Vicki 09:

I'm in a very long distance relationship my boyfriend lives in Nigeria and I live in the US. it has been hard but he will be moving to the states in January so that will ease the strain.

axeman85:

@poster

i can understand what you going through and how you feel. thats what happens you both tend to disagree and argue on most things and it makes matters worse becuse there is nothing you can do about it. thats why i said somethings would happen that if you were in naija you both would have trashed it out but cos u r here you just have to put up with most things. and in regards to the insecurity you just have to believe and trust your guy although its not that easy becos right now anytime i cal my babe and she doesnt answer, different thoughts start going through my mind. even thou i trust her soo much but few things happening at the minute is not making all well.

you definately need more than love.

IT DOSENT WORK


~a wise is enough for the word~

How do you love someone you barely see? How? Tell me

Vicki 09:

Londoner - He is doing most of the work I'm helping out a little but hes is doing most of the work to get himself here.

OvieE - How long have you been married to your wife now?

axeman85:

@poster

i understand exactly ow u feel but all i will say is keep hanging in there and sometimes you just have to keep your feelings to urself. in respect to tough times. i am in one right now. her parents are giving her too much stress and pressures at home plainly because we are from different tribes igbo and yoruba. so that is putting stress on the relationship for the past few weeks, i have been the one always doing the calling and communication even if i feel i am not getting much attention i should be getting, but all i can do is take things the way they are and continue supporting her and just overlook it. as it is only for a short time.

out of sight doesnt necessarily or does not always equals to out of mind.

BoosGal:

I'm in the same situation, my guy is in US (from Nigeria) and I'm in the UK, seeing him soon enough but we argue a lot. It all depends on you and him. The worst thing you can do is be insecure, you need trust otherwise your never gona get through it. I mean i never saw myself in a long distance relationship but cuz i love my boo so much im gona do it, and when we are together I'm gona look back at this and realise all the pain/arguing/tears was worth it.


Yes indeed. Thanks

OvieE:
Yes indeed. Thanks

quote by coolier:

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'Out of sight, out of mind'!

N101:

@ londoner

From experience I can tell you that if you're quarrelling a lot you have to identify why that is.  Is it because of miscommunication, assumptions, or is one of you not listening to the other? 

Has he been supportive of you in the past?  If it's a case where he's having a hard time now, yes, you should be supportive, it may be his turn now and your turn at another time.  Has he moved back home and is he having a hard time re-adjusting or is it work/situation-related?

Trust plays a BIG part in long distance relationships.  You need to address your own trust issues, but if you feel something isn't right don't ignore it.  Wish you the best.

N101:

@ londoner

From experience I can tell you that if you're quarrelling a lot you have to identify why that is.  Is it because of miscommunication, assumptions, or is one of you not listening to the other?  Has he been supportive of you in the past?  If it's a case where he's having a hard time now, yes, you should be supportive, it may be his turn now and your turn at another time.  Has he moved back home and is he having a hard time re-adjusting or is it work/situation-related?

Trust plays a BIG part in long distance relationships.  You need to address your own trust issues, but if you feel something isn't right don't ignore it.  Wish you the best.