SINZ:


And you're smart to top it up!

Errh... I would like a bôner from a brilliant super hot chic if you don't mind

Pm her make person hear word

IAmOged:

its has been scientifically proven that men loose control of their logicality when in the presence of a superhot babe...it in your DNA-your emotion to fvck will first take over,though u can snap out of it-but u cant escape it...lolz

You're making the same mistake you made while writing your article.....the mistake of GENERALISING.
So which focus group or scientist studied all men and concluded that we tend to lose all our ability to reason because we are in the presence of a superhot babe?

I read every word, and I'm not impressed.

Basically you beat aimlessly around the bush 98% of your post. Whoever the original writer of this article is, that is. There was no new answer to the question of why ladies do not like guys who are obsessed with them. Almost feels like you simply wanted to show show of the 'new' concept you think invented - needy love.

You also made alot of surprising assumptions. When did desire for sex become a 'love emotion'? What makes you think that when a guy sees a girl and wants to sleep with her, he is in love?

Then there is unnecessary generalization, lots of it. What makes you think every girl wants the same thing - a man to love who shouldn't love them in return? You can only speak for yourself.

The meat of your whole post is that guys that are needy turn girls off, which is true. Most persons, regardless of gender would be turned off by an overly needy person. However, you didn't state any real reason why, besides the usual "ladies want what they can't have."

When you say women are disgusted by needy love but are needy in their love too, you paint all ladies a bunch of confused souls who are incapable of seeing beyond their own emotions wrapped around them like onion layers.

In all, it wasn't really worth the read. You could have made your point in far fewer paragraphs, seeing as you really didn't have any new point to make.

OP even advertise our thread... thanks...

Epistle of trash!

IAmOged:
Take ur time to read
solution to the conundrum that a lot of guys face: why does it look like girls like guys that don't give a shit about them?
The usual answers are simplistic: girls want what they can't have; aloof guys look like they have higher value; aloof guys seem more interesting or mysterious, etc… All of these answers are right to a degree, but they dont tell the whole story. So I came up with my own explanation:

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Needy Love: Our society exalts love as the greatest good, the pinnacle of human life, etc… But the problem is that our society sees “love” as purely an emotion.
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What our society calls love I call needy love, defined as a set of ultimately selfish emotions including the desire to have sex, the desire for physical affection, the desire for an ego boost, the desire for validation, etc… This is not a complete list, but the specific emotions are not important – the point is that these emotions are selfish in that they consist of YOU wanting something from the other person without regard for what they want.
.
There are, of course, other conceptions of love: the Bible (and many other traditional societies) saw love as a contract between two parties that has little to do with emotion. But our society sees love as purely emotion without the accompanying obligation – when your “emotions” run out, you’ve “fallen out of love” and you can go find somebody else with no consequences.
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The emotions that make up “needy love” are our strongest emotions, so needy love hijacks our thoughts and convinces us we have a deep connection with the other person. People don’t think “Wow I am under the influence of a bunch of extremely strong chemicals in my brain” but instead think “this is my soulmate.”
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That is why “love” is the subject of countless poems, movies, love songs, etc… and an object of worship in our society.
Needy love emotions are different for men and women. Women, for example, feel a strong attraction to “confident” men, whereas men, although they like confident women, don’t have the same emotional reaction to confidence. Men, on the other hand, place more weight on physical appearance than women do. Overall, the checklist that has to be satisfied for women to fall into needy love is much longer than men’s, which is part of the reason women take longer to fall in love and are more“flaky".
.
The reason relationships are so hard is that just because you feel needy love towards a woman doesnt mean she feels the same needy love back – they have a different process going on in their brain.
.
One of men’s strongest needy love emotions is their overwhelming desire for sex right away, so men “fall in love” and emotionally over-invest in a relationship much quicker than women. Thats why men are a lot more likely to be “creepy” than women –their “needy love” emotions activate much quicker. However, the needy love emotions are much stronger in women and once a woman “falls in love” she is much more likely to become clingy and needy.
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Negative needy love: Here is the dark side of needy love: while the needy love emotions make you feel good for a while, they have an incredibly destructive negative component. Feelings of attachment, sexual desire, acceptance, etc…, can quickly change to neediness, depression, desperation, loneliness, anger, resentment, etc… if the person rejects you. Needy love is like crack – the highs are amazing, but the lows are terrible.
.
The Greek philosopher Plato wrote that “erotic” love is ultimately dangerous because it makes you irrationally value a person when they like you, and then irrationally hate them when they don’t. As we all know, love can literally drive a person crazy and cause one to become violent, stalk somebody, fall into deep depression, etc… “Love” has ruined countless people’s lives.
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On a subconscious level everybody knows that a person in the grip of needy love is basically insane.
Vicarious emotions Human beings have a weird ability to feel emotions vicariously through other people. For example, if you see a guy get hit by a car, you feel “bad” for him because you FEEL as if you yourself got hit by a car,. You don’t logically think to yourself “oh that must suck to get hit by a car.”. The Scottish philosopher Adam Smith said the basis for human sympathy is the fact that we feel through the eyes of the others. Thats why you oftentimes don’t have sympathy for people experiencing problems you havent experienced.
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One reason needy love so intense is that you feel the other persons emotions vicariously: not only do you feel your own emotions towards them, but you also literally enter their mind and feel their emotions towards you, so being in love is like an infinite loop of emotions. You love them, you feel them loving you, you then feel them feeling you loving them, etc… It’s insane and part of the reason why “love” is such a complicated mindfuck. But beware: YOU CANNOT ACTUALLY READ THEIR MIND SO YOU PROJECT EMOTIONS ONTO THEIR BRAIN THAT THEY MAY NOT HAVE.
.

The main point of this article and the reason why women like men who dont give a shit about them is this: Women are disgusted by needy love. If a woman sees a guy displaying the needy love emotions, she immediately become turned off because she vicariously feels that he is becoming crazy.
She knows that the man WANTS something (not just something, A LOT) from her. This puts pressure on her because now somebody's happiness is dependent on her. She knows that he is constantly thinking about her and if she bleeps up even a little (i.e., forgets to call him back, says something weird, etc…)
he will become angry and disappointed. The bleeped up thing is that we Ladies feel all this subconsciously, so they don’t really know why they are getting turned off: they just know that the guy is doing something that is repelling them.
All women have felt needy love before so when they sense it in somebody else they know exactly what is going on.
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However, women feel needy love on a much stronger level than men. One thing I have noticed is that the clingiest/neediest women oftentimes give out the harshest rejections – it makes sense: these women reject guys the hardest because they themselves know full well know what its like to be needy and they know its terrifying.
Also, because the needy love emotions are at the forefront of womens minds,
a woman can sense needy love in a guy when he himself doesnt even see it. Worse yet: super attractive women have so many men fall in love with them that they may assume a man is displaying needy love to them even if he isnt.

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Some women (especially women that get hit on a lot) interpret simple, everyday actions by the guy (having polite conversation, buying them a drink) as insane needy love – remember we said that vicariously feeling emotions doesn’t mean that you will actually know what they are feeling. If you're a super hot girl like me in Nigeria in 2016, you have tons and tons of people displaying needy love towards you: the cashier at the Mall,store, your 15 ex-boyfriends who can't get over you, other girls who are jealous of you/want to be you, etc… A person who is genuinely emotionless towards you is a breath of fresh air.
.

Finally, beyond the subconscious level, women are turned off by needy love because needy people are just not fun to be around. They agree with everything you say, don’t say anything interesting/provocative, laugh at all your jokes, and don’t challenge you/call you out on your bullshit. Basically you are useless. Furthermore, people under the influence of needy love act irrationally, talk stupid, act creepy, and display more negative emotions (jealousy, disappointment) than positive ones.
.
Please keep in mind that our brains can subconsciously pick up a person acting out of needy love, and the signs are often very subtle. Imagine a person saying “hey how are you”? A person can say those same words as a merely nice guy, but another person acting out of needy love will betray their neediness in their body language, tone of voice, eye contact, etc… On a logical level there is no difference, but your subconscious emotions will be able to pick up that the person is displaying needy love.
.
That’s why a lot of guys fail when they pretend to not give a shit – they have to actually not give a shit. It is a very delicate dance to not display needy love – you need to carefully choose your words, and you need to monitor your subject closely to see if you are freaking her out. You can be having an amazing time all night but then the slightest nudge of needy love freaks her out and sends her running.
.
The point remains: sometimes even a subtle, slight bit of neediness puts the subject on the defensive. Remember, freaking out over needy love is a subconscious process so she may THINK she like you but she feel revulsion if you are being needy.
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DONT GIRLS WANT TO BE LOVED?
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Well… Not exactly. What women really want is a guy THEY CAN LOVE.As a guy, you need to just get out of the way and let her love you and not say or do anything to Bleep it up. Remember, needy love emotions are selfish, so a girl will send needy love to you all day but then freak out when you send that same needy love back. Of course, girls want certain things from guys, like attention, somebody who will listen to them, sex, etc… Its ok to give those things in the right times and right amounts. But the full panoply of needy love emotions often freaks them out, especially if the guys needy love is stronger than theirs. Another way to put it is this: women want to be loved on a logical level: they want a guy who is attentive, cares about them, isnt needy, isnt selfish, and isnt an asshole.
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Ladies arent impressed with needy love. Also, girls know that the needy love emotions are temporary and wildly fluctuate, so a guy who is under the spell of needy love could easily fall in “love” with another girl tomorrow and leave alone.
.
One thing I’ve noticed is that the most “slutty” girls post the most quotes about “love” on their Nairaland profile, Facebook page etc.
.
Why is this? They can’t control their emotions and live in a world of needy love, and needy love doesnt actually care about the actual person you love. When somebody else tickles your emotions you move onto them and forget the first person you were needy loving. If you love a girl “logically” you are actually doing her more of a service than if you love her with needy love. Logical love is more solid and pure than needy love.
.

So what should a man do? If you want to get a girl to like you, talk to her, be nice to her, joke with her, etc… But just don’t display the needy love emotions. Treat the girl like any other dude you know. Don’t say anything that implies that you “need” anything from her, don’t stare at her too long, don’t follow her around, don’t demand her attention, dont do things for her, etc… If you're out with her, dont make her feel “responsible” for you – make her feel like you could totally walk away and do your own thing and it wouldnt bother you.
.
In fact, you should err on the side of slightly being a “dick” because a lot of really hot girls will interpret normal behavior as needy love. It will be hard, because you’ve been taught by society (i.e.,telemundo, romantic comedies and Disney movies) that the way to court girls is to kiss their ass and tell them all about your deep and passionate needy love. And of course your emotions are going to want to make you act needy. Control your emotions! Another danger is that the girl will start showing interest so you will think “its ok for me to start showing needy love now.” No!! Needy love is always bad, and just because you've been making out and staring into each other's eyes doesnt mean its ok to bring out your needy love.
.

After some practice, you will be able to snap out of it..
But wont I friendzone myself?
Good question.
Yes, if you completely act emotionless around a girl, we may think you are uninterested. So you need to do 2 things:
.

1) Tell Us you are interested. Ask us on a date. A lot of guys are afraid of asking girls on dates because they don’t want to look needy, but if you can ask a girl on a date without displaying needy love you will intrigue and excite her. Its a great deal for her! She can get all the fun and excitement of a date without the burden of dealing with a guy that wants a bunch of shit from her, and
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2) Do all the things you've learned on Nairaland romance section, ashewo bear parlor thread/harddon thread: eye contact, deep, intelligent conversations, kino, escalate, etc… It is possible to do all these things without showing needy love. You may ask: how can one escalate with we ladies sexually without making it look like you want to Bleep Us … well, its an art...sortta push-pull method.
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bashers should backoff....

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CC: Happyjerk, WuOjo, wufredojo
Wildflame

Babygirl, you were making sense until I discovered I've not read up to 30% of the whole post yet.

You could have partitioned it to keep readers in suspense or try the much you can to reduce the length.

We now live in a world of "brief" and "microchips". I doubt if a lot of people would have time for that.

#NoBashingPlease

Absolutely right and that's the reason we have many heart broken ladies out there who have given up on love. A guy loves U and made it known to U, instead of U to reciprocate if U actually feel a thing for him but U will rather treat the guy with resentment and choose aa guy who doesn't give a damn about U because U love mysterious guy. Then later Urheart will shattered and U will still come online to tell us how wicked and stone hearted guys are without accepting the fact that U brought it upon Urself.

IAmOged:
Take ur time to read
solution to the conundrum that a lot of guys face: why does it look like girls like guys that don't give a shit about them?
The usual answers are simplistic: girls want what they can't have; aloof guys look like they have higher value; aloof guys seem more interesting or mysterious, etc… All of these answers are right to a degree, but they dont tell the whole story. So I came up with my own explanation:

.
Needy Love: Our society exalts love as the greatest good, the pinnacle of human life, etc… But the problem is that our society sees “love” as purely an emotion.
.
What our society calls love I call needy love, defined as a set of ultimately selfish emotions including the desire to have sex, the desire for physical affection, the desire for an ego boost, the desire for validation, etc… This is not a complete list, but the specific emotions are not important – the point is that these emotions are selfish in that they consist of YOU wanting something from the other person without regard for what they want.
.
There are, of course, other conceptions of love: the Bible (and many other traditional societies) saw love as a contract between two parties that has little to do with emotion. But our society sees love as purely emotion without the accompanying obligation – when your “emotions” run out, you’ve “fallen out of love” and you can go find somebody else with no consequences.
.
The emotions that make up “needy love” are our strongest emotions, so needy love hijacks our thoughts and convinces us we have a deep connection with the other person. People don’t think “Wow I am under the influence of a bunch of extremely strong chemicals in my brain” but instead think “this is my soulmate.”
.
That is why “love” is the subject of countless poems, movies, love songs, etc… and an object of worship in our society.
Needy love emotions are different for men and women. Women, for example, feel a strong attraction to “confident” men, whereas men, although they like confident women, don’t have the same emotional reaction to confidence. Men, on the other hand, place more weight on physical appearance than women do. Overall, the checklist that has to be satisfied for women to fall into needy love is much longer than men’s, which is part of the reason women take longer to fall in love and are more“flaky".
.
The reason relationships are so hard is that just because you feel needy love towards a woman doesnt mean she feels the same needy love back – they have a different process going on in their brain.
.
One of men’s strongest needy love emotions is their overwhelming desire for sex right away, so men “fall in love” and emotionally over-invest in a relationship much quicker than women. Thats why men are a lot more likely to be “creepy” than women –their “needy love” emotions activate much quicker. However, the needy love emotions are much stronger in women and once a woman “falls in love” she is much more likely to become clingy and needy.
.
Negative needy love: Here is the dark side of needy love: while the needy love emotions make you feel good for a while, they have an incredibly destructive negative component. Feelings of attachment, sexual desire, acceptance, etc…, can quickly change to neediness, depression, desperation, loneliness, anger, resentment, etc… if the person rejects you. Needy love is like crack – the highs are amazing, but the lows are terrible.
.
The Greek philosopher Plato wrote that “erotic” love is ultimately dangerous because it makes you irrationally value a person when they like you, and then irrationally hate them when they don’t. As we all know, love can literally drive a person crazy and cause one to become violent, stalk somebody, fall into deep depression, etc… “Love” has ruined countless people’s lives.
.
On a subconscious level everybody knows that a person in the grip of needy love is basically insane.
Vicarious emotions Human beings have a weird ability to feel emotions vicariously through other people. For example, if you see a guy get hit by a car, you feel “bad” for him because you FEEL as if you yourself got hit by a car,. You don’t logically think to yourself “oh that must suck to get hit by a car.”. The Scottish philosopher Adam Smith said the basis for human sympathy is the fact that we feel through the eyes of the others. Thats why you oftentimes don’t have sympathy for people experiencing problems you havent experienced.
.

One reason needy love so intense is that you feel the other persons emotions vicariously: not only do you feel your own emotions towards them, but you also literally enter their mind and feel their emotions towards you, so being in love is like an infinite loop of emotions. You love them, you feel them loving you, you then feel them feeling you loving them, etc… It’s insane and part of the reason why “love” is such a complicated mindfuck. But beware: YOU CANNOT ACTUALLY READ THEIR MIND SO YOU PROJECT EMOTIONS ONTO THEIR BRAIN THAT THEY MAY NOT HAVE.
.

The main point of this article and the reason why women like men who dont give a shit about them is this: Women are disgusted by needy love. If a woman sees a guy displaying the needy love emotions, she immediately become turned off because she vicariously feels that he is becoming crazy.
She knows that the man WANTS something (not just something, A LOT) from her. This puts pressure on her because now somebody's happiness is dependent on her. She knows that he is constantly thinking about her and if she bleeps up even a little (i.e., forgets to call him back, says something weird, etc…)
he will become angry and disappointed. The bleeped up thing is that we Ladies feel all this subconsciously, so they don’t really know why they are getting turned off: they just know that the guy is doing something that is repelling them.
All women have felt needy love before so when they sense it in somebody else they know exactly what is going on.
.
However, women feel needy love on a much stronger level than men. One thing I have noticed is that the clingiest/neediest women oftentimes give out the harshest rejections – it makes sense: these women reject guys the hardest because they themselves know full well know what its like to be needy and they know its terrifying.
Also, because the needy love emotions are at the forefront of womens minds,
a woman can sense needy love in a guy when he himself doesnt even see it. Worse yet: super attractive women have so many men fall in love with them that they may assume a man is displaying needy love to them even if he isnt.

.
Some women (especially women that get hit on a lot) interpret simple, everyday actions by the guy (having polite conversation, buying them a drink) as insane needy love – remember we said that vicariously feeling emotions doesn’t mean that you will actually know what they are feeling. If you're a super hot girl like me in Nigeria in 2016, you have tons and tons of people displaying needy love towards you: the cashier at the Mall,store, your 15 ex-boyfriends who can't get over you, other girls who are jealous of you/want to be you, etc… A person who is genuinely emotionless towards you is a breath of fresh air.
.

Finally, beyond the subconscious level, women are turned off by needy love because needy people are just not fun to be around. They agree with everything you say, don’t say anything interesting/provocative, laugh at all your jokes, and don’t challenge you/call you out on your bullshit. Basically you are useless. Furthermore, people under the influence of needy love act irrationally, talk stupid, act creepy, and display more negative emotions (jealousy, disappointment) than positive ones.
.
Please keep in mind that our brains can subconsciously pick up a person acting out of needy love, and the signs are often very subtle. Imagine a person saying “hey how are you”? A person can say those same words as a merely nice guy, but another person acting out of needy love will betray their neediness in their body language, tone of voice, eye contact, etc… On a logical level there is no difference, but your subconscious emotions will be able to pick up that the person is displaying needy love.
.
That’s why a lot of guys fail when they pretend to not give a shit – they have to actually not give a shit. It is a very delicate dance to not display needy love – you need to carefully choose your words, and you need to monitor your subject closely to see if you are freaking her out. You can be having an amazing time all night but then the slightest nudge of needy love freaks her out and sends her running.
.
The point remains: sometimes even a subtle, slight bit of neediness puts the subject on the defensive. Remember, freaking out over needy love is a subconscious process so she may THINK she like you but she feel revulsion if you are being needy.
.
DONT GIRLS WANT TO BE LOVED?
.
Well… Not exactly. What women really want is a guy THEY CAN LOVE.As a guy, you need to just get out of the way and let her love you and not say or do anything to Bleep it up. Remember, needy love emotions are selfish, so a girl will send needy love to you all day but then freak out when you send that same needy love back. Of course, girls want certain things from guys, like attention, somebody who will listen to them, sex, etc… Its ok to give those things in the right times and right amounts. But the full panoply of needy love emotions often freaks them out, especially if the guys needy love is stronger than theirs. Another way to put it is this: women want to be loved on a logical level: they want a guy who is attentive, cares about them, isnt needy, isnt selfish, and isnt an asshole.
.

Ladies arent impressed with needy love. Also, girls know that the needy love emotions are temporary and wildly fluctuate, so a guy who is under the spell of needy love could easily fall in “love” with another girl tomorrow and leave alone.
.
One thing I’ve noticed is that the most “slutty” girls post the most quotes about “love” on their Nairaland profile, Facebook page etc.
.
Why is this? They can’t control their emotions and live in a world of needy love, and needy love doesnt actually care about the actual person you love. When somebody else tickles your emotions you move onto them and forget the first person you were needy loving. If you love a girl “logically” you are actually doing her more of a service than if you love her with needy love. Logical love is more solid and pure than needy love.
.

So what should a man do? If you want to get a girl to like you, talk to her, be nice to her, joke with her, etc… But just don’t display the needy love emotions. Treat the girl like any other dude you know. Don’t say anything that implies that you “need” anything from her, don’t stare at her too long, don’t follow her around, don’t demand her attention, dont do things for her, etc… If you're out with her, dont make her feel “responsible” for you – make her feel like you could totally walk away and do your own thing and it wouldnt bother you.
.
In fact, you should err on the side of slightly being a “dick” because a lot of really hot girls will interpret normal behavior as needy love. It will be hard, because you’ve been taught by society (i.e.,telemundo, romantic comedies and Disney movies) that the way to court girls is to kiss their ass and tell them all about your deep and passionate needy love. And of course your emotions are going to want to make you act needy. Control your emotions! Another danger is that the girl will start showing interest so you will think “its ok for me to start showing needy love now.” No!! Needy love is always bad, and just because you've been making out and staring into each other's eyes doesnt mean its ok to bring out your needy love.
.

After some practice, you will be able to snap out of it..
But wont I friendzone myself?
Good question.
Yes, if you completely act emotionless around a girl, we may think you are uninterested. So you need to do 2 things:
.

1) Tell Us you are interested. Ask us on a date. A lot of guys are afraid of asking girls on dates because they don’t want to look needy, but if you can ask a girl on a date without displaying needy love you will intrigue and excite her. Its a great deal for her! She can get all the fun and excitement of a date without the burden of dealing with a guy that wants a bunch of shit from her, and
.
2) Do all the things you've learned on Nairaland romance section, ashewo bear parlor thread/harddon thread: eye contact, deep, intelligent conversations, kino, escalate, etc… It is possible to do all these things without showing needy love. You may ask: how can one escalate with we ladies sexually without making it look like you want to Bleep Us … well, its an art...sortta push-pull method.
.
bashers should backoff....

.
.
CC: Happyjerk, WuOjo, wufredojo
Wildflame

dis is gud, u ar gud... des stuff comes naturally to players, dats why de ar called players... i will copy n send it to one of my "student"

I think this is a very good post. Obviously it cannot be true for all situations. I have had girls that i started talking to and before i could fully develop "needy love" they fell in love first and it made it so much easier. However, i think where the post is most relevant is where you meet a girl who is giving u the right level of attention to indicate interest but hasnt fallen in love with you yet. She likes u and enjoys talking and spending time with you. I do believe in this situation developing needy love can end affect the level of atttraction she has for u negatively. There is not hard rule but i get the message probably because i have been there.

Truth men fill same way too, expecially wen girls ar pushin it hard.. They eventually depreciate her worth, and bang d hell out of her and dump her or taxking estortin money

IAmOged:
whichway-omit the harbingers of words mastery from relationship, everything then down-tone to body language expression-making it alot easier to carry out normal human biological pair bond,mating etc.
you dont have to stress yourselves throbbing hard in words mix emotional sac-just body language, den everybody is wet and ready..no long process

Lol. Your own word mastery is good, though. Words come naturally to some and they forget to omit them in relationship situations, no stressing there. But I guess some do struggle. Still, I get your point – less is more.

Your thread is good. I think it is sufficiently close to the reality and addresses some very crucial issues. I have been examining this matter for a while and your thread added one missing piece for me. Those talking about generlisation, I think they are missing the point. Generalisation is inevitable. There are people who don’t need game, yes. But those who have been there will see the point and understand what all this talk is about. These, after all, are things that come quite naturally to “players”. I’m dealing with a situation at the moment and I’m just now trying to regain my sanity while hoping my mistakes haven’t ruined things too much and feeling (yeah, feeling!) deep down that we will overcome our present challenges and misunderstandings.

IAmOged:
make her feel like you could totally walk away and do your own thing and it wouldnt bother you.”

I’m still musing this.

It doesn’t seem to factor in what happens when he is in love. That is when the brain takes a backseat and ever so “needy love” takes over. (We’re not talking about someone who’s needy by inclination here, but a normally objective person.)

The reason players and jerks don’t have a problem with “needy love” is because they won’t fall in love, to start with. (Of course, this will work for a good guy who has "disciplined" himself not to fall in love.) If a regular player fell in love he would exhibit “neediness”. When players and jerks “make her feel like you could totally walk away and do your own thing and it wouldnt bother you”, they are not faking it – they genuinely don’t care. A regular guy in love, on the other hand, actually cares. If he tries to fake it, the outcome may be ghastly. The only way out is to actually stop caring that much. Tell himself it’s not “do or die”. Or retain his feelings and simply “be himself”, as they say, and face the real possibility that she slips away. Neither is pretty. That is why love is often trouble.

JuanDeDios:

Lol. Your own word mastery is good, though. Words come naturally to some and they forget to omit them in relationship situations, no stressing there. But I guess some do struggle. Still, I get your point – less is more.

Your thread is good. I think it is sufficiently close to the reality and addresses some very crucial issues. I have been examining this matter for a while and your thread added one missing piece for me. Those talking about generlisation, I think they are missing the point. Generalisation is inevitable. There are people who don’t need game, yes. But those who have been there will see the point and understand what all this talk is about. These, after all, are things that come quite naturally to “players”. I’m dealing with a situation at the moment and I’m just now trying to regain my sanity while hoping my mistakes haven’t ruined things too much and feeling (yeah, feeling!) deep down that we will overcome our present challenges and misunderstandings.

am happy this article helped-hope ta see you heartaches free

Wrong posting

Women sef....
You just can't get them. Even if you're a Player with all the bad moves, one silly girl comes along, plays a wild card that leaves you confused.



I just tire!

@ Harddon, leave what you're doing now comeand read this Pls

isyourboy:
@ Harddon, leave what you're reading now comeand read this Pls

I'm yet to make up ma mind if I should raise a glass to her high level of clairvoyance in this freaky loving/bonding lane or just simply ignore her as is custom . Thug love.

However, no matter how much quills we labour, how much black ink we deploy in this web, most guys would never live about average. They were born to be mugus and eternal magas.

Jrod would continue, however annoying, to rule their rides. To him who wills understanding, let him read.

Sense pill:

One thing is certain : SENDLESS MIXED WITH WIT, WISDOM, CONFINDENCE AND HUMOUR, wins the day when women are to be wined and wifed.

Rich Regards
Don

HARDDON:



I'm yet to make up ma mind if I should raise a glass to her high level of clairvoyance in this freaky loving/bonding lane or just simply ignore her as is custom . Thug love.

However, no matter how much quills we labour, how much black ink we deploy in this web, most guys would never live about average. There were born to be mugus and eternal magas.

Jrod would continue, however annoying, to rule their rides. To him who wills understanding, let him read.

Sense pill:

One thing is certain : SENDLESS MIXED WITH WIT, WISDOM, CONFINDENCE AND HUMOUR, wins the day when women are to be wined and wifed.

Rich Regards
Don

lol @ Harddon boss

May God bless you for the wonderful contributions you've impacted into my life. I'm not talking about the women ways now, I'm talking about life in general

The only way to stay aloof people's stupidity in this self inflated and ego filled world is to deploy the SENDLESS pill. I've been deceived and made mugu in the past by co-workers, neighbors, friends etc just because I was too nice and I never learn how to say No. your thread isn't just for learning how to be fast in the women world, it's meant to be incorporated in all facet of life

@ Harddon, when I initially started reading ur thread, I used to think you dont know what you were saying, the truth is I knw niceness isn't the way about women cos it has failed me a lot, but on this day I stand on my two balls and proclaim SENDLESS!!!! �

I have always been afraid of losing people I love, but at point I start to think, is there anyone of them that I'm afraid to lose me too? Its deep.