Don't try to get even
You may want to trash-talk your partner on Facebook, but acting destructively to even the score will do no good—and may even have financial consequences. "Trying to get even keeps your anger alive, and keeps you in a state of negativity, which will prevent you from moving on and going forward in your life," says Jane Greer, PhD. To recover from the infidelity, you need to try to be on the same team, not opposing ones.

Don't fall apart
"It's very normal to have a good cry (or two or three) after a break up," says April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author. "And when the breakup follows a long-term relationship, expect to need time to recover." Realize that this situation won't define you. Your life isn't over. While what's happening may be scary, it's a chance for you to start over. Yes, it may be a different life, but things may turn out even better. These breakup survival tips can help the healing begin.

Don't play the victim card
It's true that in all likelihood, you didn't deserve to have someone cheat on you, but it doesn't mean you should wallow in self-pity. Playing the victim will keep you feeling helpless and damaged, and it will continue to keep you feeling badly about yourself as a result, your self esteem will drop, and you'll find it difficult to participate in your life in a fulfilling way.

Don't let someone else decide if you'll leave or not
Your mom says to leave him; your best friend says give him another chance. But it's your choice whether the relationship is worth salvaging and repairing or not. People will always have their own opinions, but the final decision on how to proceed is yours.

Don't ignore what happened
It may ease the pain to just ignore your partner's infidelity. But doing so won't address the underlying issues in your relationship. "Trying to ignore the unfaithfulness that occurred will only leave the relationship on shaky ground," says Hall. And your resentment will likely build and eventually rear its ugly head. So, ask all the questions you want, even knowing that you may not get all the answers you want to hear. Before you know whether to invest in rebuilding the relationship, you need to figure out why the infidelity happened.

Don't try to get things back to how they were
Your marriage is already different, and "the way things were" is what led to the situation at hand. Focus on building a more fulfilling relationship using the lessons you've learned.

Don't dismiss therapy
Counseling after cheating can help you gain insight and understanding into what went down. It can help you communicate better and process feelings of guilt, shame, and whatever else you might be feeling. "If you decide to walk away from the relationship, at least you can leave with peace of mind that you tried your best to make it work and didn't act impulsively," says Burns. Therapists have seen it all, so don't be embarrassed by your situation.

Don't forget to take care of yourself
"This traumatic experience can negatively impact your mind and body," says Burns. "In order to bounce back from this, self-care is essential. You can't make rational decisions, such as whether to stay or leave, when you're not taking care of your physiological needs." Make sure to eat, exercise, sleep, and have fun. Laugh and live a happy life despite what's going on. Do activities that bring you joy and pleasure.

Source: The Positive Story - http://www.thepositivestory.info/

may we never need this ijn. amen

Well in marriage; "A husband that cheats brings down himself but a wife that cheats brings down the whole house altogether"

Lastly beat the hell out of her for her to learn her lesson

ogorwyne:
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night.

Eh, roast him? Like yam and plantain

ogorwyne:
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night.

nobodii:
Lastly beat the hell out of her for her to learn her lesson

With this statement, you deserve to be cheated on..

Splinz:

Eh, roast him? Like yam and plantain

Lolzzz

Captainbells:

With this statement, you deserve to be cheated on..

and then still beat the hell out of her

funshint:
Well in marriage; "A husband that cheats brings down himself but a wife that cheats brings down the whole house altogether"

Lol. Now they are just making up excuses.

No BOTH bring down the whole house altogether *whatever that means*

Don't forget to carry his picture to that baba

Jochebed7:
may we never need this ijn. amen

lwkm haha haha

ogorwyne:
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night.

Too extreme.

firstking01:
Too extreme.

just joking around

ogorwyne:
just joking around

Hmmm

ogorwyne:
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night.

This is you

[img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/tEu4LSBsOjsp4gtSsXKgd2TK1GPmBo9l8-mtajagOsLoxXaEUKVT7faCjP0=rwu-w225-h352[/img] on your way to roasting him and that's how your friend that motivates you will back out.

modsRbastard:


This is you

[img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/tEu4LSBsOjsp4gtSsXKgd2TK1GPmBo9l8-mtajagOsLoxXaEUKVT7faCjP0=rwu-w225-h352[/img] on your way to roasting him and that's how your friend that motivates you will back out.

hahahahaha. so funny

ogorwyne:
Dont fail to roast him while he sleeps at night.

ogorwyne:

hahahahaha. so funny

Glad I could you make you smile

[img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/3B6uJbZhabJNpwVC6K08W6-An1H-Jye1XMPaQG65C5aH2ieKHOhd4vT_A8Lfqg=rwu-w360-h203[/img]

Migwor asampete... What part of Delta you from?

modsRbastard:


Glad I could you make you smile

[img]http://lh3.googleusercontent.com/3B6uJbZhabJNpwVC6K08W6-An1H-Jye1XMPaQG65C5aH2ieKHOhd4vT_A8Lfqg=rwu-w360-h203[/img]

Migwor asampete... What part of Delta you from?

am from kwale

ogorwyne:
am from kwale

baby boo. you deleted me from bbm

olihilistic:

baby boo.
you deleted me from bbm

ollie love, that's not true. have been off for sometime. Didn't delete u.

ogorwyne:

ollie love, that's not true. have been off for sometime. Didn't delete u.

I just resumed to bbm
it's not a bad thing sha.
I done miss you like sokoto people d miss GEJ.

olihilistic:

I just resumed to bbm
it's not a bad thing sha.
I done miss you like sokoto people d miss GEJ.

hehehehe. have missed u too jare. how is UAM?

ogorwyne:

am from kwale

So then you must be from Udokwa LGA and speak Ukwuani.

ogorwyne:
hehehehe. have missed u too jare. how is UAM?

UAM is fine. considering the fact that street boys have calm down. they killed a member last 3days sha. how's UNN??