son are drowning and she can only save one, who do you think she will save?

Acidosis:
You see the problem I have with some single moms?

Your son is your life? what about your husband, no single word about him?

There's nothing inspiring about this, from my own point of view.

zeb04:
inspite of her situation counted her lucky lol ,which situation? That she has an MS.C or a son in 200L?
Forget it,it is not a thing to applaud after al he married her with his eyes open. Probably he married her when she had her sh.it together.

Real deal is if he married her when she was still that dirty girl hawking.

Btw i don't think it is a big deal marrying a single mon or dad people do it so what is so special about it.
Next pls.

dominique:


If her husband and her son are drowning and she can only save one, who do you think she will save?